Ways to Be a True Friend

“Don’t wait for people to be friendly. Show them how. ”~ Unknown

One night I called my old friend with whom I had spoken for a while. While we were catching up, sharing stories, and laughing at secret jokes that might sound silly when the phone rang, I wondered why I was letting so much time go by because I had last called him.

We don’t live close to each other, so taking a drink or hitting a yoga class is not an option. But really communicating with him, sharing the pieces of my life and accepting the pieces he wants to give, does not require a certain geography.

We can become close friends with each other, no matter how far away, if we choose to put forth effort. If we remember to be punctual, we can have such wholesome, satisfying conversations that make us feel recognized, understood, appreciated, and supported.

Then I started to think about all the times I had been busy and lost contact with friends who lived right on the street – times when I was caught up in everything that happened in my life and forgot to grow my relationships.

We need meaningful communication with other people.

Not everyone should be a close friend, but it is associated with our happiness that we show people who we really are, let ourselves know them, and remind each other of actions — small or large — that we care about them.

We do not have to be alone or feel alone in this world, but it is up to us to create and allow opportunities to be together, enjoy each other, and consult one another. It is up to us to make our relationship better.

With this in mind, I recently asked on Facebook, “What does it mean to be a true friend?”

I have included some ideas that have touched me deeply (some of which have been described in detail or slightly modified to make it easier to read).

Here is what some young Buddhist scholars say:

  1. Stay calm, even in peace.
  2. Be kind and listen. Be fun and simple. Be serious, loving, and forgiving.
  3. Don’t be afraid to tell the truth, no matter how difficult it may be.
  4. Communicate to each other in times of need with your honest opinions.
  5. A true friend is one who is always listening and genuinely interested in right and wrong, and someone who calls or just writes a greeting.
  6. Be honest and ethical, stay open and invite you to share your concerns, and be honest even if you don’t agree with it.
  7. A true friend will do his best to please you when you are upset and make you feel special.
  8. Try and improve their health despite your friendship.
  9. Be what you really are, be at risk, give someone else space, security and the choice to do the same.
  10. Be truly happy when they find, discover, or accomplish something that they truly desire. (Heather Tucker)
  11. Share the truth in your heart, without fear of disagreement.
  12. Be honest and forgiving but above all: love and respect.
  13. Accept the person as he or she is, as an individual, unconditionally. And, since it is important that you are there to help them, sometimes you have to be willing to make them available for you.
  14. Stay with friends despite a person’s choices in life and do not bail them out if they are not what you want them to be.
  15. A true friend always supports the person but does not feel compelled to support the situation. A true friend knows how and how to say company, “No.”
  16. Help yourself and your loved ones grow. Life means growing up, and a true friend is someone who can honestly say that he helped you to describe himself as a person.
  17. Celebrate the win and be there to support the loss. Keep your word and admit it if you don’t.
  18. Go to a friend’s help when others are out.
  19. Do not hold a grudge against a minor disagreement.
  20. Veza! You can pretend to be tired but you can’t pretend to appear.

And I will add the last one: share with honesty every opportunity you get.

I don’t know you all, but I know very few. To all the wonderful, inspiring people who come here and share their pieces, thank you for being you and for taking me, as I am.

Koo App – An Indian Alternative to Twitter

Koo , an Indian alternative of twitter is gaining a lot of attention from the netizens as the government ministers & ministries are switching to the app.

Koo’s rise comes as Twitter is currently engaged in a standoff with the Indian government over the blocking and unblocking of accounts linked to the farmer protests. The Koo a made-in-India app is now seen as a prospective competitor to Twitter in the backdrop of the government’s disagreement with Twitter.

Union minister Piyush Goyal, who is quite active on Twitter,announced on Tuesday that he has also opened an account on Koo. Electronics and IT minister Ravi Shankar Prasad has already joined the platform and has a verified handle. Several government departments, including the ministry of Electronics and IT , India Post have verified handles on this platform. Former cricketer Anil Kumble & Sadhguru are among the personalities who have joined the Koo.

