Do Our Failures Define Us?

In today’s fast moving and overly competitive world, all people care about is being successful. And for the ones who are already there, it is hard to believe that they faced no failure on their way to the top. Failure is a part of success, it is the part of our lives. That one failed moment is enough to make you think about what you can do if you give it one more try. People want success but what they don’t desire is failure.

You must have heard life stories of many great people but I bet everyone had their challenges. If you try to do everything perfectly, made sure that everything goes according to your “plan” and leave no scope for failure, do you really think life would be easy to live? Is it that easy to control every aspect of your life? I think not. I am not saying you must leave scope for failure but you must consider it as a possibility because sometimes things are just not under your control. You need to know that failure is one of the key ingredients in the recipe for success. Failure is what pushes you to keep going. Failure is what keep you humble. Failure encourages you to take that risk again and we all know that ‘greater the risk, higher the reward’. Yes, failing at something you worked this hard for can take a toll on our emotional and mental health. But you have to think about the fact that now you are aware of your mistakes. You finally know what you have been doing wrong and if that isn’t a good thing then what is.


Your failure is not what defines you but your capability to pick yourself up, defines who you are. As it is rightly said that if you fall, the person to pick you up should be ‘YOU’. It is understandable that after a point of time failure takes you down mentally but you still have to believe in yourself because as Marilyn Monroe once said “Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie?” . All you have got is you. Life is full of challenges and it is for sure that a life full of challenges will teach you more about the world then a smooth sailing one.

Another thing you have to realize is that you are not alone in this. Everyone falls. Some more often than others but the people who refuse to stand up and begin again are the real failures. You cannot just give up. If you do, you will live with the regret of what you could have been if you got up, dusted yourself and gave it one more shot. The feeling of regret is worse than failure because if you never try you shall never know what you were capable of all along. Let me ask you a question, during your final days what are you more likely to think about- your current status or the time you didn’t recover from that one failure which could have been your shot? Well, if the latter is your answer then you have to get up, make a new plan, go out there and show everyone who ever doubted you that your failure is not what defines you but your success will.

I’ll leave you with this quote by Nelson Mandela,
“Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.”

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