Ever felt left out from the crowd or your peer group? Or not being the centre of focus of your own life? As if you were the supporting character being dominated by the main character and thinking that the story revolves around him while you are playing the role of a mere extra.
I know exactly what it feels like pretending to be a loner while you want to interact with people, make friends and enjoy your life. But, all are you doing is observing others being the centre of attention and having the fullest of their lives. It hits hard. And eventually, you lose the ability to feel enthusiastic about things. You’re just dragging your boring life.
But you know what, it’s not others who turned your life dull and boring, it’s you who made it like that. You treated yourself as an extra, you thought that you can’t enjoy your life. But the thing here is that your thoughts are not you.
Don’t believe everything you think. It’s your life, live the way you want to. Why treating yourself as an extra while you can, actually no, YOU ARE the main character of your life. You only have one life so find even the smallest joy, maybe that joy can be the reason to be the main lead. So what if people doesn’t give you attention, have you ever seen a protagonist begging for people’s attention? No, right? So why doing it? You are enough for yourself. And believe me, when you’ll start doing it people will be automatically attracted towards you. It’s human nature, we are attracted towards the bold and confident one. Just like when you admired the person whom you thought was the main character and was dominating you for being the supporting character.
Now here the main question arises, “How to manage this change?”. I know it’s not easy to suddenly flip your thoughts and change them completely. There are certain steps that you need to follow: first, try to observe your thoughts. Give a reason to your thoughts, for example; why you think that you are an extra? Don’t let your thoughts take over your mind.
Second, don’t judge yourself. Sometimes it’s okay to think bad, you are also a human after all. And as I have said before, your thoughts are not you. Having negative thoughts doesn’t mean you are weak, believing it makes you weak. Third, Learn to say no. Express your true feelings, don’t hide them in order to maintain your image in front of people or concerning yourself with what others will think. This is the way you feel so what’s wrong in expressing it. Even if it is a relationship you don’t want to be in then just say it, it’s your point of view.
Fourth, you come first. It isn’t bad to care for people but you should prioritize yourself more from other people. Think about yourself first.
Just try these things and don’t waste this precious life thinking that you are just an extra. Believe in yourself, you are way more better and important than that.
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