PHOBIA

BY: VAIBHAVI MENON

A phobia is a type of anxiety disorder defined by a persistent and excessive fear of an object or situation. Phobias typically, result in a rapid onset of fear and are present for more than six months. Those affected will go to great lengths to avoid the situation or object, to a degree greater than the actual danger posed. If the object or situation cannot be avoided, they experience significant distress. Other symptoms can include fainting, which may occur in blood or injury phobia, and panic attacks, which are often found in agoraphobia. Around 75% of those with phobias have multiple phobias.

Phobias can be divided into specific phobias, social phobia, and agoraphobia. Specific phobias include those to certain animals, natural environment situations, blood or injury, and specific situations. The most common are fear of spiders, fear of snakes, and fear of heights. Specific phobias may be caused by a negative experience with the object or situation in early childhood. Social phobia is when a person fears a situation due to worries about others judging them. Agoraphobia is a fear of a situation due to a difficulty or inability to escape. It is recommended that specific phobias be treated with exposure therapy, in which the person is introduced to the situation or object in question until the fear resolves. Medications are not useful for specific phobias. Social phobia and agoraphobia are often treated with some combination of counselling and medication. Medications used include antidepressants, benzodiazepines, or beta-blockers. Specific phobias affect about 6–8% of people in the Western world and 2–4% of people in Asia, Africa, and Latin America in a given year. Social phobia affects about 7% of people in the United States and 0.5–2.5% of people in the rest of the world. Agoraphobia affects about 1.7% of people. Women are affected by phobias about twice as often as men. Typically, the onset of a phobia is around the ages of 10–17, and rates are lower with increasing age. Those with phobias are at a higher risk of suicide. There are various methods used to treat phobias. These methods include systematic desensitization, progressive relaxation, virtual reality, modeling, medication and hypnotherapy. The good news is that over the past several decades, psychologists and other researchers have developed some effective behavioral and pharmacological treatments for phobia, as well as technological interventions.

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can be beneficial by allowing the person to challenge dysfunctional thoughts or beliefs by being mindful of their own feelings, with the aim that the person will realize that his or her fear is irrational. CBT may be conducted in a group setting. Gradual desensitization treatment and CBT are often successful, provided the person is willing to endure some discomfort. In one clinical trial, 90% of people were observed to no longer have a phobic reaction after successful CBT treatment. There is evidence that supports that eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) is effective in treating some phobias. Its effectiveness in treating complex or trauma-related phobias has not been empirically established yet. Mainly used to treat post-traumatic stress disorder, EMDR has been demonstrated as effective in easing phobia symptoms following a specific trauma, such as a fear of dogs following a dog bite

Fearless Version of Your Own Will Be Rescued Tomorrow!

Your Constitution of Fearlessness:

Have you forgotten the definition of fearlessness, only for memorizing the phrasal verbs of English grammar, the scientific names of Biology, The periodic table of Chemistry or the pages after pages of memorable dates of History?

     Yes, if it so, then keep it in mind that your next stop is in your death!!

Be brave. Be strong. Be fearless. - Quotes You Need
Be brave, Be strong in your personal life (Pic Source: Google)

14 billion years ago some accident made the universe  bang into existence. Another mysterious accident sprang to life on Earth . Even when the 1st cell is divided into two, Life has always struggled to survive. Even though death gives life its meaning, death is meaningless without a proper life. So will you be sure that you bravely utilized your life before you become the sustenance for insects?

Well, when India is celebrating her independence with a lot of propaganda, parades , songs & anthem, One question arises: Are you really free as an individual, neither as a resident of any state/ Metropolitan city nor as a proud citizen of an almost self-sufficient India?

So let’s not just sing songs and watch parades, rather ratify your own constitution for your own individuality ( so that the nuisance of hundreds of fears inside your heart temple cannot throw you out).

