Stay mentally healthy in Coronavirus pandemic

We all are going through the most difficult times, which nobody had even thought of. The increasing cases of Coronavirus scaring us, we are locked up in our house, there is a constant tension how to keep us and our family safe. Some of us are alone in their homes, from extroverts we are turning into introverts. All these things leading to a great impact on our mental health which sometimes leads to anxiety and depression. So, it is necessary to stay strong and keep yourself healthy. Here are some ways which help you to keep yourself mentally strong and healthy.

  1. STAY HAPPY – Try to be happy as much as you can. Pamper yourself. Do whatever you like. Wakeup in the morning, enjoy the sunrise, listen music, dance, read the book with coffee. Make your favourite food. Draw if you enjoy painting. Polish your skills. Get time for your hobbies. Do everything which you are not able to do in your daily busy life
  2. DO YOGA AND EXERCISE – Exercise and yoga improves both physical and mental health. According to Duane Milder, “Exercise boost levels of serotonine, dopamine and norepinephrine. It gives you a general good feeling about being in control in an otherwise uncontrollable situation. You can’t go to gym but go for a walk on your terrace or parking area. Do yoga in the fresh air. It will boost up your mood and help you to feel happy and stress-free for the whole day.
  3. DON’T FEEL “YOU ARE ALONE” – We are physically far from each other, not emotionally. Talk to your loved ones. Video call your friends, play games. Spend time with your parents. Don’t feel your are alone. Try to regularly talk to someone who are living alone. It will encourage them and you, and we will together go through this.
  4. EAT HEALTHY FOOD- Eat food which has lots of vitamins and minerals. Eat vitamin A and vitamin C rich food. It will help you to boost your immunity and protects you from seasonal illness.
  5. LIMIT THE NEWS- WHAT YOU ARE WATCHING OR READING- We all are scared from what is going around us, but don’t spend a lot of time in watching and reading about Coronavirus. It only increases the mental stress. Also don’t believe on news circulated on social media. Most of the time the news is fake and it leads to a lot of unnecessary stress.
  6. MAINTAIN POSITIVITY- The most important thing is maintain positivity and never lose hope. Always think that it is all temporary and it will end soon. Think that this is the time when you can spend quality time with your parents, partner, polish our skills, do yoga and exercise, spend time with yourself which is nearly impossible in your daily busy life. Try to look for the positive side of every situation. It will not only help you but your positivity encourage others too, to look for the positive side of the situation.

Try to follow these tips everyday .It will help you to go through this global pandemic. Mental health is as important as physical health. If you are not feeling well don’t hesitate to seek help. We need to keep phisical distancing so it doesn’t mean that you don’t socialise with people. Talk to people and your loved ones. This will surely help you to keep you mentally healthy.

Shampoos: Adding Grime & Subtracting Shine

We all crave for luscious, silky, thick, shiny and long hair, shampoo ads can blind us with the attractive videos and the visuals it has to offer, especially with a famous celebrity. We blindly trust the attractive and amusing shampoo ads which make us believe in drastic changes in the hair quality after we use that respective shampoo. It never really meets our demands. One is unknowingly damaging their hair by using such products.

Most of the shampoos which you get over the counter in stores are not SLS free, contain silicon and also are plastic based, which means the effects are temporary, most of us must have tried all the new brands available in the market to see a major improvement in our hair quality. But I wonder if anyone of us were really satisfied with the product.

Even though the products claim to have argon oil, grape seed oil and other essential oils which can solve our hair woes but the dangerous chemicals like cyclomethicone, copolymers, SLS or even methylchloroisothiazolinone are present in huge amounts in-comparison to the natural, organic and biodegradable components hence making no difference to the product and its users.

Shampoos which contain waxes, SLS and silicone etc. apparently lead to product build up on your hair, which is adding unwanted synthetic layers on your hair and eventually causing damage. Same goes for dry shampoos, hair gels, hair mousse and hair serums which state that it will replenish your hair and repair the damage but that’s not true after all. When one gets split ends or damaged hair there is no solution as such to clearing that damage by using products which state that it will “repair the damaged hair”. There is only one solution when it comes to the eradication of damaged hair that is to cut those hair off.

Not only this, but plastic based shampoos contain resins which are extracted from petrol(by products) and hence can cause hair product build up and with more product build up in the hair one is more exposed to a dandruff build up as well. The same goes for conditioners, they are loaded with silicone and waxes which gives us a temporary shine and makes your hair smooth and soft only for some time. Shampoos only act as cleansers and some of them are so harsh that if used without a conditioner they can make your hair super dry and frizzy.

They also contain colors and preservatives and synthetic essences which can become host to numerous allergies, and also thickening agents that actually damage the hair strands and it will strip the natural oils that our scalps create and can make the hair crisp and give it a parched appearance.

