Everyone knows this fact that all marriage are decided in heaven but there are some couple who accept love marriage. Everywhere this is a good topic of group discussion regarding which is best love marriage or arrange marriage. Many people from India voted for arranged marriage. Whereas in others countries love marriage is preferred the most. Love marriages contain pros and cons. Lets we come to know about these pros and cons of this love marriage. This kind of marriage is very special. Both partners must have the right to keep their own choice. If there is a love present in their relationship then this love marriage is good and continue for a longer duration of time. In many cases this love marriage cannot go for a longer duration of time.

PROS RELATED TO LOVE MARRIAGE:

1. This is good for these people who want to find their partner of their own choice. They have right to choose their partner.
2. They are mature enough to judge that what is good and bad for themselves. They know very well the bad and good effect related to love marriages.
3. Each partner is aware about the good qualities and bad qualities related to their life partner. They can easily adjust their behaviour and nature according to their needs. If you know your partner properly then it is very easy for you to adjust all types of conflict between both partners.
4. Love looks true and contain a lot of emotion and feeling in love marriage. They cannot made force to love each other. It comes from their heart.
5. In love marriage there’s a strong bond of love existing in their life which can make it easy for them to share every hidden thing with each other.
6. Generally equality prevails in love marriages
7. Planned love life leads to happy families.

CONS OF LOVE MARRIAGE:

1. This kind of marriage is based on attraction and when this attraction ends then it might end the relationship between two partners.
2. If by any means your parents are not for it and you go the marriage anyway then you be come alone for the rest of your life which means that you don’t have your family around with you.
3. The chances of divorce are much greater in love marriage than in arranged marriage.
4. After marriage a lot of new things and changes in their behaviour could be noticed when it’s already too late for two people to get out of this relationship.

PROS OF ARRANGED MARRIAGE:

1. Most of the arranged marriage cases are made on the basis of culture, religion and caste and therefore supported and respected by family and parents.
2. Any arrange marriage is complete only after a lot of adjustment. This remains in the mind of the girl and the boy too, which is why of them would try their level best to keep their relationship alive and keep giving chance to each other. India happens to record the least amount of divorce cases around the world.
3. As in arranged marriage both the partners are unknown to each other, it helps them want to know each other and that builds a strong and healthy love in between them.
4. Parents or well-wishers always think about the economic condition and future conditions.
5. Some studies reveal that love in love marriage fade after a point whereas love in arrange marriage tend to increase only.

CONS OF ARRANGED MARRIAGE:

1. First disadvantage of arranging marriage is that both the parties are unaware and feel uncomfortable with each other. If it remains then in that case the marriage becomes a burden.
2. It could be possible that the thinking, behaviour, nature may not match with the significant other which might lead to quarrels between the partners.
3. Arrange marriage sometimes lacks communication hence leading to two people failing to understand each other due to lack of communication.
4. Forced marriages still prevail leading to unhappiness among two people.

CONCLUSION:

Whether it is a love marriage or an arranged marriage, the relationship will work only if both the partners are serious and honest in the relationship. Life should be selected on your own and shouldn’t be forced on someone. These days people are taking time to know each other before marriage even in arranged marriage which is a sign of progressive society.

For the people of the older generation, health means physical health. Ofcourse, health should be related to the taking care of body’s normal functioning and mechanism but where the reasoning lack is that health does not only constitute to physical health but also mental health. Taking care of the most delicate part of our body. Giving priority to that flesh through which our whole body functions and operates. It’s prioritising that. But from years, that head is always neglected in terms of taking care of. Very little attention or no attention is payed towards it even after knowing the fact that it is important to take care of.

But this thinking is now changing. Now, people do pay heed and take care of their mental health apart from physical health. They consider that and place it equivalent to mental health because just like with a broken leg, we can’t move and with a disturbed mind we cannot focus. Breakdown of any one of them will cause problems to us. It is argued that this fact was already known to everybody but then also it was neglected but the real fact is that yes it was known to everybody that without a good mental health, we’ll not able to have a proper functioning of our mind. But the degree of disturbance was not known. The extent to which it can affect and cause problems in our daily life was not known until the doctors and researchers published the reports regarding that.

According to the research, scientists have found that taking care of mental health is very important and even more important than physical health because physical problems need money to be treated but for mental health, individual themselves have to take care of. The therapist can only advice what to do and what not to do but at the end of the it’s the individual himself that has follow everything. He himself has to cure that. And not taking care of it is like pushing yourself in the well. It’s a suicide. So, it’s very important that the person should prioritise his mental health and take care of.

The next question which then comes in the mind is How do we take care of our mental Health? What it means to take care? So the answer would be always keep your mind in a happy state. Ofcourse, there will be some or the other kind of pressure and tension in daily lives of the people and it is normal also but a limit should always be set for it. If the tension and pressure rises above that limit, consider it as a bad sign and start making efforts to keep the mind in a happy state. Recognise that what the mind wants and then make efforts in accordance to that. Also, it is very important to distance ourself from those who are the root cause of tension. They should be kept a particular distance. Because at the end of the day, a person is always left alone with his body and soul. People will come and go. And that is why the first responsibility of the individual is take care of himself. No other person will come and do that.

