Category: Personality and Self Help

On the eve of each new year, people commit to making lifestyle changes they believe will usher in personal satisfaction and happiness. But while an entire industry exists to help people meet these pressing goals.

INTERNET AND THE CHILDREN: An Outlook

Pc: The Asian School, Dehradun, India

The internet is so far one of the greatest inventions of our time. It has made it possible for us to do many things. Through Skype and Facebook, we can communicate, interact and share ideas with people who are away from us and living in geographically segmented countries. We can watch videos on YouTube and use blogs to make money.

We all know that there is an age for everything. When a child under 13-years of age ventures the world of internet, he is exposed to far more matured content then what he is prepared for. The fascination on the internet that contributes to addiction are largely overlooked. Just because kids seem tech-savvy at increasingly younger ages, does not necessarily mean that their brains are developing at the same rate as their digital acumen. Children are easily influenced by it. They do not know how to say ‘no’ to something which they must stay away from.

There have been instances where the bullying took place on social networking sites which led to depression in children; even suicides in some cases. Social media sites also suggest the minimum age to open an account be 13 years. Unfortunately, many ignore the age restrictions as they choose a false birth date to explore the enticing world of social networking. Parent’s knowledge and consent must be essential for a child. Many parents do provide it but are not paying required attention to their child’s digital activities. Proper supervision and monitoring have their merits, and parents at times fail to acknowledge these. Children are not mature; they do not have the intelligence to make smart decisions online. They are also not ethically capable thinkers.

Children are not aware of their digital footprints and do not know how permanent they become. A simple photo, a comment can grow a base for people to take advantage of someone, and so their personal information is at risk. When they are exploited, they become too frightened to speak up.

Access to internet spoils class lessons as it can be challenging to concentrate on studies. A child may still be stuck in the digital world while being physically present in the school or on the sports ground. Parents also observe that even ‘child-friendly’ websites have inappropriate advertisements or pop-ups. They come while children are playing games or watching videos. These often lead to exposure to content which is not advised for child viewing and may cause the development of bad habits in some too. It is understood that children are tempted to go online, and this becomes a significant problem.

The internet is swamped with information about anything and everything, but children do not know what to see and where to stop. So, it is a collective responsibility of parents and guardians to let a child enjoy the ‘real-life’ and be prevented from hazards of ‘digital life’.

WIN OR LOSE: A Perspective

Our desire to win has been with us since the beginning of human life. Nobody likes to lose when competing with someone in a crocket or basketball match or exams. The biggest competition that we face is the competition of life, and it is not about winning. It is about the living experience to become a better person. The world is not always good for us. Many times it is very mean, and no matter how competent, how tough, we are, it will still beat us to our knees and will keep us there permanently if we let it. No competition will hit us as hard as life will. The true essence and spirit of this competition of life are about how hard we can take a hit, fall, get up and keep moving forward. That is how we should compete in our life. We create many imaginary obstacles in our daily lives. We keep blaming life, circumstances and people and use them as an excuse not to take any action at all. We must not turn everything into a contest but a learning experience. Why do we give winning so much of importance? Perhaps we do it to gain recognition, after all, nobody likes a loser, and everybody loves a winner. However, the people who genuinely love us and care about us will love us the same even when we lose and will be there to keep our morale high when we need them.

Competition stands for a platform to get inspiration from people who are performing better than us so that we push our limits and become better performers. As we keep playing better, we develop self-confidence. We must keep in mind that we must never acquire a ‘win at all cost’ attitude. That will not be good to us and the people around. Any victory is achieved by unfair means does not count as a victory. We must develop an attitude of ‘keep trying’. In the movie ‘3-idiots’, a student kept on progressing with ‘rote-learning’ strategy while the central character was focused on achieving excellence. Short cuts to win never take us far while working on excellence does.

Our parents and friends often lead us to victory. Some children seek approval of their, elders, and if we see their mistakes more than their excellence, we are not a motivator. A single word or sentence of appreciation can change someone’s life. At the same time, it can go in someone’ head so we must be careful. However, in any competition, we must focus all our energies into giving our best and not think about winning. If we do that, we enjoy every bit of competition and winning or losing does not matter to us. Winning is temporary, while the experience stays with us forever.

Whichever competition we take part in, be it in school, in the neighbourhood, it should be a healthy competition. Our focus must not be to defeat an opponent but to try harder to give our best. A child participating in a 100-meter race and 400-meter race cannot apply the same strategy to win in both races. In the former, he must learn how to give his best performance and learn how to win that race. Once learnt, he must apply that knowledge in the other race and create a different strategy for it. Learning of one competition can be used in another that can happen after a long time. Therefore, the impact of competition stays for the long run.  Competition is not about winning. It is about living the moment and making progress. We learn to succeed in competition but more that we learn that winners don’t always do different things, they do things differently. Champions are not supernatural; they fight one more second when everyone else quits. Sometimes, one more second of effort gives us victory.[1]

The moment I regret most

My English madam asked everyone to share their respective moments when looked back felt like a regret. I never thought about it untill then. My brain didn’t work when required the most. I didn’t knew why don’t we get what we need when we need it. We get it when it’s presence doesn’t matter. Everybody gets what they need sooner or later but getting it at the right time matters the most.

