Moving on

someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can love you in a way that you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons you must leave. Because you never have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge . You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more of love that you have never seen , out here in the wide and wild universe .And there is the love that will be ready for you . will have your back . If you are in a place where you think you or your significant other is not ready just pick up your shit and leave. Yes collecting everything and leaving is not easy but after a awhile , the hurt hurts less . You start to see reason , understand why they did what they did .Knowing that is takes two hands to clap. Learn that everyone you meet will not stay in you life forever. Sometimes , they are a passing character in the chapter of your book .There to teach you certain lesson, to help you experience different things in life – different emotions, to grow , and maybe to show you how to love yourself better. find your worth.

Some of these characters will be difficult to replace when their time has come to an end in a chapter of your life. But , it is important to learn and to see the necessity to let them go, even if you don’t want to.

At the beginning, it will hurt. Its the kind of hurt that will leave you crying till you fall asleep at 3 am, puffy eyes, nose blocked and swollen . The kinda that follows you everywhere – reminding you of the memories you had once shared at particular places you pass by. the hurt that leaves you thinking that if you ever meant anything to them . Heartbreak is inevitable,especially with the people you love . But if its one thing that i have learnt it would be : you cannot have expectations .

You cant expect them to love you back the same way that you love them , with the same amount of intensity, and that my friend is the sad truth. The way you love someone- that does not determine the way that person is going to love you back . You can have multiple connects with people , but that does not necessarily mean that they are meant for you, and darling , its the same with love . This applies to both friendship and relationships, as we hate to admit it.

The hardest part about losing someone you love is not the goodbye, rather than learning to live without them and learning to let’em go. And what fuels that hurt is how they are able to move on easily without you.But can you blame them? Honestly you can’t . My mum always said, “If you really love that person , you will want them to be happy.Even if that means that they are gonna be happy without you , you will respect that and let them go. Just because you want them to be happy ” But what if I don’t want to let them go ? would you rather be happy with someone who doesn’t feel the same kind of happiness with you? that bothered me, a lot honestly. the one thing that people crave is being love and valued. However when you look for love, to find that healing to fill that void they have left – i have found that it never really works out. Its not purely genuine? I feel its more of a forced connection because you want to fill that void. you crave that drug and rush called’ ” love” because its a beautiful feeling. However the best kind of love something that i find the purest, is unexpected love . Because you are not looking for something, you are not looking for healing . Sometimes through the people that we meet , we find healing . And the world doesn’t seem bitter after all.

They help you get back onto your feet , but you are much stronger now . Stronger than before, aware. Aware of how love can be so fragile and pure and strengthening yet it has the power to break, shatter and destroy. Wiser as to who you allow yourself to love.