Tag: Success

Social media: a bane or boon

Vaishali Singh

Social media is creating a sense of competence in people’s mind, and this competition is making people ungrounded, it’s becoming the major reason of mental crisis these days, amidst this pandemic COVID- 19 outbreak people are not engaged in more productive tasks and in order to utilize their energy and satisfy the curiosity of exploring life they prefer to log in to the social media applications and wasting all their time scrolling their mobile phone’s screens endlessly, but have you thought of the consequences of using of these useless mobile applications which are distracting you from doing the necessary tasks and making you lazy and feel unproductive. The way social media is affecting your mindset is horrible, the moment you wake up, you take up your cell phone, and keep checking the notifications you’ve received overnight, which is highly unhealthy for your mental health, social media is making you more like a robot and your cell phones are becoming your masters, you just keep following the notifications you receive whole the day, the over usage of social media affects your sub conscious mind and your sub conscious plays the major role in shaping up your thoughts and mindset, which is directly proportional to the actions you take to acheive your dreams, but it’s over usage tires your brain and reduces your chances of executing the important work tasks. So, this is how your cell phones are becoming the reason behind your failure, but you’ve probably heard that every coin has two faces similarly it’s up to you that how you use something whether it’s your cell phone, the internet access you have or your social media account, if you use it to fulfil your purpose, to acknowledge yourself, to educate yourself, to fulfill your dreams then it can play the role of BOON in your life but if you use that same cell phone, that same social media just for passing the time, reading the memes, reacting on the posts endlessly, watching the comedy videos, in simple words, (seeking the temporary pleasure) instead of utilising your time in executing the important tasks, then it can become the BANE of your life. You won’t realise it today, you will notice the outcomes of your actions overtime and only then when you’ll notice your actions keenly. Now, while reading this blog post a question would definitely arise in your mind and that is, what can you do to prevent your life from getting controlled by the social media, the answer is very simple it’s impossible to change your life overnight, but the continuous efforts you put overtime can help you to change your life for better, now you have to make a proper schedule and would have to set a goal for yourself that will keep you motivated, just uninstall the unnecessary applications and data from your mobile phone, and start working on the path of your dreams right away.

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Fight your distractions and become successful

Vaishal Singh

Kill laziness, get out of your bed and start working right away for your dreams. Don’t let your emotions consume you, do not let your emotions hinder your decisions because if you’ll let them doing this then everytime you won’t be taking the decisions but your emotions will, so try to control your emotions and overpower them. Though, emotions are associated with your feelings they are not things so it’s not easy to control your feelings but emotions are something which come out of us and we can definitely control them, now, what makes you feel ungrounded or unhappy is failing the execution, something that you decided to do or wanted to do and now it couldn’t got done because your laziness overpowered your mind and told you to procrastinate it and then the burden of not getting what you wanted, starts to put pressure on yourself, the biggest problem of humans is Idealization, we human beings have an inborn tendency of idealizing the things, we create our own world of thoughts where we creates an imaginary world around us and start to assume that whatever we’ve thought would be easy to have, but forget about working towards it, and then overtime the lack of execution kills your dreams and puts pressure on us, even though we, the human beings have an ideal version of ourselves too, we set our ideal self’s standards too high sometimes, that we are unable meet that standard and this creates a pressure on ourselves which ends up leaving us sad. So, to solve this, we should break our long term goal into several short term goals and at the fulfillment of each short term goal we should feel happiness and satisfaction.

Now, the point here is to analyse your priorities in life and work according to them, set your long term goal and break it down into several short term goals, and do not associate your happiness with results, just enjoy the process of doing. And just avoid all the unneccsary things from your life, and learn to tackle your emotions because too much emotions can distract you from reaching your goals.

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5 secrets of successful person

When we talk about successful persons nearly all of us think that there must be something secret behind their success. May be we think they work hard but don’t we too work hard if yes then why do most of us think or assume that they are not successful in their life. There are no as such secrets behind success but there are surely some values which if we follow regularly become secrets behind our success. Let us learn about some so called unknown secrets of success.

1.successful people have strong self beiief:

This is the most essential quality to be successful. Such persons do sometimes get caught in self doubt but they witty enough to encounter such things. Instead of over analysing of what things could go wrong they focus on their strenghts. Thus to become successful one must have confidence in themself.

2. To be successful you need not be great all time but must be consistently good:

Yes many times people think that to be successful they must be always great in their work but no it is consistently good performance that makes one successful over the time. If you are great in your work it’s totally ok but being consistently good is must.

3.He who conquers the mind conquers the world:

Mind control is the most important thing to be successful, one must be always focused towards their goal in order to achieve success. Mind is like stearing of the vehicle, in order to reach your destination you must take control of it and keep going in the right path. There will be many distractions in the way but to win you must show strong desire and faith with you controlling the mind not your mind controlling your body.

4.Don’t bother about others, If you are clear in your goal:

This fact is always misunderstood sometimes you have to listen to elders and other experts in your field, because geart people are good listeners. However if you think someone is intentionally teasing you or distracting you from your goal, don’t even bother to reply them.

