Unrequited chest of love

Love a four-letter word but this word has the power to bend a person’s psychic to insanity.

The relationship is a beautiful stepping stone in the journey of love which is made of compassion, trust, comfort, and a romantic emotionally stabilizing atmosphere. This concept may seem to be a child’s play but in reality, it’s complicated. 
Several factors such as perception, thinking patterns, priorities & level of dedication/ seriousness in a relationship differ. 
A love story is like communication its beauty intensifies if it’s two-way. Otherwise, it can open doors to agony for one of the partners (or Both) in place of the cuddling bliss of happiness.
For a clearer picture, mostly one-sided love is met with the curse of moving in the dark desert of thoughts and self-doubt while serving the faith of being a guardian of some fascinating movements of the loved one.
Even the most powerful healer of all times “lord o’clock” is even helpless. You may laugh and talk but still, an emptiness exists inside the heart in the closed box with a bomb ready to explode even at a small instance of name similarity.

TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

BY: VAIBHAVI MENON

A toxic relationship as “any relationship [between people who] don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there’s competition, where there’s disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness.” While every relationship goes through ups and downs, a toxic relationship is consistently unpleasant and draining for the people in it, to the point that negative moments outweigh and outnumber the positive ones. Toxic relationships are mentally, emotionally and possibly even physically damaging to one or both participants. And these relationships don’t have to be romantic, friendly, familial and professional relationships can all be toxic as well. people who consistently undermine or cause harm to a partner — whether intentionally or not — often have a reason for their behavior, even if it’s subconscious. “Maybe they were in a toxic relationship, either romantically or as a child. Maybe they didn’t have the most supportive, loving upbringing.” “They could have been bullied in school. They could be suffering from an undiagnosed mental health disorder, such as depression or anxiety or bipolar disorder, an eating disorder, any form of trauma.”

Even good relationships take work. After all, our significant other, our close friends, and even our parents aren’t perfect (and, oddly enough, they may not see us as perfect either). We have to learn how to accommodate and adapt to their idiosyncrasies, their faults, their moods, etc., just as they must learn how to do the same with us. And it’s worth it. Some relationships, however, are more difficult and require proportionately more work. We are not clones but individuals, and some individuals in relationships are going to have more difficulties, more disagreements. But because we value these relationships we’re willing to make the effort it takes to keep them. And then there are toxic relationships. These relationships have mutated themselves into something that has the potential, if not corrected, to be extremely harmful to our well being. These relationships are not necessarily hopeless, but they require substantial and difficult work if they are to be changed into something healthy. The paradox is that in order to have a reasonable chance to turn a toxic relationship into a healthy relationship, we have to be prepared to leave it (more about this later). The importance of understanding what defines a toxic relationship is elevated in a global pandemic.

Pandemic precautions have us spending more time at home. Many of us have lost the outlets that bring balance to our social, physical, and mental health–work, friends, the gym, school. Isolation at home can shed new light on the indicators that a relationship is toxic, meaning recent months have been key in identifying unhealthy patterns in our relationships. In April 2020, the Journal of Clinical Nursing reported that “home can be a place where dynamics of power can be distorted and subverted. Often without scrutiny from anyone ‘outside’ the couple or the family unit. In the COVID‐19 crisis, the exhortation to ‘stay at home’ therefore has major implications for those adults and children already living with someone who is abusive or controlling.”

2010 v/s 2020

We no longer smile at people

It has been ages since I last smiled at an unknown stranger when our eyes met. Social media, news, movies, has made us so uptight and alert that our natural reflex has shifted from smiling to suspecting them.

We no longer enjoy food as we did

Snapchat and Instagram have made people forget the value of here and now. Instead of being happily in the present moment, we are often more focused on portraying a happy life which may be far from the reality. The satisfaction of the first sip of the morning tea or the first bite of the domino’s pizza doesn’t feel the same as it did a decade ago. The first thought that we have when we see a delicious food now is to click a perfect picture to show other’s how wonderful our life is.

We no longer see Bollywood as we did before

A decade back movie stars were famous for their work and that was enough in itself. Acting was seen as a profession and a job. However, the current Bollywood seems more like a political party than a show business. It is not the work but the lives of the celebrities that we are most interested in. Political leaders are supposed to have opinions and that is what is to be taken seriously by the people. However, now it is the opinions of our favourite celebrities that we are more into.

We no longer have real meaningful bond

The friendship and relationship trends have changed since the last decade. There were more meaningful bonds between link minded people who were true to one another (even behind their back). However, now the long evening chai meets have turned to Starbucks coffee meets. Where though we are physically together, but mentally and emotionally far into two different worlds in our mobile phones.

Questions to ask your girlfriend.

Preface:

You won’t deny that the most important thing in a relationship is communication. As declared by the relationship experts communication gap is the lead reason for breakups. You must have heard many stories around you where the relationships went sour because of a lack of communication. Communication doesn’t mean answering only to those things that your partner asked. One must show curiosity while talking to their partner. Making your partner feel special with your words doesn’t cost anything but your fondness towards them.
Honest conversations are always helpful to bring transparency, understanding, and affection to the relationship.

Following are the questions that can assist you to engage with your partner on a better notch.

A. Dirty question to ask your girlfriend.

Here is the list of the promising dirty questions that you can ask your girlfriend over text, phone calls, or on a candle night dinner. Remember one thing, always be respectful to her during the question and answer session.

  1. Do you think masturbating is fun?
  2. Do you love sleeping naked?
  3. Do you get horny while gazing at a hot guy?
  4. How lengthy should be foreplay?
  5. What your favorite sex toy?
  6. What is your favorite, watching porn or reading erotica?
  7. Would you mind being in a threesome?
  8. What is your favorite sex position?
  9. When was the first time you cuddled with a naked guy?
  10. Does dirty chats make you horny?
  11. Do you love having sex in the shower?
  12. Have you ever felt horny in a public place?

