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Pseudo Feminism!…

A guy is guilty even if proven innocent, a girl is innocent even if she’s guilty. In the name of feminism, we all have lost gender equality concept. I’m not at all supporting men harassing women here. I know many men harass women in real-world as well as virtual. We must raise voice against it when something like this happens. But the bitter truth is men also get harassed by women. They are blamed for the sins they didn’t even commit. Men fall prey to false allegations at times. We’ve developed a mentality that only a man can be wrong every time. So these fake feminists use it as a weapon to harass men with dirty allegations. When it comes to judgement, women always get sympathy corner but not the men. But I say, nobody should crave for sympathy. For our judiciary system, men and women are equal, then who are we to put someone in victim’s place and other in criminal’s.
Now many will create hype misunderstanding my words. I’m not at all antiwomen. I believe in men and women equality by all kind. I too feel like demanding to shoot the rapists on-site when incidents such as Nirbhaya happens. Nobody has the right to slide into any women’s DM and flaunt their manhood. Unsolicited pictures and negativity on social media makes people weak nowadays. But then I see cases where a teenager was falsely alleged by a girl who then committed suicide as he couldn’t handle it. He was proven innocent when he was gone. Another incident where all the teenagers’ boys were blamed for the boys’ locker room, later got to know that it was a girl behind it. A guy in the capital was under false allegations. But he stood up for himself, took all the criticism, fought for years to get justice and finally was proven innocent. There are so many such cases happening around. Nowadays we see a new fad in the market. Pick a person, whether guilty or not and defame in social media, post stories, chat screenshots and gain unnecessary sympathy. This fad is way much dangerous. Even if the person is not guilty, they keep on receiving threats and hate messages. People don’t even give it a second thought before defaming them. I feel nobody has the right to defame anyone publically for the sake of sympathy followers. Fall for using a human card, let’s get judged on human basis and not on gender basis.
I saw a post on social media saying a day without men. But why anybody needs that? A man and women are meant to live together and happy. We ain’t going anywhere without each other. Supporting your own gender doesn’t necessarily mean you have to pull the other one down. Both the genders should get an equal amount of respect. Let’s keep our eyes and mind wide open before judging someone. Gender should not be the definition of innocence. Justice is for all, no matter what gender. If someone tries to take unnecessary advantage of their gender, then it’s our duty as a human being to stand together and fight out such mentalities.
Let’s stand out for equality as a human. Men and women are equal by all means. Both the genders should stand by each other when something wrong happens with one. Let’s stand for the right. Let’s not people take the unnecessary advantage of their gender. We all are equal as a human and we stand for truth and peace.

The Rise of the Parallels – Feminism and Pseudo-Feminism

“The lesson here is you can’t expect users to learn. There’s too much fun going on out there on the Internet.”

Pete Lindstrom

The internet doesn’t spread misinformation, we the users do. We share anything and everything, without proofing it. We get our news from social media rather than the news media. We have everything at the touch of our fingertips, yet we are too torpid to go the extra mile. It’s that one action that spreads rumors. It all comes down to that one small action on this enormous space.

We are in the 20th year of the 21st Century yet we are too tied to convenience than authenticity. The internet gives us too much exposure but our minds take in very little knowledge. Even more rare is the initiative to catch sight of the truth. 

Being “woke” is the new ‘fad’. The internet is the medium through which you can let people know that you are part of (or against) each campaign. It’s more about proving your stand than supporting the cause. I wonder how many people blindly share posts showing their support to every social issue trending each week but hardly spend time educating themselves.

All these might very well be the reasons the difference between feminism and pseudo-feminism is foggy amongst many.

Feminism is a tale as old as time. Feminism might have gotten its name and recognition just a few hundred years ago but it started the day Patriarchy took charge. I would like to believe many were born way ahead of their time, fighting till their last breath trying to give the oppressed gender a voice.

Pseudo-Feminism, however, stems from the hatred and anger of those persecuted for the sex they were born as. Being born anything but a male in this heavily patriarchal world serves you a life-sentence of no freedom. Ironically, doesn’t the man’s sperm determine the sex of the offspring? I guess it’s the years of oppression and the eventual right to speech that have overwhelmed most to surpass feminism right into misandry. One such example is the Ruchika Girhotra Case. Nothing good ever comes out of these strong emotions though.

Whether you’ve accidentally stumbled on this or are here to get my two cents, I’d be happy to clear all misunderstandings and hopefully, by the end, I will have birthed a few feminists.

Pseudo-Feminism desires a world where women make the rules. Where men will be oppressed experiencing the same unjust women faced. A quick Google search will tell you that Misandry is, “dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against men.”

While both seem to be the same, there’s a world of a difference. Misandrists dislike/despise men. Pseudo-Feminists believe that they are feminists who can quench their thirst equality by giving the tyrants a taste of their own vengeful medicine.

Feminism fights for equality. A world where both men, women, trans and queer people have every basic human right. It’s a misconception that Feminism fights only for women and their rights. While it may have started as a revolutionary movement just for women. (Real) Feminists all over now fight for every person exploited. Feminism doesn’t care for gender, sexual orientation, religion, or culture. It stands for equal opportunity to make a choice.

