Although most of us take compulsory communication lessons in schools/colleges/coaching centres, many people still find it difficult to communicate with other people freely in order to express their point of views and needs. There have been several studies by psychologists who have come up with various reasons that cause these problems following with several tips that can be followed in order to improve communication skills. If you are one of them who finds it not-so-easy to communicate with other people, this article is for you!

1. Take Sufficient Time before Responding

A study shows people who face the difficulty to communicate often tend to make the mistake of not taking enough time before giving a reply. If you are one of them who has been making this mistake, try to stop. Take your time, think and then reply.

2. Be attentive!

If you start thinking of a reply as soon as the other person asks something, you are making a big mistake that is eventually causing misunderstanding in the conversation. Being attentive is a skill that everyone must acquire. Listen to the other person carefully, take your time to process what they are saying, think and then start replying. This will help you to become a better communicator.

3. Maintain Eye Contact.

Never forget to maintain eye contact while having a conversation for it enhances self-confidence and helps the conversation to be more engaging and intimate.

4. Maintain a flexible body language!

Do not make the mistake of standing like a statue while having a conversation. It makes you look static and rigid. For the betterment of the conversation, start loosening it a bit. Casual hand gestures and movements make it way easier and smoother. Try it!

5. Use simple words and phrases.

Do not make the mistake of using jargons and unnecessary complex phrases to create a cool intellectual image. It simply does not work. Use simple sentences to communicate. It makes the communication smoother and the other person finds it easily comfortable to have the conversation with you.

6. Ask questions.

Instead of being the one who is there only to reply/answer, start asking questions. The questions do not necessarily have to be intellectual or tricky, simple casual questions can make the conversation better. Do not forget you also have to get the other person engaged. So try being the listener sometime. It works!

7. Focus on earning respect

There is a misconception everywhere about the funniest person in the room to always be the smartest one. To some extent it needs to be rephrased. Being the comedian/memer who can make anyone laugh is someone who is humorous, yes. But, the smartest person in the room is always the one who manages to earn the most respect from anyone and everyone in the room. Try being that guy who everyone respects. It will help the other people to have more engaging conversations with you. Therefore, While having a conversation do not forget (timings are important) to mention the achievements that you are proud of.
If you are one of those people who finds it difficult to haqve good conversations, do follow these simple steps to see a rapid transformation in your communication skills.

– Suvasree Bandyopadhyay.

Since the time immemorial, the Shivlings are being worshipped in the Indian subcontinent.These days, several excavations, conducted by the archaeological department, unearthed the life-size Shivlings from various sites. Some of them are- 1. A 9th century Shivling from Vietnam. 2. A 5 feet tall Shivling from Ayodhya 3. A 4000 years old Shivling from Bhabhaniyav village near Varanasi 4. An 18 feet tall Shivling from Bhiraveswara Swamy Temple atop the Mopuru hillock in Kadapa district 5. An ancient Shivling from Faridpur village near Karnal 6. An ancient Shivling from Sinauli near Baghpat

With this link, I will today talk about Shivling and it’s concept in today’s era.

The Holiest Shivlings of India

There are 12 Jyotirlings and 5 Panchabhut-lings in India –

• Jyotirlings:  Kedarnath, Kashi Vishwanath, Somnath, Baijnath, Rameswar, Ghrishneswar, Bhimshankar, Mahakaal, Mallikarjun, Amaleshwar, Nageshwar, and Trayambakeshwar
• Panchbhuta-lings:Kalahastishwar, Jambukeshwar, Arunachaleshwar, Ekambareshwar of Kanjivaram, and Nataraja of Chidambaram

Let us now figure out what a Shivling is and what are the concepts associated with it. A Shivling is an aniconic representation of Lord Shiva – the Destroyer. The term aniconic means a symbol that is associated with a deity. For example, the Dharmachakra is associated with the Budhdha. Similarly, it’s identifiable that Shivling is associated with Lord Shiva only.