B. Deep questions to ask your girlfriend.
When you are in a relationship you must know about your partner very well. Talking about life, failures, past experiences is an incredible way to know about your girlfriend and make your relationship stronger.
Here is the list of some top deep questions you can ask your girlfriend.

  1. How much do you value our relationship?
  2. Will you support me in my failures?
  3. Do you get scared to lose me?
  4. That one effort from me that makes you happy?
  5. Do you think we are perfect for each other?
  6. That one wish you want to complete after marriage?
  7. How much do I matter in your life?
  8. That one secret you haven’t told me yet?
  9. What made you to fell in love with me?
  10. What is my priority in your life?

C. Funny questions to ask your girlfriend.
To give fuel to relationships humor is important like other feelings in the relationship. It pushes the relationship to the next level.
Here is a list of some funny questions that you can ask your girlfriend.

  1. Have you ever farted in public?
  2. What is the stupidest thing you have done to seek someone’s attention?
  3. Have you ever got seduced staring at a man’s boobs?
  4. Can you lick your nose?
  5. When did you know that you Mr. Bean can speak in real?
  6. Do you eat your nails or you use a nail cutter?
  7. If you had to marry an animal which animal would have been your partner?
  8. Do you ever thought that you could get someone sexy like me?
  9. Have you ever stolen something from a store?

D. Romantic questions to ask you, girlfriend.
You won’t deny that the conversation with our partners can become dull at times. Finding ways to rejuvenate it should be in our heads to maintain the spark in the relationship.
Here is a list of some romantic questions that you can ask your girlfriend.

  1. Will you sleep with me under a bare sky and talk about life?
  2. How do you feel when I kiss your hands kneeling on my knees?
  3. Do you miss my presence when I’m out of town?
  4. Do you want to wake up around me for the rest of your life?
  5. Do you love the poems I write for you?
  6. What about a destination wedding?
  7. Do you still remember our first kiss?
  8. So you get goosebumps when I say “I love you” staring at your eyes?
  9. When was the first time you realized that I was into you?
  10. Can you hug me for so long that I forget all my sufferings?

E. Random questions to ask your girlfriend.
Randoms questions allow us to know our partner to the next level. Here is a list of some really amazing random questions that you can ask your ladylove.

  1. Which advice do you hate the most?
  2. Do you want a house on the moon?
  3. Do you love dancing in the rain?
  4. Have you ever put salt in your tea by mistake?
  5. Do you have faith in fortune?
  6. Have you lied to your best friend?
  7. What is your favorite animal to play with?
  8. Have you tried red wine?
  9. Do you like tomato sauce in Maggie?
  10. Can you eat boiled foods for a month?

F. Serious questions to ask your girlfriend.
As I told you earlier, making communication ease your relationship. Falling in love is not a big deal but maintaining the energy in the relationship is the actual necessity. Here is a list of some serious questions to ask your girl when you are falling short of words.

  1. How much is my importance in your life?
  2. Do believe in love at first sight?
  3. What is the one thing that you don’t like about me?
  4. Have you ever got cheated by a person you never anticipated?
  5. Who are those people who know you truly?
  6. Have you ever did something that disappointed your parents?
  7. That one thing you still regret about?
  8. On a scale of ten, how much you trust me?
  9. When was the last time you cried your heart out?
  10. Should we hate someone who hurts us?

G. Unique questions to ask your girlfriend.
We have already discussed a lot of interesting questions to ask your girlfriend. Now, I will discuss some questions that will compel your partner to think a little before answering them.
Here is the list.

  1. Will you cheat me if you get someone richer than me?
  2. So you hide anything from me?
  3. Do you think I’m perfect for you?
  4. Can you marry me right now?
  5. If you get a chance to become famous by sacrificing your love, will you?
  6. What are your thoughts about arranged marriages?
  7. What is your most important trait?
  8. Can you become a vegetarian/non-vegetarian for me?
  9. What are your thoughts about feminism?
  10. Have you ever dated someone for fun?

H. Some more serious questions to ask your girlfriend.

  1. What is your biggest nightmare?
  2. What is that moment you never want to memorize?
  3. What is more important for you, love or career?
  4. Do you think physical romance is essential in a relationship?
  5. Do you think candle night dinner is a waste of money?
  6. That one memory you want to wipe out from your life?
  7. Do you think unprotected sex is striking?
  8. Will you lose interest in me ever?
  9. Can you leave your hometown for us to be together?
  10. Do you cry when you make some error?

This is a great way to know your lady love. Don’t bombard these questions one after another, always look out for a favorable situation maybe your dinner date night or on your bed where these questions appear naturally occurring. All the best.

Punishing An Adolescent Boy Who Enters Into A Relationship With A Minor Girl

In a balanced, bold and brilliant judgment titled Vijayalakshmi & Anr. v. State & Anr. in Crl.O.P.No.232 of 2021 and Crl.M.P.No.109 of 2021 delivered on January 27, 2021, the Madras High Court minced no words to state unequivocally that, “Punishing an adolescent boy who enters into a relationship with a minor girl by treating him as an offender, was never the objective of POCSO Act.” The remarks were made while highlighting the rampant misuse of the POCSO Act by families for prosecuting the partner of their teenage daughters. A single Judge Bench of Justice N Anand Venkatesh therefore insisted that the legislature must keep pace with the changing societal needs and bring about necessary changes in law and more particularly in a stringent law such as the POCSO Act.

