Author: Urvi Gupta

IS GIRL CHILD A BURDEN ?

TO A LOT OF PEOPLE IN THE WORLD, GIRL CHILD IS CONSIDERED TO BE A BURDEN. EDUCATING A GIRL IS BELIEVED TO BE OF NO USE AS, PEOPLE THINK THAT ULTIMATE GOAL OF A WOMEN IS TO WORK FOR HER FAMILY AND DO THE HOUSEHOLD CHORES.

YOUNG GIRLS ARE WEDDED OFF AT A VERY YOUNG AGE AND THIS TOO BECOMES AN ACHIEVEMENT FOR A ;LOT OF PEOPLE. HEAVY DOWRY IS DEMANDED FROM GIRL’S FATHER , AS IT ASSUMED THAT THE GROOM’S FAMILY IS TAKING OVER THE BURDEN OF THE BRIDE’S FAMILY BY GETTING THEIR SON MARRIED HIS DAUGHTER.

IN THE PAST, IN MANY VILLAGES, IF A GIRL WAS CHILD BORN, SHE WAS KILLED OR WAS DISOWNED. IN A COUNTRY WHERE WE OFFER PRAYER’S TO GODDESSES, THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOUR TOWARDS A GIRL CHILD IS ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE.

WOMEN’S ARE RAISED TO BE AN “ADARSHWAADI AND SANSKAARI” { RESPECTFUL , OBEDIENT AND KIND } WIFE. THEY ARE TAUGHT THAT THEIR GOAL IS TO NURTURE CHILDREN AND WORK LIKE A SLAVE TO THEIR HUSBANDS. THEY ARE TAUGHT TO SPEAK LESS AND OBEY THE WORDS OF HER IN-LAWS. THEY ARE CONSIDERED TO BE LESS ABLED THAN BOYS. THEY ARE SHOWCASED AS WEAK AND FRAGILE.THEY ARE CAGED AND ARE MADE TO CONFINE IN THEIR HOMES. THEY ARE NOT OFFERED ENOUGH OPPORTUNITIES, THEN WHY ARE THEY UNDERESTIMATED?

IN TODAY’S TIME, WOMEN ARE WORKING IN PACE WITH THE MAN. THEY ARE TAKING CARE OF THEIR FAMILIES BETTER THAN THE MAN.

WHY CONSIDER THEM TO BE A BURDEN ? WHY NOT GIVE THEM AN OPPORTUNITY TO SHOWCASE THEIR STRENGTH ?WHY? BECAUSE YOU KNOW THAT SHE IS MUCH MORE ABLED THAN YOUR BOYS? THESE QUESTIONS MIGHT SEEM QUITE ROUGH BUT ANSWER TO THESE WOULD CLEAR AS TO WHY ARE THE GIRLS CONSIDERED TO BE A BURDEN.

SHE IS NOT A BURDEN. SHE IS AN ASSET. LET HER LIVE HER LIFE ON HER OWN TERMS. LET HER LIVE. LET HER FLY, CAUSE SHE HAS THE ABILITY TO REACH THE SKY.

THE LAW of ATTRACTION [LOA]

WHAT EVER YOU THINK, COMES BACK TO YOU. THE UNIVERSE IS JUST LIKE A MOUNTAIN, WHEREIN YOU SHOUT , THE VOICES ECOES AND COMES BACK TO YOU. IT IS SAID EVERY POSITIVE THOUGHT IS TEN- THOUSAND TIMES STRONGER THAN A NEGATIVE THOUGHT. WHY IS IT SO, YOU MIGHT WONDER ? IT IS THE UNIVERSE, WHO LISTENS TO WHAT EVER YOU ARE SAYING. WHEN YOU MAKE A THOUGHT, THE UNIVERSE CONSPIRES TO MAKE IT HAPPEN. FOR INSTANCE; IF YOU ARE WITH YOUR MOM AND APPRECIATE HER FOR WHAT SHE HAS MADE, SHE WILL GIVE YOU ANOTHER PORTION TO EAT. SIMILARLY, IF YOU THANK UNIVERSE AND PAY GRATITUDE TO IT, IT WILL SURELY DO GOOD TO YOU.