5.Don’t be arrogant or think yourself superior than others and always have faith in god:

One who is arrogant or over-confident has always risk of being failed. Only the ones who know their limits and are aware of their surroundings succeed. Great people never show-off and always know the importance of god and grateful to others. Don’t forget humans are social beings thus one who gains faith of society becomes successful.
Hope this article can help readers to redefine success in a positive way.

Education

Education  is an important tool which is very useful in everybody’s life. Education is what differentiates us from other living beings on earth. It makes man the smartest creature on earth. It empowers humans and gets them ready to face challenges of life efficiently. With that being said, education still remains a luxury and not a necessity in our country. Educational awareness needs to be spread through the country to make education accessible. But, this remains incomplete without first analyzing the importance of education. Only when the people realize what significance it holds, can they consider it a necessity for a good life.

Importance of Education

Education is the most significant tool in eliminating poverty  and unemplyloment . Moreover, it enhances the commercial scenario and benefits the country overall. So, the higher the level of education in a country, the better the chances of development are. In addition, this education also benefits an individual in various ways. It helps a person take a better and informed decision with the use of their knowledge. This increases the success rate of a person in life. Subsequently, education is also responsible for providing with an enhanced lifestyle. It gives you career opportunities that can increase your quality of life. Similarly, education also helps in making a person independent. When one is educated enough, they won’t have to depend on anyone else for their livelihood. They will be self-sufficient to earn for themselves and lead a good life.

Above all, education also enhances the self-confidence of a person and makes them certain of things in life. When we talk from the countriesviewpoint, even then education plays a significant role. Educated people vote for the better candidate of the country. This ensures the development and growth of a nation.

Doorway to Success

To say that education is your doorway to success would be an understatement. It serves as the key which will unlock numerous doors that will lead to success. This will, in turn, help you build a better life for yourself.An educated person has a lot of job opportunities waiting for them on the other side of the door. They can choose from a variety of options and not be obligated to do something they dislike. Most importantly, education impacts our perception positively. It helps us choose the right path and look at things from various viewpoints rather than just one With education, you can enhance your productivity and complete a task better in comparison to an uneducated person. However, one must always ensure that education solely does not ensure success. It is a doorway to success which requires hard work, dedication and more after which can you open it successfully. All of these things together will make you successful in life.

In conclusion, education makes you a better person and teaches you various skills. It enhances your intellect and the ability to make rational decisions. It enhances the individual growth of a person. Education also improves the economic growth of country . Above all, it aids in building a better society for the citizens of a country. It helps to destroy the darkness of ignorance and bring light to the world

Your True Potential Awaits

This morning I was working on something for my college project and made an interesting metaphorical observation.

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This is similar to what happens to us, humans. We have our moments of weakness and we fall. But we should know and always remember that at times like these we may not be getting properly utilized. Subjected to the right conditions and determination, our true potential awaits us to realize it.

As you grow older, not realizing your true potential at the right time becomes one of your biggest regrets. That is why it is quintessential that you capitalize on the opportunity to self-actualize and be the best that you can be.

  • Self-introspect: Each one of us, either implicitly or explicitly, wants to have some meaning in our lives – to be a part of something bigger than ourselves. One way for this is to recognize what you are passionate about and follow that. This requires lots of self-introspection and brutal honesty with you. It is not necessary for your passion to earn you money; it just needs to be able to make you feel happy and fulfilled. Your passion could be as complex as painting on a canvass or as simple as sitting down and reading a book.
  • Say ‘no’: The society today is such where people have an intense fear of missing out (or FOMO, if you will). Saying ‘no’ is extremely underrated. But you need to realize that every time you say ‘yes’ to something that you don’t want, you are essentially saying ‘no’ to something that you do want. Learn to wisely say ‘no’ to the things pot2which are not instrumental in reaching your true potential. After all, your time is very limited and you wouldn’t want to waste it on trivial things that don’t even make you happy.
  • Success is a process: People often glorify success, but they don’t see the blood and sweat from the endless hours of effort that is put in getting there. They miss out on recognizing the journey to reach the destination. Remember during your darker days that success is not an event; it is a process. Doing something every day helps more in achieving your goal than sporadic periods of work.
  • Know your weaknesses: In order to achieve the best version of you, know what your strengths and talents are, and use them to focus on your goal. But more importantly, know where your weaknesses lie. Always be on the lookout for areas where you can improve on. Be better than you were yesterday. This does not mean you shouldn’t be proud of yourself; it is saying you should never be stagnant.

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Time is forever fleeting. Do not put off anything that you will regret later. The best time to start something was always yesterday. But the clock is still ticking; you are not out f time yet. The next best time is now. Now go out there and spin really fast, cutting through the steel while figuring out life along the way.

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Fact about overnight success!

Most of the time, I think our constant quest for overnight success is a trap.