To start with, the ball is set rolling by first and foremost pointing out in para 1 about the intent of the petition that, “This petition has been filed seeking to quash the proceedings pending in Special S.C.No.24 of 2018 on the file of the learned Sessions Judge, Mahila Court (Fast Track Mahila Court) Erode.” 
As we see, it is then stated aptly in para 2 that, “This is a very peculiar petition that has been filed by the Defacto Complainant and the victim girl, jointly seeking for quashing the proceedings pending against the 2nd Respondent who is facing trial before the Court below for offences under Section 366 of the Indian Penal Code, 1806, Section 6 of the Prevention of Child from Sexual Offences, 2012 (hereinafter referred to as “POSCO Act” or “the Act”) and Section 9 of the Prohibition of the Child Marriage Act, 2006.”
While elaborating further, it is then stated in para 3 that, “It is seen from records that the 2nd Petitioner, victim girl, is well known to the second respondent, and they were in love with each other. Ultimately, they decided to get married and went away from their respective homes and a police complaint came to be filed before the 1st Respondent and the same has now resulted in criminal proceedings against the 2nd Respondent before the Court below.”
As it turned out, the Bench then states in para 4 that, “Ms. Doulagh Nisha, Inspector of Police was present at the time of hearing through video conferencing and she informed this Court that the petitioners have approached her and informed her that they do not want to continue further with the criminal proceedings against the 2nd Respondent. It was informed to her that the 1st Petitioner wants her daughter to get married and that the same is getting delayed due to the criminal proceedings, thereby only causing more mental agony to the Petitioners.”
To put things in perspective, it is then envisaged in para 5 that, “The Defacto Complainant and the victim girl were also present at the time of hearing through video conferencing. This Court examined the victim girl and she stated that there was a love affair between herself and the 2nd Respondent and that she is not willing to undergo this agony any further and wanted the criminal proceedings to be quashed.” 
Adding more to it, it is then laid bare in para 7 that, “The father of the victim girl who was examined as PW1 also did not support the case of the prosecution and he was treated as a hostile witness.”
Still further adding more, it is then brought out in para 8 that, “The mother of the victim girl was also present at the time of hearing through video conferencing. She stated that let bygones be bygones, she wants her daughter to get married and settled in life. She further stated that she is not interested in pursuing the criminal proceedings any further and that same can be quashed by this Court.”
Significantly, the Bench then brings out in para 10 that, “This Court is instantaneously reminded of an earlier order passed by a learned Single Judge of this Court, in Sabari v. Inspector of Police reported in 2019 (3) MLJ Crl 110, wherein he had discussed in detail about the cases in which persons of the age group of 16 to 18 years are involved in love affairs and how in some cases ultimately end up in a criminal case booked for an offence under the POSCO Act. The relevant portions of the judgment are extracted here under for proper appreciation: 
“ 21.When this case was taken up for hearing, this Court became concerned about the growing incidence of offences under the POCSO Act on one side and also the Rigorous Imprisonment envisaged in the Act. Sometimes it happens that such offences are slapped against teenagers, who fall victim of the application of the POCSO Act at an young age without understanding the implication of the severity of the enactment.
26.In addition to the above, this Court is of the view that ‘warning’ of attraction of POCSO Act must be displayed before screening of any film, which have teenage characters suggesting relationship between boy and girl.
27.Apart from the above, this Court is of the view that as per the 3rd respondent’s report, majority of cases are due to relationship between adolescent boys and girls. Though under Section 2(d) of the Act, ‘Child’ is defined as a person below the age of 18 years and in case of any love affair between a girl and a boy, where the girl happened to be 16 or 17 years old, either in the school final or entering the college, the relationship invariably assumes the penal character by subjecting the boy to the rigours of POCSO Act. Once the age of the girl is established in such relationship as below 18 years, the boy involved in the relationship is sure to be sentenced 7 years or 10 years as minimum imprisonment, as the case may be.
28. When the girl below 18 years is involved in a relationship with the teen age boy or little over the teen age, it is always a question mark as to how such relationship could be defined, though such relationship would be the result of mutual innocence and biological attraction. Such relationship cannot be construed as an unnatural one or alien to between relationship of opposite sexes. But in such cases where the age of the girl is below 18 years, even though she was capable of giving consent for relationship, being mentally matured, unfortunately, the provisions of the POCSO Act get attracted if such relationship transcends beyond platonic limits, attracting strong arm of law sanctioned by the provisions of POCSO Act, catching up with the so called offender of sexual assault, warranting a severe imprisonment of 7/10 years. 
29.Therefore, on a profound consideration of the ground realities, the definition of ‘Child’ under Section 2(d) of the POCSO Act can be redefined as 16 instead of 18. Any consensual sex after the age of 16 or bodily contact or allied acts can be excluded from the rigorous 46 provisions of the POCSO Act and such sexual assault, if it is so defined can be tried under more liberal provision, which can be introduced in the Act itself and in order to distinguish the cases of teen age relationship after 16 years, from the cases of sexual assault on children below 16 years. The Act can be amended to the effect that the age of the offender ought not to be more than five years or so than the consensual victim girl of 16 years or more. So that the impressionable age of the victim girl cannot be taken advantage of by a person who is much older and crossed the age of presumable infatuation or innocence”.”
More significantly, it is then made clear in para 11 that, “There can be no second thought as to the seriousness of offences under the POCSO Act and the object it seeks to achieve. However, it is also imperative for this Court to draw the thin line that demarcates the nature of acts that should not be made to fall within the scope of the Act, for such is the severity of the sentences provided under the Act, justifiably so, that if acted upon hastily or irresponsibly, it could lead to irreparable damage to the reputation and livelihood of youth whose actions would have been only innocuous. What came to be a law to protect and render justice to victims and survivors of child abuse, can, become a tool in the hands of certain sections of the society to abuse the process of law.”