A HUMAN MIND GETS LOADS OF THOUGHTS THROUGHOUT THE DAY, WE CANNOT STOP OURSELVES FROM THINKING. BUT, WE CAN SHIFT OUR THINKING TOWARDS POSITIVITY. A HUMAN MIND CAN DO WONDERS. NOTHING IS UNACHIEVABLE. IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING IN MIND, YOU CAN BRING IT TO REALITY. WHY CANT WE? SUCCESS DOES NOT STOP ITSELF FROM COMING TO YOU, IT IS YOU WHO THINK THAT WE CANT SUCCEED. WHAT EVER YOU THINK IS ACHIEVABLE.

THANK THE UNIVERSE FOR WHAT YOU HAVE GOT. THANK IT FOR WHAT IT WILL GIVE YOU. STAY THANKFUL AND PAY GRATITUDE, THE UNIVERSE SHALL ALWAYS BE THERE TO HELP YOU.

Good and Evil

MENSTRUAL HYGIENE IN RURAL AREAS.

More than 60 percent of population India lives in rural areas.

women lack access to menstrual hygiene products and menstrual cycle becomes a burden and bane for them

For the privileged, periods are normal, something which occurs every month. we are educated and understand as to why it occurs.

we might have to deal with pain and discomfort But for those who live in rural areas this prevents them to do their daily activities. Myths and taboos which are embedded with periods, makes lives of these women even worse.

According to a report less than 40 percent of women get access to sanitary products.

The cost of sanitary products are expensive for the people of rural areas, who hardly get to earn money to have some food , Some fill in their stomach’s using hand to mouth process.

A lot of women in rural areas use cloth during their periods, this can cause infection and fungal diseases. Due to Menstruation, a lot of young adults in villages are forced leave the schools and are looked upon with a feeling of disgust.

  Monthly campaigns should be put to make people understand the importance of menstrual hygiene. free sanitary products should be distributed every month. The villagers can be taught to how to make sanitary products, it will also add up to their incomes.

steps like these would definitely remove the stain of fungal/ bacterial infection due to menstruation.

WHY IS THERE A NEED TO DISTRIBUTE SANITARY NAPKINS IN RURAL AREA,FOR FREE.

India is a country, where women make up half  the population. more than 60 percent of population India lives in rural areas. women lack access to sanitary napkins and menstrual cycle becomes a burden and bane for them. women are god’ s precious creation.  For us, the privileged, periods are normal, something which occurs every month. we might have to deal with pain and discomfort But for those who live in rural areas this prevents them to do their daily activities. Myths and taboos which are embedded with periods, makes lives of these women even worse. According to a report only around 35 percent of women in India use sanitary napkins. The cost of sanitary napkins are expensive for the people of rural areas, who hardly get to earn money to have some food. Some follow hand to mouth process. Sanitary napkins are not a luxury, they are a necessity and every women deserves to have access to them. A lot of women in rural areas use cloth during their periods, this can cause infection and fungal diseases. Due to Menstruation, a lot of young adults in villages are forced leave the schools. Free sanitary napkins and some encouragement might help the child to not to discontinue their studies and their daily activities. Menstruation is a topic, people resist talking about, they feel its shameful. It is disheartening to see people thinking of it to be dirty.  The Government of India, is indeed, working towards the progress of our country but some steps like these would definitely work towards achieving the India, we all wish for.

CHILD MARRIAGES

CHILD MARRIAGES ; IT IS A VERY SYNONYMOUS TERM TO A LOT OF US. OUR GRANDPARENTS, THEIR PARENTS AND PARENT OF A LOT OF US, WERE FORCED TO GET MARRIED AT A VERY EARLY AGE.

GIRL CHILD IS CONSIDERED TO BE A BURDEN, AS THE PARENTS OF THE GROOM ASK FOR HEAVY DOWRY, IN WHICH THE PARENTS OF THE GIRL CHILD , AT TIMES ARE FORCED TO SELL THEIR HOME AND LAND.

WEDDING OF A YOUNG DAUGHTER, IS CONSIDERED TO AS ” REMOVING THE BURDEN OF THE FATHER”.