When I think to think for a little while, I can’t think. When our mind tries to do what actually need to be done, our mind forces us to make do the thing that it does even in normal times. The fear we feel makes our mind to undo the action we require. I tried not to think about my thinking because atleast I hoped it can make my thinking normal again. Then I started to think about the question. I ended up thinking only about the question. I started at the question and stopped where I began. Then I thought that my answer must be in question that is what my mind is trying to make me realise. Everything has a reason and this too. I tried to figure the question by looking the question in different sense. I tried not to look the question as question itself. Then looking the question as answer made me to get the answer. Answering the question as answer is the answer.

We never understand the irony of life. We had what we want. The only thing we forget to do is searching. We realise that we have it and we don’t find it and we don’t understand why aren’t we getting it. We become blind when we require the things. The answer is just infront of me and I couldn’t realise it untill the neck of the moment. I found the answer for the answer that doesn’t exist. I never had a regretful moment in my whole life or may be I can’t categorise it. Neither could I recognise it nor could I feel it. May be the thought about forgetting past or unnecessarily remembering it made me not to think about it. People say not to think about past and make us think about the moment that made us regret.

By ignoring all the things said about the past in the past like people with worst past will end up in creating better future. I tried to create the present as past and made my regretting moment as the regretted moment.

I went on to the dias and spoke likewise…

The moment that I regret most is the moment when my English madam asked me to say about my regretting moment and I realised that I don’t have such moment and I feel regret at the present moment for not having a regretting moment when asked to speak about it. And the moment is now and now became then and eventually turned into my regretted moment.

The Need of Career Counselling in Today’s World.

What is counselling?

Counselling is a general process of helping or guiding an individual to solve one’s personal or psychological problems. Counselling is usually done by someone who is a professional in that particular field and knows how to deal with human behavior,their personality and provide right direction to their thoughts. A counsellor is a person whom you can visit anytime when you feel to as the relationship between the visitor and the counsellor is based on and should be based on trust and good moral support, on the other hand the individual’s identity and problems shared stays confidential.

What is Career Counselling?

It is also a process which focuses on helping an individual understanding his own worth as well as the work trends so that the individual can take a better decision about their career and education. Career counselling gradually helps in the time management issues among the students and children and also solve the trust issues and misunderstandings among the parents and children regarding which career to opt.

Why does one need Career Counselling?

Each and everyone of us require guidance at some point in our life as it is tough to make a significant decision. By career counselling we understand our potential and future aspect of our career and how to improve it. Some of the benefits of career counselling are given below.

  • The major benefit of career counselling is that it helps an individual in choosing the right carrier as the counsellors are experts in their field and help to asses an individual’s aptitude,personality,interests and other aspects. By evaluating the results of the source of information which came from the student, the counsellar suggests the best available career options.
  • As the career counselling provides an access to wide range of resources and knowledge which helps the student and parents to choose the right path and option as they might not be familiar to that kind of expert knowledge.
  • Career cousnelling will help the student to understand the difficulties and hurdles which would arise in the path of their career.The extra knowledge that the student achieves through counselling results in the rise in confidence and enthusiasm.
  • Such counselling will help the students in breaking some of their day to day habits which is not required such as procrastinating and not keeping update on the particular field or career. A career counsellor helps in breaking such behavioral patterns and lead to productive environment.
  • In most of the situations it is a difficult task for both the parents and the students in choosing the right career option and leads to frustration. Career counselling provides such a platform where frustrations can be reduced and the focus is redirected towards the best career options.
  • It helps the students in the connecting to the best experts available with enough life experiences and accomplishments. They become role models for the student in most of the cases who serve as an inspiration for the students.

Status of Career Counselling in India.

Career counselling in India may be a huge addressable market as currently India needs a minimum of 1.4 million career counsellors to take care of a globally acceptable student to high school counsellor ratio. While a few national boards have mandated schools to have counsellors, over 93% schools in India don’t have a professional counsellor on board. There is urgent need of career counsellors at the varsity level in India.

The government had done a survey of over 150,000 households across India between April and December of 2015 showed some startling data – a highly educated Indian youth is quite five times as likely to be unemployed as an uneducated one. Nearly 35% of Indian youth who possess graduate degrees and above are unemployed, while relatively uneducated young workers (6.2% unemployment) do far better . This clearly points to the very fact that there’s a significant mismatch between skill building and contemporary jobs. Timely career guidance can help bridge this gap.

That India features a counselling- deficit education sector may be a critical challenge. We have around 1 Lakh professional career counsellors compared to the necessity for 15 lakh career counsellors to cater to 315 million strong student market. Comparing to the US, they have about 2.6 million student counsellors for 56 million students.
Career Counselling is only now beginning to gain the recognition it deserves and is witnessing exponential growth as a profession. While the developed nations have recognized the criticality of career counselling, and a vast number of progressive schools in India are also waking up to the fact, over 90% of Indian schools still don’t have career counsellors and there’s a shortage of nearly 14 Lakh trained career counsellors within the country.

Market size and expected growth for career assessment.