History of Shivling

The Shiva Purana describes the origin of the Shivling, as cosmic pillar or a stambh of fire and the cause of all causes, neither having a beginning nor an end. However, few scholars have thrown ample amount of light on the fact that Shivling was referred to ‘Prayapas’ by the Romans who introduced the worship of Shivling in the European countries. The statutes of Shivling have been also found in the site of Babylon, a city of ancient Mesopotamia. Furthermore, the archeological findings in Harappan Civilisation, which yielded numerous Shivaling statutes, have disclosed the existence of a highly evolved culture existing before the immigration of the Aryans in the subcontinent.

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The concepts associated with Shivling

The Shivling represents the Brahmanda (the cosmic egg). It signifies that the creation is acquired by the union of the male (Purush) and the female (Prakriti) powers of nature. Scholars have identified the ling as a Phallic representation of Shiva, associated with fertility in some sense. Further, it has been analysed that Shivling has a scientific concept. The structure of the Shivling is extremely close to the construction of a nuclear reactor. It is composed of two parts :- the first part is a cylindrical structure, which is made of smooth black stone. The second part is the one that’s around the cylindrical structure.

The concept of Shivling and nuclear science- the above mentioned fact clearly highlights that the Shivling is actually the representation of a nuclear reactor.The Shivling has a pot of water hanging over the cylinder. It drips water upon the cylinder at a continuous pace. It flows out through the spout of the cylinder’s grooves.This water is not consumed as holy water in Shiva’s temple. The pot of water hanging above the cylinder is similar to the water that is needed to cool down a nuclear reactor.

This water is applied to the nuclear reactor as it heats up while generating energy.

The grooves around the cylinder of the Shivling signify the structures that are built to dispose of the polluted water from the nuclear reactor. Again, this water cannot be consumed, since it is polluted with nuclear waste and radiation.

In this picture, it is crystal clear that the nuclear reactor depicts a Shivling-type structure. This also reflects the fact that perhaps the Shivlings were models of nuclear reactors, apart from having some religious, philosophical, metamorphical and aesthetic contexts, hence.

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being yourself

“Being yourself” isn’t always easy. It means being honest about who you are – how you think, feel, and act – and sometimes that may turn people off.

In this way, being yourself comes with costs. People will see you. People will judge you. Some people will like you, some people will hate you, and plenty of people won’t even care about you. Ouch.

In the classic book On Becoming A Person: A Therapist’s View of Psychotherapy, psychologist Carl Rogers goes in-depth about the importance of being true and authentic to yourself, and why sometimes this isn’t always an easy and pleasant experience.

“In my relationships with persons I have found that it does not help, in the long run, to act as though I were something that I am not. It does not help to act calm and pleasant when I am actually angry and critical. It does not help to act as though I know the answers when I do not. It does not help to act as though I were a loving person if actually, at that moment, I am hostile. It does not help for me to act as though I were full of assurance, if I actually I am frightened and unsure. Even on a very simple level I have found that this statement seems to hold.”
Being open to others about who you are means being open about both the “good” and “controversial” aspects about yourself – which can be painful – but what’s most important is that people will know you and understand you better.

Thus, the people who like you will actually like you for who you really are, not what you pretend to be. And having one real relationship with someone who “gets you” is more fulfilling than a hundred fake relationships with people who like a “pretend you.”

In theory, most people agree that “being yourself” is a good thing. But what does it really mean? Is it even possible to be anything else?

Technically, you can never be anything but yourself. It’s whatever you are – right now – in this present moment. Yet that doesn’t stop people from struggling to “be themselves” on a daily basis.

What do people usually mean by that?

Many people walk through life feeling as though they are constantly “putting on an act” for others. Sometimes we put on masks for others and hide our true face. We try to meet countless expectations. And we hide the parts about ourselves that don’t seem favorable.

We do this mostly for the sake of social appearances and social reputation. It’s tremendously important to be accepted by others and to have strong relationships. So we think, “Why risk showing parts of myself, if that could mean threatening my relationships and losing people in my life?”

It’s a question we all ask ourselves in some way: “How much of myself should I really show this person? How much of myself should I really hide?”

You don’t need everyone to know your life story, but the deeper your relationships are, the more a person should know who you are.

We all struggle with dealing with superficial relationships. These are most common at work, school, and environments where we need to be professional and “down to business.”

