Tag: #Happiness

Life is Beautiful

Once a man asked his life “what do you want? You want to be happy or sad, face the struggles of life or just sit at home and live a lavish life? His life answered, live with me the way you want, I am beautiful in every way, I will teach you a lesson in every highs and lows, I will never be stationary, I will always change, will always bring a new definition infront of you, it’s upto you whether you want to live it fulfilling your every dream or have regrets as you will take your last breath.

Once I was travelling somewhere with my parents, as my car stopped at a red light I saw a poor family with four members living in their small tin hut on the footpath, they did not seem in a good condition, their clothes were rugged with cracked heels and dirty hands, but they seemed happy, I could see their shining smiles with sparkling eyes on their faces, I could not catch a glimpse of sadness, I don’t know why but maybe their definition of living a life was just living it happily with their children in peace.

I still remember every minute detail about that family because they taught me something, that life is short and we should always live it happily. Some find their happiness in big things, some in small, some in achieving their dream and some with incomplete dreams, but we all should be happy and should live without regrets. We all should be grateful to God for every single moment of our life, stop crying, stop criticising it, I know there are problems, such problems that I can’t even think of, but I can only ask you to stay positive and always keep a hope that one day sun will rise from the west and will shower all it’s bright rays on you.

Think of it, what stories will you tell your coming generation, that you have led a life which consisted of only sadness and despair, no positivity, no happy days. Wake up with a smile everyday, pray and think positive , that yes today will be good day, I am not scared of any virus, I will work hard everyday inorder to achieve my dreams and be a happy person.

Think positive, Work hard and Repeat.

Fight your distractions and become successful

Vaishal Singh

Kill laziness, get out of your bed and start working right away for your dreams. Don’t let your emotions consume you, do not let your emotions hinder your decisions because if you’ll let them doing this then everytime you won’t be taking the decisions but your emotions will, so try to control your emotions and overpower them. Though, emotions are associated with your feelings they are not things so it’s not easy to control your feelings but emotions are something which come out of us and we can definitely control them, now, what makes you feel ungrounded or unhappy is failing the execution, something that you decided to do or wanted to do and now it couldn’t got done because your laziness overpowered your mind and told you to procrastinate it and then the burden of not getting what you wanted, starts to put pressure on yourself, the biggest problem of humans is Idealization, we human beings have an inborn tendency of idealizing the things, we create our own world of thoughts where we creates an imaginary world around us and start to assume that whatever we’ve thought would be easy to have, but forget about working towards it, and then overtime the lack of execution kills your dreams and puts pressure on us, even though we, the human beings have an ideal version of ourselves too, we set our ideal self’s standards too high sometimes, that we are unable meet that standard and this creates a pressure on ourselves which ends up leaving us sad. So, to solve this, we should break our long term goal into several short term goals and at the fulfillment of each short term goal we should feel happiness and satisfaction.

Now, the point here is to analyse your priorities in life and work according to them, set your long term goal and break it down into several short term goals, and do not associate your happiness with results, just enjoy the process of doing. And just avoid all the unneccsary things from your life, and learn to tackle your emotions because too much emotions can distract you from reaching your goals.

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Bawarchi

This is a movie directed by Hrishikesh Mukherjee, and was released in the 1972. A movie staring Rajesh khanna, Jaya Bahaduri, Usha Kiran, Asrani and many more. This movie was narrated by Amitabh Bachan in his very strong voice. Hrishikesh Mukherjee movies are always simple and conveys very beautiful messages which helps us to make our lives simpler. Bawarchi means a cook, this is a story of how Raghu the character played by Rajesh Khanna actually teaches a life lesson to a family who lives in a house named shanti nivas.