WHEN CHILDREN ARE BORN THEIR MARRIAGES GET FIXED, BY THE CONSENT OF THEIR PARENTS. AS SOON AS THE CHILDREN GROW A LITTER OLDER. THEY ARE TOLD TO GET MARRIED.

YOUNG GIRLS ARE ASKED TO DO HOUSEHOLD CHORES, LEAVE THEIR STUDIES AND BEHAVE LIKE A ” SANSKAARI BAHU” [ AN OBEDIENT AND REPECTFUL DAUGHTER-IN LAW].

BOYS ARE OVER-BURDENED WITH RESPONSIBILITIES AND GET DEPRIVED OF A BEAUTIFUL CHILDHOOD.

CHILDREN ARE MADE TO LOSE THEIR CHILDHOOD AND INNOCENCE AND LIVE A LIFE WHEREIN THEY ARE MADE TO WORK UNDER PRESSURE AND DEPRIVATION OF LOVE AND AFFECTION.

INDIAN LAWS HAD PUT A BAN ON CHILD MARRIAGE AND THE STATISTICS OF CHILD MARRIAGE HAVE SIGNIFICANTLY GOT DOWN.

BUT IN A LOT OF VILLAGES THIS IS STILL PRACTICED.

CHILDHOOD IS FOR ENJOYMENT AND LEARNINGS. WHY BURDEN THEM WITH RESPONSIBILTY?

Being a parent to someone needs the same DNA?

LOVE, CARE AND AFFECTION ; THESE WORDS HOLD A GREAT MEANING. A CHILD IS A PRECIOUS CREATION OF THE ALMIGHTY. PARENTS ARE LIKE WATER TO THE SAPLINGS CALLED CHILDREN.

SOME PEOPLE DISOWN THEIR CHILDREN AND SEND THEM TO ORPHANAGES.SOME DO THIS DUE TO FINANCIAL PRESSURE, SOME DUE TO FAMILY ISSUES AND SOME DUE TO BIRTH OF A GIRL CHILD, WHOM THEY CONSIDER TO BE A BURDEN.

ANGELS ARE THOSE WHO ADOPT THESE CHILDREN AND LOVE THEM LIKE THEIR OWN. TO THEM DNA DOES NOT MATTER BUT WHAT MATTERS TO THEM IS THE CHILD. THEY PROVIDE THE CHILD WITH ABUNDUNT LOVE AND AFFECTION WHICH THE CHILD HAD BEEN DEPRIVING OF.

DNA, DOES THAT MATTER ? FOR THOSE WHO CARE ABOUT THE CHILD AND HIS/HER EMOTIONS, THESE THINGS WONT MATTER. A PERSON WHO WOULD LOVE THE CHILD AND WOULD WANT TO RAISE THE CHILD LIKE THEIR OWN, FOR THEM NOTHING ELSE APART FROM THE CHILD’S CONSENT WOULD MATTER.

RAISING A CHILD HAS ITS OWN BEAUTY. APPRECIATE THOSE WHO RAISE A CHILD WHOSE DNA DOES NOT MATCH WITH THEIR CHILDREN BUT THEIR LOVE AND HEART DOES.

brown; black; white !

YOU ARE SO FAIR, RED COLOUR SUITS YOU!

YOUR COLOUR IS DULL, ITS WHEATISH. DONT WEAR PINK, IT WONT SUIT YOU

“you’re so white”/ “you’re so brown”/ “you look so black, put some foundation” , is what a lot of have heard, growing.

DISCRIMINATION ON THE BASIS OF COLOUR HAS BEEN PREVALENT FOR YEARS ; NOW.

we cant change people’s mind, but can change our thinking.

it does not matter whether we are black, brown or white. what matters the most is our heart, our values and thoughts.

outer beauty might come and fade, but inner beauty stays forever.

every color is beautiful. every color is pure. every color suits your color tone, every color makes you look heaven.

accept yourselves the way you are.

if you accept how you look , the world itself will shut down it’s mouth, if they don’t ; who cares?

love yourself the way you are, keeping appreciating yourself.

thank the almighty/ universe for blessing us with every possible happiness.

