PARENTAL LOVE -IRREPLACEABLE FOR CHILDREN’S WELL- BEING

      

Child rearing has become challenging during past years and great expectations are placed for parenthood . althrough the public upbringing has become professionalized and the day care and school services are available in today’s society .parents have the main responsibility for rearing children .how and into what should children be raised? in this article ,good parenthood is paralleled with parental love.as a result ,two valuable and demanding underlying contents of parental love are discussed in this article .setting up safe boundaries and constructing good self-esteem as the core of good parenthood and parental love .the perspective in this article is fundamentally positive .parental love appreciates and cares about the child and does not abandon the child even when his/her behaviour causes disappointments and trouble.

                The sacrifices , belives ,and values parents implant in their children will help determine the person they grow up to be . a child is like a sponge that absorbs their parents thoughts and view points that will stay with them for the rest of their lives.

                      Parents make great sacrifices for the care of their children .day after day, parents protect their children from danger, attend their cries ,and reassure their children after a bad dream. Parents give up many necessities for their children every day. In the poem “those winter sundays ” by robert hayden , the father displays the sacrifices he makes for this son. The father’s “cracked hand that ached” ,shows he sacrified pain and discomfort for this child. The father takes no thought for this own confront. Also ,self-sacrificing this own warmth so his child could wake up to a warm house. The father would get up in the “blueblack cold”,to make a fire. The sacrifices parents make for their childrens will have and impact on them when they become parents.

                                  Beliefs are taught to children in subtle ways such as just listening to their parents conversations. Its not uncommon to over hear a child explain something as being absolutely true because what their parents have told them. In the poem “the victims” by sharon olds ,the children hated their father because of the beliefs the mother in stilled in her children. Their mother “taught us to take it, to hate you…….” . the children pick up the hate the mother had against their father and this begun the hatred for their father. In “ the death of a salesman”, the father sets a foundation of beliefs for his son biff. The father believes that all it takes to be successful in life is to we well liked. He tells his son ,”be liked and you will never want . you take me, for instance. I never have to wait in line to see a buyer &apo.

                           In modern society, many aspects of life have become increasingly similar around the world -one of the rare exceptions to this is probably the way be parent our children. In the united states, there is some truth to the stereotype of “helicopter parents” who monitor and guide every step of their childrens lives. Scandinavian parents tent be the opposite. They are more interested in having their children develop imagination, independence and a sense of discovery, and they generally interfere much less with their childrens choice .

                     The  authoritative parents are more likely to be viewed as reasonable , fair and just, their children are more likely to comply with their parents requests. Also, because these parents provide rules as well as explanation for these rules, children are much more likely to internalize these lessons.

Rather then simply following the rules because they fear punishment, the children of authoritative parents are able to see why the rules exist, understand that they are fair and acceptable, and strive to follow these rules to meet their own internalized sense of what is right wrong.

                           Parenting styles are associated with different child outcomes, and the authoritative style is generally linked to positive behaviors such as strong self -esteem and self -competence. However , other important factors including culture, childrens temperament, childrens perception of parental treatment, and social influences also play and important role in childrens behaviour .

                            Modern society is giving more importance to parenting styles . it represent the different approaches parents use to raise their children. This paper looks into various kinds of parenting styles followed by families . modern parenting is mixed with various issues . the root cause of majority of the mental health problems arise in adolescence are related to parenting styles. Most parents use a variety of styles developing upon their culture and societal demands. The patterns of parenting styles and their impact on child development are explained in the paper the impact of the social changes on childhood in india derives attention parenting style needs change according to the changes taking place in a society