We get so obsessed on the goal that we forget that the system is what matters. We get so obsessed with the outcome that we overlook the repetitions we need to do to get there. We become so focused on the short-term results that we forget to build the long-term habits that make the real difference.

However, there are a few strategies—four of them at least—that will actually accelerate the results you enjoy without ignoring the importance of building better habits. I call these strategies “Behavior Multipliers” because they multiply and enhance your ability to take the right action on a consistent basis.

Let’s talk about these multipliers, how they work, and how they can get you closer to achieving overnight success. 

The Behavior Multipliers

1. Rapid Feedback.

“The best way to change long-term behavior is with short-term feedback.” The more immediate the feedback that you get, the quicker you can make adjustments to your behavior. (This is why it’s important to measure backward.)

My friend shared a good example with me recently. He had a collegue who wanted to improve his posture. That’s a hard thing to do because typically the only feedback you get on posture is if someone tells you that you are slouching or if you see yourself in the mirror. That’s very slow and inconsistent feedback.

Instead, his client stood in an upright position with good posture and placed a piece of tape across his shoulder. When he slouched, the tape pulled just enough on his shirt so that he noticed the change. Suddenly, he had immediate feedback whenever his posture changed and it became much easier to maintain good posture throughout the day.

The most foundational aspect of a new habit is awareness. If you’re not aware of your habits, how can you expect to change them? This is why feedback is so important. Faster feedback leads to faster results.

2. Simplicity.

The best productivity strategy is to eliminate the things that derail your productivity. If you live a life with fewer distractions, it becomes much easier to take effective action.

In many cases, the danger isn’t knowing what the most important task is for the day. The danger is doing the 7th-most important thing before you do the most important thing.

Don’t just identify the 20 percent of strategies that are most effective, eliminate the 80 percent of strategies that are wasteful. When the distractions are taken away from you, it becomes much easier to stay focused.

3. Environment.

In my opinion, this is the greatest success “hack” there is. If you live in an environment that nudges you toward the right decision and if you surround yourself with people who make your new behavior seem normal, then you’ll find success is almost an afterthought.

The world around us shapes our behavior. Consider the home you live in, for example. There are many cues built into your home, probably hundreds or thousands, that shape your behavior in small ways.

  • Is there food sitting on the counter? You’re more likely to pick it up and eat it.
  • Do your couches and chairs face the television? You’re more likely to sit down and turn it on.

And it works the other way too…

  • Are your running shoes and gym shorts laid out the night before? You’ll be more likely to suit up and go for a run tomorrow.
  • Do you work at an office with healthy and fit people? If so, you’ll be more likely to see exercise and activity as a normal way of life.

Every environment promotes some behaviors and prevents others. The key is to be in an environment that supports the results you want to achieve.

The people and places that surround us fill our days with little cues and triggers that can make our habits easier to follow or harder to build. Are you fighting your environment to make change happen? Or does your environment make your new behavior effortless?

4. Ability.

If your skills in a particular area are better, then making sustained progress will be easier.

For example, if you can already do 100 pushups in a row, then developing a habit of doing 10 pushups per day seems relatively easy. If, however, your maximum is 10 pushups in a row, then doing 10 pushups per day is far more taxing.

This is also where talent and genetic potential come into the picture. It is far easier to become an overnight success in basketball if you are 7 feet tall rather than if you are 5 feet tall. Play a game that rewards your skill set and success will come faster.

Overnight Success

I still think overnight success is a myth. There’s no way to avoid one simple fact: you have to put in the work.

That said, these four strategies make rapid success more reasonable:

  1. Get short-term feedback.
  2. Simplify and eliminate distractions.
  3. Surround yourself with an environment that promotes your new behavior.
  4. Play a game that leverages your skill set.

Dealing with a Writer’s Block

Writing something requires a person to be inspired by something. Not everyone can pen a few words on the paper and call themselves an author. It takes tremendous inspiration to produce something original. But you cannot be inspired every minute of your life. There are also times when you try so hard to get inspired to write a piece but your mind refuses to cooperate. Writers sometimes call it a Writer’s Block.

blockMany fellow writers do not agree with this, however. According to them, the writer’s block is just some excuse used for procrastination, instead of actually working on writing your project.

But how can you then explain the drying up of your inspirational ink? Why do you often find yourself staring at a blank screen without any thought? How come you delete every word you wrote in the past few minutes simply because it was not up to the mark according to you?

Many people do experience writer’s block. Here are some of the strategies on how you can get back in your creative flow, adopted by many worldwide.

  1. Relax yourself

Many people find it relaxing when they dance or practice yoga and Tai Chi. Meditating calms your mind and certain body movement allows blood to flow to your brain. A few minutes of these activities will help you to focus longer and you will start with a fresh creative mind.

  1. Do something creative

Stop whatever it is that you are trying to write. Step away from your desk and find something creative for you to do. It could be painting or building something from scratch like a DIY project. It will keep your mind active and help you ease into creative mode easily.