Equally significant is what is then stated in para 12 that, “As rightly recognized by the Learned Single Judge of this Court in Sabari’s Case (cited supra), incidences where teenagers and young adults fall victim to offences under the POCSO Act being slapped against them without understanding the implication of the severity of the enactment is an issue that brings much concern to the conscience of this Court. A reading of the Statement of Objects and Reasons of the POCSO Act would show that the Act was brought into force to protect children from offences of sexual assault, sexual harassment and pornography, pursuant to Article 15 of the Constitution of India, 1950 and the Convention on the Rights of the Child. However, a large array of cases filed under the POCSO Act seems to be those arising on the basis of complaints registered by the families of adolescents and teenagers who are involved in romantic relationships with each other. The scheme of the Act clearly shows that it did not intend to bring within its scope or ambit, cases of the nature where adolescents or teenagers involved in romantic relationships are concerned.”
It is also worth noting that it is then rightly pointed out in para 16 that, “In light of the above, it is only natural that there are cases of the above-mentioned nature that are on the rise at present and it does not help matters to avoid acknowledging that the society is changing and influencing people’s identity and cognition, constantly. Therefore, painting a criminal colour to this aspect would only serve counter-productively to understanding biosocial dynamics and the need to regulate the same through the process of law.”
Of course, it is then conceded in para 17 that, “This Court is not turning a blind eye to cases where the victim or survivor may, under the effect of trauma that they have undergone, studies on which show that they might tend to reconcile with the same by blaming themselves or convincing themselves that the element of consent was infact present. Nor is this Court scientifically justifying in toto, the genuineness or predicament of the accused in every case where it appears that the accused and victim child have been in a romantic relationship. That will depend on the facts and circumstances of each and every case.” 
Most significantly, it is then made absolutely clear without mincing any words in para 18 that, “In the present case, the 2nd Petitioner who was in a relationship with the 2nd Respondent who is also in his early twenties, has clearly stated that she was the one who insisted that the 2nd Respondent take her away from her home and marry her, due to the pressure exerted by her parents. The 2ndRespondent, who was placed in a very precarious situation decided to concede to the demand of the 2nd Petitioner. Thereafter, they eloped from their respective homes, got married and consummated the marriage. Incidents of this nature keep occurring regularly even now in villages and towns and occasionally in cities. After the parents or family lodge a complaint, the police register FIRs for offences of kidnapping and various offences under the POCSO Act. Several criminal cases booked under the POCSO Act fall under this category. As a consequence of such a FIR being registered, invariably the boy gets arrested and thereafter, his youthful life comes to a grinding halt. The provisions of the POCSO Act, as it stands today, will surely make the acts of the boy an offence due to its stringent nature. An adolescent boy caught in a situation like this will surely have no defense if the criminal case is taken to its logical end. Punishing an adolescent boy who enters into a relationship with a minor girl by treating him as an offender, was never the objective of the POCSO Act. An adolescent boy and girl who are in the grips of their hormones and biological changes and whose decision-making ability is yet to fully develop, should essentially receive the support and guidance of their parents and the society at large. These incidents should never be perceived from an adult’s point of view and such an understanding will in fact lead to lack of empathy. An adolescent boy who is sent to prison in a case of this nature will be persecuted throughout his life. It is high time that the legislature takes into consideration cases of this nature involving adolescents involved in relationships and swiftly bring in necessary amendments under the Act. The legislature has to keep pace with the changing societal needs and bring about necessary changes in law and more particularly in a stringent law such as the POCSO Act.”
Needless to say, it is then stated in no uncertain terms in para 19 that, “The main issue that requires the consideration of this Court is as to whether this Court can quash the criminal proceedings involving non-compoundable offences pending against the second respondent. The Hon’ble Supreme Court in the case of Parbathbhai Aahir @ Parbathbhai Vs. State of Gujrath, reported in 2017 9 SCC 641 and in case of The State of Madhya Pradesh Vs. Dhruv Gurjar and Another reported in (2019) 2 MLJ Crl 10, has given sufficient guidelines that must be taken into consideration by this Court while exercising its jurisdiction under Section 482 of Cr.P.C, to quash non-compoundable offences. One very important test that has been laid down is that the Court must necessarily examine if the crime in question is purely individual in nature or a crime against the society with overriding public interest. The Hon’ble Supreme Court has held that offences against the society with overriding public interest even if it gets settled between the parties, cannot be quashed by this Court.”
Truth be told, it is then held in para 20 that, “In the present case, the offences in question are purely individual/personal in nature. It involves the 2ndPetitioner and the 2nd Respondent and their respective families only. It involves the future of two young persons who are still in their early twenties. The second respondent is working as an Auto driver to eke his livelihood. Quashing the proceedings, will not affect any overriding public interest in this case and it will in fact pave way for the 2nd Petitioner and the 2nd Respondent to settle down in their life and look for better future prospects. No useful purpose will be served in continuing with the criminal proceedings and keeping these proceedings pending will only swell the mental agony of the victim girl and her mother and not to forget the 2nd Respondent as well.”
Finally, it is then stated in para 21 that, “In view of the above, this Court is inclined to quash the criminal proceedings in Special S.C.No.24 of 2018 on the file of the learned Sessions Judge, Mahila Court (Fast Track Mahila Court) Erode in exercise of its jurisdiction under Section 482 of the Criminal Procedure Code, 1973. Accordingly, the same is quashed and this Criminal Original Petition is allowed. Consequently, connected miscellaneous petition is also closed.” 
In totality, what this extremely laudable, learned, landmark and latest judgment delivered by Justice N Anand Venkatesh of the Madras High Court seeks to convey is that, “Punishing an adolescent boy who enters into a relationship with a minor girl by treating him as an offender, was never the objective of POCSO Act.” It cannot be also denied that the Madras High Court in this leading case has also very rightly conceded that there is rampant misuse of the POCSO Act by families for prosecuting the partner of their teenage daughters. This cannot be allowed to go on till perpetuity. A full stop has to be inserted somewhere and this is exactly what the Madras High Court has sought to do in this notable case also! There can certainly be no denying or disputing it! It is also very rightly conceded by the Madras High Court that punishing an adolescent boy who enters into a relationship with a minor girl by treating him as an offender was never the objective of the POCSO Act. It is high time and the law makers must amend the POCSO Act so that the whole life of adolescent boy is not impaired for an act which he did at the adolescent stage! 
Sanjeev Sirohi

