The bitter truth about the “wokeness” surrounding mental health.

Depression is termed as a mood disorder that makes the person affected be constantly in a state of low mood with an aversion to activity. It is said to be a constant feeling of sadness. But is it though? I don’t think it so simple to term something that can eventually lead you to take your own life, or at the very least haut you with suicidal tendencies for the rest of your life. I think we all know where I am going with this, Sushant Singh Rajput. He surely was a brilliant actor, a profound intellectual and definitely a charming person overall. However, this isn’t one of those posts. I am not going to jump to either bandwagon be it that he wasn’t strong enough or that he was yet another victim. This isn’t simply a black and white issue, and for what it’s worth, there isn’t simply one culprit in this case.

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Sushant was the very definition of someone who struggled against the real world to make it to the reel industry. But since he didn’t have much of a background or a godfather so to say, he was often relegated. That is all I am going to say on this topic, because unnecessarily bringing up his name seems a bit desecrating. Which brings me to the point out the despicable behavior of not just the media and the supposed “heavenly” B-town members but also the common people on social media. In an effort to seem much more emotionally matured and woke, every one gave their own eulogy to him constantly tagging him on social media. These people never once thought about what his family and loved ones would think when they saw a gazillion fake eulogies and crocodile tears, all the while they themselves aren’t ready to accept this death. I believe we as a society get a voyeuristic pleasure from doing all this. Some people based on tiktok and similar apps even devised click-baits surrounding this issue. As if this wasn’t enough, another trend that has risen is a supposed wokeness in terms of mental health, where people would post on social media that they are ready to listen and mend the depression of random strangers online, never considering the fact that they are the same people who unnecessarily troll and bully others. They say whether or not I know you I’ll help you out, even when they have never helped their family or friends. Its easy to assume that people can talk to random strangers or call helplines to prevent their depression. How can they do that when they aren’t even able to approach their friends or family. While the present generation at least acknowledges depression and suicidal tendencies of those suffering from it, a majority of the older generations feel that it isn’t something to worry about, that those who feel or do so are simply weak minded. Its not that easy to approach someone, when you yourself keep on doubting your self-worth. And the fact that people have taken the mantra of “I’ll help you just reach out” in order to increase their social standing and to seem hip in the present times doesn’t feel leave a good taste in anyone’s mouth. I do not think I even have to mention how despicable and self-serving Indian media is, which while being controlled by money-hungry media houses isn’t that surprising. For you need to be worse than the lowest scum to term someone’s suicide as a “hit-wicket”. For someone to take their own life, they definitely must have suffered when they had lived. However, by doing so we do not let the dead rest even in death.

This “wokeness” is definitely a nine days wonder, and soon this too will pass and we all will be back to our hateful and spiteful selves. Should something change in our way of living would certainly be a god blessed miracle

What to do at the time of depression!!!

If you’re depressed to feel a little bit better and I want to make sure you understand what those are but first I want to start by helping you understand what the typical signs and symptoms are:

1- One of the most common signs of depression is a feeling of sadness or irritability that is really pervasive and doesn’t seem to go away no matter what you do if you’re with friends if you’re by yourself the sadness just sort of becomes your reality irritability can also be present and this is much more typical in teens that they will present with more irritability than sadness when they’re dealing with depression.

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2- Feeling really hopeless and this can be hopeless about getting better it can be a sense of hopelessness about the future and the ability of sort of achieving your hopes and dreams and again it’s a very tough symptom to deal with because other people can tell you, know you have so much to look forward to or this great thing is happening in your life but if you’re really struggling with depression that hopeless this just kind of takes over and keeps you stuck.

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3- You should be aware of is something called anhedonia. This is really a fancy way of saying a loss of interest in things that you previously used to enjoy so for example you might really be into gardening and all of the sudden you find that no matter how many times you garden or if you try to garden there’s just not the same joy that you’re getting out of it that you used to or maybe you used to really be really social and enjoy spending time with your friends and you find that you just can’t bring yourself to get out of the house and to go and interact with these friends and it’s really difficult to deal with because it’s very hard to motivate yourself. When the things that really used to be what got you out of bed and got you ready for the day no longer hold the same enjoyment and pleasure.

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4- Either decreased concentration and/or indecision the difficulty with making decisions and this can be really difficult when you have to function either in the workplace or you have a lot of responsibilities at home because you’ll find that it’s harder to complete the tasks that you need to complete and if you do need to make decisions there’s almost like this decision paralysis where you find that you just can’t get yourself to the place of making choices.

