Indian parenting:flaws

What is parenting?

Parenting is the means of upbringing of children. There a lot of parenting techniques. Depending on the techniques followed parenting may be efficient or inefficient.

Why is parenting important?

“Health” is described as the state of complete physical, mental, social well being and not merely the absence of disease.Parenting impacts the physical, mental and the social well being of children which means that it influences the children’s “health”.The factors that are influenced by parenting are of paramount importance in an individual’s life. Negligent parenting techniques may lead to deterioration of individual qualities in the child.

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Parental attitudes:

Parental attitudes refers to the parent’s perspective of interaction with their children.Parental attitudes have intense consequences towards parenting. The different type of parental attitudes are Over-protectiveness, Permissiveness, Rejection, Acceptance (Democratic parenting style), Domination, Submission.

Over-protectiveness:

This parental attitude tend to prolong infantile care and prevents the development of Self-reliance. The children brought up through this parental attitude may become over dependent and always seek for attention/help from others. Children may also develop nervous tendency and they will lack Self-confidence. They may become sensitive to criticism.

Permissiveness(Laissez-Faire style) :

Parents always give their time and energy for the sake of children when they follow permissiveness style. Children become more selfish and demanding due to this parental attitude.

Rejection:

Rejecting attitude causes the parent to express dominance over the child. Parents who are dissatisfied with their marital life and who do not like parental responsibilities show hostility towards their children. The rejecting attitude of parents shapes the child into an aggressive child. Rejecting attitude also enables children to develop into an independent being and the children learn to spend time by themselves. This also results in exhibition of mature behaviour, however it causes mental stress upon the child.

Acceptance (Democratic parenting style) :

As the name intends, Acceptance style desires to accept the children for who they are. Acceptance style does not support criticism. Parents encourage freedom of emotional expression and love the child unconditionally. The word “unconditionally”means to love someone without any reason to love. That means, loving the children for who they are naturally. Unconditional love develops without “expectations”.Parents recognise and satisfy the child’s needs in this style.Therefore the child would face life confidently, and they would become an better introspector.

Domination:

Parents demand unquestioning obedience from their child through domination style.Children may eventually become polite, honest,self conscious and feel inferior.

Submission:

Submission style allows the children to dominate parents and treat them with no respect. This makes the child to become disobedient, irresponsible and careless.

Among all kind of parental attitudes, accepting attitude is the best because the parents follow Democratic methods of disciplining and children evolve to self-confident and cheerful personalities.

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Flaws found in Indian parenting methods:

According to the Indian society, the most common mistake that some of the Indian parents commit is expressing dominance over the child. Not all Indian parents follow substandard parenting techniques, but most of the parents seem to raise their child with defective parenting techniques. Most of the Indian parents aim to control their children’s life completely. This is the most erroneous practice.

The parents control their children’s personal life and education. This control affects the children’s mental health.Sometimes parents also allow their kin to take responsibility for their child’s life. This further reflects on the child’s social life.As parents follow these techniques, the children begin to distance themselves from their parents.Parents expect children to behave in a certain way and they are not loved unconditionally. Parents should never try to control their children’s life just because they were born from them. A good parent only guides the pathway to their children’s life and the children are permitted to act upon their life decisions. The most important thing in any relationship is “Healthy Communication”.Similarly, Parents and the children must have a healthy communication between them. Healthy communication allows both of them to express their opinions confidently and sort out the queries.

Indian parents lack healthy communication with their children due to difference of opinions and busy schedule for work.Most of the children fear to express their opinions. Healthy communication also lets parents to teach important concepts of life to their children. Indian parenting is still followed as brutal practices where some of the parents try to kill their own children when children overstep their parent’s decisions. This happens due to the disgusting norms of the society such as indiscrimination due to caste,religion, money etc. Indian parents believe these norms due to the society and they fail to recognize their child’s needs. Indian parents must understand the importance of parenting.

Indian parenting is greatly impacted by the society. Thus it results in the flaws of parenting techniques.