LIFE AND HAPPINESS :)

IT IS SAID THAT HAPPINESS SHARED IS HAPPINESS DOUBLED. BUT IN TODAY’S TIME, WHEN WE ALL ARE STUCK IN THE PANDEMIC, WHEREIN A LOT OF US HAVE LOST THEIR LOVED ONES, SOME ARE FACING FINANCIAL SHORTAGE AND SOME ARE DEPRIVING OF FOOD $ WATER ; HAPPINESS HAS GONE REALLY FAR AWAY FROM US.

BUT, LIFE NEEDS TO CONTINUE. NEITHER CAN WE STOP OURSELVES NOR CAN WE STOP THE TIME. WHAT CAN WE DO THEN? TRULY SPEAKING, WHEN IM WRITING THIS, I MYSELF AM DOUBTING MY WORDS. BUT THIS IS THE REALITY. THE SHOW MUST GO ON.

LIFE IS LIKE A MOVIE WHICH COMPRISES OF ALL THE GENRES, THERE ARE DAYS WHEN WE FEEL OVERWHELMED, THERE ARE DAYS WE DOUBT OURSELVES, THERE ARE DAYS WE FEEL BAD, AND SO ON!

HAPPINESS WONT COME TO US IF WE DONT ATTRACT IT. HOW TO ATTRACT HAPPINESS ? SIT AROUND WITH YOURSELF, QUESTION YOURSELF ” WHAT BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES HAS MY LIFE GIVEN ME ? “. YOU WILL UNDERSTAND, THAT THIS BAD TIME TOO SHALL PASS.

SMILE, LAUGH, TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS/ LOVED ONES, WHO UNDERSTAND YOU. SHARE YOUR GOOD MEMORIES, ASK THEM TO DO SO TOO.

LAUGHING AND SMILING WOULD RADIATE POSITIVITY AROUND YOU, IT WILL BEAUTIFY YOUR AURA. THIS WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER

KEEP SMILING ALWAYS!

THANK THE ALMIGHT/ UNIVERSE FOR BLESSING US WITH UNIMAGINABLE BEAUTIES.

DIVIDE=DISCRIMINATION?

BLUE FOR BOYS AND PINK FOR GIRLS? THIS WHAT A LOT OF US HAVE HEARD; GROWING.

THE DAY A GIRL IS BORN: HER ROOM , THE COT, WALLS OF HER ROOM AND AKIN ARE ALL DECORATED PINK. FOR A BOY THE SAME IS COLOURED BLUE. THIS DISCRIMINATION STARTS BY BIRTH. THIS DIVISION IS MADE BY BIRTH!

DISCRIMINATION IS NOT SOMETHING WHICH COMES NATURALLY TO US IT; IT WAS TAUGHT TO US. THE DIVIDE THAT WE ARE PREACHED IS WHY THIS DISCRIMINATION STARTS.

UNEQUAL WAGES, HUMONOUS GAP IN SEX RATIO, UNEQUAL OPPORTUNITY ARE ALL THAT TAKES PLACE DUE TO DISCRIMINATION.

CONSIDERING GIRL CHILD TO BE A BURDEN AND BOY CHILD TO BE A BOON , IS WHAT LEADS TO UNEQUAL GENDER RATIO.

CONSIDERING WOMENS TO BE LESS EDUCATED AND LESS ABLED IS DISCRIMINATION. TELLING BOYS NOT TO CRY, CAUSE “YOU ARNT A GIRL” , IS DISCRIMINATION.

STOPPING GIRLS FROM GOING OUT SIDE AT NIGHT, CAUSE ” YOU ARE A GIRL” , NOT LETTING US SPEAK BECAUSE, ” YOU ARE A GIRL”. NOT LETTING US WEAR DRESSES WE WISH TO WEAR, CAUSE ” YOU ARE A GIRL”. ASKING THEM TO WORK AT HOME AND NOT GO GOT CAUSE, “YOU ARE THE WOMEN OF THE FAMILY”.

STOPPING BOYS FROM EXPRESSING THEIR EMOTIONS , CAUSE ” YOU ARE A BOY”. PUTTING FINANCIAL BURDEN ON THEM CAUSE, ” YOU ARE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE”.