These shampoos not only are doing unwanted damage to our hair but are damaging the environment and polluting the ecosystem especially marine life and the sea creatures, one of the reasons behind coral bleaching is because of the chemicals found in hair care and skin care which are dumped in sea water, even the waste from factories producing silicon and plastic based shampoos causes a lot of damage to the sea life.

We all know that we don’t have many options to choose from when it comes to organic shampoos but one definitely must try and get their hands on an organic shampoo and see the difference it can make. Many brands like khadi, soul tree and Organic Harvest etc. offer some of the best organic and hair friendly products without damaging the environment. These brands are easily available on online e-commerce websites like Amazon or Nykaa which caters to a wide array of consumers.

Abdhi Upadhyay

Cotton College to Cotton University, Prestigious Institution in Guwahati: Journey Completed more than a Century

              In 2017, the famous institution of Assam popularly known as Cotton College has been upgraded to Cotton University.   The prestigious and famous Cotton College located at heart of Guwahati city viz., Panbazar was established in 1901 by Sir Henry Stedman Cotton, the Chief Commissioner of the erstwhile British province of Assam. It is the oldest institute of higher education not only in Assam but the whole of northeast India. Sir Cotton, had formally declared establishment of Cotton College under Calcutta University at a public meeting held on 27 May, 1901. Prof Fredrick William Sudmersen was the first principal of the College. After establishment of Gauhati University in 1948 the affiliation of Cotton College was transferred from Calcutta University to Gauhati University. The Historical change took place in 2017 when Cotton College which was 116 years old in 2017 has been upgraded to the University, recognized by the University Grants Commission. The Vision of the University is to make it a world-class one, excelling in developing knowledge both research and teaching.

     Dr. Bhabesh Chandra Goswami, then Professor of Chemistry, Gauhati University also Director, UGC-Human Resource Development Centre, Gauhati University has been assigned the coveted post of Vice Chancellor of the University in  July 2017. Prof. Jagdish Mukhi, the Governor of Assam is the ex officio Chancellor of Cotton University in accordance with the provision of the University Act.    Prior to upgrade the University, most of the departments of Cotton College offered post graduate courses from 1994 in addition to under graduate and higher secondary courses in humanities, social science and science streams.

    Presently, keeping the tradition of the erstwhile Cotton College, the University offers courses from Higher Secondary School Leaving Certificate in Arts, Social Science and Science streams and also there are courses in Graduate, Post- graduate and Ph.D. The graduate syllabuses of different subjects have been prepared by the faculty members of Cotton University, incorporating inputs from external experts. The subjects are: Anthropology, Arabic, Assamese, Bengali, Bodo, Botany, Chemistry, Computer Science and IT, Economics, Education, English, Geography, Geology, Hindi, History, Mathematics, Persian, Philosophy, Physics, Political Science, Sanskrit, Statistics and Zoology.

The postgraduate syllabuses also have been prepared by Cotton University faculty in collaboration with and external experts. These are Anthropology, Assamese, Bengali, Botany, Chemistry, Education, English, Geography, Environmental Biology & Wild life Science, Geography, Geology, Hindi, History, Mathematics, Master of Computer Applications (MCA), Molecular Biology and Biotechnology (MBBT), Persian, Philosophy, Physics, Political Science, Psychology, Sanskrit, Sociology and Statistics. In addition, there are Ph.D. programmes available in the University. It may be mentioned here that the Centre for Women’s Studies (CWS) at Cotton University, has been formally established in January 2020, which is headed by its Convenor and has one Assistant Professor. Further, the Internal Committee (IC) of Cotton University (2019-2022), is committed to provide neutral, confidential and supportive environment to members of the campus community and serves as the complaint redressal mechanism under the Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace (Prevention, Prohibition and Redressal) Act, 2013.  Moreover, the Cotton University Court in its First Meeting held on 3 May 2019 has accepted the First Statute of Cotton University, 2019.

    Time to time, I have interacted many students who had passed from then Cotton College and observed they felt bliss to study in the College because of its quality education. Most of the students were selected who scored high marks in the previous examination and teaching faculty members were also highly dynamic.  I wish the newly started University, which has been graduated from College to University, a great success as this year in educational arena, Cotton College to Cotton University has completed 119 years.  

The following websites have been consulted for writing the article:

  1. http://theshillongtimes.com/2017/06/02/assams-cotton-college-becomes-cotton-university
  2. https://cottonuniversity.ac.in/
  3. https://cottonuniversity.ac.in/index.php
  4. https://cottonuniversity.ac.in/page-details.php?subject=Graduate
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Dr. Shankar Chatterjee

Former Professor& Head (CPME)

NIRD &PR (Govt. of India),

Hyderabad-500 030

Telangana, India

Email <shankarjagu@gmail.com>

HISTORY OF JAIPUR- WHY IS IT PINK?

