Have we been treated right?

If I ask you to think about something, you can decide not to. What if I can make you feel something? Now, I have your attention.

Although I would like to start by putting up points on how important a woman is in our lives, let just know what SHE really is?

A true definition would say, “An adult female person” but what about materiality? Like we say a woman plays many roles in her life, she is a mother, a daughter, a wife and a sister. She has to make many sacrifices in order to make everyone happy. The life cycle of a female from a female fetus to a woman is not an easy task; she has to face a lot of problems, thousands of social norms are tagged with her the day she steps outside of her house. We gained independence long ago, but still we all are trapped in age-old traditional beliefs and of course there are exceptions. We as a liberal society failed to change the mindsets of the other orthodox Indians; instead we started discriminating them from us considering them as old-fashioned people. We as so called modern people haven’t reached any milestone. Following all the society rules, woman forgets to live her life. There are so many questions asked to her following by restrictions and humiliations and gradually her life becomes a question, still she tries to live her life to the fullest without letting anyone realize about her twinging heart and how badly she wants to get out of it. Being liberal isn’t also serving us right. There are still cases of female foeticide, rape, acid attacks and what not. Some people (especially men) tend to help women, whenever something awful happens social media is flooded with “justice” posts and the reality is all are hypocrites, showing your sincerity by spreading awareness on social media and not implementing it on yourself doesn’t make you any less of a culprit. There’s hell of a difference in being liberal and saying that you are liberal. There are many people who need to immaculate their minds, on one hand they say “we shouldn’t judge” but on the other hand girls are being judged by the length of their dress. If someone is wearing a short dress she is considered as slut and they blame her that “her dress is too short or too revealing”, and then they consider it as open invitation for any kind of miss happening regardless of knowing the fact that the dress isn’t wrong your thinking is wrong.

Living in a metro city doesn’t make you modern, you need to evolve yourself with time to make yourself modern. My mother taught me about the difference between good and bad touch and I always asked her a question, why do I need to be extra cautious while traveling by metro or bus?, and I got an answer recently I was traveling by metro and the blue line was crowded as usually I boarded the train, I was traveling in common coach, women’s coach was already overcrowded (for those who might think why didn’t I board in women’s coach). Some middle aged man was standing behind me and he was trying to harass me by rubbing his lower body against mine. what was my fault? Was it wrong to choose the common coach? I couldn’t stand that I only had two options either moving aside silently accepting the harassment, accepting that men are like that or I could have shouted and in answer to that he would have said “madam bheed hai metro mien apko itni hi problem hai toh mat safar kiya karo”. I chose the third option I took out my pen and attacked on his leg with it just as silently as he was trying to that heinous activity. It did hurt him; I was able to hear that painful sigh as he couldn’t shout in the metro. That day I wasn’t afraid and I am proud of myself.  I was not rescued by a prince; I was the administrator of my own rescue! And the irony is all this happens in a country where a woman is seen as an incarnation of goddess. There are always exceptions, there are some people out there who aren’t hypocrites, who stand against this, who support us and who truly believe that if women will grow it will help the nation to grow. All the women out there should know “whenever you stand, stand tall; you don’t need heels, you just need a goal.”