Move on tips.

To all those who recently had a breakup, not you, but the one who was in love in their relationship.. yes that one.
So, I’m gonna list few things about you, and will try to answer the universal unanswered question “where you went wrong??”

1) You know it’s your Brian, so whatever you ask, it has to perform still you didn’t had any control on it. Then that’s your mistake not your partner mistake . Even though you had rights to think about future but who gave you rights to impose your future on your partner without even asking them?..
Learn to control your thoughts.

2) Can you remember that moment when your instincts was saying something about your partner but you missed that, that was the first time when you who started ignoring yourself. So, even youuu want someone in your life who has self respect, then why would they have someone who don’t have any self respect?.
Generally, they never ignored you but you ignored your self.
Start working on it.

3) I can understand, it was your feeling, your bond, your attachment and your expectations from your life for which you were working hard, talking about your relationship in other way.. try to understand it..
See, I know you must have left something important for your partner to make it work, but at last your are reading this, I’m getting it. Ok, imagine, there’s a science exhibition in which you are taking part. And now you have to make a project whichever you like to present it. So, will you be able to make project in one day? No, you will work on it day by day until the exhibition day arrive, but you can’t be sure that you are gonna win this exhibition, right. Then how were you so sure that your relationship will work out. Think about it.

And all other things will line up in these 3 points. So, work on it.

And now”where you went wrong?”
Actually no one could ever answer that, It’s always keeps changing. Like someday you will realize that it was you who did wrong and some day you will say that it’s their fault. But don’t stop doing it, never. It will keep you growing

Tell me what’s you view and if you wanna add some more points, write it down in comment section.

See yaa.

Friendship Is The Most Wonderful Relationship In Our Life

Friendship is the most wonderful relationship that anyone can have. Ideally a friend is a person who offers love and respect and will never leave or betray us. Friends can tell harsh truths when they must be told. There are four different types of friends: True friends, Convenient friends, Special interest friends, and historical friends. To have friendship is to have comfort. In times of crisis and depression, a friend is there to calm us and to help lift up our spirits. There are many illustrations that show why a friend can be a great comforter. For example, if a student is going through a hard time at school, a friend can offer guidance, encouragement and support.

A true friend is also someone who loves and respects us. A boyfriend and a girlfriend desire to be with each other. They love each other so much that they just want to be with each other as much as possible. This bond is also present in a good friendship because it has genuine love. Also, as friends they respect each other. They try to avoid causing conflicts. They don’t make fun of each other, but treat each other with respect. As friends, we all make sacrifices for each other. Some friends risk their lives for a friend.

A person is acquainted with many persons in their life. However, the closest ones become our friends. You may have a large friend circle in school or college, but you know you can only count on one or two people with whom you share true friendship.There are essentially two types of friends, one is good friends the other are true friends or best friends. They’re the ones with whom we have a special bond of love and affection. In other words, having a true friend makes our lives easier and full of happiness.

Most importantly, true friendship stands for a relationship free of any judgments. In a true friendship, a person can be themselves completely without the fear of being judged. It makes you feel loved and accepted. This kind of freedom is what every human strives to have in their lives.In short, true friendship is what gives us reason to stay strong in life. Having a loving family and all is okay but you also need true friendship to be completely happy. Some people don’t even have families but they have friends who’re like their family only. Thus, we see having true friends means a lot to everyone.

Being in a relationship and having a boyfriend and girlfriend they key word in that is “friend” the key to a relationship is to be good friends first before rushing into anything. that also means you have genuine love for each other and you even respect each other more. One of the most important thing about having a friend is to never betray them. A friend is loyal through thick and thin, broke or rich, house or no house, smart or dumb. A lot of friendships now a days are not real friendships. People are friends with each other for even a certain period of time to get something out of them. A lot of people do not keep promises in a friendship anymore and it is sad. Loyalty and love makes a friendship a lot stronger.

Therefore, there is no doubt that best friends help us in our difficulties and bad times of life. They always try to save us in our dangers as well as offer timely advice. True friends are like the best assets of our life because they share our sorrow, sooth our pain and make us feel happy.

Live In Relationship!…

In our society, two strangers can sleep together on first-night post marriage. But two loved ones who each other for years can’t live together.
Nowadays in both kinds of marriages, whether love or arranged, people struggle to stay together. In an arranged marriage, two complete strangers are supposed to live together. Every person has his different and unique nature and when two people with exactly opposite nature are tied together, clashes become obvious and they couldn’t take it further. While in case of love marriages, they don’t face this problem as they already know each other well. But meeting a person daily for a few hours and living with a person are two completely different things. We can’t assure that two individuals who loved ones can live happily under one roof. There are so many factors such as compatibility, tolerance, mutual interest and much more which we need to consider before choosing a partner for life. So in such case, live in a relationship could be the solution.
When two persons live together, see each other for 24 hours, there’ll be the behavioural change for sure. Each individual will get to know the strong and weak points of the other. How he/she will behave in simple situations or any tough situations, how the person manages anger and so many insights we can get when we live with a person. We’ve made intimacy before marriage a big taboo? A person has no age to commit a crime but two adults, with mutual consent, can’t come close.