The size of the market for career assessment and guidance is currently estimated at over Rs 5,000 crore in India and growing at a dramatic rate.The Developing economies are increasingly appreciating the impact of career counselling in aligning students with the proper career options and thus contributing towards the nation building with youth icons.

The pride month

The pride month is going on, as the global pride day is on 27th of June.  Why is it called the pride month?  In 1969 same day, was the first time when homosexuals got together and fought for their rights to be treated with dignity, also called the stonewalls riot that happened in New York.  America had an anti gay legal system, under which they always saw homosexuals as a threat to humans, because of which these people were not allowed in many places. At that time Stone wall Inn a bar in Greenwich village used to allow these people as it was run be an highly organized Italian- American criminal society. Although different kind of people used to come there, the bar was called the ” Gay bar”, and police used to raid it every night and used to torture those whom they found homosexuals. After many years of sufferings, these people organized  protests to make people aware that homosexuality is not a crime and a person should be free to reveal their sexuality without being arrested. After six days of riot, the anti gay system was abolished and they were no longer seen as threat to the society, and in 2003 a after many protests and campaigns in 2003 they were given the right to LOVE. This was  all about America, there are many other countries which have not even legalized homosexuality.

It’s really sad that some group of people in the world have to struggle so much to get the right to live. Have you ever read about these historical movements in any of your school text books? or Have your parents in anyway talked about it? No, none of our history text books have ever  mentioned  about this. None of our biology text books  mention that there are people who are homosexuals. None of our literature  textbooks mention the story of the struggle that one goes through when they feel different from others. There  are people claiming to  have a cure for homosexuality,  the people claiming these things should be arrested rather they are appreciated and encouraged by our society.

Why is it so difficult to understand the most normal thing in this world.

It is time that we introduce this as a subject in the school, and make the students aware about this. May be this can help many to accept themselves, and can prevent many stigma to prevail about this .  Its time that we tell our friends, kids, brother or sister  that it is ok to be what you are, love yourself for what you are. Its time that we stop using words like gay, lesbian, queer as an intention to insult others. Its time that we start to feel normal when you see a gay or lesbian couple. Its time to talk something beyond just asking these people that how do they feel? When did they make the decision to be this? Don’t you think you could have been normal? etc.

Let’s bring a change by making homosexuality a normal thing. Try to make a world where everyone lives their life happily  and help each other out in difficult times ,in short make a civilized society in its real meaning.

 

 

 

SELF-CONFIDENCE

When self-confidence is present, you’re not afraid to require risks and to undertake new things.

Self-confidence is important for a cheerful and successful life and may be a quality of character that the majority people appreciate, once they see it in people .

When you possess self-confidence, you are doing not allow what people think and say about you to affect you, and you don’t take things too personally. This means a more peaceful life.

Most people aren’t born with this quality of character. However, you can build it up. You can build self-confidence by changing your mindset and your attitude toward life, albeit various personal experiences within the past caused you to break down .

Self confidence is usually suffering from how you think that and believe people see you. If you’ve got low self-esteem, you’d probably believe and feel that folks don’t have a high opinion of you, which can in fact , undermine your self-worth .

If you see yourself in your mind’s eye as lacking self-worth , you’ll behave accordingly, and other people would treat you accordingly.

If you see yourself in your mind’s eye as strong and assertive, you’d broadcast this attitude to the people you meet, who would sense your inner strength and treat you accordingly.

How to Build Your Self-Confidence
I would wish to suggest a couple of simple tips to assist you build self-confidence.

  1. believe what you’ve got already wiped out your life
    Even if you experienced failure and unhappiness in your life, there certainly are a couple of achievements.

These needn’t be great achievements, but quite simple ones, like getting good grades at college or college, promotion at work, getting along well together with your neighbors, getting your driving license, or learning to swim.

Thinking about those achievements causes you to realize that you simply have experienced success in your life, and not all is failure.

This would cause you to feel better about yourself and about your life, and improve your self-esteem.

  1. specialise in what you probably did and achieved, not on what you probably did not do and didn’t achieve

Why fill your mind with scenarios of failure?

If you retain brooding about failure, you unconsciously expect and anticipate it, and might eventually attract it to you. This would further spoil your sense of self-confidence.

You should replace this negative movie in your mind with a movie about success. If you retain watching a movie of success in your mind, you will eventually attract success. This process would build up your self-confidence.

  1. Write down an inventory of your achievements and success

Take another step toward building your self-confidence and write down an inventory of your achievements and success, and at check out this list often.

You might say that you simply haven’t experienced success.

You are wrong about that.

You might haven’t experienced great success, but you surely had, albeit only occasionally, experienced some quite success. Even baking an honest cake, being in good relations together with your spouse or children, or going for a walk almost a day may be a sort of success.

  1. Think about your talents and abilities

Set a time every day to believe your talents and skills , and find ways to develop and use them. Do not say that you simply haven’t any talents and skills. Everyone has some. You just need to find them.

  1. Strengthen your willpower and self-discipline
  2. Set small, simple goals

I am talking about really small goals, like cleaning and arranging your wardrobe or drawers, inviting friends to your house, beginning to learn swimming, taking a brief walk, or talking with someone whom you don’t like.
These small acts will cause you to feel better about yourself and increase your self-confidence.