The capital city of Rajasthan, known for its unique architecture and tradition. One among the largest and the most visited places by the tourists. It has royalty in every facet and has two UNESCO World Heritage sites.

The reason behind it’s naming.
The main reason behind it’s naming is because of its founder, as it was founded by the ruler of Amer, Jai Singh II on 18 September,1727. Yes, it is one of the oldest cities in the country and the most populated too with a population of more than 30 lakh i.e. 10th in India.

Why is it known as the pink city?
The eldest son of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha was Albert Edward who was welcomed in the city during the rule of Sawai Ram Singh 1st. In the year 1876 in the honor of HRH Albert Edward, Prince of Wales it was painted pink as pink denotes hospitality, since then some of the buildings remained pink quoting it as the ‘pink city’. There are certainly other reasons like The devotion of Maharaja towards Lord Shiva whose favorite color was Terra Cotta.

Why did the Maharaja change the capital from Amber to Jaipur?
● Amer (Amber)was not able to expand due to its geography.
● Jaipur had the potential to develop into a city with proper drinking water.
● As Jaipur is situated near Aravali hills, it could be easy to provide some building materials.

Contribution to Architecture. The major contribution to the architecture of the city was by Bengali architect Vidyadhar Bhattacharya. The architecture of Jaipur is worldwide famous due to its specialized detailing and beauty based on Indian Vastu Shastra. As Maharaja Sawai Jai Singh II was an incredible astronomer and a town planner, he intended to design a town according to the principles of the Hindu architectural concept with the Vidyadhar and it took shape as Pink City Jaipur. It was divided into 9 blocks, two containing state-building, and palaces, while the rest seven were assigned to the public. Jaipur, which is deemed by many urbanists to be one of the best planned cities. While the city was under construction, it’s architecture was incredibly advanced and the best in the Indian subcontinent.
Famous for. Havelies, forts, museums, shopping markets, textiles, lac bangles, Teej festival, camel rides, city gates, and of course it’s traditional food including Ghevar, Kachori, Laal maas,paintings and certain accessories like jewelry, carpets.

Some famous sites-

Hawa Mahal. Made with pink and red sandstone, built in the year 1799 by Maharaja Sawai Pratap Singh, the grandson of Maharaja Sawai Jai Singh, the sole founder of the city Jaipur. Commonly known as the Palace of wind. The main thing which makes Hawa Mahal unique is it has about 953 windows, these windows were designed so that royal ladies we’re able to glance at the daily lifestyle, market, and festivals which were celebrated in the streets.
Jantar Mantar, a scientific architecture. An astronomical piece of artwork built-in the early 18th century, known for its cosmological concepts and by far India’s most preserved historic observation. The Jantar Mantar is protected under the Rajasthan Monuments Archaeological Site and Antiquities Act, 1961, under Sections 3 and 4. It was designated a monument of national importance in 1968. https://whc.unesco.org/en/list/1338/

TOURISTS AND TRAVELLERS SHOW A GREAT INTEREST IN THIS CITY AS IT HAS VARIOUS OTHER SIGHTSEEING PLACES, SO IF YOU ARE A TRAVELLER THIS PLACE IS A MUST TO INCLUDE IN YOUR TRAVEL DIARY.

Black lives Matter vs All lives Matter

Black lives matter is one of the most significantly important movements to have taken place against the continuous systematic oppression on the Black people across the globe. It originally emerged as a rebellious movement by the African-American population in 2012 when an African-American teenager named Travyon Martin was shot and murdered by George Zimmerman in Sanford, Florida.


This movement was apparently inspired by the 1980s Black Feminist movement along with the movement of Pan-Africanism. Both these movements emerged from the continuous socio-political oppression towards the Black people. Pan-Africanism also focused on developing a sense of solidarity among all the native cultural communities residing in Africa.


With the growing amount of violence and oppression, the chief significance of this movement has been proved over and over again. In 2013 #blacklivesmatter developed to be a popular hashtag in different social media forums. Their first in-person rally was organized by its members in August, 2014. In the same year, Michael Brown was killed by the cops, contributing to the systematic violence against the black community.


On May 25,2020 another African-American man named George Floyd was brutally murdered by a white cop, who pressed his knee on Floy’s neck for nearly 10 minutes which led to a lack of oxygen in his body due to the continous choking and eventually he died. After this heinous incident, people from different parts of the world started protesting against this continuous process of oppression by the police generals towards Black people.


However, another group of people started another movement called All lives Matter in a generalized form which, according to them, covers a wider range of perspective including all human beings residing on earth. Several people even talked about how animal cruelty is a certain problem that is being overlooked by Black Lives Matter unlike All lives Matter.