However, we need realness too. We need people we can share our innermost thoughts and feelings with. And most importantly, we need to be real with ourselves.
On Becoming A Person is a classic book by humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers, the founder of “client-centered therapy.” It’s a highly influential work on the importance of being true and authentic to ourselves.

“Being yourself” and person-centered therapy

Carl Rogers is most well-known for starting the “person-centered therapy” movement.

According to this type of therapy, one of the most important things a therapist can provide is unconditional positive regard. Instead of judging the client, or trying to fix their problems, the goal of the therapist is to provide an avenue for the individual to express themselves in a free and unlimited way.

By exercising “unconditional positive regard” – accepting the person for who they are, without trying to change them – the person is given the opportunity to grow on their own terms and discover who they really are and what they want to be.

One of Carl Rogers most famous quotes is:

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
The goal of person-centered therapy is to make this process easier for the client by providing them a space to explore themselves and discover more about themselves without judgment.

A good therapist must be accepting, empathetic, and able to listen to a client express their innermost thoughts and feelings without always needing to provide a solution or explanation.

Interestingly, this approach to therapy is very consistent with a theory in psychology known as common factors theory.

According to “common factors” theory, all specific therapies are equally effective (Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, etc.) and what matters most is the relationship between the client and the therapist.

Basically, it often doesn’t matter what type of therapy is being used as long as the therapist and client have a strong, trustworthy, and accepting relationship. That’s what’s most important.

“Being yourself” is a process of becoming

One of the keys to truthfully and authentically “being yourself” is recognizing that you’re a dynamic process – not a fixed thing.

Who you are today is probably different from who you were 10 years ago. And who you will be 10 years from now will likely be different than who you are today.

You are always changing. From moment-to-moment, day-to-day, month-to-month, and year-to-year.

So when you think about “being yourself” or “discovering yourself,” recognize that you aren’t searching for a fixed thing, but a process that is always changing and unfolding.

Here Carl Rogers reflects on this “process of becoming” as it relates to therapy:

“When he enters the therapeutic relationship, the client is likely to wish to achieve some fixed state: he wants to reach the point where his problems are solved, or where he is effective in his work, or where his marriage is satisfactory. He tends, in the freedom of the therapeutic relationship to drop such fixed goals, and to accept a more satisfying realization that he is not a fixed entity, but a process of becoming.”
This is one of the major themes throughout On Becoming A Person: it’s important to understand that you are a “process of becoming” and to recognize the changing nature of yourself.

Similarly, the therapist must also view their client as a “process of becoming.” And according to Rogers, this is why we must also be careful of using labels or diagnoses:

“If I accept the other person as something fixed, already diagnosed and classified, already shaped by his past, then I am doing my part to confirm this limited hypothesis. If I accept him as a process of becoming, then I am doing what I can to confirm or make real his potentialities”
It helps in all of your relationships – both with yourself and with others – that you recognizing the changing nature of people, and everyone’s ability to grow into a better person, especially yourself.

This attitude often helps us to maximize our relationships with others.

“Being yourself” and real relationships

Here are some final thoughts from Carl Rogers on the importance of “being yourself” and why it’s essential for keeping your relationships real:

“Being yourself doesn’t ‘solve problems.’ It simply opens up a new way of living in which there is more depth and more height in the experience of your feelings, more breadth and more range. You feel more unique and hence more alone, but you are so much more real that your relationships with others lose their artificial quality, become deeper, more satisfying, and draw more of the realness of the other person into the relationship.”
Like he says, sometimes being yourself can make you feel more unique and more alone.

When you are yourself truthfully, that may turn some people off who you are incompatible with. But that’s okay, because you’d rather have those few real relationships instead of a bunch of fake ones.

In this way, the rewards for “being yourself” far outweigh the costs.

The Education system has changed thouroghly through this pandemic situation. Before this crises also we were motivating the system to be worked with the help of digital world. But In today’s scenario this platform provides the strength of Education system. From the primary education to graduation level , it helps out students to keep them engaging and they also understand the things too.

The question arises after the Corona, are student go back to accept the offline medium. They definitely say yes, but although it makes them disturbing . So after this situation this system has to keep this platform on for the betterment of Education. Afterall Education is the most important thing for any individual.