  1. Develop a positive attitude

Instead of that specialize in negative events and expecting the more severe , make the trouble to specialise in the positive and expect positive results.

This won’t be easy if your mindset has always been negative. However, with persistence, you’ll change your mental habits and build a positive attitude.

  1. Give yourself motivational talks

Remove any negative commentary running in your mind. Be firm, and don’t allow negative comments about you and about your life to run in your mind. You need to be more conscious of what’s happening in your mind and not allow negative self-talk to travel on in your mind.

  1. What we wear, often, affects how we feel

What kind of clothes makes you feel better? What colors make you feel more confident?

Choose the garments and colours you wish , and therefore the ones that cause you to feel more confident.

  1. Your body posture is important

Keep your back straight while walking and while sitting.

  1. Act confidently

Act confidently, even if you are faking it. In time, acting confidently will become a habit.

  1. Let your voice be heard

When talking, speak up and clearly and don’t be afraid to precise your opinions.

Why Productivity matters?

Before knowing the need for productivity, let’s come to know what productivity actually means. The meaning of this crucial word may differ from person to person. For some, it may refer to being active, just obeying the schedule. For some people, it may refer to attaining results apart from the schedule. For some, it may simply mean being independent. One of my friends actually helps me to explore productivity. The basic meaning of being productive is achieving goals by just being consistent. The lockdown is I guess a true opportunity to show how productive one can be! Who doesn’t want to earn and make their parents happy? I mean that’s what a true goal achiever would do in spite of his/her age. Knowing responsibility and then going for productivity will make you more enthusiastic towards achieving your goal. Also, the demand for work from home(WFH) has comparatively increased due to lockdown, however, recruiters used to prefer office work before.

Focus, smart work, productivity, and gratification are the four main assets that I consider for being successful. Everyone studies to get a better job and a secure future. In today’s corporate world there is a high need for consistent, and productive employees. Every organization needs profitable co-workers giving immense outputs.

Umbrella personality!

Ever heard of this word Umbrella personality? like someone saying, that guy owns an umbrella personality. In other words, an allrounder individual can tackle every situation with as many qualities that are needed to make a profitable self, which may eventually make a profit in the company. While facing an interview, interviewers analyze the extra qualities of an individual. Apart from knowledge, what matters is Skills. If you have understanding but are not able to apply and excel then what is the use of such kind of knowledge. As we grow older, we come to know our responsibilities. Responsibilities as an individual, as a family member and as a youth. Sudden change in someone’s personality and character can be a sign of scrutinizing responsibilities. The will to achieve goals, succeed, and give lifetime happiness to parents. Many people also become depressed under this burden. The responsibility also plays a vital role in being productive. More responsibility, more the employee will think of the company as his own and more will be the productivity. From a business point of view, quality and productivity are interrelated. The more the quality, the more will be productivity. For example, the Redmi smartphone has increased its productivity in the recent decade, the reason behind this is, they offer amazing features at reasonable prices and are sleek in design. The same goes for their laptops, which are recently launched in the month of June.

How to increase productivity?

  • No to distractions- Social media is the most distracting zone. You can kill your time easily once you get involved in this.
  • Increase efficiency- For efficiency, it is necessary to have a proper plan and its application.
  • Employee satisfaction- Ensuring the happiness and devotion of an employee is highly essential. 
  • Encouraging support-If you encourage an employee, he gets motivated to become more productive and attempts to give promising outputs.  

“It’s not knowing what to do, it’s doing what you know.” ~Tony Robbins

VELOFEL SOUTH AFRICA

A healthy sex life is an important part of relationships, as well as your life. It is very important for your body to feel happy and content in order to free your mind from all sorts of stresses. Today’s generation is leading a sedentary lifestyle wherein they are under continuous stress. To relieve your mind of unnecessary stress, you need to relax your body sexually. In addition to this, it is a key factor in building and maintaining a good relationship. With time, men face different sexual problems. They face problems such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, insufficient erectness of penis, low sexual urge etc. All these issues are nothing to worry about and absolutely natural and experienced by a large population of men. But unfortunately, these issues may perturb the relationship of men with their partners. This lowers their confidence and thus, ends many relationships.
To your surprise, there’s no need to worry anymore as we here introduce a product that will transform your sexual life from poor to excellent. It’s called as Velofel. It is a completely natural and herbal formulation which improves the quality of your sexual life and along with it resolves any sort of problem. It works like magic and improves your performance in an unimaginable way. Velofel aims to improve your sexual capacity in a way which adds to your partner’s pleasure and automatically yours too. This product is the doctors’ current favourite.

About Velofel South Africa

Velofel is a new male enhancement supplement brought in the market to solve all the sexual tensions faced by men. It is a 100% natural and herbal supplement which solves all the problems faced by men in bed. It works to solve the root cause of the problem which is low production of the hormone, testosterone. Testosterone is the hormone which is responsible for sexual urges and performance. This product identifies and rectifies the factors hindering production of testosterone. Low testosterone levels are cause of problems like brokenness, erectile dysfunction, and inadequate hardness of penis, low sexual urge and many more. These problems are very disturbing for a relationship and can lead to the end of any. So, sexual problems should not be taken lightly and brought into consideration. There are many people who are shy of admitting and treating issues with self, this is nothing to be hesitant for. With increasing age, facing any sort of sexual issue is completely normal and happens to everybody. Instead of bottling it up, open up and treat it using Velofel.