The problem with this movement is that it fails to grasp the original essence and the true meaning of the former movement. It shows how lack of knowledge and ignorance towards a particular matter can lead to such movements that lack the very concept of the main ideology.


All lives Matter is not only a misleading one, but it also goes on to establish itself as a racist one since it totally overlooks the systematic hegemony followed by brutal violent incidents towards the Black people which have been going on since the beginning of time. This internalized racism is not identified by ALM promoters who seem to completely disregard the specific issues that Black people have been constantly dealing with. It also fails to show solidarity and unity but rather brings about a sense of generalization and obliviousness of the BLM movement.


The basic objective of BLM is to fight against the oppressive violence imposed upon them and it never aims at belittling the struggles and abuses other people/animals go through. However, this notion seems to have been misinterpreted by the ALM promoters who have taken up the responsibility of promoting the importance of every organism without even comprehending the origin of the BLM movement.


Another movement called Blue Lives Matter (BLM) has evolved as a countermovement by some retired law officers in the United States of America promoting the importance of reserving law officers along with a demand to punish those who seem to oppose the preconceived so-called law orders under hate crime statutes.


However, these countermovements go on to prove to what extent this internalized racism and ignorance have taken over people’s lives, that they choose to be blind and deaf whenever it comes to violent occurrences towards Black people. The fact that these movements have so many promoters and followers further shows the level of idiocy, lack of knowledge and sheer ignorance towards the real violence that so many people, even today, seem to possess as an internalized systematic approach within their behavioral system.

– Suvasree Bandyopadhyay.

Bombay HC comes to rescue a 70-yr old widow

‌Bombay High Court has recently rescued a 70 year old widow after she was torture by her daughter. The widow was kept under house arrest whose shoulder was fractured and nerves were broken for months. She was kept without any proper medical support and was being tortured physically and mentally. This is so pathetic that if children cannot take care of their parents then at least they must not make their lives a living hell. The judges got to know after talking to the petitioner, that she witnessed serious torture and harassment from her daughter if she went to live at her own flat with the daughter. The bench said that they are not going to pass any order directing the daughter to make some arrangements due to the pandemic and the problems that individuals are facing.

‌ The elderly woman sought eviction under the Maintenance and Welfare of Parents and Senior Citizens Act, 2007 after she was brutally abused by her daughter and her son. But she could not get urgent help or relief due to the coronavirus pandemic. She further claimed that her abusive daughter was in a bad company since long in 1998. She even eloped with her boyfriend who had a criminal background. Later on, she was abandoned by him along with her son. After she returned to her parents place at Lokhandwala and started living there forcibly. She then started harassing both of her parents. She left both of her mother and father helpless and threatened to falsely accuse her father.

‌This must be a lesson to all of us. It is our responsibility to take care of elderly parents. The elderly people are our ancestors. Since they have taken care of our childhood so we need need to take care of them as well. Society today is no longer parent-oriented. Earlier people were living with their children because they were too old to work but now this is not the trend. We notice that the elderly people are moving out of their homes to places that cater to their needs. Such stories about mistreatment of the elderly people are horrifying. According to an activist, many citizens in Delhi had been verbally abused, while 33% of them had been physically abused. This is not just an urban phenomenon that witnesses abusing and abandoning of the senior citizens. This happens in rural India too. The family system is eroding, with the younger generation moving towards the cities along with their spouses and their children to start new life while leaving their parents or grandparents away in rural.

‌People are seeking help from the law to get justice. Things have come to such a situation now, that the old people have to petition the government for care. What kind of life is that? How to overcome this issue? Well, this is so so simple. Today’s youngsters are so busy exploring the new technologies, need to spend some time daily to learn moral values of life, should practice ethical living. They should take out some time to talk to their parents and relatives along with their academics.

How to Become a better Communicator?

Although most of us take compulsory communication lessons in schools/colleges/coaching centres, many people still find it difficult to communicate with other people freely in order to express their point of views and needs. There have been several studies by psychologists who have come up with various reasons that cause these problems following with several tips that can be followed in order to improve communication skills. If you are one of them who finds it not-so-easy to communicate with other people, this article is for you!


1. Take Sufficient Time before Responding


A study shows people who face the difficulty to communicate often tend to make the mistake of not taking enough time before giving a reply. If you are one of them who has been making this mistake, try to stop. Take your time, think and then reply.

2. Be attentive!


If you start thinking of a reply as soon as the other person asks something, you are making a big mistake that is eventually causing misunderstanding in the conversation. Being attentive is a skill that everyone must acquire. Listen to the other person carefully, take your time to process what they are saying, think and then start replying. This will help you to become a better communicator.

3. Maintain Eye Contact.


Never forget to maintain eye contact while having a conversation for it enhances self-confidence and helps the conversation to be more engaging and intimate.

