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MOTHER SENTIMENT SONGS – Part 2

There is no life without a mother. She is a precious soul who is completely selfless when it comes to her child. This article is a continuation of part 1 of this article. This is a tribute to all the mothers out there and a realization post for all the sons and daughters through the best mom songs in Kollywood.

  • Song: Kalli kaatil  

Movie: Thenmerku paruvakaatru

Singer: Vijay Prakash

Lyricist: Vairamuthu

Composer: NR Raghunanthan

“Kalli kaatil pirantha thaaye enna kall odachi valartha neeye”

        This harmonious melody is a realization song for the children. It describes the hardships faced by a mother to raise her son. Everyone will realize the value of a mother in listening to this song. 

  • Song: Aararo aariraro 

Movie: Siruthai

Singer: Srivardhini 

Lyricist: Arivumathi

Composer: Vidyasagar

This song is a thallatu (lullaby) that a mother beautifully sings for her daughter. The song appears in a situation where a small girl listens to her mother’s song before sleep on a recorder as her mother is no more. Such a soothing lullaby that shows how her mother fosters her daughter.

  • Song: Kangal neeye 

Movie: Muppozhuthum un karpanaigal

Singer: Sithara

Lyricist: Thamarai

Composer: GV Prakash

It is the best mother song in recent times. It describes that a child is every single thing for a mother. This song comes in a scenario where a widow raises her son who cannot walk by carrying him on her shoulders. She works day and night to give treatment for her son to make him walk. Every single line in this song is a gem that expresses a mother’s heart for her child.

  • Song: Nooru saamigal irunthalum 

Movie: Pichaikkaran

Singer: Vijay Antony

Lyricist: Eknath Raj

Composer: Vijay Antony

This song expresses a child’s love for his/her mother. The movie revolves around a rich son who becomes a beggar and leaves all the luxury he has for some days just because to save his mother who was on the death bed. “Nooru saamigal irunthalum amma unnai pol aagiduma” meaning There may be 100s of gods but can they replace you, oh mother? This line is enough to know the worth.

  • Song: Amma amma 

Movie: Velai illa Pattadhari (VIP)

Singer: Dhanush, S. Janaki

Lyricist: Dhanush

Composer: Anirudh Ravichander

A melancholy that narrates the grief of a son on losing his mother. The situation is that the hero’s mother dies suddenly out of cardiac arrest. His mother tries calling him over the phone when she gets the attack. But he fails to pick the call. Maybe, he could’ve saved his mother if he had attended that call. This guilt and grief surround him and there goes this song. How would it feel when your mother who is our whole world, suddenly leaves you all alone?

  • Song: Ellu vaya pookalaye 

Movie: Asuran

Singer: Saindhavi

Lyricist: Yugabharathi

Composer: GV Prakash

An extremely sad song that comes when a son dies and that is not acceptable for his mother. Each word describes the grief of losing a child. No one can hear this song without tears in your eyes. Such a painful song that melts even a stone-heartened person.

So, these are some of the legendary mother sentiment songs that rule everyone’s playlist. Don’t miss to check its part-1.

MOTHER SENTIMENT SONGS – Part 1

Mothers are always special to everyone. Right from the time of birth, we are always closely attached to our moms. No one can understand, love, and care for a person unconditionally more than a mother does. She is the fundamental need for a child and no one could ever try to replace her place. The relationship of a child and mother is always everlasting and strong than any other relationship as the bond is formed 9 months before birth. So, many beautiful songs portray the astonishing bond between a child and a mother.

  • Song: Amma endru 

Movie: Kannan

Singer: KJ Yesudas

Lyricist: Vaali

Composer: Ilayaraaja

This melodious song is a tribute to all mothers. It describes the qualities of a mother and she is quoted as God. The care and love showered by the hero on his physically challenged, aged mom is portrayed. The line “Amma endru azhaikatha uyir illaye” meaning there is no life that doesn’t call amma is enough to narrate the worth.

  • Song: Chinna Thayaval 

Movie: Thalapathy

Singer: S. Janaki

Lyricist: Vaali

Composer: Ilayaraaja

Another soothing melody that explains the motherly love for a son. This song comes when the hero sees his mother for the first time in a temple. The lyrics are penned in a way how a mother would sing for her son.