  1. Eliminate distractions

Switch off your mobile phone and keep away from all the social media sites. Clean your cluttered desk to help clean your mind. Give yourself some space while writing. Try to write at a time when you know no one will disturb you.

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  1. Do free-writing

Free-writing means writing anything that comes at the top of your mind. Sometimes you have so many things going on in your life that your mind cannot focus on the project at hand. Rant on the paper about the thing that is troubling you, the thing that you wanted to say to your colleague, and the thing that made you happy today. Write about anything you want, mix fiction with scientific facts. Free-writing will definitely unburden your mind. Moreover, as the name suggests, you will feel free.

  1. Write at a time that works for you

Some people get their surge of inspiration early in the morning while they are still half asleep while others get their ideas just as they are sleeping. Some prefer to write while feeling connected to nature, maybe in a park. Find out what works best for you and try to keep your schedule free during that time so that you can write.

Writer’s block is merely a minor speed bump in the journey of your writing. Don’t let it be the end of your beautifully endless journey ahead.

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Why Affirmations Don’t Work, and Sometimes They Do

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If you repeat an affirmation, with which you’re not in agreement with, there could be some subconscious resistance, which may defeat the affirmation.

When there’s low self-esteem, or when in difficult situations, the mind thinks on the present situation, and finds it difficult, or almost impossible, to consider a special , positive situation. This creates inner resistance, lack of belief, and expecting the affirmation to not work.

In this situation, your attention goes to your current, negative situation, rather than that specialize in what you actually want.

When there’s inner resistance and lack of belief, repeating the affirmations might cause you to more conscious of your problems and of the gap between your current situation, and the words you are repeating. Since the mind is concentrated on the matter , and not on the positive affirmation, this aggravates things .

If you focus your attention on a problem, instead of focusing on a solution, you make the problem bigger. When you do so, you improve your problems and make a negative state of mind. Instead of focusing on the positive, you focus on the negative.

This does not mean that affirmations do not work. On the contrary, this proves that they do work, when you use them correctly, and the right attitude.

Why Affirmations Work

Affirmations work and make results, albeit the result’s negative. This happens when you focus on what you do not want, and got it. This happens quite often.

You will get results, positive or negative, in accordance with the words you repeat and therefore the thoughts you think that .

The words you repeat affect your conscious and subconscious minds, your behavior, your attitude, and the way people teat you and relate to you.

For people that are during a very negative mental situation, affirmations won’t be the proper thing. They might need other means to assist themselves to divert their mind from negative thoughts. They also need to gain self-esteem and strengthen their desire to help themselves. Afterwards, they might try repeating affirmations.

However, if you’re like most of the people , sometimes negative and sometimes positive in your attitude and behavior, affirmation could assist you become more positive, energetic, happy and successful.

To get results, you would like to understand what you would like , specialise in the words you’re repeating, and feel and believe they’re true.

As you continue using affirmations, you’d gradually become a more positive person, and learn to divert your attention faraway from your problems and current situation, and specialise in the positive situation you would like to make in your life.

To use affirmations effectively, you must have no doubts about your ability to achieve what you are affirming.

If it were possible to see what is going inside the minds of successful people, we would see that they consciously or unconsciously repeatedly tell themselves that they are going to succeed. They often repeat positive affirmations, without knowing anything about affirmations.

“Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle” —Napoleon Hill

We all have been in a situation where we feel disappointed, whether by job rejection, loss in business, fail in exams or might have been facing a lot of problems in the relationship. All have experience downfalls at least once in their life. We feel devastated and stop putting our effort due to fear of failure. It happens with all of us might be at a different stage of life. I know it’s not easy to say it’s okay, everything will be alright to yourself. No one knows the effort you have put it in your work, rather than you yourself. Always remember, there is no point crying over the failure rather than always embrace the mistakes and learn from them. You can’t change your past just focus on the present and glorify it. Maybe according to you, you have put your hundred percent but that particular thing I.e. Business, relation or might be anything else may require your more effort. It’s not that businessman become a millionaire overnight or the perfect couple doesn’ t have any sort of arguments ever in their life they all have gone through downfalls but what they never lose is faith in themselves, they don’t stop putting their effort. They never give up. So what really never give up means for everyone? It’s a continuous struggle and acceptance to failures embracing the mistake and learning from them and making yourself better day by day. Always be determined to your goal. It’s hard to reach you will find numerous obstacle but don’t stop your struggle. Every successful person has tackled numerous obstacles and continued their struggle. One of the instance is Colonel Sanders. You all might have known the story of KFC’s Colonel Sanders. The person faced rejection several times but never lose hopes. His father died when he was just six years old, and leaving him to take care of his siblings. At seventh he dropped out of school work as a farmhand. At the age of 16, he faked his age to get selected in the united state army and later on hired by the railway as a labourer and got fired. It’s not all he was fired many times. At the age of 40, he starts selling chicken dish in the service station, later he decided to franchise his restaurant. His dish was rejected not one not two but 1009 times but he never give up and continued his struggle and finally, his secret recipe names as “Kentucky Fried Chicken”, got super hit. After so many fail but he doesn’t stop putting continuous efforts and he finally made it. His KFC broadened internationally, was sold at 2 million dollars whose net worth is around $15.3 today. The never give up attitude made him achieve that even today he remains eternal on the centre of KFC branding. That’s the power of never give up attitude. He’s not the only one many businessmen have work overnight to fulfil their ambition whether Bill Gates, Steve Jobs and many more. Whenever you feel low just let the title reach out to you and trust yourself and your preparation one day you will be at the height of success with a strengthen soul.