  1. Stop planning:  Too much planning makes us fearful – if the planning doesn’t come implemented, how will I manage? – This fear Kills the cells of our courage.
  2. Go back to Basics: While life intends to be happy in every step, the suggestion here goes like – Simplicity is the key to Happiness & fearlessness. Whenever & wherever you do something simple things, that comprises your creativity and that originality provides smile to your lips every time and you feel yourself out of fear in your own world.
  3. Release Control & Allow Yourself to make mistakes: Most of us fear not the ghosts or the scorpions; rather we fear to make mistakes — So allow yourself to make mistakes after all, that’s where learning and growth really happens. Learning comes from failures and that needs to release control. Your mistakes won’t make your head down, so make mistakes as much as you want & as long as you can.
  4. Learn to Love: Yes, you don’t know the definition of love at all. You think, love means love to any one sweetheart — No, not like that; as Nachiketa rightly pointed out —

“ভালবাসা কোন পেসমেকার নয়,

কোন এক বুকে নেবেই যা আশ্রয়;

ভালোবাসা তো মুক্ত হাওয়া;

বহু মনে খুজে পাওয়া;

নানা রাগে কোমল আর গান্ধার”

from “Ki Hobe” album of Nachiketa

The unconditional love will destroy the handcuffs of giant fear. 

5. Jerk out your ego: Once I heard one conversation of two friends : 1st one is asking the 2nd one, “why haven’t you wished Moonal (their mutual friend ) Happy Birthday?” Then the 2nd friend replied, “why would I ? She haven’t wished me on my birthday.”

         This is ego he hasn’t done. So I won’t do it. This Type of little little egoistic behavior will make us more unfree from the core of our hearts & that will carefully construct your fearful entity !So Get your ego out through your very breathing.

6. Stare at fearless people: Feel your brain with images of what you want it your tomorrow self to look like. Pick up your role models and contact them as you can weather in person through a book or online. That will serve the source to combat your fear.

7. Be aware of fear in your life: Before you begin overcoming fear you have to admit that you have it and besides you have to keep it in mind that fear is your normal site of being.

So take 10 minutes and write down some aspects of your life, where you feel fear. Get them down on paper and throw the script wherever you want that will plant a seed of fearlessness in your tender Heart.

8. Visualize your future situation without fear: Imagine yourself in a scary situation without fear. Think about the worst situation your life may pass through. What people do things fearlessly that will normally freak you out. Visualize yourself as that person and think what you would have done if it happened to you.

9. Be stupid, out of stereotypes: Remember once you are willing to risk the emotional pain of making mistakes, you will successfully Shed more fear than you ever imagined. The works that are stupid to others will help you obtain information by which you will invent your creativity. 

Keep in mind that if you copy something/ some Attitude from anywhere, there fear that will kill you every moment to lose the same; but what your creation it’s extremely yours and has no fear to be lost, rather your creativity will gradually possess the area that previously your fear possessed.

10. Read books: A lot of intellectuals will recommend you to read the books on how to succeed in life, but please refrain from obeying this advice as well as them! Read whatever you want with fearlessness. Read the books of failure. As followed by APJ Abdul Kalam, 

APJ Abdul Kalam’s Fearless Quote

The causes of being feared is rightly scripted in the song sung by Srikanto Acharya

“না রে, সাহস করে স্বপ্ন তো কেউ দেখছে না,

না রে, সত্যি কথা মুখ ফুটে কেউ বলছে না”

from “Bristi Tomake Dilam” album of Sikanto Acharya

So don’t delay, don’t cheat your life, do try in new adventurous activity, dare to experience the world in a different way. You are not sure if the alarm clock will be able to wake you up tomorrow, so wherever you face hindrance today, just pat your chest and say,

“Oo Chachchu, All Is Well”

Is it your anxiety .

“Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.”

—William S. Burroughs

Am I losing my mind or its just my mind playing tricks ?

In the world , where people are ready to fight against their competitor . What will happen when you loose ?

Or didn’t get what you desire the most ?

Would you accept the reality or choose to mourn for your loss.

Introduction

Do you ever feel anxious about going to the new place or meeting with new people ?

Do you ever feel the numbness in your body when you lost something or someone ?

Have you ever get overwhelmed by your fears ?

So what do you call it .

Is it an anxiety disorder?

Well hold your horses because it’s not . Like really we all feel anxious , hesitation , numbness , fear in our life . But if you think it’s an anxiety disorder . It’s a big NO .

If you want to know what is anxiety disorder and how to differentiate it from normal anxiety . You have to ask me .