But we dont had to forget that how much this platform is helpful also it is dangerous if they try to escape the steps , so under careful observation only, this platform helps out. For Exams, this platform may be a controversial issue, but through special apps ,we easily vigilance student and check their ability.

Overall we can say that in this pandemic situation of COVID 19, the use of digital platform provide the connection between teachers and students, which is vital for their Educational growth. So, through the effective use of digital platform , we are saving the world from illiteracy. And it also helps student to be updated about their Academics.

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There’s no questioning the fact that the universe is weird. Just look outside and you’ll see all manner of strange, self-reproducing flora and fauna, crawling upon a blue ball of semimolten rock covered in a thin, hard shell and blanketed by a tenuous film of gases. Yet our own planet represents a tiny fraction of the peculiar phenomena that can be found lurking throughout the cosmos, and every day astronomers turn up new surprises. In this gallery, we take a look at some of the most outlandish objects in space.

Beauty of the universe
Is in the Nature’s serenity
Preserve it and protect it
For the everlasting eternity
The wrath and fury of Nature
As result of man’s arrogance
To win over the Planet
Has to be stopped immediate
So that we have our Mother Earth
Shining and saving us for
An assured future to find
For the benefit of mankind

Mysterious Radio Signals

Since 2007, researchers have been receiving ultrastrong, ultrabright radio signals lasting only a few milliseconds. These enigmatic flashes have been called fast radio bursts (FRBs), and they appear to be coming from billions of light-years away (they’re not aliens, it’s never aliens). Recently, scientists managed to capture a repeating FRB, which flashed six times in a row, the second such signal ever seen and one that could help them unravel this mystery.

Nuclear Pasta

The strongest substance in the universe forms from the leftovers of a dead star. According to simulations, protons and neutrons in a star’s shriveled husk can be subject to insane gravitational pressure, which squeezes them into linguini-like tangles of material that would snap — but only if you applied to them 10 billion times the force needed to shatter steel.

Haumea Has Rings

The dwarf planet Haumea, which orbits in the Kuiper Belt out beyond Neptune, is already unusual. It has a strange elongated shape, two moons and a day that lasts only 4 hours, making it the fastest-spinning large object in the solar system. But in 2017, Haumea got even weirder when astronomers watched it pass in front of a star and noticed extremely thin rings orbiting around it, likely the result of a collision sometime in the distant past.

A moon with a moon

What’s better than a moon? A moon orbiting a moon, which the internet has dubbed a moonmoon. Also known as submoons, moonitos, grandmoons, moonettes and moooons, moonmoons are still only theoretical, but recent calculations suggest that there’s nothing impossible about their formation. Perhaps astronomers may one day discover one.

Dark-Matter-Less Galaxy?

Dark matter — the unknown substance comprising 85 percent of all matter in the universe — is strange. But researchers are at least sure about one thing: Dark matter is everywhere. So team members were scratching their heads over a peculiar galaxy they spotted in March 2018 that seemed to contain hardly any dark matter. Subsequent work suggested that the celestial oddity did in fact contain dark matter, though the finding paradoxically lent credence to an alternative theory positing that dark matter doesn’t exist at all. Get it together, astronomers!

The Most Bizarre Star

When astronomer Tabetha Boyajian of Louisiana State University and her colleagues first saw the star known as KIC 846285, they were flummoxed. Nicknamed Tabby’s star, the object would dip in brightness at irregular intervals and for odd lengths of time, sometimes by as much as 22 percent. Different theories were invoked, including the possibility of an alien megastructure, but nowadays, most researchers believe the star to be surrounded by an abnormal ring of dust that’s causing the darkening.

Highly Electric Hyperion

The title of weirdest moon in the solar system could go to many celestial objects — Jupiter’s overly volcanic Io, Neptune’s geyser-spewing Triton. But one of the strangest looking is Saturn’s Hyperion, a pumice-stone-like irregular rock pockmarked with numerous craters. NASA’s Cassini spacecraft, which visited the Saturn system between 2004 and 2017, also found that Hyperion was charged with a “particle beam” of static electricity flowing out into space.

