DOES THE “WANT” WANTS YOU?

We started off life with misconceptions about happiness and why our expectations aren’t so good.We’ve seen we don’t want them as much as we think, or if we want to make them good, we have to put these effortful practices in to get as much out of them as we want. First shot isn’t the perfect shot of everyone for anything in this world , as the relatable quote goes “third time’s the charm”. Don’t stick to the art of perfection , stick to the art of righteousness. This case of choosing righteousness tends miswanting , that we tend to want the wrong things.Well, it happens because of these crazy biases, these annoying features of our mind that mess us up.We can have strategies we can use to intentionally change our biases.One set of strategies is that we want to find ways to want happiness in an organic way. we want to savor, we want to be grateful, we want to break off this natural process that makes us stop loving the things that we love.strategies that we can use to reset our reference points, reframe things so that they seem better. Lots of strategies do that.The fact that our mind is delivering to us intuitions about what we want that just seem to be wrong.Things you should be wanting but don’t currently want. And there are going to be kind of two flavors of these things. One set of better ways of wanting are wanting the right parts of the things that we already do want. Those things that we wanted are there for some reason. Getting to the right parts of those things , second part which is totally new things that many of you have not said that you wanted yet or don’t think you want yet that are actually going to give you a lot of bang for your buck; things that you don’t realize are really, really good but are the kinds of things that are going to have a much bigger impact on how happy you are. The stuff that we know that we want some version of, but we kind of get what part we want wrong.

They tend to be morally valued in most moral systems of the world. They tend to be the kind of virtues that don’t make other people feel bad. So they’re not something that like you have. To be referred to those things as your signature strengths, and just defined as these are the ones, these character strengths that are kind of not just that you have really strongly but that you feel are kind of essential to who you are. You feel as almost like meaningful when you think about them.It can differ as time manages to slid off its way possible into your indecisiveness , choosing wisely wanting something which is rational and sensible up to the mark of your satisfaction is what makes it right.