SO . ASK . ME .

Well if you don’t ask me then also I will tell you .

When we feel something is crawling on our leg but didn’t find a thing . Instead of sleeping peacefully , we think of possible aspects that will make our night hell .

Well it happened with me and guess what , I always wake up middle of the night and try to find the invisible ghost ( is it only me who thinks about these weird things or it happened with you as well .)

Anxiety is when these types of situations happened only single time , maybe 2 or 3 times. But when these kind of situations happened every time whenever you sleep than maybe you have Anxiety Disorder.

What is Anxiety Disorder?

Let’s get to know about the Father before we get to know about the Son .

Anxiety is a feeling that comes and goes, but does not interfere with your everyday life.This type of anxiety is unpleasant, but it may motivate you to work harder and to do a better job.

But what about Anxiety Disorder . Well I am explaining just have some patience . You know patience is the virtue of life .

Yes , we were talking about the Son . I mean Anxiety Disorder . It is the feeling of fear may be with you all the time. It is intense and sometimes debilitating. These type of anxiety can cause more damage than you think about.

You will stop enjoy everything . In extreme cases you stop socialising with other and if it left untreated, it may be worse like you will kill yourself.

According to the APA ( American Psychiatric Association) , women are more likely than men to be diagnosed with an anxiety disorder.

Types of Anxiety Disorder

  • Panic Disorder .
  • Phobia .
  • Social Anxiety Disorder.
  • Separation Anxiety Disorder.
  • PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.)
  • Illness Anxiety Disorder .

In present world , PTSD is most likely to be found in the women rather than men. It happens when a person goes through some traumatic experience.

Symptoms:

  • Increased heart rate.
  • Rapid breathing.
  • Restlessness.
  • Trouble concentrating.
  • Difficulty falling asleep.
  • Stop trusting.
  • Worried about small things .

Remedies :

  • Getting enough sleep.
  • Meditating.
  • Staying active and exercising.
  • Eating a healthy diet.
  • Staying active and working out.
  • Avoiding alcohol.
  • Avoiding caffeine.
  • Quitting smoking cigarettes.

Conclusion :

Anxiety Disorder can be found in anyone from 5 year old boy to 80 year old woman or from 15 year old girl to 50 year old man. It may be cured , only if it treated properly . If not , it can cause some serious issue .

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

—Henry Stanley Haskins

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FEAR OF MARRIAGE

In Indian culture, marriage is very important to raise a generation.It is believed that the only goal of girls is to be married to someone .Girls only know one thing that they have to go to someones home after getting married thought to be a good wife, good daughter in law.
Just want their daughter to be good in their homes so that they should feel proud of them.Generally girls learn household work just only because one day they have to go to someones home as a wife and they have to do all those who work there

I think this thing is very wrong here if they have to learn household work then they have to learn for themselves then it is good. The first thinking of Gender inequality comes here in woman’s mind that the parents always forced them to do all these things just because they were female,. Why don’t they teach boys to do all those things?

It is changed in todays world but somewhere it is also the same as before.If boys just serve their own meal then a large argument starts in homes that why does their son serve their own meal. They have two sisters already.It is their job to serve everyone.

Just because of male dominance or patriarchal society. Women are not allowed to do what they like. Women are not allowed for studies just because parents think that if they study their expectations increases and parents faces many difficulties to discover a guy who is good for her.If women wants to go out of town for further studies they are not allowed just because of families in security or societal pressure at what if their daughters get attracted towards someone but why this is only for women? Men are always allowed to do what they want whether it’s a choice whether it’s the studies or whatever they want.It is all just due to thinking of everybody that girls have to do everything or they have to sacrifice their dreams, hobbies, likes and dislike just because they are female they have to go to someones home as a wife after marriage.

Just take an example – mom woke up early in the morning and from that time till late night they are busy in household work and It become daily routine because of this they forget how to enjoy their life.They sacrifice their dreams, hobbies, life for family. They don’t do anything for themselves because there has a lot of guilt attached with taking care of themselves, doing things for themselves. And we don’t even thinks about it. If we ask anyone Does your Mom eat something? Not only children her family members don’t know whether she take her meal or not.Just because we don’t notice this. why don’t we notice? It is just because of what we see from childhood.