The ingredients present in the formulation work to naturally increase the testosterone levels and solve all the issues. If you use the product regularly without any skip, it improves your libido levels. This product will bring back the beast in you and offer you a long lasting experience in bed. Velofel is nothing less than a boon for men struggling with sex. It adds spark to their dull quick sessions by completely fulfilling sexual desires of men as well as their partners. It in turn makes their relationship stronger and more fruitful.

The cover drive masters…

The cover drive is a special type of shot which requires fine wrist work and well-timed striking of ball to hit the ball into the cover-side area which is towards off side of batsmen. This shot is historically a famed one and the players who have mastered it are considered to be finest players of the game.

The stroke became historically famous during the golden era of cricket in nineteenth and early-twentieth century when cricket England started classifying players as Amateurs and Professionals. The amateurs mastered the off side shots while professionals practiced the leg side shots like flicks around the wicket.

When it comes to cricket, many interesting stats arise, one such is of playing cover drive in tests which has derived almost 40909 runs. Over the years the legacy of playing this shot has been passed on from legends like Mark Waugh, Micheal Vaughan, Sourav Ganguly to current stars like Virat Kohli, Rohit Sharma, Steve Smith, Kane Williamson and many more. 

The Leaders by Average:

While playing cover drive though Virat has scored 1038 runs off this shot and is the only player to do so ,he has been dismissed 14 times while trying to play it taking the average to 74.1 runs per dismissal. This is quite healthy average but interestingly he ranks 25th among top 45 batsmen who have scored 300-plus runs off this shot. 

The leading are South Africa’s Aiden Markram ,Faf du Plessis and pakistan’s Asad shafiq. Markram has scored 338 runs off cover drive without a single dismissal and Faf du Plessis has scored 542 runs of 2 dismissals giving him fantastic average of 270. 

Right vs Left- who plays it best:

The stats are revealing that left-handers are better players of the shot than right handers. It is clear that left handed players are edging the righty players for playing the shot. In fact the stats reveal that from over last 40-60 years left handers have edged right handers over the average runs per dismissals while playing the shot.
PERIODRIGHT-HANDERS’ AVERAGELEFT-HANDERS’ AVERAGE
1965-7435.9339.54
1975-8435.0937.06
1985-9435.6938.87
1995-28.7434.86

It is not wrong to say that left are right in this case.

Conclusion:

It is very interesting that cricket analytics have each and every information right from dot balls played by a player to the sixes he has bet.The cover drive has been always difficult as well as favourite shot of many legends. 

Road to success.

The road to success is never easy and never a straight one.It comes with a lot of failures and bad experiences.You have to deal with all sorts of confusion regarding your target or goal. Your friends and family try to advice you on the their level of perspective and you also have to keep their advice in mind. When you deal with all your friends and family then comes the enemies who will want to take you down and wish you fail. But if you believe in yourself and have the so called determination within and believe in faith, the route will definitely lead you to success. Success in not a place you reach but it is a plan which you executed perfectly.

How to achieve success?

The first step to achieve success is to set a particular goal. It does not matter if the goal is a small target or a big one, what matters is the potential and the determination to get the job done. Secondly you will have to work on developing your skills which will be required in completing your goal. Lastly you will have to work on your time management skills and organize your time according to your needs and your lifestyle so you will have time to do other day to day jobs as well.

How to set your goal or target?

Each and every person in this world has purpose in life. It just needs to come out in the form of words or as a practical practice. To make it easy write down all your dreams,goals,wishes that you strive to achieve in this world. While you write all these goals do not think on how to achieve it at that particular time as it could lead to negative thoughts and would demotivate you. As you write these goals you will come to know how much you can explore the world by following your dreams and this will result in a positive belief in you. You need to prioritize your goals as why you really need to work on it and accomplish it and the other various reasons you are willing to invest your time in the particular goal. If you cannot commit to your goals there’s no need to write it down on a piece of paper.

What if you fail?

It’s important to focus and plan each goal. But what if you focus,plan,organize and invest all your time in the project and still fail? You will notice that you have not achieved the desired target but the experience you have gained while working on your goal takes you to some of the greatest positions in life which you might not have reached if you had not started working on your goals. As ability changes over time it is important for one to keep working and not accept failure as failure is a delay not a defeat.

Failing doesn’t make you worthless

In today’s world, we are constantly preoccupied with what others think about us. For some inexplicable reason, we would like everyone to think we’re successful and thriving. We fear that if we fail, we’ll be perceived as a good-for-nothing. But everyone fails in life. I mean, check out Steve Jobs or Bill Gates; did they become successful overnight?


Failing opens up new doors

While we often think of failing as the end of the world, it’s actually a redirection. I know it’s hard to believe, but you have to understand that every time something doesn’t work out, it’s because something way better is on the way. All we have to do is work hard, be patient, and trust the process.