Please let me know your thoughts in the comment below and have a wonderful day.

Being Average

Do you, as a student, teenager, or maybe even a person, sometimes feel that you might be too average? Is there a nagging feeling in your heart that you do not have what it takes to be at the top, to accomplish something and be happy in your success? It is like you were sheltered too much since your childhood and told repeatedly what an amazing kid you were. And now, when you face the real world on your own, you realize that that is just something that all parents say to their children. Every parent considers their child to be unique and quirky. But the truth is far from that. You are not any more special than the next kid, despite what you were made to believe back then.

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This has now probably rocked your whole belief system. You just have one constant thought in your mind:  You are just too average; you are good for not much.

Well here’s a news flash for all of you thinking that: You are not the only one who feels that way. Almost every other person feels he is too average for this world.

davIt is an interesting facet of human nature that people seem to have a psychological need to come up with the sort of fictional superheroes and saviors that embody perfection, success, and everything else a person wishes to be.

Taking the example of Batman, every person has wished at some point in his life to be like Bruce Wayne – world-renowned billionaire, a tech genius, athletic, handsome with a chiseled jaw and muscles as if Zeus himself came down from Olympus and carved him, and when he is not inventing some technology to save the world, he is there helping the weak and the downtrodden.

Characters like this have been created because of people’s need to cope with their own feelings of helplessness at times. Not that you should not try your best in any given situation, but you need to learn to accept mediocrity when you end up there despite your best efforts. Now, preaching this is one thing, and actually following through with this is another. This becomes a little difficult when there are not many people arguing the merits of mediocrity, of being blasé boring and average.

avg2Every one of you has your own set of strengths and weaknesses. But the fact remains, you are average at most of the stuff you do. Maybe you are an expert in linear algebra, or even playing guitar. But the likelihood is pretty high that you are average at so many other things you do. A single person cannot be an extraordinary performer in all areas of life. And that is okay.

Why? Because mediocrity considered as a goal is not good. But mediocrity as a result, on the other hand, is acceptable. There are only a few who get this and even lesser still who accept this. Being average is not in any way a standard of failure. You should continue on with living your lives and doing boring chores, chores that you feel make you average. Maybe you are average in a field for a reason because, at the end of the day, you are what actually matters.

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The Power of Repeated Words and Thoughts

Thinking may be a mixture of words, sentences, mental images and sensations.

Thoughts are like visitors, who visit the central station of the mind. They come, stay a short time , then get away , making space for other thoughts.

Some of these thoughts stay longer, gain power, and affect the lifetime of the person thinking them. Others, appear for a short while, and then disappear, leaving no impression on the mind.

Do you, like most of the people , let thoughts connected with worries, fears, anger or unhappiness occupy your mind most of the time?
Do you keep occupying your mind with inner conversation about negative situations and actions?
Such inner conversation eventually, affect the subconscious mind, which accepts them as real, and consequently, can affect your health and your behavior.

What You Repeat in Your Mind Can Affect Your Life
It is of important importance to take care of what goes into the subconscious . Words and thoughts that are repeated often get stronger by the repetitions, sink into the subconscious and affect the behavior, actions and reactions of the person involved.

The subconscious mind regards the words and thoughts that get lodged inside it as expressing and describing a real situation, and therefore, it strives to align the words and thoughts with reality. It works diligently to form these words and thoughts a reality within the lifetime of the person saying or thinking them.

This means that if you regularly tell yourself that it’s difficult or impossible to accumulate money, the subconscious will accept your words and put obstacles on your way.

If you retain telling yourself that you simply are rich, it’ll find ways to bring you opportunities to urge rich, and motivate you toward taking advantage of those opportunities.

The thoughts that you simply express through your words shape your life. This is often done unconsciously. Few concentrate to their thoughts and therefore the words they use while thinking. Most people let outside circumstances and situations determine what they think about.

In this case, there is no freedom. You allow the surface world to affect your life and behavior.

If you choose consciously the thoughts, sentences and words that you repeat in your mind, your life will start to change. You will begin creating new situations and circumstances. You will be using the power of affirmations.

Affirmations are sentences that are repeated often during the day, and which sink into the subconscious , which successively , releases its enormous power to materialize the intention of the words and phrases in the outside world.

This doesn’t mean that each word you utter will bring results. In order to trigger the subconscious into action, the words need to be said attentively , intention and with feeling.