  • Song: Aarariraro 

Movie: Raam

Singer: KJ Yesudas

Lyricist: Snehan

Composer: Yuvan Shankar Raja

        A very beautiful song that everyone remembers thinking of their mothers. It is a lullaby that a son sings for his mother and praises his mother in all ways. Everyone felt and wanted this line to happen in our lives when we heard “Iraiva ne aanai idu thaaye enthan magalai maara” – God, please give an order that my mother should become my daughter.

  • Song: Neeye Neeye 

Movie: M. Kumaran son of Mahalakshmi

Singer: KK

Lyricist: Vaali

Composer: Srikanth Deva

        This is a very enthusiastic song that shows that mother and son both are made of one soul but two human forms. This song portrays the love and affection that a son has for his mother who is a single parent. The whole movie revolves around the friendly bond between the mother and her son. The line “Unnai pol orr thai than iruka enna vendum vaazhvil jeika?” meaning when I have a mom like you, what else do I need to succeed in life? is always bliss.

  • Song: Kaalaiyil dhinamum 

Movie: New

Singer: Unni Krishnan and Sadhana Sargam

Lyricist: Vaali

Composer: AR Rahman

        A lovely song that a son sings for his mother first and later to his pregnant wife as a husband. The song tells that the definition of love and affection is ‘Amma’(Mother).

  • Song: Aasapatta ellathayum 

Movie: Viyabari

Singer: Hariharan

Lyricist: Parinaman

Composer: Deva

        “Aasapatta ellathayum kaasu iruntha vangalam… amma va vaanga mudiyuma?”

A thoughtful song that explains that although you can buy everything with money, no money can buy a mother and her love. Also, it says that no relationship can equal a mother in its lyrics.

These are some songs that come to every Tamilian’s mind when we think of a tribute to mother. Stay tuned to know a few more in part-2.  

Lockdown: Mothers Are Tired

“Mothers are like glue. Even when you can’t see them, they’re still holding the family together.”

                                                                                                                                                          —Susan Gale

The COVID-19 pandemic started almost two years back and since then we’re under lockdown. There have been so many changes in the world, so many people have been affected physically and mentally and the most affected ones are Mothers. Everyone being present at home, hardly gives them time for themselves.

 

Vector parenthood problems of big family. Tired, exhausted mother with naughty and nasty children crying trying to handle kids and household chores. Mom holding dirty laundry, cooking, washing dishes:: موقع تصميمي

 

As the classes are conducted online, a mother has to ensure that her child pays attention and thus she sits with her child. Normally if the pandemic wouldn’t have happened, the child would have gone to school and she could rest at home at that time. Her family members are present at home all the time so now she’s got extra work and less time for herself. She has to cook for her family and do other household chores while her child is asking for something or disturbing her.

 

Working mothers suffer too. They have to work from home as well as take care of her family. Her children are present all the time which makes it really difficult for her to concentrate on her work while the pressure from the boss just increases. Same scenario with the single moms.

Moms Cut Work Hours Four Times More Than Dads During Pandemic

 

We don’t even realize how much they have to sacrifice for us. Few days back I saw a post where a mother was breathing through a portable oxygen cylinder and simultaneously cooking for her family. Her love is unconditional, her sacrifices are beyond comparison; so high time we understand this and help them out. It’s time that we acknowledge their misery and give them what they deserve the most – love, help and understanding.

The selfless she!

She….the everything!!

She,who gets up early in the morning every day to look after your needs & who wouldn’t mind sleeping. She,who will constantly forgive your lies no matter how big they’re, still give you a warm smile, who will endure all pain caused when you reject her and her kisses because you’re too cool to be seen. She’ll be the only one supporting and lifting up your spirit whenever you’re feeling down.

She, who thinks about only you who crosses her mind constantly throughout the day, who doesn’t want anybody else to hurt you, who consider herself to be fortunate to have you, who stood by your side in your joy and struggles & guided, leaded in a righteous path,giving your her full attention. She, who never get tired of talking to, when bringing down her mood without intention to and affect her emotions with every action of yours but still cares you a lot, to whom you’re the reason of her smile without trying, who’ll be a console when your life gets messed up,supports you when you’re mean to do something.