In some parts of India, menstruation is considered as a unholy thing and the girl or woman who menstruates is often kept seperately for the time being. When her period will be gone, she can come in the house and chat with her family but at the time of the menstruation she is not allowed to come in the house. She is not even allowed to enter the kitchen and cook for herself or anybody. Basically, she is given a room differently where she have to cook, wash and do all her chores in a particular area. Sometimes, this room is located outside the house where there is no amenity present. And the regret which follows for a girl is that she can’t even complain because the people who are giving her this kind of treatment are none other than her own family. She has no choice to accept or reject it. She has to follow what her family orders and instructs.

When a girl or woman menstruates, there are lot of hormonal changes in her body. Sometimes, that hormonal changes even lead to very painful periods and heavy flow of blood. The breasts are stored, cramps occur, backache, mood swings, pain in the stomach and many more. It lead to a lot of things which cannot be put into the words. But all this while they are left alone to handle and take care of themselves. They are not given any assistance or support regarding that which sometimes deepen the problem.

Also, when they live outside the house all alone, there is no security given. The family believe that no one will come to them but according to the reports published, crimes do take place when girls and women reside outside the house during their menstrual cycle. The main reason behind the crimes which happen is that when they menstruates, no one pays a visit to them. At that time they become vulnerable. Then there comes the sick- minded people who want to take the advantage of both the situation and of the woman. For them, it is their golden opportunity to grab a woman and do whatever comes in their mind. As a result, women are often molestated and raped. There is no one to protect them in that situation.

This happens in the parts of rural India where the old culture and idealogy still prevails and due to the lack of education, people are adamant to change any of their ritual in this respect as well as in all the other respects. They do not want to change themselves. And because of this nature only, people residing there become backward in thinking and menatality. They tend to take the society backwards.

Lastly, I would like to conclude with my opinion that education is very important in changing the mentality of the individuals. Without that they will never understand that the rituals they follow and idealogies adopt are something which will ruin the society in the coming future if not changed. They will become the hurdle in the development of the country. Also, there is a need to recognise that these traditions are old enough and it needs to be scrapped as early as possible. Menstruation and menstruating women should not be considered as unhold. Now, the mentality should be changed.

If there’s one thing that all the world’s various cultures have in common, it is marriage. Beliefs, diets and languages vary greatly, but the desire people have to share their lives with another seems universal. Why then, is marriage so popular?

Marriage is the most important institution of human society. It has been the backbone of human civilisation.It is a universal phenomenon. Psychologists have said that people have a deep need for emotional security which marriage provides. Knowing that one has a partner in life makes it easier to cope with the problems of daily life. On the other hand, the fact that many single people are content to live alone suggests that the “emotional need” theory is incomplete.

Human Beings have certain urges like hungers, thirst and sex. Society works out certain rules and regulation for satisfaction of these urges. The rules and regulations which deal with regulation of sex life of human beings are dealt in the marriage institution. We can say that the marriage is as old as the institution of family. Both these institutions are vital for the society. Family depends upon the Marriage. Marriage regulates sex life of human beings.

FUNCTIONS OF MARRIAGE:

Marriage is an institutionalised relationship within the family system. It fulfils many functions attributed to the family in general. Family functions include basic personality formation, Status ascriptions, socialisation, tension management and replacement of members, economic cooperation, reproduction, stabilisation of adults, and the like.

Many of these functions, while not requiring marriage for their fulfilment are enhanced by the marital system. In fact, evidence suggests that marriage is of great significance for the well-being of the individual. Researches suggest that in comparison to unmarried people, married people are found to be more happier, healthier, less disturbed and less depressed and less prone to premature deaths. Marriage, rather than becoming less important or unimportant maybe increasingly indispensable.

SOCIETY’S UNDERSTANDING:

A marriage in our society is perceived as a mere ritual to bring two families together. I don’t see it as a tradition that meeds to be followed just for the sake of it. You might not agree with the way I see this beautiful bond of two souls but I think the meaning of marriage is much greater than what the society tries to define it. Marriage isn’t a social or traditional compulsion. Two people decide to spend their lives together. They don’t enter into an agreement of compromise. Yes, there are times when we need to make some sacrifices for our loved ones but it shouldn’t be taken for granted which in todays society is quite common.If there has to be a lifetime commitment between two people there could be no commitment greater than the commitment of love.

Only Love, respect and compassion for each other can keep a relationship alive. If a marriage relationship continues without these three elements, it becomes a burden for a lifetime and a relationship of mutual benefits. A marriage in our society is considered as a means of generation survival. The old perspectives and traditions followed for years don’t let the meaning of marriage grow out of its restricted bindings. While some families feel the excruciating pain of seeing away their daughters away forever, for some families it means nothing more than a well renowned tradition that is supposed to be followed at a certain point of time. In our society nobody thinks about the two people who have to spend the rest of their lives together. A marriage can’t just remain to be a simple mechanism of complying with some conventional ceremonies.

Money spent as marriage expenses is still perceived a s a status symbol in our society. It’s disgusting to even think that this occasion is judged as a status symbol when its actually a moment of purity and a new beginning for two souls.

CONCLUSION:

Our society and family should think from the perspective of the newly married couple rather than being too self centered, demanding and enforcing financial burdens in the name of traditional values because at the end its just about the two people to choose to spend the rest of their lives with each other with the commitment of forever respecting, loving and being compassionate towards each other.