It will definitely help you to make a wise decision to avoid getting hurt in the future. If it goes well, then you can move ahead happily without a second thought and if not, you will always have a plan B. As a human, each one of us has different opinions and different mindsets. So we need to analyse it very much keenly as it is one of the biggest decisions of your life. It is always better to look before you leap!…

5 SECRETS TO FINDING TRUE LOVE

Everybody desires to find their one true love with whom we can live our fairy tale of falling in love and living happily forever and ever. Welcome to reality my friends because these fairy tales exist only in movies and fiction stories.

Love is no fairy tale, so you can stop looking for a perfect “10” who fulfills all the qualifications on your wish list. It is possible, however, to find someone to stand by your side, brave the messiness of the world, and help you experience life to its fullest potential.

How do you work towards finding this ” someone ” ? Here are the 5 tried and tested secrets to finding your companian:

  1. BE REAL

To find real love, you must first emphasize your true self. If you want someone to love you through your moments of imperfection, you must first be willing to do that for someone else. Be real with yourself, so you are ready for someone else’s true self.

If you shift your personality, passions, or purpose to impress another person, you are not being your true self. People are attracted to genuine souls. Get to know yourself, love yourself, and learn to act and speak authentically.

2. BE CONFIDENT

Be confident in yourself, your decisions, and your ability to attract love into your life. If you are being your authentic, best self, this CONFIDENCE will radiate from you in a glow of SELF-WORTH. You will attract someone who recognizes, appreciates, and loves who you are.

Foster this confidence by knowing that you are whole and complete just by being you. Understand that a soul mate is nice to have, but not a must-have. You, alone, are enough.

3. BE OPEN

If your desire is to meet someone new, then you must be willing to connect and open up with the people around you. If someone next to you in the coffee line strikes up a conversation, be willing to engage. Even if that person is not to be the love of your life, practice BEING HONEST anyway. Developing this energy of openness will help you facilitate iterations that may lead to lasting relationships.

4. BE HAPPY

Perhaps the most important secret of this list is to be happy. Everyone wants to be around happy people; HAPPINESSS is magnetic. So focus your energy on thinking about and doing the things that make you happy. This energy of yours will also attract a similar kind of person which wiill only further amplify your life.

Will Smith said, “her happiness is not my responsibility. She should be happy and I should be happy individually. Then we come together and share our happiness. Giving someone a responsibility to make you happy when you can’t do it for yourself is selfish” let that sink in.

5. BE IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF

Loving yourself allows you to make healthier choices.When you put yourself first, you make choices that will only improve your quality of life. You eat better and sleep and exercise more because you realize that taking care of your mental and physical well-being are essential to your success.

By not loving yourselfyou‘ll create extra work for your partner because they‘ll have to pick up that slack and carry your weight. When you struggle with self-doubt and low self-esteem, your partner will have to work extra hard to make you happy.

The next time you enter a relationship, see to it that it will be with your true love already. This would save you from heartaches due to being with the wrong person.

Let love find you.
These tips can only help you increase the chance of finding the right person for you. However, there is no formula that can create true love. It just happens beyond conscious effort, and if handled well, it will surely last.

Do not try too hard on finding your true love. Let love find you, instead. And while waiting for it to arrive, focus on loving yourself.

Trust but verify.

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Trust is defined as having confidence, faith, or hope in someone or something. An example of trust is believing that the sun will rise within the morning. people always put trust in one another with none doubt in any quite sensation, people believe that somebody or something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc. Trusting someone means you think that they’re reliable, you’ve got confidence in them and you are feeling safe with them physically and emotionally. Trust are some things that two people during a relationship can build together once they plan to trust one another .

why can we trust at all? Well, because it feels good. When people place their trust in a private or an establishment , their brains release oxytocin, a hormone that produces pleasurable feelings and triggers the herding instinct that leads sheep to flock together for safety and prompts humans to attach with each other . Swiss scientists have found that exposure to the present hormone puts us during a trusting mood: during a study, researchers sprayed oxytocin into the noses of half the subjects; those subjects were willing to lend significantly higher amounts of cash to strangers during a game than were their counterparts who inhaled a placebo.

Nothing would work that efficiently because it does today if we humans stop trusting one another . For our collaborative growth, we’d like to trust other fellows. Trust are some things that does not bound you by any legal law, but you’re bound by conscience to try to to the proper thing. When a toddler is shipped to high school , it is the trust that oldsters do on teacher and faculty , if they need never shown trust, they will not be ready to provide their toddler a growth which a faculty can give. Another example: an employer trusts his employee’s intentions and his capabilities, employee trust his employer that he’s bringing him the proper opportunities and exerting . Without trust, sharing responsibilities wouldn’t be possible and that we aren’t capable of handling everything on our own. We are people we’d like one another . If you retain on doubting, you will not be ready to give your one hundred pc because most of your energy will get waste in doubting. Therefore, don’t over doubt, trust people, in any case the planet isn’t that bad place.

in India, everyone features a question that, why we give the keys to our neighbors, once I was young, I don’t think we even owned a key to the front entrance of our house. Now, there are many of us in my neighborhood whom i might trust to return to my house once I wasn’t there, but, unfortunately, there i do know that there are unsavory characters out there that necessitate locking the door nowadays.

here are three good reasons for you to trust others:
1. Trusting allows you to grow: New experiences can actually cause you to a stronger person and can empower you to start out living more fully.
2. Successful relationships are built on trust: Just believe the foremost influential person in your life for a second…is not that an equivalent person you trust the most?
3. once you trust, you open yourself up to love: once you trust people you’re fixing a subconscious desire in them to measure up to your trust as well…
4. Send strong signals: Sending strong and clear signals not only attracts other tempered trusters but also deters potential predators, who are on the lookout for straightforward victims sending weak and inconsistent cues. That’s why having a reputation for toughness is critical; reputation is among the foremost powerful ways we communicate who we are and what sorts of relationships we seek.