No matter where she is,what she’s doing, always finds herself thinking about only you who deeply love but often underappreciated, put the needs of you before herself, the marker of magical moments. She, who afraid of losing you & always wanted to keep within, who’ll remember all the moments forever you made it, holding you all the time, who sacrifices all her wants and needs just for only you, who never gives up on you, showing love & care to whom you mean the world, who dares to face the world alone just for you and finally who dedicated everything in her life only for you & who never fails to love you unconditionally!…..that’s why she called selfless!
Perhaps, one day you’ll understand all the sacrifices she gladly made out of her love for you!

I believe in love at first sight, cause I love her since I opened my eyes and she as well!
The purest and truest meaning of the word “unconditional” can only be found in her’s love!
Everything she ,she the everything!!

Comment on…… who’s she?
Love,
Neharika..

Should commercial surrogacy be banned in India?

Commercial surrogacy is the process by which an individual or couple pays a fee to a woman in exchange for her carrying and delivering a baby. At birth the child, homo-sexual couples, and single people who wish to be parents are the most common types of people who seek surrogate mothers.

Commercial surrogacy has been legal in India from 2002 onwards but due to unethical practices, a bill has been approved by the Union Cabinet in August 2016. This one lapsed when Parliament adjourned without taking the measure for a vote.

The new proposal came in 2019 that is to ban commercial surrogacy. The Indian minister of health has called the 2019 bill a “need of the hour” citing a rough estimate that between 2000 to 3000 unregulated clinics currently operate in the country. Under the new law anyone who performs or promotes this would be punished with up to 10 year of imprisonment and a fine up to one million rupees. The surrogacy bill’s provision restricting surrogacy to married heterosexual couples within strict age ranges also discriminates against members of L G B T community, older couples and unmarried people who might seek to have a child. The bill goes against the principles of equality provided under Article 14 of the Indian constitution.

Regulation, not ban, is needed. The commercial surrogacy in India needs a regulation and stricter rules that could ensure good care and pay to the woman alone and not agents or others. Good clinical facilities for the surrogate mother and a healthy environment where she could stay safely before and after delivery could lessen exploitation. There is no provision in the law about the custody of the child if the couple later refuse to accept it if the child is mentally challenged or born with a defect. People who hire surrogates have a need to do so due to medical reasons. It is not their choice. Regulation on this practice is very much needed and must be done to close loopholes due to which exploitation of surrogate mothers is taking place.

Indian society is yet to progress so much as to accept surrogate motherhood. The woman who rents her womb even if for the cause of humanity towards an unfortunate couple will never be accepted in society when she goes back to her normal life. People will look down on her and she may probably not be able to find a husband, if she was unmarried at the time of surrogacy. We need to be broad-minded and accept these women and respect their choice of renting their wombs.

Giving women a safe and free environment for surrogacy can help in curbing the evils attached and the industry could do well along with giving good money to such poor women so that they can make their lives better as well as give prosperity to their families.

Thank you for reading. Have a nice day!

Abortion – The Debate on the Sole Choice of the Mother

Abortion is the term used to identify the act of intentionally interrupting pregnancy and not allowing the embryo or foetus to continue its normal process. The definition clearly recognizes only women reproductive parts giving a clear message that it only affects the women. But the question is whether it is actually true and justified from a general point of view. 

Up to some extent, we find the world comfortable with the debate being a sole decision of the mother because there is no proper legislation regarding it yet. Our Legislation gives special Right to Women in order to encourage them to be at par to men in day to day life but no where does it mention that Men should compromise for the same. What is fair should remain fair according to law. If it is a “women’s choice” whether or not she wants to become a mother then it is also a man’s choice whether or not he wants to become a father.

When a father doesn’t have an opportunity to express his opinion it only disapproves that he as a human, can have feelings. It is totally unjust that he doesn’t have a preference in the birth of his own child. In the support of my argument, there are provisions that I feel can be enforced. Like, if both parents choose to have an abortion then the child is aborted where both of them have an equal share in costs of the procedure. But if the mother chooses to have an abortion and the father wants to keep the child then she shall not be required to fund any part of procedure or any costs that may arise from it. Similarly, if the mother chooses to keep the child but the father wanted the abortion, then the father shall have zero legal or financial obligations from the day forward. In each case, the father shall likewise be recognized, and his choice duly recorded as a matter of legal record.