Failing makes you stronger

Although failure knocks you down on your feet, it also forces you to get back up and continue fighting. It forces you to get out of your comfort zone and try things you wouldn’t have otherwise thought of trying. In other words, failure forces you to grow. So every time you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom, remember that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.


Failure is delay not defeat

Life has a funny way of taking unexpected turns, but I promise you it’s nothing against you. You see, everything in life has its own timing, and everybody on this planet has their own personal clock. So sometimes when you fail, it’s not because you didn’t try hard enough. It’s because the universe is telling you that it’s just not your time. What can you do in this case? Trust your timing. Trust the process.

Conclusion

There’s no stopping while chasing success as it a journey not a destination. You will fail, not just once but many times.Your approach to learn after each failure will define your urge and potential to reach success.

THE ART OF CONVERSATION

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There is one art of humans that distinguishes us from animals, and that is the art of conversation. A speech is a monologue, whereas conversation is a dialogue. It implies warmth, politeness, frankness, equality and several other quality virtues. The art of conversation is something which not everybody possesses. Few people can engage us in an enjoyable and cherishing conversation and in that both the mind and heart are involved. People who have mastered the art or who are very good in it influence people; they make friends quickly; find it convenient to talk anywhere and everywhere; put across their ideas rapidly and can do much of everything.

The primary step to learn it is to have faith in oneself and develop confidence. There are simple things in life that all of us can do- read books, works of people and then acquire knowledge. We can exchange our ideas with people we feel comfortable with and gain insights from them on the subject matter. These are the basics, and it is fun to be a part of a warm, relevant and meaningful talk. It is also fun to be in amusing talks provided it is a conversation.

We can always converse with people around us on anything. Be it the food we eat, things that we do, our issues, success, things around us. Any topic that we choose for our self is good enough to help us progress in this art. We never truly know the impact of what we did, and we understand it once it gets reflected through our performance. With this art, many people conquer hearts, but with it, we confront an inherent challenge of association. It means that we must understand that knowledge is not equal to wisdom, and not everybody is willing to accept our knowledge and wisdom. So, we must decide a goal for us and use this art to progress in life. We must also be conscious of our surroundings, the people that fall in our reach; they may get hurt or may not like it. When we use our knowledge with the art of conversation, we leave this challenge behind and create a progressive personality. We must acknowledge that a good conversation is not about leaving a long-lasting impression but just to put across our ideas and thoughts effectively. A good name, impression, laurels, accolades, achievements, successes come as a result of it, but the important thing to be always kept in mind is, we do it to create a good time- a memorable time.

Can You Give Up?

“You can do it. Just a little more effort. You’re almost there. You’re the hero. I know you have it in you. You can’t give up.”

Well, here’s some newsflash for you. You can give up.

Be it movies, songs, books, everyone’s pushing the protagonist to do a thing which is clearly out of their scope. They may not have the physical or mental strength to do the thing but we still expect them to. It doesn’t matter whether you want to do that thing or whether it’s actually for a greater good. You just have to do it. You cannot give up. Because giving up is for losers. And the hero cannot be a loser, right? Or it’s the opposite? A loser cannot be a hero?

Shah Rukh Khan’s character from Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi was a scrawny guy who tried to fight with a samurai. Since they are selling their movie to you and it’s ‘the SRK’, obviously he’s going to win that fight. But think about this. You are up against some buffy wrestler let alone a professional sumo wrestler. Do you think you stand a teensy bit chance? You have your answer right there.

Provided this whole notion of not giving up works on some people, but it’s warping the minds of others. Most people cause some irreversible damage while not giving up. And more often than not, this damage is to them. I am not saying giving up is a good thing. But it’s not a bad thing either. Don’t you think, it would be nice to have an option of giving up, backing down from doing a particular thing when it is clearly out of our reach, and not be judged for it?

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Most of you might not know this but there is a Disney movie Moana whose scene would be apt in a situation like this. When Moana confesses she couldn’t defeat the villain, Te Fiti, her Grandma clearly says that it is not Moana’s fault. She states that the burden is too much for her granddaughter and that she would be with her even if Moana wants to go back home.

Moana did end up defeating Te Fiti in the end. But that wasn’t because someone pushed her to do that. Instead, she realized her power and strength on her own. This just shows that even if you don’t have enough strength to do something, you are not a loser. What matters is you gave your best. And there will be people who’re there for you, supporting you even when you get defeated in life because it’s not your fault. It was just too much burden.

Or a more relatable example would be Aamir Khan’s character in 3 Idiots who fought against all odds to study not because someone was pushing or cheering him but because he himself wanted to do that.

Having said all that, I’m not against actually working hard. But the focus remains on working hard because you yourself want to achieve something. What I’m saying is we should all try to find our inner voice and be happy with whatever outcome there is to our situations.

Yoga for seniors

When you come to old age, all the fancy aspirations are over, and you experience yourself as childlike again. But at a biological level, aging also results in the accumulation of cellular damage over time which leads to a progressive decrease in physical and mental capacity of the body. Familiar conditions in older age include back and neck pain, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis, depression, heart disease, etc. so, if you are a senior and looking for some therapeutic practices to avoid these conditions, then you are at the right place! Yoga carries some low impact incredible poses that you can practice even in your nineties. In this article, I’m discussing yoga poses categorizing them on the basis of


•Standing yoga poses
•Laying yoga postures
•Sitting yoga postures


You can choose from the poses in terms of your present level of flexibility and medical conditions associated with your body. It is highly recommended to practice any yoga pose under the supervision of a verified yoga teacher. They can help you with the modification in the poses and customized it for your body.