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5- You should be aware of our changes in sleep and this can be either that you find yourself sleeping a lot more than you used to and having like a really hard time getting out of bed maybe you’ve never been a Napper and all of the sudden you’re taking a nap every day on the other side of the spectrum many people who are struggling with depression find that they can’t sleep that they’re racked with insomnia for the first time in their life and they’re laying in bed and their thoughts just keep running around and they’re feeling sad and they’re feeling hopeless and so either too much or too little sleep is a really cardinal sign of depression that you should be aware.

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6- You should be aware of our changes in appetite or weight and this can be either in the positive or the negative depression sometimes when people are depressed they find that they use food for comfort and end up eating a lot more than typical and gaining weight and sometimes when people are depressed they lose their appetite completely and don’t eat at all and find that they lose weight so if you’ve had any significant weight changes within the last couple months and you also have some of the other signs and symptoms we’re talking about it might be a good idea to consider that there’s some level of depression going on that you’re struggling with so another.

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7- Lastly sign of depression that we’re going to talk about today is a sense of worthlessness so and really this is very difficult for people to handle because it’s a sense that no matter what they do they’re not enough their life is not enough and it won’t ever be enough and this is such a difficult thing to be dealing with and so I think my overall message as you’re learning about these signs of depression is that if you’re experiencing these please reach out and make an appointment with a licensed professional to talk about this because this is something that can get better and you don’t need to struggle with it on your own if you think that you or someone you love might be struggling with depression please reach out and make an appointment with a licensed professional for an evaluation there are many therapeutic techniques that can help you or someone you love feel better and so I strongly encourage you not to hesitate to get the help that you need.

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Call on +91 730 459 9836 for a better help to Vandrevala Foundation if you are feeling depressed or you find someone else depressed. (https://www.vandrevalafoundation.com)

 

 

Just listen! And Don’t judge!…. Let’s make this world a good place to share and live…

Listening is the habit in which we are somewhere lacking. Everyone just want to say things, talk about their things and if we even listen to other, then we start giving advices without knowing what the person is going through. This is not only present in one relationship but in every relationship.

If we talk about the parent-child relationship, in many suicide cases, we can see that parents don’t even know that their child is suffering from depression because the only talk which takes place in our homes is how are you doing in your studies or what you will do in your career. May be exception are there, but many parents don’t even ask something about their life, how they are feeling, about their moods etc. In a short film it is said, “Parents know when their children need extra tutions, but parents don’t know when their children need counseling it.” And children don’t share with their parents in the fear of being scolded or being judged.

Similarly we can’t share many things with our friends too in the fear of being judged. We started thinking if they come to know about it what they think of me. May be they broke their friendship with me.

So due to this the person alone bear all the troubles and fear and when it become unbearable then it leads to depression and suicide. So, it is very important to create a space when they are only listened and not judged.

It is very important for all of us to assure our loved ones that you are always available whenever they want anything to share and they don’t have to worry about being judged. It is necessary to talk to your loved ones by keeping your ego aside and talk and always tell them how important they are for you.

Parents too also assure their children that the most important thing in their life is their children, not the marks or good job and if they come across any problem they can talk to you anytime without worrying about anything. It is very important to accept them as they are.

It is necessary that when someone comes to you with their problem, first listen them properly without simply come to conclusion, what they should do or what day shouldn’t. Sometimes people want someone who can just listen them.

It is very important to keep a check on your loved ones and check on any change in their behaviour. Just tell them that you are always their for them and build up their trust when they come to seek help from you.

So let’s be sensitive and non judgemental and try to listen to the people as much as possible so that no one has to end up their life by think that they are alone in this world.

Reason behind Sushant’s death- Terrible!!

On the late morning of 14th June 2020 an terrible incident took place which kept everyone in deli ma as the famous actor Sushant Singh Rajput and 34 years old guy from Patna commits suicide. What made a well settled actor made drive this step, reports says that Sushant Singh Rajput was in a sever depression from last few months and doesn’t talk much with the neighbors and watchman as well as relatives further the lockdown boost up this depression. The relation with Rhea Chakraborty were also at not good level this further made him in depression as last relation with Ankita Lokhande were also at red mark. Reports also show that he was living in a house which rented 4 lakhs per month and he was further in financial debt. He was living with one of his friend and 3 maids on 14 June after much trials of calling out to Sushant, amid finally decided to open the door, as the door opened it kept everyone shocked.

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A talented actor with name, fame, money, respect, young, potential was not excepted to leave the world this much soon. Yet there are many wish list he need to fulfill. Let us have some look.