Koo is a microblogging app just like Twitter where you can post opinions publicly & follow others. The character limit for a ‘Koo post’ is 400 while it’s 280 on twitter.Users can share audio, video & can create the post polls just like twitter.Users also have option of linking their Facebook , LinkedIn , Youtube & Twitter feed to their Koo profile. It is available as a website and on ios and Google Play Store.

Koo , a Swadeshi app was launched in March 2020. It had also won the Aatmanirbhar App Innovation Challenge along with other Indian apps like Zoho and Chingari. The Koo app was created by Bombinate Technologies Private Limited which is a Bangalore-based private company incorporated in 2015. Aparameya Radhakrishna and Mayank Bidawatka are the co-founders.

Prime Minister Narendra Modi had, in one of his Mann Ki Baat encouraged Indians to use the app.

The app is available in several languages, including Hindi, Telugu, Kannada, Bengali, Tamil, Malayalam, Gujarati, Marathi, Punjabi, Odiya and Assamese.

The Koo website notes that only 10 per cent of India speaks English and “almost 1 billion people in India don’t know English.Instead they speak one of India’s 100s of languages.” The website adds that the “majority of the internet has been in English. Koo is an attempt to make the voice of these Indians heard. They can now participate on the internet in their mother tongue by listening to the views of some of the sharpest Indian minds and also speak their mind by sharing their thoughts.”

Social media and Eating Disorders- does it have a connection?

Eating disorder describes conditions in which individuals engage in disordered eating. Eating disorders are not simply poor eating habits but are recognized mental health disorders in which emotional issues manifest in harmful eating habits. Eating problems in childhood and adolescence are very common.

It usually starts to be a problem in teenage years. It is not known for certain what causes them, but many factors could play a part such as Social pressure, particularly caused by the social media idealizing being thin, losing weight can make us feel good and in control, others include puberty, family problems, trauma, bullying, depression and low self-esteem.

The messages people get from society about how they should look, how much they should weigh especially western culture (particularly, the social media) promotes extreme thinness as the epitome of body perfection, success and happiness. Bullying others when they fail to be perfect since bullying others over the internet is easier due to anonymity so people do it without feeling guilty without worrying about the consequences. This leads people to become dissatisfied with their own bodies, their self-esteem suffers and they turn to dieting as they feel the pressure to be thin.

Our generation has become so obsessed with taking picture perfect selfies, having the perfect body and weight just like they see on the internet and thinking a person can only be happy if they have large number of followers and likes on social media that they fail to realize that social media only shows the good side of a person’s life and nobody knows what goes on the inside.

A lot of effort goes into becoming like those people or what we call “influencers” and not everything we see or hear on the internet is the truth and as the saying goes “comparison kills the joy” we see them and get disappointed with what we have when we compare ourselves to them. A lot of people start taking shortcuts just achieve those unrealistic goals like excessive dieting or starving and in turn ruining their overall health. Sometimes it leads into developing an eating disorder.

Eating disorders can develop from the desperation to live up to unrealistic cultural expectations, strained relationships within the family, other pressures arising from school or in the work place. Some people eat to curb their loneliness, anxieties and sometimes even to pass the time. A lot of people with eating disorders do not have other effective coping strategies, so, they turn to their eating disorder to help them cope and without even realizing it, many of these individuals actually end up harming their health and the quality of their lives.

The most common types of eating disorders are anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and binge eating disorder.

There are a lot of causes of eating disorders including stress from a variety of external factors such as some sort of crisis or disappointment to the individual. The loss of a loved one or life changes, lack of communication as people who are unable to communicate clearly and effectively often prefer to hold in their emotions, sometimes described as “swallowing” their emotions, many individuals choose to remain silent but express their feelings and frustrations in other ways, including through abnormal eating disorders.