HOW CAN YOU LOVE BOYS? , ” YOU ARE A BOY”. HOW CAN YOU LOVE A GIRL? , ‘ YOU ARE A GIRL”. HOW COME YOU DONT KNOW WHOM DO YOU LOVE, ” YOU ARE A BOY/GIRL AND YOU HAVE TO LOVE A GIRL/BOY”. ‘YOU WANT TO BE A GIRL’, “YOU WISH TO BE A BOY”???

WHAT IS IT ?

IT IS DISCRIMINATION.

NOT ONLY GIRLS BUT BOYS TOO FACE IT AT TIMES.

UNTIL THIS DISCRIMINATION SUPPRESSES, THE WORLD WOULD NOT BE THE WAY : MAJORITY OF US WANT IT TO BE.

RESPECT ALL GENDERS; BE IT A GIRL, A BOY AND LGBTQ+

ALL OF US TOGETHER WILL BE ABLE TO DEVELOP A NATION WE ALL WISH FOR.

DIRT $ SHAME ?

AS SOON AS A GIRL HITS PUBERTY, HER BODY GOES THROUGH A LOT OF CHANGES. ONE AMONGST THE CHANGES THAT TAKES PLACE IS: SHE BLEEDS EVERY MONTH . WHAT IS MENSTRUATION? EVERY MONTH THE UTERUS PREPARES ITSELF TO RECEIVE THE FERTILIZED EGG, IF THE EGG DOES NOT FERTILIZE, THE BED LIKE FORMATION OF BLOOD AND MUCUS, WHICH HAD BEEN PREPARED FOR THE PLACEMENT OF FERTILIZED EGG; BREAKS ITSELF AND THAT IS WHY A WOMEN BLEEDS.

FOR A LOT OF PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT MENSTRUATION IS A SHAME. WHY SO? JUST BECAUSE A WOMEN BLEEDS? THERE ARE MYTHS AND TABOOS EMBEDDED WITH IT. PEOPLE MAKE WOMEN FEEL DIRTY ON THE DAYS OF THEIR PERIODS. SOME CONSIDER IT TO BE GROSS AND SOME IMPURE.

IN A COUNTRY LIKE INDIA WHERE WE OFFER PRAYERS TO MAA DURGA, MAA LAKSHMI AND MAA SARASWATI ; HUMILIATING AND RIDICULING A WOMEN ON SOMETHING THAT IS NATURAL AND GOD GIVEN, PAINS MY HEART A LOT.

WOMENS ARE STRENGHTH OF THE FAMILY, THEY ARE THE BACKBONE. SUPPORT THEM, LOVE THEM AND TAKE CARE OF THEM WHEN THEY NEED YOU THE MOST. STOP SPREADING HATE! THIS ISNT IMPURE. THIS IS THE REASON WHY WE ARE HERE, IN THIS WORLD.

WOMENS ARE PRECIOUS GIFT OF THE ALMIGHTY. RESPECT HER ALWAYS!

WOMEN SAFETY

IN THE CURRENT TIMES, MAJORITY OF THE NEWS WE READ OF ARE ABOUT, VIOLANCE AGAINST WOMEN. WOMEN SAFETY IS AN ISSUE THAT PEOPLE TAKE LIGHTLY. FOR ANY VOILENCE AGAINST WOMENT THE ONLY PERSON WHO IS BLAMED IS THE WOMEN ITSELF. NEGLECTANCE TOWARDS SUCH ACTS GIVES IMPETUS ANTI SOCIAL HOOLIGANS TO CONTINUE DOING SUCH SHAMEFUL ACTS. THE DRAKONIAN ACT WHICH TOOK PLACE ON 16TH DECEMBER, WHERE A GIRL WAS RAPED IN A MOVING BUS, SHOOK THE ENTIRE HUMANITY.

EVERY WOMEN, OR HUMANS IN GENERAL SHOULD BE TAUGHT TO DIFFERENCIATE BETWEEN GOOD TOUCH AND BAD TOUCH. EVERY INSTITUTION AND ORGANISATION SHOULD CONDUCT WORKSHOPS TO EDUCATE PEOPLE ABOUT WOMEN SAFETY.

