If someone ask you to help them in their project?? You say yes or not . It is uncomplicated to say yes every request on your time when your goal or aim of your life are opaque and you have not inspired vision for . your upcoming life . So you have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time . To stay calm tension free and minimize your stress you have to learn and practice how you gracefully say no. May be it can hurt , it can take a form of anger and disappointment or show your rudeness toward the person you are saying no . If you have hope or any chance to work and collaborate with that person in future you have to go with good relationship with that and may be saying no in wrong way can destroy those relation with that I am so sure , so that we must remember or know the difference in saying no or saying yes to something more important .
There are few hack or tricks to saying no very gracefully and gently. 1.Know How Valuable Your Time Is. When you know the importance of your time than it is very easy to say no. You have to know and remember your commitments and how valuable your precious time is then someone is going to ask you to give some of your very precious time to knew commitments , you already know that you have already a lot of commitments and you just can’t do it so , just tell them my plate is overloaded as it is . Firstly go and set your priorities right now so no comes as a natural reply to anything which is less important and not included in your priority list . So even if you have extra time and free early from your work and literally which is very rare in our day to day life , for me more commitment means less time for me . My family , my loved ones and my close one who are important to me more than any thing so if I free earlier from my work and I have extra time so I will give it to my family . So no comes naturally when you see your priorities ands spare time for your family .
2. Practice the two letters word ‘NO’. To master this word you should practice saying no in day to day life and you have to be used to from this word . As you know the practice makes a man perfect. If someone is extremely insisting you again and again to take this commitment and involved with him , just keep saying no in the end they will get the message . Sometime repeating the word is the only way to get a message through it . Say no as often as you can in great way to better addict from the word and more comfortable with saying the word and keep control on your mind as well as on your feelings to divert from your path . Recall your resolution again and again to make it memorize .
3. Be unapologetic for guarding your time . Don’t apologize whenever you are saying no to anyone . Usually when people saying no as a human nature they start saying I am sorry and they regret that they say no and they overthink about it . You may think it is polite to say sorry and regret in front of the person and in personally , but apologizing just make the sound weaker and represent you weaker . You need to be firm , unapologetic and stick to your decision about guarding your time and saving your time . You may say to the person that I know you are hoping will be going to work together on this project but I have a lot of work already so I will not , I need to say no.
4. Give A Thought Before Saying Yes. If someone offer you new project and assignment to do, and you think to consider this then you can tell let me check my schedule and I’ll back to you. I can’t participate in one hour meeting but I am free after 8 on tomorrow. You can postpone your meeting or your new commitment.
5.Pre-empt The request It means prevent the request from being made. We can understand by taking a example means if someone is making a plane or postpone any meeting for any other day, you say normally that on that my schedule is too tight I can’t make any other plane or my schedule is already set, I can’t change it. So the person already understand that indirectly that you can’t attempt this or saying no. Prevent and pre-empt is quite pretty similar. Both giving the same message most of the time.
6.You Can’t Be Nice To Everyone Around You. Just stop being nice to everyone around you, but it is important to be polite. By doing this you make it easy for the for people to grab your time and money and they are going to continue it. Being nice by say yes all time on all help and commitment only hurt you and make you divert from your main task or goal of your life . You cannot even fullfil your all commitment which do to all. Keep in mind that you can’t happy or satisfied all the person around you.
7. Saying The Hardest No. Means say no in your work place like you already have a lot project to do within due date. And boss offer you another project you have to same no them politely by telling consequences that you have already a lot of project to do and I have to do it within due date so if I add this new one my pre project got disturb and they suffer from lack of time. But I can’t do this part of this project. You can do this very politely and strictly also means you are very much busy with you current projects.
8.Its Not You It’s Me you can appreciate the project which offered to you but it’s my bad that I will not participate in this project you can say say very humble no.
You can say that you have to collect all the energy from different directions and put it in the direction of your goal . And this going to make your secret of your success. You know the most effective people concentrate on their Areas of excellence this is ,on the thing they do best and on those high impact activities that will advance their lifework. We can take an example Jazz great Louis Armstrong did not spend his time selling tickets to his shows and seeting up chairs for the audience. He concentrate on his point of brilliance: means playing trumpet.
Steal time from all those extra commitment and devote and add it to those things which is fruitful for future and make your career. Learn to say no which is not important in your life. Learn this art this is very helpful to succeed in your life and make time for you and your closed ones.
Eduindex 
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