In our culture, parents choose a guy for their daughters.How can two strangers live their whole life without knowing each other?

WEDDING MEANS LOVE, LAUGHTER AND HAPPILY EVER AFTER….

How can a normal marriage be?

All the proposal come through someone or other who tells the man’s family about lady or vice versa, then the man’s family would contact girl’s family or vice versa and then they ask for time and day to meet. Then match making occurs and then parents or family decide that both men and lady are made for each other.

Right???

Or what happens when this doesn’t work?

Women went through matrimonial hell. To meet random strangers and matchmakers, face a lot of judgements and criticism that leads to clinical depression and anxiety for them. They have to go through lots of rejection for just human beings.

How can anyone be judged by skin colour, body structure, body weight, height, & education?

And after all these women aren’t allowed to reject someone.If a guy is chosen by her family than women have to marry whether she wanted or not.

Everyone says women also have the right to choose their life partner, they are allowed to do what they want to do in their life. But in reality, just opposite is happening because we obey what parents want because this is what we see from our childhood.

It is not about matrimonial / marriage. It is about the Rights, wishes, likes and dislikes of a Woman who is been suppressed by either family or society. Just because of thinking…

Marriage is a very beautiful journey in everyone’s life. Just because of something we hate it or women thought that after marriage their life is going to hell. some women take it as a Golden cage or some take it as a most beautiful dream .so it depends upon how they think about it

What Anxiety Feels and Looks Like?

There is no way I am going to pass this paper. I don’t even wanna show up. I was so uncomfortable about that party. It was difficult for me to inhale and I got all sweaty. I had to leave. I won’t go to sleep or leave the house unless I have made sure that the stove is off and the doors are locked. Sometimes I do this three or four times. I have to get to the airport six hours early. You just never know what might happen

These are the voices of people who have experienced anxiety.


Anxiety and Fear is a common reaction to present or live events, like taking a final exam or speaking in front of a crowd. But when it becomes really uncomfortable and makes day to day life hard to live, then it’s a problem, or even what we call disorder. Some people have lived with anxiety for a long time. For them, their own anxiety feels like it’s about everything. They worry about so many things in so many ways. And it impacts their life for a long time. They stress about things that are about to happen or might happen, it means they can’t really focus or where they are or whom they are with. Sometimes it results in pounding of the heart, they speak really fast, and can kinda snap at people. Their family could get really frustrated with them. When it’s really bad, they experience having a knot in their stomach all the time. They can even feel depressed and just want to be alone. They feel like if they do something, they will screw it up or something will go wrong. So, a lot of times those people would just rather avoid it all. They feel much better just staying at home and maybe having a drink. Commute out anxiety is a very common mental health symptom. It can be the main sign for Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), which they have, or Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD), which is when people have a fear of being in public or meeting new people. For those of us with social and Generalized Anxiety Disorder, it’s really difficult to live in the way we want to live. Some people have anxiety about really specific things, are afraid of heights, snakes, spiders or something else. Now, these are called Phobias and when people avoid these things, the anxiety mostly stays away. But when people can’t avoid their phobias, that’s a real problem. Some people experience anxiety and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), which can make people really overcome with anxiety. In these conditions, anxiety can be so intense, that people are at the risk of suicide and they use alcohol and drugs to cope. Sometimes their lives feel like they have come to a halt. Some people are lucky ones, they reach out to doctors without considering it a taboo who tells them how to get the treatment that would help them. And it does, they understand now what their anxiety feels like, why it happens, what they can do about it. They got to learn some great coping skills. And just naming it helps them keep it in perspective. Sometimes their anxiety can still get pretty big, but it doesn’t seem to last quite as long as it used to. The anxiety is treatable. For most people, this is true. We can get our life back to where we want it to be.
It’s OK, everyone suffers from anxiety, without having worries, life can be too boring.

Fear

I have never been more frightened than when I came back home and met everywhere messed up,my eyes suddenly caught an envelope on the table beside me, I picked it up with my hands shaking and heart beating fast as if trying to escape my rip cage. My eyes almost fell out of it’s socket as saw what was written on and no time I was out running on the dark lonely road.
My phone ranged and I picked it up, a strong masculine voice came in,“don’t inform the police and hanged up the call.