Signs of Eating Disorders vary, but here are some of the signs and symptoms to look out for an eating disorder are only eating certain types of food, using the bathroom immediately after eating, making excuses not to eat at meal times, obsession with body weight/being overweight.

Anorexia Nervosa

Anorexia nervosa is an eating disorder in which an individual becomes so afraid of gaining weight and/or having body fat that they severely limit the amount of food that they eat or they exercise excessively in an attempt to burn off the calories that they do eat so that they will not gain any extra weight. Self-induced vomiting, the misuse of diet pills, diuretics, or laxatives is often found in them.

There are many health risks of Anorexia such as if weight becomes dangerously low, there is the risk of vital organs shutting down and anorexia nervosa has the highest death rate. Others include malnutrition and dehydration, anemia, amenorrhea.

Bulimia Nervosa

Bulimia nervosa, which is more commonly known as bulimia, is an eating disorder marked by binges and then purges. During a binge a bulimic will eat a great amount of food in one sitting, then purge by either inducing vomiting or taking a laxative or diuretic to expel the food. For bulimics, bingeing and purging becomes a cycle but they may never lose or gain enough weight to make it obvious that they have an eating disorder.

Damage to the digestive tract, mouth, teeth, and salivary glands is common among bulimics and the constant bingeing and purging mean that bulimics rarely keep in enough vitamins and minerals to remain healthy. Others include changes in body chemistry, erosion of tooth enamel due to vomiting and, in extreme cases, stomach rupture and death.

People suffering with bulimia are often of a normal weight so it may go undetected for many years, with those close to them often having no idea they have the disease or that their health is suffering.

Binge Eating Disorder

Binge eating disorder is a common eating disorder in which an individual regularly consumes a large amount of food in one sitting, or “grazes” constantly even when they are not hungry or become physically uncomfortable from consuming so much food.

Binge eaters do not purge after over-eating, nor do they routinely exercise excessively in an attempt to burn off the calories.

Binge eating disorder can occur in individuals of any gender, race, age and because binge eaters often become overweight or clinically obese, they put themselves at risk for a wide variety of health conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, gallbladder disease, kidney disease, fertility problems, high cholesterol, and some types of cancer.

Treatment for Eating Disorders

The type of eating disorder treatment that is most appropriate will depend on the severity and type of eating disorder and the length of time it has continued, as well as, the patient’s individual preferences about the type of treatment they would like.

Getting professional help is a good idea. Various therapies are available, including psychotherapy, family counselling, group therapy, and self-help groups, in which patients can explore their issues with food and learn to develop healthy eating habits. They might suffer relapses once eating disorder treatment has begun, but early treatment makes a far greater chance of recovering successfully.

Coping with Stress

Developing efficient coping skills may prevent the development of an eating disorder. Some of the simple coping skills include:

-Accepting that life brings disappointments

-Avoiding stressful situations. If reading fashion magazines makes people feel bad about themselves, then, they should stop looking at them and focus on another activity instead.

-Scheduling time for hobbies that are enjoyable and relaxing.

-Building a support system of friends and family who support their hopes and dreams, and accept them for who they are.

Family and friends can help individuals stay strong and prevent an eating disorder by praising an individual’s talents and strengths, listening to and discussing an individual’s thoughts, feelings, and fears, supporting an individual’s hopes and dreams, reminding an individual that a healthy body, not necessarily a slim body, is most important, barring unrealistic and unhealthy diets and excessive exercise regimes.

Overuse of social media can become an addiction which might lead to anxieties, damage to eyesight after staring at the screen for long periods of time, unhealthy sleep patterns leading to insomnia and other health problems so we should always keep a check on the content and the amount of our usage of social media. If it goes out of hand and you feel like its impacting you negatively you can always quit it, since you are in control of what should be a part of your life, take a social media detox. And always know that in whatever form and whenever you need help it is always available.

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