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How to make friends as an adult.

Friendship is a beautiful relationship that sets sail towards wonderful experiences. Your friends are the ones who relieve you from your mundane routine and bring excitement in your lives. We bunk classes knowing that our friends have got our back. And if they are willing to be our partners in crime, then it’s an added blessing. We call them when depressed, knowing that our friends will allow us to vent out to them and will make us feel better. 

As we get older, lesser friends remain in touch. We may relocate to a new place, or begin our education at a new college. It then becomes necessary to pursue new friendships to keep our company. The older we get, the more challenging it becomes to make new friends. 


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Why does making friends as an adult become challenging?

As an adult, it becomes difficult to deviate from the people we already know and pursue new relationships. We also find the people around us in different phases of lives from ours. Children are well connected with each other based on the some-what universal educational system and leisure outdoor or indoor games. Even though not every child’s interests and opinions match with the others, they are dynamic and willing to try different activities along with their peers. 

But as we grow up, our interests and opinions become rigid. Instead of being dynamic, we hope to find company in people with similar interests. We also become conditional regarding the kind of people we want to be friends with. Hence it becomes challenging to make friends as an adult. 

How to make friends as an adult?

1.Take the initiative:

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Picture this, you enter into a social setting and see people around you. This is the right moment, thrust your hand out and introduce yourself. Ask follow up questions such as what does the person do, where he or she is from, and also share some personal stuff about yourself. You have set the ball rolling on making the person your friend. Maintain consistency in talking to them thereafter and you have got yourself a friend. 

2. Join organizations or associations:

Usually in colleges, associations and groups are formed to conduct fun activities and refreshments. You can join any of these groups and associations based on your interests. This allows you to associate and coordinate with people sharing your interests. It can prove to be an ice-breaker between you and the others around you and put you at ease with your newly found friends. Thus making friends as an adult is much easier than it seems!

3. Be what you seek:

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What are the qualities you seek while making friends as an adult? Possibly kind, warm, consistent, and positive. Wouldn’t the other person also look for the same qualities in a friend? Be that kind, helpful, and warm person with whom you would like to be friends with. We can work on confidence, sense of humour, and a dynamic personality later on. 

4. Pursue friendships, not similarities:

The goal is to make friends. Don’t filter people out because they don’t stand in solidarity with your interests. Seek new friends and you may also seek new interests and hobbies.

5. Hear out!

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The best part about friendship is that we always have someone to hear us out. It could be our deepest desires, problems or even mundane everyday occurrences. Seeking friends as an adult, you also may have to lend your ears to what others have to say. It forms a great foundation for a long lasting friendship. 

Making friends as an adult is no rocket science. You just need to take some time to put yourself out there to seek new friendships. 

Lessons we learn from watching Squid Game

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Around 400 people sign-up to participate in games that they might have played during their childhood. Winners are promised cash prizes worth billions! Sounds too good to be true right? However, here’s the catch. Failing to succeed in these games may cause you to lose not only the money, but also your life! If that wasn’t shocking enough, with each eliminated player, more money gets added on to the intended cash prize. The events that follow post this realization forms the rest of the story in this series. 

This Netflix series went on to earn critical acclaim upon its release. Millions of viewers across 94 countries tuned in to watch this thriller series. Its gripping plotline will surely keep you at the edge of your seats! But with the statistics and its popularity aside, let us look at some of the lessons this South Korean survival-drama taught us viewers. 

If you haven’t watched the series yet. Be warned, there are serious spoilers ahead!

  1. Kindness can come from the strangest of places.

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The very first game in the series stands as a witness to this claim. Amidst all the chaos and panic that erupted due to the massacre in the game ‘Red light, Green light’. A character named Ali had the heart to lend a helping hand to Gi-hun, one of the pivotal characters in the series. He risked his life to save a complete stranger during a life or death situation. 

This certainly gives the viewers a hope that help will surely come during the different walks of life. It also encourages us to lend a helping hand like Ali, irrespective of familiarity with the person or the kind of situation. 

  1. As you sow, so you reap.

 

In the Squid Game series, Gi-hun’s generosity towards Il-nam was truly heartwarming. When nobody expected Il-nam to stand a chance in the games. Gi-hun stood by his side, encouraged him and supported him when necessary. However, little did he know that the person he was helping was much more than a frail old man with brain tumor. His kindness earned him the favor of a multi-billionaire well wisher who turned his life around for the better. Well….financially at least. 

  1. Being strong is good, but thinking smart can take you a long way. 

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Take the game of ‘Tug of war’ from the Squid Game series for example. The opponent team appeared strong indeed. But we were rooting for the team that consisted of a relatively less muscular batch of players. With the addition of a frail old man in the team, their chances of winning were very less. But Il-nam the old man was full of surprises! 