Research has shown that the brain chemistry governing our emotions also plays a task in trust. Paul Zak, a researcher on the leading edge of the new field of neuroeconomics, has demonstrated. Other research has also shown how intimately oxytocin is connected with positive emotional states and therefore the creation of social connections. It’s well documented that animals become calmer, more sedate, and fewer anxious when injected with oxytocin.

Say ‘NO’ to Toxic Relationship

“Someone can love you and still do things to disrespect you. But when Someone truly respects you, they won’t do things that they know will hurt you.”

Relationships are not always beautiful; many people face several issues in their everyday lives with their partners. But, there is a considerable difference between arguments and toxicity. To understand whether you are in a toxic relationship, here are a few points you want to look through. It never is easy to accept the fact that your partner might be toxic to you. So, read through the signs given below, and if they match with your situation, you need to say “NO” and get out of the toxic relationship.

Signs to know if you are in a toxic relationship:

  • Increase of mental stress: If you experience an increase in your mental stress, whenever your partner is around, you definitely need to get out of this relationship.
  • Presence of violence: If you go through regular physical abuse, in your relationship, you are definitely in a toxic relationship. 
  • Frequent judgment: If you are always judged by your partner, for each and every action, be assured your relationship is definitely poisonous.
  • Narcissistic partner: If your partner is full of narcissism, and is more in love with themself, and has no time to spend in the relationship, you are definitely in a toxic relationship.
  • No interaction: If you and your partner lack communication and spend most of the time in awkward silences, or worse, on your mobile phones while being in the same room, you definitely need to rethink your relationship.
  • Avoiding each other: If you both tend to avoid each other’s presence and feel much happier when the other person isn’t around, you both have to move out of the relationship as soon as possible.
  • Immensely controlling habit: If your partner is hugely insecure and needs to control you to feel secure, you have to realize that this is not a healthy habit, and hence, leave the toxic relationship behind.
  • Cheating on you: If your partner cheats on you, and betrays you often, you need to come out of the relationship, and never look back. Don’t doubt your worth, because the other person didn’t realize your value.
  • Makes you feel unworthy: If your partner makes you feel less, or undeserving, you need to end the relationship with them, right then and there, because that would be the beginning of you doubting your self-worth, which leads to the poor mental condition later.

Staying single is much better than living in a toxic relationship. Most of the time, toxicity leads to depression. It becomes immensely hard to get the bad feeling out of the system once you are filled with self-doubt and lack of confidence. You need to put an end to toxicity, for your own benefit, to keep your self free from stress and physical hurt. Keep in mind that you need to report about your partner, if you go through physical harm, and take legal action against them. Don’t be afraid that you won’t experience love anymore. Trust me, one day, you would meet the person who would love you, and never even dream of hurting you in any way. All you need to do is work on yourself and wait for the right person!

How to improve your relationship with your partner?

A simple way to stay happy in a relationship is to continually improve the bond between you and your partner. The more efforts both of you make, the better your relationship would become. Now, you might think, why is it so essential to improving your relationship with your partner? The most important reason is to keep the passion and love between both of you intact. With time, many couples confess the attraction they felt for each other, to fade away. Hence, couples need to put in the effort to improve their relationships.

List of Ways to improve your relationship

  • Try to communicate with your partner:

The best way to strengthen your bond with your partner is to have a heart-to-heart interaction. With proper communication, you both would know about one other more, and there wouldn’t be any misunderstanding. Try to ask questions related to daily activities, and what new happened in your partner’s life. In this way, you both would end up having an interesting conversation.

  • Try to listen to what your partner has to say:

The most important key to a healthy relationship is the power of listening to the other person. Nowadays, we prefer to talk more, and win a conversation, rather than listening to what the other person has to say. You can try to listen to your partner and then make your point after they finish.

  • Try to understand your partner:

The relationship improves more when you put effort into understanding the situation of your partner. One way to understand the other person is to put oneself in their shoes and realize their condition. All you need to do is empathize with them, and support them through their tough times. 

  • Try to appreciate your partner more:

We are so busy with ourselves that sometimes, we tend to forget all our partners’ efforts to make us happy. Though we are quick to pick out the flaws, we fail to appreciate their efforts. Now, this is extremely important to make your bond stronger. You should try to understand their actions and the efforts they make for us.

  • Try to be kind to your partner:

Don’t start an argument with your partner whenever you are unsatisfied with something related to them. Try to be polite and let your partner know where they went wrong. 

  • Try to not argue often:

Anger is one of the many reasons behind the constant arguments you have with your partner. It is better to calm yourself, and then, proceed with a conversation, rather than arguing. If you feel angry, try to take a short walk alone or a long shower, and once you feel calm again, have a conversation with your partner.

It is essential to improve your relationship with your partner. Try to make more time for your partner, and surprise them with random visits, or bake them a cake sometimes. If you try, you both will become each other’s best friends, lovers, and partners in crime within no time. Love is a beautiful feeling, and it takes a lot of time and understanding to make a relationship successful. Don’t let ego, or anger, or misunderstandings ruin the relationship you have with your partner. You would see, even with time, your love for each other doesn’t fade away. Work together to live together for the rest of your life.

The increasing trend of old age homes….

It is considered that taking care of the parents is the moral duty of the children. But in modern day the number and trend of old age homes are increasing day by day, which is not a good development.

Parents, who bring us to this world, who educated us, always tried their best to fulfill our dreams and demands, who always tried to keep us happy, made us what we are today, how can we simply leave them.