In order to get positive results, affirmations need to be phrased in positive words. Look at the following two sentences:

  1. I am not weak anymore.
  2. I am strong and powerful.

Though both sentences seem to express the same idea, they do so in different words. The first sentence is phrased in negative words. It creates within the mind a image of weakness. This is wrong wording.

The second sentence is positive and awakens within the mind a image of strength.

You Need to Repeat Affirmation in a Certain Way
It is not enough to repeat an affirmation a couple of times, then expect your life to vary . More than this is necessary. It is important to affirm attentively , also like strong desire, faith and persistence. It is also important to choose the right affirmation for any specific situation. You need to feel comfortable with it; otherwise the affirmation might not work or may bring you something that you do not really want.

Affirmations can be used together with creative visualization, since they complement each other. This is especially useful for people who find it difficult to visualize. In this case, the words serve as a substitution to creative visualization.

Remember, repetitive words are like a hammer chiseling a stone. You need to be aware of your repetitive words, and allow into your mind only the ones you want.

Some Powerful Affirmations
Instead of repeating negative and useless words and phrases within the mind, why not choose positive words and phrases to assist you build the life you want?

By choosing your thoughts and words you exercise control over your life.

Here are a few powerful affirmations:

Day by day i’m becoming happier and more satisfied.
With every inhalation i’m filling myself happily .
Love is filling my life now.
The power of the Cosmos is filling my life amorously .
A lot of cash is flowing now into my life.
The power of the Universe is now filling my life with wealth.
The powerful and vital energy of the Cosmos is flowing and filling my body and mind.
Healing energy is consistently filling every cell of my body.
I always stay calm and on top of things of myself, in every situation and altogether circumstances.
I am having a wonderful, happy and fascinating day.

Life hacks to be Successful!

Treat Failure Like a Scientist

When a scientist runs an experiment, there are all sorts of results that could happen. Some results are positive and some are negative, but all of them are data points. Each result is a piece of data that can ultimately lead to an answer.

And that’s exactly how a scientist treats failure: as another data point.

This is much different than how society often talks about failure. For most of us, failure feels like an indication of who we are as a person.

Failing a test means you’re not smart enough. Failing to get fit means you’re undesirable. Failing in business means you don’t have what it takes. Failing at art means you’re not creative. And so on.

But for the scientist, a negative result is not an indication that they are a bad scientist. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Proving a hypothesis wrong is often just as useful as proving it right because you learned something along the way.

Your failures are simply data points that can help lead you to the right answer.

Failure Is the Cost You Pay to Be Right

None of this is to say that you should seek to make mistakes or that failing is fun. Obviously, you’ll try to do things the right way. And failing on something that is important to you is never fun.

But failure will always be part of your growth for one simple reason…

If you’re focused on building a new habit or learning a new skill or mastering a craft  of any type, then you’re basically experimenting in one way or another. And if you run enough experiments, then sometimes you’re going to get a negative result.

It happens to every scientist and it will happen to you and me as well. ‘ Failure is simply a cost you have to pay on the way to being right.’

Treat failure like a scientist. Your failures are not you. Your successes are not you. They are simply data points that help guide the next experiment.

To Boost Happiness, Stack the Pain

Here is an example…

On a normal day, you might have something annoying or painful to do (like paying the bills). And you also might have something good happen to you (like a friend sending you a thoughtful email).

If you read the email on your lunch break and then pay the bills when you get home from work, you will remember your day as going from a good experience to a bad experience. That’s the opposite of what you want.

However, if you decide to stack the pain early in your day — for example, if you pay your bills in the morning before you go to work and then read the email from your friend on your lunch break — you will remember your day as going from bad to good. As a result, you’ll feel happier because your brain likes it when experiences improve as time goes on.

Stacking the Pain for the Long-Term

It’s easy to worry about making the right choices with your life. However, if you choose to pursue things where the pain of the experience is largely in the beginning — like building a business, losing weight, or creating art — then you will tend to look back on those experiences fondly because they improve over time.

By comparison, doing things like trying to beat the stock market or become a professional gambler are very inconsistent. They can provide big wins, but they can also provide big losses at any time. The pain isn’t necessarily in the beginning. Because of this, these experiences are less likely to make you happy over the long-run.

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Dream big, but start small!

Why is it So Hard to Stick to Good Habits?

Have you ever set out with the goal of actually sticking to a new behavior … only to find yourself not doing it at all one week later?

I know I have.

Why is it so hard to form good habits? Why is it so difficult to make consistent change? How can we have the best intentions to become better, and yet still see so little progress?

And most importantly, is there anything we can do about it?

Your Life Goals are Not Your Habits

Your audacious life goals are fabulous. We’re proud of you for having them. But it’s possible that those goals are designed to distract you from the thing that’s really frightening you—the shift in daily habits that would mean a re–invention of how you see yourself.

We all have hopes and dreams.

And most of the time, we have at least a general sense of what those goals are: the way we want our bodies to look and the good health we want to enjoy, the respect we want to receive from our peers and the important work we want to create, the relationships we want with our family and friends and the love we want to share.