Great years for fitness


Fitness is not only about looking good. If you wake up happy that’s enough to determine your health in many ways. Yoga cultivates a mind-body-emotion link, combines stretching with a deep breath, and develops relaxation. Practicing yoga in old age makes you touch some spiritual aspects along with its physical benefits. Yoga is one of the safest forms of exercise available for seniors with immense benefits.

Benefits of yoga for seniors


Although yoga has tremendous health benefits on the mind and body irrespective of the age of the practitioner, for seniors, the values of the benefits are more. Here I’m listing some benefits of yoga that seniors or old age people will easily relate to

Fitness and ability levels


Practicing yoga enhances one’s fitness level that results in an improved ability to do day to day work. There are numerous yoga postures available to strengthen the core and develop a strong foundation of the body. Yoga reduces the risk of falls in the case of seniors as it provides stability in the system.

Maintains equilibrium


Elderly people are often noticed with some unconscious movement of the body part, especially hand, yoga can help in improving this state of the body. Practicing yoga regularly creates equilibrium in the body and generates a certain level of awareness of the movements.

Improves flexibility


Yoga movements are so fantastic to generate an extra stretch in the body without causing any damage to the body. Flexibility in the muscles encourages the tissues to loosen and relax, which eventually helps to amplify their range of motion.

Encourage deep breathing


As yoga involves the coordination of breath and movements in the body, it results in expanding lung capacity to hold breaths for an extended period. Holding the breath for a longer period enhances the overall pulmonary health and respiratory function of the practitioner.

Bone strength


In elderly age, most people tend to have problems with brittle bones. Consistent practice of yoga can improve the weight-bearing power of the bones and reduces the risk of osteoporosis. Some promising researches claim to improve bone density in the body by Yoga practices.

Alleviate anxiety and stress


Anxiety at an elderly age is not new to this generation. Yoga encourages mindfulness and calmness in the system and prevents the day to day stress through conscious breathing and meditation. Researchers claim that meditation stimulates memory centers inside the brain and reduces the risk of depression among seniors. Yoga activates the “feel-good” prefrontal cortex and boosts the emotional health of the practitioner.

Improved sleep quality


Sleep disturbance is a common problem among people of old age. Sleep deficiency at this age is linked to the increased risks of high blood pressure, heart strokes, diabetes, etc. Potential sleep ensures the removal of toxins from the body and allows the brain to function properly. Performing yoga daily can help to treat sleep disorders like insomnia, relaxing the tissues in the body, and encourages a better quality of sleep.

Yoga poses for seniors


No yoga pose is specially designed for a person belonging to a particular age. You can practice yoga at any age depending on your body limitations. Old age can be a miraculous part of life if you establish yourself in yoga. Yoga is one of those exercises which you can continue throughout all stages of life, as yoga itself is said to be the study of life.
As I mentioned that there is no pose specially designed for seniors, but if you are a beginner then it is recommended to start with some slow and light poses and then take it to the moderate level. Here are some beginners yoga poses for seniors to start with;

STANDING YOGA POSES FOR SENIORS

•Trikonasana (triangle pose)
✓ Helps to create a stretch in the hip and lower back region of the body
✓ Improve the balance of the body
✓ Regulates blood pressure

•Katichakrasana (standing spinal twist)
✓ Helps to produce movements in lower spine and neck
✓ Provides stretch in the arms, knees and neck muscles
✓ Ensures firm movements of the feet

•Vrksasana (tree pose)
✓ Strongest pose in maintaining balance
✓ Enhance hip and leg strength
✓ Provide stretch in the arms, legs, and centers of the body

•Tadasana (mountain pose)
✓ Sets the foundation for alignment of the body
✓ Improves sensibility of the body
✓ Corrects unconscious postural patterns

SITTING YOGA POSTURE FOR SENIORS

•Badhakonasana (butterfly pose)
✓ Regulates digestion by clearing the bowel movements
✓ Gives a stretch to the thighs, knees, and lower back region
✓ Removes stiffness and pain in the legs

CHAIR YOGA FOR SENIORS


Chair yoga or desktop yoga is in trend as it allows anyone to conveniently perform these asanas while sitting on the chair. Seniors can be benefited from chair yoga postures such as neck roll, spinal twist, temple rub, bending of arms and legs, and seated forward and backward bend. Benefits of chair yoga poses are:


•Relaxes the neck and removes stiffness in the back and neck region
•Alleviate fatigue and tension in the muscles
•Increase flexibility
•Coordinate body and breath movement and generates a sense of balance within the system
•Increase focus


Try doing these yoga poses under the supervision of a yoga teacher or your family members to prevent any damage to the body. The yoga routine can help you in spending your old age time perfectly without facing any health issue.