4. Maintain a flexible body language!


Do not make the mistake of standing like a statue while having a conversation. It makes you look static and rigid. For the betterment of the conversation, start loosening it a bit. Casual hand gestures and movements make it way easier and smoother. Try it!

5. Use simple words and phrases.


Do not make the mistake of using jargons and unnecessary complex phrases to create a cool intellectual image. It simply does not work. Use simple sentences to communicate. It makes the communication smoother and the other person finds it easily comfortable to have the conversation with you.

6. Ask questions.


Instead of being the one who is there only to reply/answer, start asking questions. The questions do not necessarily have to be intellectual or tricky, simple casual questions can make the conversation better. Do not forget you also have to get the other person engaged. So try being the listener sometime. It works!


7. Focus on earning respect

There is a misconception everywhere about the funniest person in the room to always be the smartest one. To some extent it needs to be rephrased. Being the comedian/memer who can make anyone laugh is someone who is humorous, yes. But, the smartest person in the room is always the one who manages to earn the most respect from anyone and everyone in the room. Try being that guy who everyone respects. It will help the other people to have more engaging conversations with you. Therefore, While having a conversation do not forget (timings are important) to mention the achievements that you are proud of.
If you are one of those people who finds it difficult to haqve good conversations, do follow these simple steps to see a rapid transformation in your communication skills.

– Suvasree Bandyopadhyay.

The Concept of Shivling

Since the time immemorial, the Shivlings are being worshipped in the Indian subcontinent.These days, several excavations, conducted by the archaeological department, unearthed the life-size Shivlings from various sites. Some of them are- 1. A 9th century Shivling from Vietnam. 2. A 5 feet tall Shivling from Ayodhya 3. A 4000 years old Shivling from Bhabhaniyav village near Varanasi 4. An 18 feet tall Shivling from Bhiraveswara Swamy Temple atop the Mopuru hillock in Kadapa district 5. An ancient Shivling from Faridpur village near Karnal 6. An ancient Shivling from Sinauli near Baghpat

With this link, I will today talk about Shivling and it’s concept in today’s era.

The Holiest Shivlings of India

There are 12 Jyotirlings and 5 Panchabhut-lings in India –

  • Jyotirlings:  Kedarnath, Kashi Vishwanath, Somnath, Baijnath, Rameswar, Ghrishneswar, Bhimshankar, Mahakaal, Mallikarjun, Amaleshwar, Nageshwar, and Trayambakeshwar
  • Panchbhuta-lings:Kalahastishwar, Jambukeshwar, Arunachaleshwar, Ekambareshwar of Kanjivaram, and Nataraja of Chidambaram
The Shivling of Kashi Vishwanath Temple (Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh)

Let us now figure out what a Shivling is and what are the concepts associated with it. A Shivling is an aniconic representation of Lord Shiva – the Destroyer. The term aniconic means a symbol that is associated with a deity. For example, the Dharmachakra is associated with the Budhdha. Similarly, it’s identifiable that Shivling is associated with Lord Shiva only.

History of Shivling

The Shiva Purana describes the origin of the Shivling, as cosmic pillar or a stambh of fire and the cause of all causes, neither having a beginning nor an end. However, few scholars have thrown ample amount of light on the fact that Shivling was referred to ‘Prayapas’ by the Romans who introduced the worship of Shivling in the European countries. The statutes of Shivling have been also found in the site of Babylon, a city of ancient Mesopotamia. Furthermore, the archeological findings in Harappan Civilisation, which yielded numerous Shivaling statutes, have disclosed the existence of a highly evolved culture existing before the immigration of the Aryans in the subcontinent.

https://www.speakingtree.in/allslides/little-known-facts-about-shivalinga

The symbolisms of Shivling

The concepts associated with Shivling

The Shivling represents the Brahmanda (the cosmic egg). It signifies that the creation is acquired by the union of the male (Purush) and the female (Prakriti) powers of nature. Scholars have identified the ling as a Phallic representation of Shiva, associated with fertility in some sense. Further, it has been analysed that Shivling has a scientific concept. The structure of the Shivling is extremely close to the construction of a nuclear reactor. It is composed of two parts :- the first part is a cylindrical structure, which is made of smooth black stone. The second part is the one that’s around the cylindrical structure.

The concept of Shivling and nuclear science- the above mentioned fact clearly highlights that the Shivling is actually the representation of a nuclear reactor.The Shivling has a pot of water hanging over the cylinder. It drips water upon the cylinder at a continuous pace. It flows out through the spout of the cylinder’s grooves.This water is not consumed as holy water in Shiva’s temple. The pot of water hanging above the cylinder is similar to the water that is needed to cool down a nuclear reactor.

This water is applied to the nuclear reactor as it heats up while generating energy.