A Guiding Neutrino

The single, high-energy neutrino that struck Earth on Sept. 22, 2017, wasn’t, on its own, all that extraordinary. Physicists at the IceCube Neutrino Observatory in Antarctica see neutrinos of similar energy levels at least once a month. But this one was special because it was the first to arrive with enough information about its origin for astronomers to point telescopes in the direction it came from. They figured out that it had been flung at Earth 4 billion years ago by a flaring blazar, a supermassive black hole at the center of a galaxy that had been consuming surrounding material.

The Living Fossil Galaxy

DGSAT I is an ultradiffuse galaxy (UDG), meaning it is as big as a galaxy like the Milky Way but its stars are spread out so thinly that it is nearly invisible. But when scientists saw the ghostly DGSAT 1 in 2016, they noticed that it was sitting all alone, quite unlike other UDGs, which are typically found in clusters. Its characteristics suggest that the faint object formed during a very different era in the universe, back just 1 billion or so years after the Big Bang, making DGSAT 1 a living fossil.

Double Quasar Image

Massive objects curve light, enough so that they can distort the image of things behind them. When researchers used the Hubble Space Telescope to spot a quasar from the early universe, they used it to estimate the universe’s expansion rate and found that it is expanding faster today than it was back then — a finding that disagrees with other measurements. Now physicists need to figure out if their theories are wrong or if something else strange is going on.

Infrared Stream from Space

Neutron stars are extremely dense objects formed after the death of a regular star. Normally, they emit radio waves or higher-energy radiation such as X-rays, but in September 2018, astronomers found a long stream of infrared light coming from a neutron star 800 light-years away from Earth — something never before observed. The researchers proposed that a disk of dust surrounding the neutron star could be generating the signal, but the ultimate explanation has yet to be found.

Rogue Planet with Auroras

Drifting through the galaxy are rogue planets, which have been flung away from their parent star by gravitational forces. One particular peculiarity in this class is known as SIMP J01365663+0933473, a planet-size object 200 light-years away whose magnetic field is more than 200 times stronger than Jupiter’s. This is strong enough to generate flashing auroras in its atmosphere, which can be seen with radio telescopes.

The beauty of the sea!
The beauty of nature,
The beauty of the ocean,
The beauty of life,
The beauty of love,
The beauty of the sky! !
The beauty of the rainbow;
The colours of life,
The beauty of the colours on earth;
The beauty of mankind,
With the beauty of the minds when,
The right thing is done.
The beauty of the universe!
The beauty of every positive thing;
Praying always for the peace of the earth. My mind! !
I am who i am with my identity;
Born on earth to carry on peace to the world.
Trust!
The beauty of true love;
With servitude and attitude,
With the joy of the hearts,
Having positive morals! !
The beauty of righteous laws,
The beauty of righteous works,
Going along with my mind;
For peace and love,
To bring joy to all.

Corruption is known as a snake which is continually poisoning the human mind ever since they are interacting with each other and are striving to live a better life on earth. Widespread of corruption has caused disappointment and discontent among the community. The machinery of government gets rusted and ceases to work in the intended manner. Corruption decreases respect for law and sense of loyalty to the government. In a society governed by corrupt officials, the whole system of moral, ethical and religious values is impaired. The distinction between right and wrong disappears. Revolutions and military takeovers become common. Today every student of history knows that one of the causes of the downfall of nations has been corruption.

Causes of Corruption:

The causes of corruption are many and complex. Following are some of the causes of corruption.

The appearance of political privileged who believe in interest-oriented rather than nation-oriented programmes and policies.
Artificial scarcity created by the people with malevolent intentions wrecks the fabric of the economy.
The broad thinking of people towards corruption, complete lack of strong public protest against corruption and the lack of strong public forum to oppose corruption allows corruption to control over people.
Vast size of population coupled with widespread illiteracy and the poor economic infrastructure lead to endemic corruption in public life.
Complex laws and procedures alienate common people to ask for any help from government.
Remedies of Corruption

Is it possible to contain corruption in our society? Corruption is a cancer, which every Indian must strive to cure. Many leaders come with a power to declare their determination towards corruption but soon they themselves become corrupt and start amassing huge wealth.

Many People become materialistic and money oriented, there is no important of ethics and morals in business dealings. Many people thinking that money which coming to their pocket is good, same way many thinking that money which going out from their pocket is bad, but they don’t consider the way money traveling.