My heart pounded again
The sideway of the of my mind
Darkened as I ran fast
as I could to the meeting place
And the sun had gone down

Only me running the street
With each footsteps taken
Something departs in me
New thought arrives
And new thought depart
My clouded mind with despair

What have I gotten myself into?
Should I call police on myself?
An hour had passed
Two hours speaking to
Each others on the phone

And now I stood at the meeting place,
peered at the window of my heart
find no light inside myself
Only some voices.

Went in and out of me
Only some bags of trash
So so terrifying
Each contained different body part of me
The limbs crawling
They eyes shading tears
The ear listening
The legs kicking

There is decapitated woman’s head
her eyes still open
Staring pieces me
Her mangled hair was all but gone
And lips parted
As if trying to tell me something

I couldn’t help myself
I screamed no words
I run but go nowhere
the arms took me away from my escape and hauled me a room With
A gasp I took in the gruesome and horrifying scene in front of me
Was A lifeless body, multiple wounds in her stomach and neck
Her arms and legs lay bent sideways and backwards
Blood soaked her hair and surrounded the girl’s face
It Pained me to admit
The Lifeless body is my sister
My Breath caught in my throat and couldn’t help the tears stream from my eyes.

The birth of ROMO

Till the time when everything was ‘normal’, there existed a phenomenon that was quite common and that which caused stress. Termed as ‘FOMO’, and acronym for ‘Fear of Missing Out’ which describes a perception that others are having a better life, experiencing better things and are having much more fun and you are leading just a regular life. This phenomenon has existed for many years, but with the advent and excessive use of social media, this phenomenon has gained too much importance. FOMO usually occurs when a bunch of your ‘social media’ friends post some photos of some event without you (usually displaying the positive aspect while hiding the negative aspect), you tend to measure your life on their scale and you consider your life to be very ‘normal’. You feel like you are missing out on all the fun. Over the years, FOMO has manifested itself due to ‘posts’ on Facebook and Instagram.

But wait, times have changed. COVID-19 has practically faded the phenomenon ‘FOMO’ which concurrently gave birth to ‘ROMO’, an acronym of ‘Reality of Missing Out.’ Not only this pandemic has paralysed the world, it has also erased the feelings of missing out on fun considering the fact that everyone is locked indoors. With ROMO, you know that it is not cool to go outdoors and have fun with friends while breaking the rules of isolation.

ROMO gives a feeling of despair while losing out to go on to even the simplest of things. Like going out for dinner to a nearby restaurant, missing out for an ice-cream treat at park, going out for grocery shopping or even simply just going out for a stroll. The usual feeling of ‘getting bored’ is now substituted by different conflicting feelings such as – ‘Will I die?’, ‘Will my parents be alive?’, ‘Will I ever be able to go out for a nice dinner?’, ‘Will I be able to enjoy life as before?’. Apparently, such questions keep on running across my or anyone’s mind.

Isolation and quarantine has practically crippled the entire world. Everything around us seems to be on hold – like we are waiting for some kind of a miracle to lift the veil of such darkness. Events like religious festivals, sports tournaments, summer parades at my school, convocation at my B-School, to name among a few, got cancelled. It is very heart wrenching to see that life is just pacing forward and we are actually missing our present and that is a very harsh reality. Family members waiting to receive their ‘chemotherapy’ sessions, pre-final year students waiting to get back to their college and grand-parents waiting to visit their children, and we all are waiting, running desperately to reach the end of the tunnel. Our present is fleeting like sand sifting through our fingers, waiting for everything to end.

It is rather funny to think that just a few months back, we all had the opportunity to make choices, deciding where to go and which options need to be thrown out of the window. But think about now. Do we actually have any opportunities to even think over?

Source: https://www.bloomberg.com/opinion/articles/2020-04-26/covid-19-has-taken-us-from-fomo-to-romo

Most frightening moments

MOMENT 1:

The doctor said I had three more hours.
I think I was stabbed, I don’t remember much. Nevertheless, I was at my home. I was going to take a bath. Something didn’t add up. I then woke up
I still felt the pain. Fear gripped me.
I was frightened that this might come to pass

MOMENT 2:

Dogs were crying, Cricket was on peak
Ticking of clock, Subtle BREATHING
Silence EVERYWHERE, Not in my heart, it was beating, STILL postures, Pointed look of eyes, Somewhere in the air
LIFE was LOST.