The grooves around the cylinder of the Shivling signify the structures that are built to dispose of the polluted water from the nuclear reactor. Again, this water cannot be consumed, since it is polluted with nuclear waste and radiation.

The nuclear reactor

In this picture, it is crystal clear that the nuclear reactor depicts a Shivling-type structure. This also reflects the fact that perhaps the Shivlings were models of nuclear reactors, apart from having some religious, philosophical, metamorphical and aesthetic contexts, hence.

Why It’s Worth It To Pay The Costs of Being Yourself



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“Being yourself” isn’t always easy. It means being honest about who you are – how you think, feel, and act – and sometimes that may turn people off.

In this way, being yourself comes with costs. People will see you. People will judge you. Some people will like you, some people will hate you, and plenty of people won’t even care about you. Ouch.

In the classic book On Becoming A Person: A Therapist’s View of Psychotherapy, psychologist Carl Rogers goes in-depth about the importance of being true and authentic to yourself, and why sometimes this isn’t always an easy and pleasant experience.


“In my relationships with persons I have found that it does not help, in the long run, to act as though I were something that I am not. It does not help to act calm and pleasant when I am actually angry and critical. It does not help to act as though I know the answers when I do not. It does not help to act as though I were a loving person if actually, at that moment, I am hostile. It does not help for me to act as though I were full of assurance, if I actually I am frightened and unsure. Even on a very simple level I have found that this statement seems to hold.”
Being open to others about who you are means being open about both the “good” and “controversial” aspects about yourself – which can be painful – but what’s most important is that people will know you and understand you better.

Thus, the people who like you will actually like you for who you really are, not what you pretend to be. And having one real relationship with someone who “gets you” is more fulfilling than a hundred fake relationships with people who like a “pretend you.”

In theory, most people agree that “being yourself” is a good thing. But what does it really mean? Is it even possible to be anything else?

Technically, you can never be anything but yourself. It’s whatever you are – right now – in this present moment. Yet that doesn’t stop people from struggling to “be themselves” on a daily basis.

What do people usually mean by that?

Many people walk through life feeling as though they are constantly “putting on an act” for others. Sometimes we put on masks for others and hide our true face. We try to meet countless expectations. And we hide the parts about ourselves that don’t seem favorable.

We do this mostly for the sake of social appearances and social reputation. It’s tremendously important to be accepted by others and to have strong relationships. So we think, “Why risk showing parts of myself, if that could mean threatening my relationships and losing people in my life?”

It’s a question we all ask ourselves in some way: “How much of myself should I really show this person? How much of myself should I really hide?”

You don’t need everyone to know your life story, but the deeper your relationships are, the more a person should know who you are.


We all struggle with dealing with superficial relationships. These are most common at work, school, and environments where we need to be professional and “down to business.”

However, we need realness too. We need people we can share our innermost thoughts and feelings with. And most importantly, we need to be real with ourselves.
On Becoming A Person is a classic book by humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers, the founder of “client-centered therapy.” It’s a highly influential work on the importance of being true and authentic to ourselves.

“Being yourself” and person-centered therapy


Carl Rogers is most well-known for starting the “person-centered therapy” movement.

According to this type of therapy, one of the most important things a therapist can provide is unconditional positive regard. Instead of judging the client, or trying to fix their problems, the goal of the therapist is to provide an avenue for the individual to express themselves in a free and unlimited way.

By exercising “unconditional positive regard” – accepting the person for who they are, without trying to change them – the person is given the opportunity to grow on their own terms and discover who they really are and what they want to be.

One of Carl Rogers most famous quotes is:

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
The goal of person-centered therapy is to make this process easier for the client by providing them a space to explore themselves and discover more about themselves without judgment.

A good therapist must be accepting, empathetic, and able to listen to a client express their innermost thoughts and feelings without always needing to provide a solution or explanation.

Interestingly, this approach to therapy is very consistent with a theory in psychology known as common factors theory.

According to “common factors” theory, all specific therapies are equally effective (Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, etc.) and what matters most is the relationship between the client and the therapist.

Basically, it often doesn’t matter what type of therapy is being used as long as the therapist and client have a strong, trustworthy, and accepting relationship. That’s what’s most important.

“Being yourself” is a process of becoming

One of the keys to truthfully and authentically “being yourself” is recognizing that you’re a dynamic process – not a fixed thing.

Who you are today is probably different from who you were 10 years ago. And who you will be 10 years from now will likely be different than who you are today.

You are always changing. From moment-to-moment, day-to-day, month-to-month, and year-to-year.

So when you think about “being yourself” or “discovering yourself,” recognize that you aren’t searching for a fixed thing, but a process that is always changing and unfolding.