This is because these kinds of people have no moral accountability to anybody; and these kind have people have full trust on money, they strongly believing that money can hold big role in their life, they believing that money can solve their current and future problems, they believing that money can give them life without problems. Some of the remedies are given below:

GOD has given the wisdom to each and every human being, heart of everyone telling him/her that the way he/she following to get money is good/bad. The most important thing is person should listen and follow the good part of his heart.

Foolproof laws should be made so that there is no room for discretion for politicians and bureaucrats. The role of the politician should be minimized. The Application of the evolved policies should be missing in the hands of independent commission or power in each area of public interest. Decision of the commission or authority should be challengeable only in the courts.

Cooperation of the people has to be obtained for successfully containing corruption. The People should have a right to evoke the elected council if they see them becoming indifferent to the electorate.

Funding of elections is at the core of political corruption. Electoral reforms are crucial in this regard. Several reforms like: State funding of election expenses for candidates; strict enforcement of statutory requirements like holding in-party elections, making political parties get their accounts audited regularly and filing income-tax returns .Responsiveness, accountability and transparency are a must for a clean system. Bureaucracy, the backbone of good governance, should be made more citizens friendly, accountable, ethical and transparent.

The number of courts should be opened for speedy & inexpensive justice so that cases don’t stay remains in courts for years and justice is delivered on time. Local bodies, Independent of the government, like Lokpals, Lokadalats, CVCs and Vigilance Commissions should be formed to provide speedy justice with low expenses. A new Fundamental right is Right to Information should be introduced, which will empower the citizens to ask for the information they want. Barring some confidential information, which concerns national and international security, other information should be made available to general public as and when required. There are several actions against corrupt officials will definitely have a restriction impact.

CORRUPTION is the latest epidemic in the planet,
eating the people, Looting the Nation
no cure, no medicine, no special hospital,

Are we Indians coward,
Or are we shy..
Or we care somehow,
But we dont wanna try,

We have adjusted ourselves,
So well in this corrupted place,
Has it become our tradition ?
Or we lack the guts to face…

We say corruption chokes,
Then why we Indians breathe it ?,
We say corruption kills,
Then why we breed it ?,

The corruption helps,
To set the culprits free,
It blinds the law,
& still we shamely see,

It widens the gap,
Of poor and rich,
Then we continue the same,
Without any hitch… ?

Somehow i feel…

Our coward mind has,
Hurled down his brain,
Come what may,
Even let our money drain…

Has this become, Our way of life ?
To adjust with whatever it is…

And move on, Without a break to re-think, Re-construct, and reform our Corrugated minds…

Is it that no business runs without it ?,
Or is it that we dont wanna put an end to it..?
Are we not prepared for it.. ?
Or we really dont care ?

Many questions in these little brain, And almost all unanswered……

But atleast we can support those,
Who have atleast tried to stand for it,
Some greatones like Anna Hazare.

Conclusion

Corruption is an intractable problem. It is like diabetes, can only be controlled, but not totally eliminated. It may not be possible to root out corruption completely at all levels but it is possible to contain it within tolerable limits. The dedicated persons in public life, control over electoral expenses could be the most important prescriptions to combat corruption. Corruption has a corrosive impact on our economy.

What is Self-Improvement?
Let’s define self-improvement. The definition of self-improvement is pretty self-explanatory: Self-improvement is the improvement of one’s knowledge, status, or character by one’s own efforts. It’s the quest to make ourselves better in any and every facet of life.

Self-improvement usually starts with becoming more aware of ourselves, our behavior and our reactions. It requires that we earnestly desire to improve and transform ourselves, better our life, and build good relations with people.

Nowadays, there is a growing interest in self growth and self improvement techniques. There is a growing number of books, articles and websites dealing with these topics.

It seems that people are turning within them, to find the solution to their problems. They seek knowledge, techniques, workshops, lectures, and teachers, who can show them the way.

People are beginning to understand that self improvement and self growth can improve the quality of their lives.

The process of inner change requires inner work.

It is not enough to read articles and books. You also have to practice what you read. Inner change requires motivation, desire, ambition, perseverance and dedication.