While it is easy to get wrapped up into the confusion and emerge out a Pseudo-Feminist, it is important to realize that patriarchy is a system. Men are human beings just like any other, and patriarchy has been instilled in each one of us. Most of us grew up in a patriarchal setting and are accustomed to it. As the oppressed, it was/is much easier for us to start questioning and fighting it. For men, the gender enjoying the comforts of monarchy, it would be a hard thing to lose control of.

Having said that, in this patriarchal world, if it weren’t for a few great men, we women would never have had a chance at education, knowledge and our fight to end this inequality. All we can do is educate ourselves and others properly and stand for what is right. Correct people when they are wrong, be kind, and take back control from men to make this world a safe place for all.

‘Not all men’ vicious – Pseudo Feminism

If you pick up a dictionary, the definition you’ll find for the word ‘feminism’. In simple terms, there shouldn’t be any injustice met out to either sex. They should be treated equally. But, off late, a new type of feminism is developing which is rightly called as pseudo feminism. Pseudo feminists hold a strong resolve to correct all the injustices done to women, mostly by lashing out at men and demeaning them. What they forget is the basic essence of feminism movement: equality. Another form of pseudo feminism, according to me, is the feminism of convenience. The biggest example being: men paying for dates. If we’re as equal as women proclaim to be, why can’t a restaurant bill be split between the two? The reason is simple-men are too egoistic to let a woman pay, and for a few women it miraculously becomes a man’s job to pay for the date. Where, I ask these feminists, does the feminism vanish then?

Feminism is now a muddied term. Difficult to say what it means today. We often don’t realise it, but pseudo feminism is all around us, hiding behind feminism in clandestine. We’re the women shouting for equal rights everywhere, but don’t waste a single minute asking a guy sitting on a Ladies Reserved seat to vacate it. Why do we need reservations in general coaches? Since we’re able bodied, strong, grown-up women of strength, can’t we stand in a general coach? Men doing 9-5 jobs, burning their hours toiling hard to earn, are as tired as we are. It is just a very preposterous notion. Like it’s correctly said, two wrongs don’t make a right.

Although they are in the minority, it’s a crystal clear truth there are men who too are subjected to sexual crimes. The numbers of cases reported to the police are on the lower side, because most of the men don’t report such crime for the fear of being ridiculed at, not being believed and instead facing the charges themselves. Men are mostly kidnapped and abducted for illegal sexual intercourse, forced marriages, prostitution, etc. The number of such victims is really low but it’s a fact we cannot ignore. When we are talking of rising violence against women, we shouldn’t neglect the fact that somewhere out there are men also being subjected to same brutalities.

Board results are a few months away, but a boy has passed with flying colors by refusing to be part of a plan to rape a girl, hatched by the girl herself, who was pretending to be a boy. The boy passed but, many say, feminism failed. They have been saying that for years now. They are not too off the mark though. While it may not have failed, it sure has taken a huge hit.

Fake accounts, false allegations and fraudulent charges have harmed men and their reputations. They are also building a case against women’s right to stay in the fight for justice.
Part of the problem is the fact that the odds are heavily stacked against women. But another part of the problem is the way women used social media to fight this battle.

Each true story helps build credibility. Each false story is turned into a weapon against the fight for gender justice. The girl, who faked herself as a boy, is not part of the Bois Locker Room chats, but the story is now all about this one girl who faked her identity.

So what should women do?

I will answer with what they should not.

One, do not shoot and scoot. Don’t get into it if you cannot stay in it. Weigh in before you jump in. This is for the long haul. There is a lot of mudslinging that happens. You can’t escape the splashes.

Two, do not use fake accounts to bring down men. It’s easy to prove. The consequences are for everyone – the man, the movement and also you. Take care of You. Take care of the fight that is for us to stand equal to men with no biases in workplaces, no casual sexism, no acid attacks, no rapes and no honor killings.

If true feminism was followed, then we would treat all the victims equally. Victims would cease to be women or men, but just victims of abuse. But sadly, that is not the case. Pseudo feminism shouts out loudly that men can’t be raped, men can’t be tormented, and men claiming to have been put under such atrocities are lying cheats. It’s most likely that I would be branded ‘anti-feminist’ by pseudo feminists all around, but I don’t mind. I don’t mind because I know how to stand up for my fellow sisters when they actually need it.

When a woman is put on fire, when she is raped, is brutalized, is stripped naked on the streets, forced to quit her studies to marry a man three times her senior in age, when she is blamed if she is raped, or teased, when a woman is beaten repeatedly for refusing to pressurize her parents into paying dowry, when she is considered inferior to her male counterparts, that is when I need to give voice to my anger and lash out at the people responsible for it. If I am a true feminist, I will do the same if it were a man being stoned on the streets, being raped, being accused of a fake rape, being doubted over just because he is a man. As Gloria Steinem rightly said, a feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men.

Not all men do it, but all women suffer through it.

This is serious. Take it seriously.