Here Carl Rogers reflects on this “process of becoming” as it relates to therapy:

“When he enters the therapeutic relationship, the client is likely to wish to achieve some fixed state: he wants to reach the point where his problems are solved, or where he is effective in his work, or where his marriage is satisfactory. He tends, in the freedom of the therapeutic relationship to drop such fixed goals, and to accept a more satisfying realization that he is not a fixed entity, but a process of becoming.”
This is one of the major themes throughout On Becoming A Person: it’s important to understand that you are a “process of becoming” and to recognize the changing nature of yourself.

Similarly, the therapist must also view their client as a “process of becoming.” And according to Rogers, this is why we must also be careful of using labels or diagnoses:

“If I accept the other person as something fixed, already diagnosed and classified, already shaped by his past, then I am doing my part to confirm this limited hypothesis. If I accept him as a process of becoming, then I am doing what I can to confirm or make real his potentialities”
It helps in all of your relationships – both with yourself and with others – that you recognizing the changing nature of people, and everyone’s ability to grow into a better person, especially yourself.

This attitude often helps us to maximize our relationships with others.

“Being yourself” and real relationships

Here are some final thoughts from Carl Rogers on the importance of “being yourself” and why it’s essential for keeping your relationships real:

“Being yourself doesn’t ‘solve problems.’ It simply opens up a new way of living in which there is more depth and more height in the experience of your feelings, more breadth and more range. You feel more unique and hence more alone, but you are so much more real that your relationships with others lose their artificial quality, become deeper, more satisfying, and draw more of the realness of the other person into the relationship.”
Like he says, sometimes being yourself can make you feel more unique and more alone.

When you are yourself truthfully, that may turn some people off who you are incompatible with. But that’s okay, because you’d rather have those few real relationships instead of a bunch of fake ones.

In this way, the rewards for “being yourself” far outweigh the costs.

Block chain Technology- Implementations

You must have heard a lot about the emergence of blockchain, isin’t? But here in this article, we will focus on the practical issues for blockchain implementation.

Introduction

In the tech world, blockchain technology is still the leading buzzword. Its ability to work in a distributed environment without getting tampered is the core source behind all the hypes.

As the technology is still in its developing phase, despite various possibilities in almost every sector, it will still take some course of time to get over all the challenges it is facing right now. Let’s explore what the practical blockchain implementation issues are.

As blockchain is revolutionizing rapidly, its scope and career opportunities are beyond imagination. If you are looking to start a profession in blockchain space and want to become a blockchain expert or a blockchain developer, favorable chances are on its way.

Practical Blockchain Implementation Issues

Blockchain technology is an algorithmic immutable ledger that presents a future-ready architecture for organizations to transact and exchange business-related information securely.

Does it mean it has no challenges? Of course not. There are various challenges associated when it comes to implementation. So let’s get started.

Lack of Internal Blockchain Knowledge

The first and foremost challenge while implementing blockchain is that most organizations have insufficient knowledge about technology. Companies do not have Blockchain experts and professionals who clearly understand the core concept of technology.

Thus organizations find it challenging to choose and adopt the best enterprise blockchain platform. Moreover, the companies are not aware of blockchain implementation steps that should guarantee the best outcome.

High Implementation Cost

Although popular enterprise blockchain platforms such as Hyperledger Fabric have made great strides in terms of the transaction speeds( just about twice the rate over VISA platform), most of the existing platforms such as Bitcoin(transacts 3 to 5 transactions per second ) and Ethereum (up to 15 transactions per second ) are inefficient in terms of speed of transactions and the energy consumption. Thus we can infer that the most convenient blockchain platforms come at a vast implementation and energy costs.

Backup and Recovery

Backup and recovery of data for blockchain networks are also one of the significant implementation issues. Although theoretically, creating a new node is easy, but it’s not practical spending several hours for a new node to sync with existing blockchain nodes and transfer configuration metadata. The recovery becomes even more critical when there is a requirement to migrate a node across datacenters.

Data privacy

Data privacy is a crucial bottleneck problem in blockchain as most enterprises do not appreciate the case where anyone can view their sensitive data, which might be delicate to their core business. Those who plan to share confidential business data are worried about confidentiality between several participants and shielding this data from access by other companions.

But, when blockchain nodes are run as a managed cloud service with users only able to access them through the APIs and event subscriptions, data privacy can be maintained to a great extend.

Blockchain Interoperability

Although they are various enterprise blockchain platforms, interoperability is a pertinent issue to which Blockchain developers are looking for mass adoption. The basic idea is to join one particular platform and to utilize the service on another enterprise platform if required without any severe compatibility problems.

Therefore, developers are finding a way through which users of different software can interact and conduct meaningful business.

Performance

In the blockchain network, the performance requirement is never the same. It varies from one scenario to the other. Like for example, the performance metrics include throughput and latency, and outcomes will vary in terms of network size and hardware configurations, and the tradeoffs between higher throughput versus lower latency.

