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How to Win Friends and Influence People Book Summary

Book Name : How to Win Friends and Influence People

Author Name : Dale Carnegie

Year of Publication : 1936

There is a famous proverb. “Tell me who your friend is, and I will tell you who you are.” Adding friends who can stand by us is an art. In 1936 Dale Carnegie, a famous public speaker, wrote a book on how to make such good friends. The title of the book is ” How to Win Friends and Influence People.” The book has sold nearly 30+ million copies since its publication. To date, the book has been ranked 19th on Times Magazine’s 100 Most Influence Books list.

We are going to know about such a famous book. It can be said that this book is the beginning of self development. This book has made a changes in the lives of many. 

You can learn an 8 things by reading this book. What they are,

1. Come out of present self and get new thoughts and visions

2. How to farm a team easily

3. Increase popularity

4. Become a great Influencer

5. Increase your influence level on others

6. Learn how to handle complaints and deal with conflicts

7. Learn how to have a better conversation with others

8. Influence other to work with you

You can achieve the above 8 things by reading this book. Not only this but there are a lot of things in this book.

This book has a total of 32 chapters. Author holds this as a 4 part. 

PART I – Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

As we learn what is being said in this part, we will begin to interact properly with others. When we interact like that, we develop a respect among the people.

PART II – Six Ways to Make People Like You

Author has said here a 6 things for others to like us or for others to look at us and be impressed in this part. Why is it said that First Impression is the Best Impression. Always a lot of people will think we are like this when they see us. So he has explained how to make us believe when others see us or how to create best impression on us when they see us.  

PART III – How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking

Author has clearly stated in this part how to bring others our way. Some of the important things that Arthur has said in this are that we can never win a debate. Because it’s not a problem if you are arguing for proof in a discussion. But to those who argue that what I am saying is right author says that it is difficult for us to win. And in this part he has said many things about how we are creating our enemies, how to avoid it, and how to make others like us.

PART IV – Be a Leader : How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

Author has told us how to be a leader and how to bring people our way in this part. Sometimes there will be some arguments between us and those who follow us. It explains how to say it without offending them. If you are a team leader or manager in a company, the steps mentioned in this part will be very helpful to make your team do what you think.

Author has said a lot about things like this in this book. That is, no one likes to accept someone’s order. So he has said very clearly about everything from how we indirectly command someone and how to get them to do the work we need for us.

SOME OF THE BEST QUOTES FROM THE BOOK: THE QUICK AND EASY WAY TO EFFECTIVE SPEAKING

1. “ Successful communication depends upon how well the speaker can make his talk a part of the listeners and the listeners a part of the talk”

2. “The chief cause of your fears of public speaking is simply that you are unaccustomed to speak in public”

3. “ If you want to interest your listeners then don’t begin with an introduction. Begin by leaping right into the heart of your story.”

4. “The best way for a speaker to endear himself to an audience is to play himself down.”

5. “ The audience must feel that there is a message being delivered straight from the mind and heart of the speaker to their minds and their hearts.”

6. “The ability to speak clearly precedes the ability to move others to action.”

7. “ You cant project your personality in a talk to others by using reasons alone; you have to release to them how deeply you yourself believe on what you say.”

8. “ You will never know what progress you can make unless you speak, and speak and speak again.”

How to stop worrying and start living- Book Review

“How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” is a self-help book by Dale Carnegie. Although the book was first published in 1948 this book still holds much importance in human life and all the principles are as accurately applicable now as then in those days, simply – a timeless classic. I read this book in the darkest days of my life, in a phase where I didn’t even have the slightest motivation of getting out of bed in the morning and it helped me to overcome all those fears and implanted a sense of peace within my heart and lightened the emotions with those words. 

The book is divided into 8 sections-

PART I: Fundamental facts you should know about worry.

PART II: Basic Techniques in Analyzing Worry.

PART III: How to Break the Worry Habit Before it Breaks You.

PART IV: Ways to Cultivate a Mental Attitude That Will Bring You Peace and Happiness.

PART V: The Perfect Way to Conquer Worry.

PART VI: How to Keep From Worrying About Criticism.

PART VII: 6 Ways to Prevent Fatigue and Worry and Keep Your Energy and Spirits High.

PART VIII: “How I Conquered Worry”.

By seeing all the section names you must have guessed how power-packed the book is. 

This book helps you to analyze and identify your worries and tells you if they are worth worrying about or not. It gives many techniques to conquer your worries and stay relaxed. It helps to see the little things to be grateful for. The wisdom of this book is far beyond any reviewer’s words. This is a must-read for anyone who has taken worrying to the next level or those who want to be more aware of themselves and the people around them. The language, the writing style, the explanation everything is simple and lucid. 

This book is not for those light readers or those who just read for fun. This is a book to read and highlight and take down notes and to read and re-read them and constantly improving yourself.

This book has many lines or I can say paragraphs which I want every person in the world to read but some of them are lengthy and I cant out everything here so I suggest you read the book and find out yourself but here are some of them-

“Every day is a new life to a wise man.”

Acceptance of what has happened is the first step in overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.

When we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose. And that automatically means, we have everything to gain!

I would rather be a carefree person with no responsibility than wreck my health at forty-five by trying to run a railroad or a cigarette company.

The most relaxing recreating forces are a healthy religion, sleep, music, and laughter. Have faith in God—learn to sleep well— Love good music—see the funny side of life— And health and happiness will be yours.

‘I am not going to worry! I am not going to cry! And if there is anything to mind over matter, I am going to win! I am going to LIVE!’

Let’s not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember “Life is too short to be little.

Here I was, wanting to change the whole world and everyone in it—when the only thing that needed changing was the focus of the lens of the camera which was my mind. When moments of uneasiness try to creep in (as they will in everyone’s life) I tell myself to get that camera back in focus, and everything is OK.

I hope this review convinces you enough to read the book.