There are different reasons which lead to this rise in number of old age homes. The main reason is that people migrate from village to cities in order to get good education and jobs. It is easy for them to adjust in the new environment of cities but their parents don’t come with them because of the sentiments attached with that place. And when they don’t able to take care of them by themselves they have to take the shelter in the old age homes. The other reasons could be, some people don’t want to take care of their old parents who are suffering from chronic diseases and old parents who loose their motor functions due to old age, as they need intense care and their children started treating them as a burden and send them in old age homes.

Some send their parents to old age homes after marriage as their daughter-in-law want just to live with her husband and don’t want their in-laws to interfere in their life.

I know there are many other different reasons for this rising trend of old age homes, but we forgot one thing. As our parents grew old the same care and love they want as we wanted in our childhood from our parents. If then, they had simply leaved us like we are leaving them, because at that time surely they also had their social and personal life to live, then what do you think we were at the same place as we are now. Definitely not. It is because for them we are not a choice, we are their priority so why they are not our priority. It is true that we are busy in our life and if your parents are not well and if you don’t have the full time to spend time with them, hire them a nurse, spend time with them when you are free. They will feel better.

So love your parents as they have loved you or loving you. They need proper love, care and support as same you needed in your childhood which is possible in the home only. Always remember that they are your parents and it is your duty to takr care of them. So try to make them your priority,and not to make old age homes, a trend.

VELOFEL SOUTH AFRICA

A healthy sex life is an important part of relationships, as well as your life. It is very important for your body to feel happy and content in order to free your mind from all sorts of stresses. Today’s generation is leading a sedentary lifestyle wherein they are under continuous stress. To relieve your mind of unnecessary stress, you need to relax your body sexually. In addition to this, it is a key factor in building and maintaining a good relationship. With time, men face different sexual problems. They face problems such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, insufficient erectness of penis, low sexual urge etc. All these issues are nothing to worry about and absolutely natural and experienced by a large population of men. But unfortunately, these issues may perturb the relationship of men with their partners. This lowers their confidence and thus, ends many relationships.
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About Velofel South Africa

Velofel is a new male enhancement supplement brought in the market to solve all the sexual tensions faced by men. It is a 100% natural and herbal supplement which solves all the problems faced by men in bed. It works to solve the root cause of the problem which is low production of the hormone, testosterone. Testosterone is the hormone which is responsible for sexual urges and performance. This product identifies and rectifies the factors hindering production of testosterone. Low testosterone levels are cause of problems like brokenness, erectile dysfunction, and inadequate hardness of penis, low sexual urge and many more. These problems are very disturbing for a relationship and can lead to the end of any. So, sexual problems should not be taken lightly and brought into consideration. There are many people who are shy of admitting and treating issues with self, this is nothing to be hesitant for. With increasing age, facing any sort of sexual issue is completely normal and happens to everybody. Instead of bottling it up, open up and treat it using Velofel.

The ingredients present in the formulation work to naturally increase the testosterone levels and solve all the issues. If you use the product regularly without any skip, it improves your libido levels. This product will bring back the beast in you and offer you a long lasting experience in bed. Velofel is nothing less than a boon for men struggling with sex. It adds spark to their dull quick sessions by completely fulfilling sexual desires of men as well as their partners. It in turn makes their relationship stronger and more fruitful.

“Valuing Picnics -This International Picnic Day”.

Human beings have been living on this planet since ages  working hard for their survival, finding food, water and shelter to life. These activities are still a part of many individuals as they do travel not for fun but for finding jobs and better homes. In earlier times, men used to stress a little less as they didn’t have much to worry  about. Spending Time with their family, friends and even animals and thus led a peaceful and happy life. In earlier times happiness meant to have proper food with loved ones, with water and shelter. But with the definition of happiness changed and transferred to things and materials. People were happy buying cars, bikes, homes and watching movies, playing video game and this got addicted to those. Man has spoilt his life working all day long, making his/ her feel like a couch potato. 

But sooner the idea of recreational activities started to flow and people became fascinated towards these thoughts . They often thought of going and doing these activities which included trekking, hiking, travelling to mountains, enjoying the beach, river crossing, paragliding, skydiving  and many more. People used to enjoy their weekoffs by these activities which not only helped them feel relaxed but also remain happy and spend time with their closeone. Excluding all these, there is one more activity, which people used to don, but has seen a significant decline which is Picnic. “Picnic” includes having meals outdoors, playing games and having the essence of nature and enjoying it. It generally includes a visit to outdoor having a better view, may be park, lakeside, or beachside or any it get, bring any individual close to nature and their close ones. People most often went on these drives and enjoyed picnics. Also “International Picnic Day” is celebrated around the world on 18th June and people around the world come together in their local areas and visit local parks, enjoy nature, lay down on sheets and have a better view of mountains or rivers or beaches while enjoying their food and many more. So it’s a day full of compassion, emotion, togetherness and understanding each other. 

But it seems to be reducing these days. People hardly have time for these or any recreation activities, working all day along working on their projects and the race to earn more money. This really affects relationship status with the close ones and even social relations. But the need of the hour is the shift one thoughts and priority from materialistic world to the more spiritual and show affection towards the living ones around us. Greed for money has led many dynasties to destroy, and relations to get smashed away. We need to understand that these times of happiness while on picnic or trekking or any other activity help us fight our bad times with our closed ones. This not only brings back the culture of sharing ideas but also shares out what any individual bus is going through. Support of family and friends help any individual to come up and win at any situation. 

“So the main motive of Picnic and other recreational activities is to understand and improve our relationships in this tough world, make more memories and aroma of happiness and enjoy nature and it’s beauty. Time needs to be devoted as the first priority to these activities, thus making our relationship strong, unity in thoughts and strength in the individual personalities”.