When you starting with a self improvement program, it is common to encounter inner resistance that comes from your old habits and from your subconscious mind, and also resistance and opposition from the people around you.

The desire to change, build new habits, and to improve yourself must be strong enough to resist laziness, the tendency to give up, and the fear and ridicule of opposition from family, friends or colleagues.

A Simple Self Improvement Technique
Let me tell you something. I have been attracted to self improvement from an early age, and have regarded it as a source of inner strength and happiness, and as a way to a improve my life.

One of the most useful techniques I discovered and used, was a simple, but very effective technique. It consisted of watching how people behave and act in various situations, and then looking inside myself, to find out whether I behaved in the same way under the same conditions.

When I saw people with certain traits of character, or a certain kind of behavior that I did not like, I examined myself to find out whether I possessed those traits of character too.
If I did, I visualized in my mind a different sort of behavior. In my mind’s eye, I saw myself with the opposite traits of character. I visualized myself in various situations, in which I manifested the new behavior.
When I encountered traits of character or behavior, which I liked, I used to think about their advantages and benefits, and about their importance in my life. Here too, I used visualization and affirmations, and strived to enact them in my daily life.
In this way, I learned and benefited a lot from the behavior and actions of the people around me, at work, at home, on the street, and everywhere else.

This exercise was never for the purpose of judging other people or taking advantage of them, but for learning how to act, react and behave in a better way.

This process had another benefit. It increased my knowledge and understanding about how the mind and the emotions affect the behavior and the actions of people. It gave me more understanding of people and their behavior and how to get along better with them.

If you start using this self improvement techniques you will soon see positive changes in your life.

Tips for a Simple Self Improvement Technique

1. Look around you

Look around you and watch how people behave in various circumstances. Watch the people you meet at home, work, at the supermarket, on the bus, train and on the street. You can also watch people being interviewed on TV and learn a great deal about them and about you.

2. Watch the behavior of people

Watch how people talk, how they raise their voice or speak calmly. Watch the reactions of people. Look at how people walk, sit and carry their body. you can learn a great deal from watching their behavior.

3. Watch how people treat other people

A certain kind of behavior creates certain reactions. Often, how we act and behave, determine how people treat us. Try to be aware of how people act, and how other people treat them. This can help you to determine what changed you need to make in your behavior.

4. The effect of the voice

Pay attention to the way people use their voice and how they react to other people’s voices.

Watch how you feel and how you react when people shout, or speak softly.

Watch what happens when people get angry, restless and upset, and what happens to you and to others, when they are calm and relaxed.

5. Pay attention to what you do not like

If you do not like what you see, analyze why you do not like it. Then, analyze your own behavior to find out, whether you behave in the same way. Be honest and impartial in your analysis.

6. Avoid negative behavior

If you discover that you possess some of these undesirable traits of character and behavior that you do not like, affirm to yourself often that every time you catch yourself behaving in this way, you are going to be aware of them, and do your best to avoid them.

7. Use your imagination to build new habits

Play in your mind a mental scene of how you would like to act and behave. Repeat this mental scene several times a day, every day.

What you imagine in your mind sinks into your subconscious mind and gradually, becomes a habit.

8. Use your imagination to build good habits

When you detect in someone character traits or habits you like and desire to possess, try to act in a similar way. Here too, imagine several times each day a scene, where you act and behave in that different, better way.

9. Use visualization often

Think and visualize over and again in your mind how you would like to act and behave.

10. Remind yourself of the changes you want to make

Constantly, remind yourself of the changes you desire to make, and strive to act according to them. Every time that you find yourself acting according to your old habits, remember your decision to change and improve, and act accordingly.

Do not be disappointed or frustrated if you do not attain fast results. It does not matter how many times you fail or forget to behave as you desired. Persevere with your efforts and never give up, and you will begin to see how you and your life start changing for the better.

“You are essentially who you create yourself to be and all that occurs in your life is the result of your own making.”
– Stephen Richards

“Change is your friend not your foe; change is a brilliant opportunity to grow.”
– Simon T. Bailey

“Beginning today, set an intention and a relentless focus on living your life as the greatest person you can be, in all situations.”
– Brendon Burchard