In this story the main focus is about a large joint family which lives in a house named shanti nivas named after the wife of the owner. The name is an irony as the word shanti means peace but no one can ever see this happening in the house, there is always some big fight that the family indulges in.  Shivnath sharma who is a retired post man is the eldest in the family. He has 4 sons firstly Ramnath sharma being the eldest son who works as a head clerk in a company his wife Seeta sharma and daughter is Meeta sharma is a trained Kathak dancer and who is preparing for an upcoming dance competion all live in the house. Second brother Kashi Sharma is a school teacher he has his own rules and principles about life which he strictly follows his wife shobha sharma and son Pintoo live in the same house. The third son and his wife died in a car accident their daughter Krishna played by Jaya Bachan also stays with them. She studies in college and has a tution teacher Arun who is her college senior who comes home to teach her for free. The forth son Vishwanath Sharma played be Asrani is a music director in film industry, he is not married and he thinks it is better not because it will just add up to the fight already existing in the house. So many people live in one house, constantly fighting  though they want to be apart but fear that if they go Shivnath sharma also called as Daduji will not give any part of the property to them.

Raghu who comes to their home, pretending that he is in desperate need of work but actually is someone who wants to peace out things in the house. Not directly but by showing how much they love each other and making other members  realize how amazing is it live together with happiness. There are many major lessons to be learnt from this movie which actually tends us to re-evaluate our own life. Such simple movies makes us realize how important is it to be happy in the present moment. In this pandemic times when we are confined at home rather than constantly thinking and stressing out ourselves by the thought  when will everything comeback to normal we can spend a quality time with our family, be happy of the fact that everyone is together. Hug your mom and dad and tell them how much you love and care about them. In a wait for big happiness we often tend to ignore these small small happiness, the number big moments of happiness are  only just fifteen to twenty in in the whole lifetime what makes our lives beautiful is the millions and billions of small happiness that we should never overlook.

The Easiest is to be Happiest😃…How to be happy???

  1. To live by is that one day you will be gone it may be in 50 years it may be in 50 weeks it may be next week or even today. I don’t know you don’t know nobody knows and rather than live in fear of this we should embrace the fact that this life is short and unpredictable knowing this we must live fully today it’s not a recipe for recklessness rather a recipe to offer your all today to offer your absolute best today in everything you do to give your greatest energy. To this day to your family to everyone you encounter today it’s a reminder for you to go away your best self in each moment what if they couldn’t speak to you tomorrow what if you were gone tomorrow what would they speak of you what are you able to do this will leave an enduring positive memory within the lives.

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  1. There is nothing you cannot be do or have if there has been someone even one person on this planet that has done it before that means you can – it doesn’t mean it will be easy but it does mean it is possible and as long as it is possible you can work towards it you can make a plan learn what must be finished you to measure your craziest most abundant life a life most would consider impossible.
  2. Nothing is worth it if it doesn’t make you happy if it doesn’t a make you happy or B make you better don’t make time for it now before and if you jump on this let me clarify nothing is worth it if it doesn’t make you happy. It means if it doesn’t make you happy now while you’re doing it or it isn’t going to make you happy as a result of doing it most likely is not worthwhile almost everything worth fighting for goes to need a true fight to win an excellent prize. You will need to suffer and sacrifice for nearly anything worthwhile in life but you ought to ask yourself this question about everything you are doing in your life does this make me happy if the solution is not any ask yourself will this sacrifice i’m making cause more happiness within the future if not you ought to let it go.

 

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  1. Be yourself always no exceptions it’s such a tragedy to see so many people on this planet living lives they don’t want to live just because they listen to other people who did an equivalent the sole way you’ll live happy during this life. The only way you’ll achieve success is that if you be you let me repeat that because perhaps it’s the foremost important thing you’ll ever apply to your life the only way you can be happy in this life the only way you can be successful is if you will never be truly happy in life. If you are constantly doing things to please others to compete with others or to be like another you are unique and that is your greatest gift when you follow your own path regardless if that matches in with others you open up space for nice things to enter your life compare yourself to nobody compete with no other make your own decisions and it’ll cause your greatest vital principle .
  2. Everything you would like is already within you during this world we see endless samples of people that seemingly have it all materially speaking but they’re empty inside things will never complete you people will never complete you no matter what Terry McGuire says “needing nothing attracts everything”. When you come from an area of needing nothing of seeking nothing outside yourself to form you cheerful you open up space for more amazing things to enter your life and if things don’t come that’s fine you don’t need them real happiness is never found outside of us it is not found in possessions or wealth happiness is always and only found within us. It is a state of mind never forget this happiness is the highest level of excess do what feels good the rest will follow principle.