The techniques of winning the game that he shared with the team gave them a temporary upper hand over their opponents.  When they seemed to be losing in front of their opponents’ sheer strength. Sang Woo’s idea of the element of surprise brought them a life-saving victory over their adversaries. Moral of the story: Be strong, think smart. 

  1. Money is important, try not to run out of it.

The billionaires who created the squid games, played with the desperation of almost 400 money deprived people. Many of the participants were in huge debts and needed the cash prize to survive in the real world. Although one can do more than just survive with the cash prize on the line, greed and need forced the common and subtle people to go up to extreme lengths. 

Hence, it is better to be educated, find a stable job, have insurance for your future, and make investments and expenditures wisely. Sang Woo from the Squid Game series is often criticised for the deceit he carried on against his friends and trustees. But it isn’t hard to understand why he did what he did. After drowning upto his neck with financial difficulties and his lonely mother waiting for him. Anyone would have done the same thing if they were in his shoes.

  1. Sure, Money is important. But money isn’t happiness

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 Winning the intended cash prize along with the 455 others’ share of money. Gi-hun indeed won big in life. But what was left of him by the end of the Squid Game was a traumatized soul after witnessing the death of his friends and the dead body of his mother. 

Il-nam, who is revealed to be the billionaire master-mind behind the squid game, couldn’t buy joy and happiness with all the money he had. As he participated in the games alongside the other participants, he experienced happiness as he re-lived his childhood memories and found a good friend in Gi-hun. But his idea of Squid Game was inhumane and barbaric. 

The series ends with Il-nam dying, having made a questionable decision about starting the Squid Game and being the reason for the deaths of almost 400 people. Gi-hun is shown moving to the US after a significant makeover with his appearance, only to discover the Squid Game’s establishers seeking the next batch of participants for their game. 

Valuing Friendship!

 

Often, there are times when we all get busy with our office work or in order to become a successful person, we  all just  forget to enjoy our life, or to just to something relaxing for ourselves . We tend to forget the happy memories we made with our friends at school and college! 

According to my opinion balancing out personal and professional life is very important. We all should know how to manage our personal relationships as well which includes friendship!

Personal opinion on friendship

Friendship, according to me is
derived from two words; “friend” and “ship”.

A ship sails
forward even if the weather condition is bad. Similarly, friendship means
having friends living on a ship. There are some pirates who are there on the
same ship but they have their own personal motives such as finding treasure. 

                                                                       

                                                                 

Such type of pirates may flatter their captain to achieve their purpose, but in
times of need they might jump from the ship or join hands with another ship, knowing
that they shamelessly betrayed their comrades. In friendship too, there might
be some people who would be there with you in order to fulfil their “greed” but
they won’t be there in times of “your need”.

                                                                     

There are
some pirates who are not close to each other but their loyalty to their captain
is unquestionable. Although, not close but they are still willing to give their
lives for their captain and for the safety of other comrades. These people
would never betray their team members, although they don’t express themselves
much, but their actions always speak louder than the words. 

                                                                      

                                                                           

                                                                      

Friendship
also works in a similar manner. There are some friends who do not have a
special kind of emotional bond but loyalty connects them till death. Here, we
can say that loyalty   is that component of friendship which brings a
sense of belonging to these people. It is due to this factor that such kinds of
people are always there for each other.

There are
some pirates having different interests, morals, preferences but still no
outsider can separate them because they have already accepted each other and
rather than having quarrel, they prefer to “grow” on each other’s differences. 

                                                                        

If
we talk about friendship, it does not necessarily mean that it involves
interaction between two people having similar interests. Different people
having different cultures, ethics, morals and values and personality also have
a strong bond. 

This is because they accept each other for differences;
understand each other and grow with each other. There are times that such kind
of friends have such a strong emotional connection that they can find out the
sadness behind the smiles and the love behind their anger.

                                                                        

Excluding,
the first category of friends, the second and third category of friends show the
true meaning of friendship. These people are the heart and soul of the ship
because of which the ship sails forward. These kinds of people, even though
they are distant or far apart, they will always be connected and will always be
there for each other.


                                                                    

Friendship
means being loyal, having respect for each other, enjoying with each other,
having good times together and fighting together when the storm comes. It means
accepting and understanding each other’s differences and growing on those
differences. It means to be there for each other even though you are distant.
It means to care for each other, to love each other and having an unbreakable
trust. If two people have an unbreakable trust, no one can separate them. 

                                                                         

                                                                     

This
is because even if an outsider tries to break their bond, those two people
won’t need each other’s explanations because they know each other two well.
Last but not the least, Friendship does not involve explanations and
misunderstandings but it involves forgiving each other and growing with each
other, laughing with each other and always being there for each other!