MOMENT 3:

I had never been more frightened than when I noticed I was walking alone and felt someone followed me. I hurriedly climbed the stairs with bags full of weekly groceries and went straight into the kitchen. No one are at home back home and I was expecting my father and mother in some time from their evening walk and as usual would expect the soup and salad immediately, followed with regular dinner. I suddenly felt silence all over and heard noise from my lift but ignored it. The fear wasn’t subsiding, I entered my room to safe guard myself . To my horror, It was my parents who are in the lift.

MOMENT 4:

I have never been more frightened than when, I remember was a kid playing at home, my mumma was taking afternoon nap and suddenly when I opened window I saw a big cat which was about to attack me.
That dreadful and cruel look of cat is still in my mind and always reminds me of that incidence whenever I see a cat.
“Ailurophobia is now part of my life”

MOMENT 5:

I had never been so frightened than the day I was standing alone among the gushing crowd of people! I felt as if I’m alone as I missed my 3 years old younger brother in the exhibition!

I still remember my promise to my aunt, “Don’t worry aunt, I will take care of him to the fullest! The exhibition might be crowded but my eyes will be fixed on him… Please send him with me!”

But now I feel like I can’t move to search for him. The feel of ‘he is gone forever’ never leaves my anxious heart! Nobody is here for me among the hundreds around me! My God! Am I still alive?

Dealing with Social Anxiety

Social anxiety is one of the most common anxiety disorders. It is a chronic mental condition where people have  intense fear of social interactions, making it hard to go out, make friends, or interact with others. People with social anxiety tend to fear and avoid social situations. They are very concerned that they will do something embarrassing, or that others will judge them. It is normal to feel anxious in social situations from time to time. For example, most people feel anxious when they have to speak in front of a large group. Social anxiety becomes a problem when it becomes quite distressing and starts getting in the way of your ability to function and enjoy life. Trivial tasks such as filling in a form with people around and eating in public places or with friends may become highly stressful for somebody with social anxiety.

Social anxiety can affect daily tasks, including school life, work, and other activities. Behavioral and emotional signs and symptoms include : fear of situations in which you may be judged, worrying about embarrassing or humiliating yourself, intense fear of interacting or talking with strangers, fear that others will notice that you look anxious, fear of physical symptoms that may cause you embarrassment, such as blushing, sweating, trembling or having a shaky voice, avoiding doing things or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment, avoiding situations where you might be the center of attention, having anxiety in anticipation of a feared activity or event, enduring a social situation with intense fear or anxiety, spending time after a social situation analyzing your performance and identifying flaws in your interactions, expecting the worst possible consequences from a negative experience during a social situation etc. The physical symptoms include: trembling, sweating , feeling nauseous , trouble catching your breath, avoiding eye contact, feeling dizzy , weeping, tantrums, clinging to parents, or isolation in children

In order to deal with social anxiety, we need to change the way we think, and change what we do. Methods to overcome social anxiety include:

  1. Social anxiety becomes a medical condition when everyday social interactions cause excessive fear, self-consciousness, and embarrassment. Anxiety can be harder to treat if you wait. Hence its important to get help. Medications and psychotherapy can help us gain confidence and improve our ability to interact with others.
  2. An important first step in learning to manage social anxiety involves better understanding your social anxiety. Take a couple of weeks to notice which situations cause you anxiety and what you experience physically when you are in those situations. Keep a journal or a list to keep track. It is a lot easier to manage your anxiety when you have a better understanding .
  3. When we’re in a social situation with a group of people, our focus of attention becomes totally caught up in our own thoughts and feeling. Hence, it is important to learn how to change our focus of attention and take more control over how we react to thoughts . We can learn to just notice the thoughts, acknowledge them, then let them pass and turn your focus of attention to something else.