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  1. there’s no room for toxic people but there is never-ending space for positive energy and positive people surrounding yourself. With energy killers is one of the worst things you can do if you want to live a happy fulfilled and successful life unfortunately not everyone including families and friends will share an equivalent positive energy you’ve got some will take a short time some might never get there allow them to run their own race, while you specialise in living your own happiness. Those who are truly aligned with you’ll never hold you back from living the life you would like to measure don’t ever dim your lights to suit in with others shine bright those that see your spark will shine with you remember you can’t live an excellent life a cheerful life if you surround yourself with toxic people.
  2. Whatever you focus on you will find if you search for negativity in this world you will find plenty of it. If you look for hate anger violence and sadness you’ll find it but an equivalent is true on the flip side if your only intention is to look for the great you’ll find only the great whatever meaning you give your life becomes your life. It can be a failure or a lesson heartbreak or character building life is against you making you stronger because there is no such thing as reality we choose our own reality by the meaning we give each moment in our lives make it your intention to seem for the great in your life, to note the great in others to be grateful for what you do have to see challenges as opportunities.

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Everyone will die someday

We came alone, we die alone, atleast try to live together. If we can’t die together, atleast try to live together.Live the life the way you want. Go make your life. Become the creators of your life.Who are we to stop it? The way you willed your life will not be the way you willed your death. Who are you to stop your breath? If you have a will to die, then there must be a way to live. Willingness to find a way to live is the way to stop the willingness to die. Everyone will have a unknown side and the their perspective of truth to it. Everyone are right untill we left with nothing. Try to bring out the unknown story of your mates. Try to fix it together.

We only know what we had to know. We never know the things that is hidden. We are allowed to know the known because we had to know the known. We will never know the unknown because it’s unknown. The unknown will be unknown because we never know it’s existence. The known will be known because it’s known. But knowing unknown is impossible. We cannot know what’s running is others mind. They may look normal because they try to be normal. Even our close ones will hide something from us. Secret is intended to be secret. They share happiness with us but why can’t they share their hopelessness and sorrow. We are here to share their pains not their cherishing moments. Hide your bearings but not your feelings. Try to help your friend to get out from suicidal phase and bring back him to lead normal life. We are together the every moment we live. Friends become enemies for a silly reason. Why can’t enemies become our friends. Life is short, so leave your anger and become friends with every possible fellow. We don’t know the time we leave this life. Live your full-fledged life until you live. Try to stop giving false promises because promises are always kept after death. Promises become worthless. Don’t ever promise because they restrict our life. Who are we to decide the borders of our life and kill the way we want to live.

You can’t feel jealous of your mate because he got awesome salary package. You can’t feel stupid of yourself because your mate married to someone he loves unlike you. You can’t be yourself, once you are not yourself. Try to be happy for others too. Don’t loose yourself, anyway you are going to loose it once you die. Don’t try to compare yourself because everyone will die someday. Feelings will change with time. We die with time. The only thing that matters the most is the way we life. Everyone lives the life but not the way everyone desires it to be lived. We have control over our life. We are the drivers of our life. Neither Driving safely doesn’t ensure you to life permanently not driving speedly ensure you the quick death. The time decides everything. But be careful and don’t neglect your life. It’s ok not to have a happy life because happiness is not often remembered but having sad life is so sad because sadness is never forgettable.