THERE AINT A WOMEN IN THIS WORLD WHO HAS NOT BEEN A SUBJECT TO SUCH INSENSATIVE AND SHAMEFUL ACTS. SUCH ACTS LEAVE A SCAR IN THE MIND OF THE VICTIM. TO PREVENT THEIR FAMILY MEMBERS FROM SUCH TRAUMATISING AND AFFLICTING ACTS , THE FAMILY OF WOMEN, CONFINE HER IN THE BOUNDARY OF THEIR HOMES.THIS FURTHUS STOPS HER FROM FULFILLING HER DREAMS AND IS UNABLE TO LIVE HER LIFE THE WAY SHE WANTS.

ANY SUCH ACTS SHOULD BE IMMEDIATELY REPORTED TO THE POLICE. EVERY WOMEN SHOULD HAVE THE WOMENS HELPLINE NUMBER IN HER CALL FEED, SO THAT SHE CAN HELP HERSELF OR OTHERS AT THE TIME OF NEED.

MANAGEMENT [a]

MANAGEMENT IS THE PROCESS OF DESIGNING AN ENVIRONMENT IN WHICH INDIVIDUALS, WORKING TOGETHER IN GROUPS, EFFICIENTLY AND EFFECTIVELY ACHIEVE SELECTED AIMS.

IT IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS. IT COMPRISES OF SET OF INTERRELATED AND INTEDEPENDENT FUNCTIONS LIKE PLANNING, ORGANISING, STAFFING, DIRECTING AND CONTROLLING . EVERY INSTITUTION OR ORGANISATION NEEDS MANAGEMENT ; BE IT A PETROL PUMP OR A SCHOOL.

IT IS AIMED THAT IN MANAGEMENT TASKS ARE DONE EFFECTIVELY AND EFFICIENTLY. THERE ARE THREE LEVELS OF MANAGEMENT. EVERY LEVEL EMPLOYS WORKERS TO COMPLETE THE DESIRED GOAL.

IT IS A NEVER ENDING PROCESS. IT STARTS AT PLANNING AND ENDS AT CONTROLLING.

KARMA

WHAT IS KARMA? KARMA IS JUST LIKE; IF YOU SPIT IT THE AIR, IT FALLS OVER YOU. KARMA COMES BACK, IS IT TRUE? YES, IT IS. IF YOU DO GOOD TO PEOPLE, GOOD WILL HAPPEN TO YOU. IF YOU DO BAD TO PEOPLE, ONE DAY OR THE OTHER YOU SHALL GO THROUGH SOMETHING NEGATIVE. YES, IT IS TRUE. I HAVE EXPERIENCED A LOT OF INSTANCES, WHEREIN I HAVE WITNESSED PEOPLE GOING FROM LAND TO SKY, AND THOSE WHO DROPPED FROM THE SKY TO LAND.

WHAT YOU GIVE, COMES BACK TO YOU. WHAT YOU DO COMES BACK TO YOU. IF YOU THROW, 2 BALLS IS THE AIR, IT COMES BACK TO YOU.LET US USE AN EXAMPLE: BLUE BALL STANDS FOR BAD KARMA AND PINK BALL STANDS FOR GOOD KARMA. IF YOU DO GOOD, IT WILL GET TO YOU; THINGS WHICH ARE POSITIVE. EVERY NEGATIVE KARMA COUNTS AND SO DOES A POSITIVE KARMA. IF YOUVE DONE BAD TO PEOPLE , ITS CONSEQUENCE WILL COME TO YOU EVEN IF YOU HAVE DONE GOOD TO PEOPLE.

BE POSITIVE, DONT GET JEALOUS OF OTHERS. YOUR LIFE WITH BE THE WAY YOU THINK OF IT TO BE. YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR LIFE, THE ARTIST OF THE ART CALLED “LIFE”. BLESS PEOPLE, THE BLESSINGS WILL MULTIPLY AND COME BACK TO YOU. IF YOU BE GOOD TO OTHERS, YOU SHALL ALWAYS HAPPY.

STAY HAPPY AND RADIATE HAPPINESS.