Overall, this is a good thing. It’s nice to know what you want and having goals gives you a sense of direction and purpose. However, there is one way that your hopes and dreams actually sabotage you from becoming better: your desires can easily lure you into biting off more than you can chew.

You know exactly what I mean…

  • You get inspired by The Biggest Loser, head to the gym, bust your butt to the point of exhaustion, and take the next three months off to recover.

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  • You’re motivated by your friend’s stories of traveling to new countries, so you start to plan your own around–the–world trip, only to end up overwhelmed by all the details and stay at home.

Too often, we let our motivations and desires drive us into a frenzy as we try to solve our entire problem at once instead of starting a small, new routine..

So how do we balance our desire to make life–changing transformations with the need to build small, sustainable habits?.

Dream Big, But Start Small

If you’re serious about making real change — in other words, if you’re serious about doing things better than you are now — then you have to start small.

Imagine the typical habits, good or bad: Brushing your teeth. Putting your seatbelt on. Biting your nails.

These actions are small enough that you don’t even think about them. You simply do them automatically. They are tiny actions that become consistent patterns.

Wouldn’t it make sense that if we wanted to form new habits, the best way to start would be to make tiny changes that our brain could quickly learn and automatically repeat?

What if you started thinking of your life goals, not as big, audacious things that you can only achieve when the time is right or when you have better resources or when you finally catch your big break … but instead as tiny, daily behaviors that are repeated until success becomes inevitable?

What if losing 50 pounds wasn’t dependent on a researcher discovering the perfect diet or you finding a superhuman dose of willpower, but hinged on a series of tiny habits that you could always control? Habits like walking for 20 minutes per day, drinking 8 glasses of water per day, eating two meals instead of three.

I think the following quote, sums this idea up nicely.

If you plant the right seed in the right spot, it will grow without further coaxing.

I believe this is the best metaphor for creating habits.

The “right seed” is the tiny behavior that you choose. The “right spot” is the sequencing — what it comes after. The “coaxing” part is amping up motivation, which I think has nothing to do with creating habits. In fact, focusing on motivation as the key to habits is exactly wrong.

Let me be more explicit: If you pick the right small behavior and sequence it right, then you won’t have to motivate yourself to have it grow. It will just happen naturally, like a good seed planted in a good spot.

How great is that?

The typical approach is to dive into the deep end as soon as you get a dose of motivation, only to fail quickly and wish you had more willpower as your new habit drowns. The new approach is to wade into the shallow water, slowly going deeper until you reach the point where you can swim whether you’re motivated or not.

Focus on Lifestyle, Not Life–Changing

Too often we get obsessed with making life–changing transformations..

  • Running a marathon would be life–changing, running 3 days per week is a new type of lifestyle.
  • Squatting 100 more pounds would be life–changing, squatting 3 days per week is a new type of lifestyle.

Do you see the difference?

Life goals are good to have because they provide direction, but they can also trick you into taking on more than you can handle. Daily habits , tiny routines that are repeatable  are what make big dreams a reality.

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Power of Positive Thinking ..!

Positive thinking sounds useful on the surface. Most of us would prefer to be positive rather than negative, but, “positive thinking” is also a soft and fluffy term that is easy to dismiss. In the real world, it rarely carries the same weight as words like “work ethic” or “persistence.”

But those views may be changing.

Research is beginning to reveal that positive thinking is about much more than just being happy or displaying an upbeat attitude. Positive thoughts can actually create real value in your life and help you build skills that last much longer than a smile.

The impact of positive thinking on your work, your health, and your life is being studied by people who are much smarter .

What Negative Thoughts Do to Your Brain

Let’s say that you’re walking through the forest and suddenly a tiger steps onto the path ahead of you. When this happens, your brain registers a negative emotion — in this case, fear.

Researchers have long known that negative emotions program your brain to do a specific action. When that tiger crosses your path, for example, you run. The rest of the world doesn’t matter. You are focused entirely on the tiger, the fear it creates, and how you can get away from it.

In other words, negative emotions narrow your mind and focus your thoughts. At that same moment, you might have the option to climb a tree, pick up a leaf, or grab a stick — but your brain ignores all of those options because they seem irrelevant when a tiger is standing in front of you.

This is a useful instinct if you’re trying to save life and limb, but in our modern society we don’t have to worry about stumbling across tigers in the wilderness. The problem is that your brain is still programmed to respond to negative emotions in the same way — by shutting off the outside world and limiting the options you see around you.

For example, when you’re in a fight with someone, your anger and emotion might consume you to the point where you can’t think about anything else. Or, when you are stressed out about everything you have to get done today, you may find it hard to actually start anything because you’re paralyzed by how long your to–do list has become. Or, if you feel bad about not exercising or not eating healthy, all you think about is how little willpower you have, how you’re lazy, and how you don’t have any motivation.

In each case, your brain closes off from the outside world and focuses on the negative emotions of fear, anger, and stress — just like it did with the tiger. Negative emotions prevent your brain from seeing the other options and choices that surround you. It’s your survival instinct.

