A parenting is considered to be good when the children feel free to share anything with their parents. In the teenage, what a child want is his or her parent’s support and guidance. They want their parents to think like them, to talk like them, they want their parents to understand their view of the world.
Today most of the parents try to be friendly with their children from the very first day . They share everything with their children so that the children never feel afraid to share anything with them. This makes the child understand that no matter what happens his or her parent is always there as the support system.
But still, there are many adolescents who are afraid to share anything with their parents. It is not that they don’t want to it is because they don’t have the courage to do that. They fear that may be their parents would shout at them and not understand their situation. This causes a very serious mental health condition.
Parents need to change themselves as per their children’s world . They should have to be frank with them as well as strict too. Extra strictness destroys the parent – children relationship. It is seen that a teenage girl or a boy even finds it difficult to discuss the pubertal changes with their parents. A good guidance can only come from a parent but if they do not make their children comfortable with them so how can a child share or discuss anything with their parents.
Parents should understand that doing good at studies and coming first is not the only thing to do in a child’s life. They can be interested in many other things. It is the duty of every parent to encourage their children in whichever field they find interest in. It is seen that many students take up medical, engineering,or law just because their parents had told them. May be they had interest in other things but because of their parent’s pressure they were unable to deny it.
When a child enters his teenage both mother and father should become the friend of his or her. The girl or the boy should feel secure in the arms of their parents that they can share their problems, their studies, plans about careers and even about having a relationship. But it is seen many children suffer through this problem of not being able to discuss anything with their parents. And this day by day triggers the anger of the child and thus a distance is created between the parents and the children.
Because of these distances it is seen that a boy or a girl does something wrong and not being able to tell their parents about this commite suicide. May be they feared that their parents won’t understand them as like always and would scold them beat them and this fear made them took such serious life- threating or life-ending step.
So, it is very important for a parent to be like a friend or to be more precise, a best friend with their children from the very beginning so that if anything happens whether good or bad they will be the first to get informed; so that their child can feel free to discuss or share anything with their parents.
A good parenting is seen when a father and a mother supports the child like the same way they show strictness. A good parenting is seen when a father and a mother becomes the most trusted partner of their child unlike anyone else.
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