In a society like ours , keeping yourself FIRST, is always termed as “selfish”. It is portrayed as something that is so wrong to do . But why ? Why do we have to prove ourselves everytime we take a decision for our own self. How does it matter ? And why does it matter ? In a democratic country like ours where we have all rights reserved for speech,for living ,for celebrating ,why is this concept of putting ourselves first so “stereotypical”
Every coin has two phases. One the positive one .Another the negative one . So is with ”SELFISHNESS”.
The negative side of selfishness is when you do not care about what others feel or think or if you are hurting somebody by being apathetic completely.
The positive side talks about keeping yourself first with no intentions of hurting somebody. In life, where everybody is competing to be on top ,it is necessary to keep yourself first without the guilt for it. You need to stand for yourself even if that means standing alone . People come and people go, what remains is the experiences ,the lessons you have learnt. When you start keeping yourself second on the list ,you give people a chance to keep you on second as well.Because it is often said “How you love yourself,is how you teach others to love you” . And i’m sure everybody wants to be a priority . It is possible in this journey of self love ,you lose people and may be you will lose bonds that matter ,but remember people who can not appreciate your journey are better staying away from your life because the real ones will always encourage and appreciate you to be the best version of yourself. Afterall it’s not your job to be everything to everyone . And obviously you can’t keep everybody happy ,so maybe it is better to focus on your happiness.
” TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF IS THE FIRST SECRET TO HAPPINESS ”
The society is full of comments .Body shaming , racism, comparison ,criticism, and what not .Everything comes to your way . But what you have to do is TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND MEDITATE . Meditate by saying : I don’t want anything that doesen’t want me. And there will be no turning back . Stop listening to things that doesen’t deserve your attention. Stop listening to people who want you second . Start prioritising . Start getting your goals right. Start looking after yourselves .Start heading towards self love. Start keeping yourself first . Because if self love is being selfish become SELFISH . But, yes in a positive way!
A POEM BY JASZ GILL :
Dear Fellow Human Being, You are born wild, You do not deserve to be tamed! Tell yourself, You do not deserve this! All those toxic words you have to listen from people, All those fears they try to pin on your mind, All those giggles they aim at your dreams, All those judgmental stares inspecting your individuality, All those fingers pointing towards your crude character, All those shackles that tie your feet to social expectations, All those cages that do not let your imagination fly free, Listen deeply, you do not deserve any of it. My dear fellow human, you do not deserve this hostility. You are born wild, You do not deserve to be tamed!” ― Jasz Gill