What Positive Thoughts Do to Your Brain

 When you are experiencing positive emotions like joy, contentment, and love, you will see more possibilities in your life. These findings were among the first that proved that positive emotions broaden your sense of possibility and open your mind up to more options.

But that was just the beginning. The really interesting impact of positive thinking happens later…

How Positive Thinking Builds Your Skill Set

The benefits of positive thoughts don’t stop after a few minutes of good feelings subside. In fact, the biggest benefit that positive thoughts provide is an enhanced ability to build skills and develop resources for use later in life.

Let’s consider a real-world example.

A child who runs around outside, swinging on branches and playing with friends, develops the ability to move athletically , the ability to play with others and communicate with a team , and the ability to explore and examine the world around them (creative skills). In this way, the positive emotions of play and joy prompt the child to build skills that are useful and valuable in everyday life.

These skills last much longer than the emotions that initiated them. Years later, that foundation of athletic movement might develop into a scholarship as a college athlete or the communication skills may blossom into a job offer as a business manager. The happiness that promoted the exploration and creation of new skills has long since ended, but the skills themselves live on.

As we discussed earlier, negative emotions do the opposite. Why? Because building skills for future use is irrelevant when there is immediate threat or danger (like the tiger on the path).

All of this research begs the most important question of all: if positive thinking is so useful for developing valuable skills and appreciating the Big Picture of life, how do you actually get yourself to be positive?

The Power of a Constraint You Believe In

Every decision is made within some type of constraint. Maybe it’s how much knowledge you have. Maybe it’s how much money you have. Maybe it’s how many resources you have. Why not what values you have?

Making better choices is often a matter of choosing better constraints. By limiting your options to those that fit your values, you are taking an important step to ensuring that your behavior matches your beliefs.

Know your principles and you can choose your methods.

How to Put This Into Practice

Most people never take the time to think about their values, write them down, and clarify them. Maybe it sounds too simple or unnecessary. keep pushing. Don’t chalk things up to “just a dream.” It can be something small like making it to the gym or something big like buying that one-way ticket to Buenos Aires, but if you keep pushing enough, it’s going to be a reality instead of a dream.

Never Fear to Fail .

Treat Failure Like a Scientist

When a scientist runs an experiment, there are all sorts of results that could happen. Some results are positive and some are negative, but all of them are data points. Each result is a piece of data that can ultimately lead to an answer.

And that’s exactly how a scientist treats failure: as another data point.

This is much different than how society often talks about failure. For most of us, failure feels like an indication of who we are as a person.

Failing a test means you’re not smart enough. Failing to get fit means you’re undesirable. Failing in business means you don’t have what it takes. Failing at art means you’re not creative. And so on.

But for the scientist, a negative result is not an indication that they are a bad scientist. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Proving a hypothesis wrong is often just as useful as proving it right because you learned something along the way.

Your failures are simply data points that can help lead you to the right answer.

Failure Is the Cost You Pay to Be Right

None of this is to say that you should seek to make mistakes or that failing is fun. Obviously, you’ll try to do things the right way. And failing on something that is important to you is never fun.

But failure will always be part of your growth for one simple reason…

If you’re focused on building a new habit Or learning a new skill or mastering a craft of any type, then you’re basically experimenting in one way or another. And if you run enough experiments, then sometimes you’re going to get a negative result.

It happens to every scientist and it will happen to you and me as well. To paraphrase Seth Godin: Failure is simply a cost you have to pay on the way to being right.

Treat failure like a scientist. Your failures are not you. Your successes are not you. They are simply data points that help guide the next experiment.

Working When Work Isn’t Easy

Anyone can work hard when they feel motivated.

When I was an athlete, I loved going to practice the week after a big win. Who wouldn’t? Your coach is happy, your teammates are pumped up, and you feel like you can beat anyone. As an entrepreneur, I love working when customers are rolling in and things are going well. Getting results has a way of propelling you forward.

But what about when you’re bored? What about when the work isn’t easy? What about when it feels like nobody is paying attention or you’re not getting the results you want?

It’s the ability to work when work isn’t easy that makes the difference.

It’s Not the Event, It’s the Process

All too often, we think our goals are all about the result. We see success as an event that can be achieved and completed.

But if you look at the people who are consistently achieving their goals, you start to realize that it’s not the events or the results that make them different. It’s their commitment to the process. They fall in love with the daily practice, not the individual event.

What’s funny, of course, is that this focus on the process is what will allow you to enjoy the results anyway…

If you want to be a great writer, then having a best-selling book is wonderful. But the only way to reach that result is to fall in love with the process of writing.

If you want the world to know about your business, then it would be great to be featured in Forbes magazine. But the only way to reach that result is to fall in love with the process of marketing.

If you want to be in the best shape of your life, then losing 20 pounds might be necessary. But the only way to reach that result is to fall in love with the process of eating healthy and exercising consistently.

What matters the most is the consistency and the feeling to keep thriving untill and unless the dreams are achieved .