Glossophobia

what comes to your mind when you see the word glossophobia, it may have occurred to you that as it something to do with the fear and then glosso may be, the fear of glasses, or the fear of glossy things. Actually this is a fear of speaking in front of many people, this   may be felt by most of you at first but it does not mean you are phobic. When a person has anxiety attacks and starts to feel really uncomfortable to actually keep his view in public. A fear of getting judged instills that person that stops him from speaking and he feels of just running away from the situation.

This phobia has many causes firstly being that if the person has a past experience of trauma that triggers the person every time one faces the stage. A child is not born with any such fear, there are only two innate fears that is fear of falling and fear of loud sounds. This phobia can be genetic but one comes to know only after growing up as they are put into the circumstances that enables them to recognize their fears. Its not like it does not have a cure, it does but it would take sometime and patience.

In 1860 a headlines was published saying ” The nervous side of Lincoln”  this was a letter which reveals his stage fear. Many people have shared this fear in them so if you have this fear you are not alone my friend!

What is important is to eliminate this fear rather than living with this, for how many days will you run away from presenting an amazing project you have designed, to your boss or to give a seminar in the class. Unfortunately in this present generation it is required that you not only have an amazing idea but also the calibre to present it, in front of the people. The most important thing is to overcome this fear  and to do that you have to work in small steps.

  1. Prepare a speech, and practice it in front of the mirror, till you become confident of delivering it to others without mistake
  2. Then ask your friends and family to listen to it, take their suggestions and improve your speech.
  3. Keep delivering speeches to your family and friends till the time you realize its time to take this to the next level and  that is to speak in front of unknown people.
  4. Then face your fear, go and  talk to unknown people and request them to listen to your speech, slowly and steadily try to increase the audience. Always make yourself remember why are  you doing this.
  5. Do this for a number of times, then lastly to test if your fear is fully gone, arrange audience but  dont prepare any speech let the talk be impromptu.  This guarantees that you are now free from the fear and now there is nothing stopping you from achieving anything in life.                                                                                                   This is just a way that is popularly used , it can take varied time to overcome fear for different people, this depends on how much they are motivated and how much they are learning each day.

 

What should be the main concern? Corona or Unemployment

What is the main reason behind our fear? Is it media, or the public fear or any other reason. We are making our opinions based on the information conveyed to us. Who takes the responsibility that information conveyed is correct? It is basically the incomplete information which we are receiving on the daily basis. Once we get the clear understanding that what is actually happening around us then this may happen that our fear is reduced a bit. Current scenario says that we have around 2,00,000 cases in India, more than 5000 people are dead, out of 40 lakh people being tested. The most important thing to understand is that what is the role of testing and what is the connection of the fear with it? If the question is asked to someone that what is the reason behind his/her fear? The answer would be because of the number of deaths. It must be noted that the death rate is 3% which means the ratio is 3:100. Is it true?

The population of India is 135 crore. Out of 135 crore people, testing is done only of 40 lakh people which is not even 1%. So out of 40 lakh people being tested, 2,00,000 cases are found positive. So, in this way the calculation went wrong. Each one of us is focusing upon the number of deaths and number of positive cases emerging on the daily basis. But, no one is noticing that these cases are growing as the number of tests are increasing so there arises a need that the actual death rate needs to be calculated. Thus, the decision should be made on that basis.

We do not need to under-report the number of deaths. Instead over-reporting can be done. People in India die in accidents more than they are dying due to Corona. We are actually setting up only the mathematical modelling of the figures. We don’t have the correct information conveyed to us. If the death rate is 0.01 % then why are we scared. Shouldn’t we be scared of other important things? Yes, unemployment should be our matter of concern. In one of the articles, it was mentioned that around 13 crore people are unemployed. We must be scared of this figure. It means that out of economic point of view, this 13 crore people would be spending in limit. Lacs of industries are already in trouble because their demands are getting reduced at the economic level. This will lead to the reduction of supply. Hence, unemployment would rise.

Everyone is trying to increase the fear among the people. Instead we must make efforts to remove the unemployment from the country and help the needy ones. The solution is that only the critical cases need to be tested. People having mild symptoms of Corona can be quarantined at home. Since, it is clearly analysed that it is nearly impossible to test the whole country then why the tests are increased on a daily basis? The death rate is less. So, reality is that we must focus more on the people who have lost their jobs in this pandemic.