Another point to give light to is, when we claim that it is only about the mother’s choice, we tend to deny the whole of father’s responsibility in the scenario. Perpetually like that men need to stay out of the discussion about abortion because it is a woman’s body is not only untrue, it is catastrophic for generations to come. It is a sort of hindrance to the society we need for its utmost development. What we need is a generation of young men who honour ladies by helping them protect the precious gift of their sexuality as it was intended to be. We need a generation of young men who will not treat women like objects but honour them with dignity and respect. A generation who will not run away when they get a woman pregnant or pressure a woman to end their life. We need a generation of men who will love their unborn child and go to utmost lengths to encourage the mother to have their baby. They must be willing to help raise the child or place the child for adoption. In addition to that, we also need a generation of women who will encourage men to take responsibility and show the sacrificial love and empathy that ought to mark men, not push them out of the conversation of abortion.

Though abortion uniquely affects women, it is not only about women. It is also about the child in her womb, and the child’s father. Because in the end, it is her body but it is THEIR baby.

Paternity Benefit Bill: The Gender We Talk About, The Benefit We Don’t

Amidst all the expectations around the male gender since his birth, there is secretly an expectation which every spouse hopes for. Time has developed since the only job of the male co-partner remained until the “sperm fertilised the egg”. The couples grow in love as they call themselves ‘pregnant’ and not just the technical one. The change in the ideologies was very well understood by the law presenters of the country. The idea to give chances to the father to be able to be completely devote to the upbringing of his junior. The benefits to be able to not lose work, not to miss deadlines but to be able to absorb the presence of a new member in the family.

‘Paternity Benefit Bill’ made rounds in the corner of the Parliament in 2017 with a view to benefit the fathers to oblige to their parental duties. It stated to give all workers, including men in the unorganised and private sector, to be benefitted with a paternity leave of fifteen days which could be extended up to three months.

The bill introduced stated for the employees to receive payment at the same rate as the average daily wage or even so, on a minimum rate of wage as revised. The same could be availed from an organisation if he had already served not less than eighty days in the last twelve months immediately preceding the delivery date of the child. However, the clauses require fathers with only less than two surviving children to opt for the same.

The gender benefits do not end here as the bill further stated to introduce proper guidelines in order to provide benefits to every man. A crucial affair that the bill brought was the Parental Scheme Benefit Fund. Under this, the government would create a fund specifically for purposes of paternity benefits where employers irrespective of genders would contribute. It was to meet the costs which would be induced through the availing of the particular benefit and the loss of work. Not to forget to mention on how the bill boldly announces that on death of the man during the following tenure, the nominee has rights of receiving payments till the end of it.

The beauty of the bill is not restricted to the birth fathers. The Bill allows the adoptive father of a child below three months of age or the legal husband of a mother in the cause, to be given the same benefits.

The objective of the bill is to ensure to the mother gets constant support in the process. It is not only through looking after the child together but when the father gets time with the child, the mother gets a chance to resume her work. Usually during the commissioning period, the mother develops a distant connection with her work until her child grows to handle himself. Such an act of love unfortunately also throws the woman out of the race of the market. Her positions degrade after she resumes and the restoration is more often than not, impossible. The option of choosing between the newborn and the profession is unjust and the bill certainly helps the attain the goal.

Through the bill, the perception of gender roles gets on hold. It creates an aura of gender equality at home. The shifts of looking after the child when divided among the two parents can lead to none of them having major deviations from their works to only allow the emotions of seeing their child grow into a form of their own reflection.  

Despite the benefits kept in front, a lot of issues persisted to not allow the bill to go further. The Maternity Benefit Act shifts the entire financial burden on the employers and through an introduction of system which would allow funds, the work place might discourage the driving force of the other objectives of women employment. Furthermore, the Paternity Bill necessitates to be extended to all sectors whereas the Maternity Act has only limited applications. It creates inequality, not only with the Maternity Benefit Act but also with the fact that the objective of the Paternity Bill is not merely paternal benefits but also equal opportunities to both the genders.

However, this creation of inequality is amendable.There can be similar benefits to both the parents and if it requires anything urgently, it is the mindset to evolve that both of it can co-exist.