You are here not for her. You are here not to hear some rubbish. You are here to speak to you. Neither give advices nor take it because no one listens to us because we listen to none. Just let it out what you want to. Live it up how you want. The person who talks about you will also die some other day. People forget very soon. We are not to impress others. Expression is an impression that imprints a temporary feeling. Everything is forgotten because everyone will die. People try to be some other people rather than being themselves for the people who will die some day. You too will die someday. Don’t die from the moment you try to be somebody. Live your life until you die. Death can never be stopped. Death cannot be escaped then why come you trying to leave your life and living a fake one for your family. Remeber your family too dies one day. Everyone are temporary except you for you. Being you in your life is the only thing that makes you happy.

The worst death is not living your life by not being you. You die the moment you stopped being you. The life you live after that is lifeless.

Spread the Flowers of Happiness

“Never become someone’s happiness, instead add happiness into their lives”. You must be a teenager, an adult or maybe a 70 year oldie, but do you really know what happiness means, what things gives you the spark of happiness or what all things make the butterflies dance in your stomach. We human beings tend to find happiness at every step of our lives, be it our crush, our pets, cooking or be it any other thing, we always think of being happy at every stage of our lives. Now the thing which I am talking about is different, it’s not about being happy it’s about spreading happiness, making the others happy and contibuting something to the society. Money is a materialistic and perishable which will not stay with us forever and which can only make us happy for a short period of time, but happiness is immortal, we will remember the moments of happiness till the last breath of our lives and it will always add a spark in us. In the same way if we follow the ” give and take” rule, contribute happiness to the society, we can master the art of living, we can live with a happy heart and hence look at the society with a different perspective.

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If you are busy or confused about how to spread happiness follow these steps to enlighten your lives with different colours.

1.Be happy inorder to make someone happy: First step starts with changing yourself because if we will change ourselves, we will be able to change the others. Be happy, find happiness in small things, have patience in every situation and do not lose hope. This will give you the power to fight with every obstacle and will help you to overcome it.

2.Smile: The best mantra to be happy and to spread happiness. Don’t wait to be happy, think of the moments that make you smile, watch shows that will make you happy and just turn your rough day into a happy happy day.

3.Appreciate others: If your wife makes tasteless food with extra salt, don’t scold her or taunt her, she had put in extra efforts and gave her precious time just to make food for you, appreciate her, infact make another dish for her and spend a lovely happy time. This will not only bring a smile on her face but will also show a sign that you love her and care for her.

4.Be a good listener: There are endless problems going on in everyone’s family these days but what can we do is become a good listener and listen to their problems patiently, guide them, give them a solution or else just tell them that their problems will end soon, you just have to be happy and never lose hope in the situation of crisis.

5.Be a hero for the others: Wish everyone with a smiley face and turn their dark sad days into happy days. This will help you to relieve their pain and bring a sigh of relief in their lives.

6.Feed the stray animals or help the poor: Lat but not the least, the most important part of being happy is by feeding others, is by never letting them sleep with empty stomach and always helping them as a saviour.

As you know that these are the days are of pain and suffering where people are surrounded with endless problems, depression, anxiety and other things and in this time we as a human being can help them by sharing their burden, by always telling them that no matter what happens we are like the pillars of happiness who will never leave you alone. Follow this for once and you will see the difference.

The best way to cheer yourself is to cheer someone else up- Mark Twain

Understanding happiness

Happiness is a mental state of well-being characterized by positive emotions ranging from contentment . Being happy always start on a person’s mood because no one will make us happy unless we choose it and no individual can make us happy unless we decide it.