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This is very unfair…

The movies in which Sushant performed:

  1. kai po che!
  2. Suddh desi romance
  3. PK
  4. Detective Byomkesh Bakshy
  5. M.S. Dhoni- The untold story
  6. Raabta
  7. Welcome to New York
  8. Kedarnath
  9. Sonchiriya
  10. Chhichhore
  11. Drive
  12. Dil bichara

It gives proof that depression, Stress, Anxiety doesn’t look at status.

If you need support or know someone who is under depression or suicidal, please reach out to mental health specialists or helplines. AASRA: 91-22-27546669 (24 hours) Sneha Foundation: 91-44-24640050 (24 hours) Vandrevala Foundation for Mental Health: 1860-2662-345 and 1800-2333-330 (24 hours).

 

The untold story of Sushanth Singh Rajput

“Men have emotions too so don’t be shy to cry. It’s ok to let it out. It’s not weakness but a sign of strength. Be man to feel. Feeling is human.” Tweet from Sushanth Singh Rajput. People can’t beleive that the same man who tweeted can commit suicide.Being a man doesn’t mean you can’t cry or show your pain in any form. Tears and Pain is not gendercentric, as it is a form of expression by humans and all species. Have the courage to express your emotions for better.

My 50 DREAMS & counting…! 😉

  1. Learn how to Fly a Plane ✈️
  2. for IronMan triathlon 🏃🏻‍♂️
  3. Play a Cricket Match left-handed 🏏
  4. Learn Morse Code _..
  5. Help kids learn about Space. 🌌
  6. Play tennis with a Champion 🎾
  7. Do a Four Clap 👏 Push-Up !
  8. Chart trajectories of Moon, Mars, Jupiter & Saturn for a week
  9. Dive in a Blue-hole
  10. Perform the Double-Slit experiment
  11. Plant 1000 Trees
  12. Spend an evening in my Delhi College of Engineering hostel
  13. Send 💯 KIDS for workshops in ISRO/ NASA
  14. Meditate in Kailash
  15. Play Poker with a Champ
  16. Write a Book
  17. Visit CERN
  18. Paint aurora borealis
  19. Attend another NASA workshop
  20. 6 pack abs in 6 months
  21. Swim in Cenotes
  22. Teach Coding to visually impaired
  23. Spend a Week in a Jungle
  24. Understand Vedic Astrology
  25. Disneyland
  26. Visit LIGO. 🌇
  27. Raise a horse 🐎
  28. Learn at least 10 Dance forms 🕺🏾🕺🏾
  29. Work for Free Education 📚
  30. Explore Andromeda with a Powerful Telescope 🔭
  31. Learn KRIYA Yoga 🧘‍♂️
  32. Visit Antarctica 🇦🇶
  33. Help train Women in Self-defense 🥋
  34. Shoot an Active Volcano 🌋
  35. Learn how to Farm
  36. Teach dance to kids
  37. Be an Ambidextrous Archer
  38. Finish reading the entire Resnick – Halliday physics book
  39. Understand Polynesian astronomy
  40. Learn Guitar Chords of my fav. 50 songs
  41. Play Chess with a Champion
  42. Own a Lamborghini
  43. Visit St.Stephen’s Cathedral in Vienna
  44. Perform experiments of Cymatics
  45. Help prepare students for Indian Defence Forces
  46. Make a documentary on Swami Vivekananda
  47. Learn to Surf
  48. Work in AI & exponential technologies
  49. Learn Capoeira
  50. Travel through Europe by train

He last used the Twitter on December 2019 which also confirms the news of his depression from last six months.Suicide by sushant singh rajput is a grave reminder to us that you never know what a person is going through. To everyone out there who’s hurting in silence, you may not want to exist right now, but someone is happy that you do.
You are worthy.Never give up.No death note. Preliminary investigation is not yet complete. We don’t really know what has happened, let his soul rest in peace. We have to know the truth. 6 days ago, his ex-manager committed suicide. Police hasn’t ruled out anything yet.One middle class small town guy came to mumbai touched sky against all odds , inspired millions middle class but now you suddenly left , we can’t understand what pain you were going through but we will always miss you.

Did he knew what we know now. He had a list of 50 dreams which meant that he had to fulfill his dreams before he could commit suicide?

The depression we feel, the happiness we enjoy, the moments we live are temporary. Remember everything is a feeling and it doesn’t last long. You can trust anybody except yourself. Don’t become the fool who try to fool the fool within you. The love we get is the love we give. You can expect someone to treat you the same way you did to them but you can’t expect it from the life.

Life is unpredictable and can act unfair to anyone because it has a feeling that feeling is just a feeling and act cruelly. If life turns you upside down then don’t try to escape from it. You rather try to look the life in the way it expects you to look. Then life will change its way to again change you so that your life again comes to normal.