Glossophobia

what comes to your mind when you see the word glossophobia, it may have occurred to you that as it something to do with the fear and then glosso may be, the fear of glasses, or the fear of glossy things. Actually this is a fear of speaking in front of many people, this   may be felt by most of you at first but it does not mean you are phobic. When a person has anxiety attacks and starts to feel really uncomfortable to actually keep his view in public. A fear of getting judged instills that person that stops him from speaking and he feels of just running away from the situation.

This phobia has many causes firstly being that if the person has a past experience of trauma that triggers the person every time one faces the stage. A child is not born with any such fear, there are only two innate fears that is fear of falling and fear of loud sounds. This phobia can be genetic but one comes to know only after growing up as they are put into the circumstances that enables them to recognize their fears. Its not like it does not have a cure, it does but it would take sometime and patience.

In 1860 a headlines was published saying ” The nervous side of Lincoln”  this was a letter which reveals his stage fear. Many people have shared this fear in them so if you have this fear you are not alone my friend!

What is important is to eliminate this fear rather than living with this, for how many days will you run away from presenting an amazing project you have designed, to your boss or to give a seminar in the class. Unfortunately in this present generation it is required that you not only have an amazing idea but also the calibre to present it, in front of the people. The most important thing is to overcome this fear  and to do that you have to work in small steps.

  1. Prepare a speech, and practice it in front of the mirror, till you become confident of delivering it to others without mistake
  2. Then ask your friends and family to listen to it, take their suggestions and improve your speech.
  3. Keep delivering speeches to your family and friends till the time you realize its time to take this to the next level and  that is to speak in front of unknown people.
  4. Then face your fear, go and  talk to unknown people and request them to listen to your speech, slowly and steadily try to increase the audience. Always make yourself remember why are  you doing this.
  5. Do this for a number of times, then lastly to test if your fear is fully gone, arrange audience but  dont prepare any speech let the talk be impromptu.  This guarantees that you are now free from the fear and now there is nothing stopping you from achieving anything in life.                                                                                                   This is just a way that is popularly used , it can take varied time to overcome fear for different people, this depends on how much they are motivated and how much they are learning each day.

 

Inceldom: a scourge to the society

Incels or as they describe themselves as the involuntarily celibate, are slowly gaining prominence on various social platforms like reddit and 4chan. These are males who treat women like sexual objects and feel that their lack of a sex life is due to a large conspiracy that all females are doing. They feel that it is their right to have a prominent sex life and that women’s time, bodies, and sexual desires should be primarily centred around men. They can easily be ignored as sad pathetic men which they certainly are, but the fact is that they are very dangerous for the society should they be allowed to thrive. The incel community gains a strong foothold in sexually frustrated men who have had an unsuccessful romantic life. Their beliefs include that “masculinity” trumps over any other power, Their beliefs are anti-feminist and a majority of the community support the idea that women should simply be enslaved so as to improve the society or as one incel member wrote on a 4chan thread “Enslaving them would free up men’s time to focus on more constructive goals like curing diseases, developing technology, [etc.]. It would be effortless too. Women are too weak and incompetent to put up a fight.”

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These days a new belief has started within the incel community called Dogpiling: an online theory that implies women are rejecting men to engage in sexual acts with dogs. While this isn’t a mainstream idea yet, dogpiling is a longstanding theory that is rapidly beginning to thrive. Despite a lack of evidence (where would they even get it?) the idea has maintained its hold and is now slowly creeping its way to the mainstream incel community. Dogpill believers claim that the very fact that “there are more posts online of women describing romantic feelings for dogs rather than male virgins”, supports their theory.

Now to understand this we need to understand two very different “movements”. The first being Men Going Their Own Way, or the MGTOWs, who due to having bad experience with woman specifically in the romantic region have chosen to forsake any involvement with women. And the other more radical “movement” being that of the incel, who claim that women are knowingly refusing to have sexual relations with them. Their ideolog encompasses that women who are sexually active are “sluts” and they demonise the women who have premarital sex. There are a lot od narratives out their but all falling under two categories where men demonise sexually active women and that the said women get a kick out of rejecting “good” men. Hence Dogpiling snugly fits between the two narratives, that women would have relations with dogs to satisfy their sex drives and subsequently reject “good” men. A chat moderator for the group explains that the idea probably evolved from the theory that women need strong alpha males in their lives and that they do not care if their mate is human or not if they satisfy the above criteria. Should someone still be thinking that this is the work of some awkward teenage boys trying to vent out their frustration, need it be reminded that a few incels have made headlines over the last several years, even linked to terrorist attacks. Both Elliot Roger and Alek Minassian were self-proclaimed incels and Are often heralded in the incel community.

Incel community is filled with men describing violent ways they have lashed out against the women who have “wronged” them. Inceldom encourages straight men to alienate themselves from society and creates a black-and-white worldview. These people believe that women are the cause for men’s problems are encourage each other to treat sexually active people like their enemies. These are a group of sick, misogynistic hostile filth in the form of humans, many of whom are way beyond help. Because in order to help these pathetic excuses for human beings, one would need to make them realize that they are wrong. But very often these men think that they are the “oppressed victims” of the women’s “atrocities”.

  Filth no matter what kind must be eradicated at some point, how this unfolds is for all of us to see.