Happiness is a particular emotion which is highly valued in our present day society. It is the summation of multiple emotions that push to better an individual’s well-being. Even though many claim happiness to be the factor of life that is difficult to measure, we can still measure what is currently part of your happiness equation. Let’s think back at the last day or week, and remember what things or events had a positive influence on your happiness. But the way we define happiness will likely change from day to day as well. Let’s imagine that life has six major components. For most people, the factors would include work and career, personal life ( including loved ones and romantic life) , physical and mental health ,financial stability, interests and hobbies (such as reading, surfing the Internet,music, sports), faith and belief system (religion, science or astrology). When a person has ample satisfaction in all six spheres, he or she achieves happiness. However, when a deficiency occurs in any of these six factors, the person’s spheres are no longer in harmony, and dissatisfaction or unhappiness occurs. Yet sometimes if a person is having problems in one sphere, satisfaction in the other spheres can compensate temporarily for a deficiency in one. For the long range, a state of happiness is dependent on all six spheres working in harmony.

A key for happiness before anything else is to be optimistic because everything should happen mentally first so that you can set your mind to choose happiness all the time even through tough times. For this we need to define our own happiness experience it. There are different kinds of happiness. These include short-term happiness and long-term happiness.

Short-term happiness

Short term happiness is a quick and easy moment of happiness. It’s normally relatively easy to obtain, yet its effect quickly diminishes. It’s what you believe will bring you instant happiness in the shortest amount of time. For example: getting to eat a slice of pizza, having a laugh with friends,buying a new outfit ,watching an exciting game of football etc

Long-term happiness

Long-term happiness is based on concepts that are not created by a single event. It takes planning and a concise string of actions to get you to long term happiness. It is created by feeling happy about your purpose in life, the successes that you’ve had and/or the satisfaction of who you are and what you’ve accomplished. For example, reaching a professional milestone, being married to the love of your life, journey to lose weight etc.

Happiness involves maximizing pleasant emotions and minimizing unpleasant emotions. Hence we should be aware of our own happiness, actively pursue both short-term and long-term happiness and find our perfect balance to lead a truly happy life.

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Happiness in small packets

In this fast pacing life where we all want to do something big and are working towards it  day and night to achieve that, we often tend to forget ourselves. We limit ourselves  so that we only focus on that one big  thing in life. Thats expected  because life  is short  and there are many things to achieve. Like said in the movie “Bawarchi”  In waiting of a big happy moment we miss theses small happy moments.  we take many things for granted, we tend to forget that things change with time and they don’t stay there forever, like spending time with family and friends and To be grateful for the things we have.  These things may look insignificant but they have a great impact in our lives. Having a heartfelt conversation with your well wishers can bring out solution to any problem one faces, also the support they give can give the strength to face any difficulties in life. When we give importance to the things which makes us happy , it actually adds meaning to our lives this is what makes us different from machines that can’t feel anything rather just work mechanically and rest so as to get charged up to work again.

Like we say love should be just a part of our lives, career also should only be a part of our life rather than the whole life. You can prioritize career over anything else but that does not mean, you stop yourself from doing anything else. Your life is what you define not with what one has to say about it . Its all about adding meaning to your life that actually makes you realize the importance of being alive, and eventually to respect it. Nothing is more important than being alive. Stress and problems do come and go, nothing is permanent taking any step in that rage which will cost life should never be an option. In India over 28 people commits suicide every day  and most of them   between 15-40 years of age. There are many reasons like pressure of studies, unemployment, and sometimes loneliness.  You may wonder how can loneliness kill a person?

When a person feels lonely, thats a the time where he or she feels completely stranded like there is no one to talk to or express his feelings. One thinks no one cares about him and  such feelings starts to fill up the mind then one thing leads to other and such people take a harsh step of ending their own life. Its just a thought of one second, if  at that time like in Bollywood movie’s hero  their conscience hits them and make them realize what they are doing is completely unjustified this can save  their life . We just have one life , that would end one day why to end earlier.  Its not very difficult  to be happy, it just requires us to  do things that gives us  happiness. When years passes by one would look back and feel how grateful he is to the hero that came on time and rescued him from taking the terrible step, and as it is said  life should be big and  that should be  filled with happiness .