Anger is a normal, healthy, negative or negative feeling. Like any emotion, you convey a message, telling you that the situation is annoying, unfair, or intimidating. If your knee-jerk reaction to anger erupts, however, that message will never have a chance to be conveyed. Thus, while it is normal to feel anger when you have been mistreated or abused, anger becomes a problem if you express it in a way that could hurt yourself or others.

You may think that venting your anger is healthy, and that the people around you are very sympathetic, that your anger is justified, or that you need to show your anger in order to gain respect. But the fact is that anger is more likely to have a negative impact on people’s perceptions, distort your judgment, and lead to success.

Consequences of anger

Persistent anger or uncontrolled anger can have devastating effects on you:

Physical health. Constant exposure to high levels of stress and anger makes you more prone to heart disease, diabetes, weakened immune systems, insomnia, and high blood pressure.

Mental health. Persistent anger consumes a lot of mental energy, and it disturbs your thinking, making it difficult to concentrate or enjoy life. It can also lead to depression, depression, and other mental health problems.
Work. Constructive criticism, artistic differences, and heated debate can be healthy. But exclusion only divides colleagues, managers, or clients and destroys their self-esteem.

Relationships. Anger can create lasting scars on your loved ones and can lead to friendships and relationships at work. Outbursts of anger make it difficult for others to trust you, to speak honestly, or to feel comfortable – and especially to children. If you have a hot temper, you may feel like it is out of your hands and there is little you can do to soften the beast. But you can control your anger more than you think. By understanding the real causes of your anger and these anger tools, you can learn to express your feelings without hurting others and keeping your anger from ruining your life.

TECHNIQUES FOR ANGER MANAGEMENT:-

When you are angry, you may experience feelings anywhere from minor irritability to anger. If that happens, try the following:

;Breathe deeply from your diaphragm.
:Give yourself a spoken word.
:Slightly repeat the calm word or phrase “relax” or “calm down.” Repeat as you breathe out until the anger subsides.
:Afterward, express yourself clearly and calmly.

Some Ways to Control Anger

:Exercise like regular exercise is a way to improve your mood and relieve tension.
:Avoid drugs and alcohol, which can make you more prone to depression. Alcohol can also relieve your tension by saying or doing something you used to do.
:Get the support of others. Talk about your feelings and try to work on changing your behavior.
:If you have trouble recognizing when you have angry thoughts, keep a written record of when you feel angry.
:Try to get a different perspective by putting yourself in someone else’s place.
:Learn how to laugh and see jokes in situations.
:Really listen. Listening can help improve communication and can build trust between people. This hope can help you to deal with potentially hostile emotions. A useful communication function is to say to someone, “Let me make sure I understand what you are saying” and then return to them what you think was their main message or opinion. This approach can help to clarify misunderstandings that can lead to frustration, and point out issues where you can ultimately “agree to disagree” without arguing.
:Strengthen yourself by expressing your feelings in a calm and direct manner, without self-defense, hostility, or spiritual suspicion. Read self-help books or seek professional help from a therapist to learn how to use confidence and control skills.

CONCLUSION

If you believe that your anger is out of control and has a negative effect on your health and relationships, seek the help of a mental-health professional. A psychiatrist or other licensed mental health professional can work with you to teach you ways to change your thinking and behavior. A mental health professional can help you deal with your anger in a positive way.

Ask your doctor if medication can be helpful. In some cases, anti-depressants, certain anticonvulsants, and low-antipsychotic may help to treat a sudden attack of anger or rage. Avoid alcohol, benzodiazepines that work temporarily like Xanax, or street drugs that can cause you to say or do things in a hurry. Choose your therapist carefully, and make sure you talk to a professional who is trained to teach anger control skills and assurance techniques.