Thus, based on the deep understanding of the business demands and platform architecture, a reasonable performance optimization solution needs to be adopted.

This is not the end of the list. Moreover, a lack of regulatory clarity is one of the significant implementation issues. Many governments are still unsure about how they consider this technology from a legal standpoint, and this leads to complexity.

Conclusion

Enterprise blockchain is gaining popularity and adoption in almost all sectors and for different use cases. Although blockchain might seem to be offering several advantages to the industries, it needs to be re-architected depending on various use cases for greater acceptance of enterprise blockchain in the mainstream.

The buzz around blockchain probably won’t subside, so hurry up and upgrade your skills now with the best online Blockchain certification courses.

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Corona how changed the system of Education

From pen paper to mobile and Tablet

The Education system has changed thouroghly through this pandemic situation. Before this crises also we were motivating the system to be worked with the help of digital world. But In today’s scenario this platform provides the strength of Education system. From the primary education to graduation level , it helps out students to keep them engaging and they also understand the things too.

The question arises after the Corona, are student go back to accept the offline medium. They definitely say yes, but although it makes them disturbing . So after this situation this system has to keep this platform on for the betterment of Education. Afterall Education is the most important thing for any individual.

But we dont had to forget that how much this platform is helpful also it is dangerous if they try to escape the steps , so under careful observation only, this platform helps out. For Exams, this platform may be a controversial issue, but through special apps ,we easily vigilance student and check their ability.

Overall we can say that in this pandemic situation of COVID 19, the use of digital platform provide the connection between teachers and students, which is vital for their Educational growth. So, through the effective use of digital platform , we are saving the world from illiteracy. And it also helps student to be updated about their Academics.

“Indians Against Racism, Brutality . The biggest Hypocrisy?”

“Living in this 21st centuries, with believing in the disbelief of discrimination or any act which divides humanity and differentiate one human from other. We believe that talent,wisdom, knowledge and sense of responsibility and respect for others is far above any individuals background be it a colour or gender or caste or anything. This all brings out the feeling of togetherness around the globe”.

But there are various scenarios and situation we come across in our day to life which shows a strong reflection of these brutal act of racism and discrimination. The true difference between the earlier times and present scenario is that people come up for their friends or any person against whom such act has been done, which truely is an act of humanity and harmony. The present case of death of African American name “George Floyd” in America has again brought the sense of brotherhood and people are standing for him to gain justice of the brutal killing.

Indians not apart from Americans are also standing for George who lost his life in the police encounter. They are also appealing for justice for this man. This act has drawn the attention of people worldwide and people from different countries have been coming in support to stop racism.

But in case of India, where not only racism but also police brutality has been seen and is still active in today’s scenario. We in general hear , how police has been brutal hitting people, especially those in today scenario of pandemic. Various cases have been observed from number of cities india, that how police men are hitting daily wage worker, those having stalls of vegetables, and many other situations. Death of number of people has also been recorded as an encounter with police.

Also the cases of racism and discrimination based on caste and especially gender has been seen widely around the country. So the point of concern is “Why such kind of Hypocrisy”. Before pointing out anything wrong being conducted in any country, one should watch out what’s going around their own surrounding”. It’s easy to point out wrong things and do protest against these things, but the power and wish to do Right matters the most.

There have been various cases of brutal killing of common man by the police force, but no actions have been observed in such situations. We say it’s bad to discriminate people on the bases of colour, and we only buy those creams and powder to make our skin glow. It’s not about that police is wrong in every scenario, we know they are doing their duty and are concern for the law and order to maintain, but any act of brutality should not be taken easily and strict action must be taken against such acts.

So we have to come out of these hypocrisy and work together to get rid out of these brutal acts of killing of innocent people and discriminating any one on the bases of their caste, religion, gender or colour

“We all are humans and we should respect the fact that, out of all, Humanity is the biggest and the most important factor which will help us all to survive difficult situations be it any pandemic or natural calamities, but all we need to do is spread around peace, harmony and sense of brotherhood as this world is full of difficulties but once we stand against them with hand in hand and stand by each other, we will win over them”.

THE WEIRDOS OF THE UNIVERSE

There’s no questioning the fact that the universe is weird. Just look outside and you’ll see all manner of strange, self-reproducing flora and fauna, crawling upon a blue ball of semimolten rock covered in a thin, hard shell and blanketed by a tenuous film of gases. Yet our own planet represents a tiny fraction of the peculiar phenomena that can be found lurking throughout the cosmos, and every day astronomers turn up new surprises. In this gallery, we take a look at some of the most outlandish objects in space.

Beauty of the universe
Is in the Nature’s serenity
Preserve it and protect it
For the everlasting eternity
The wrath and fury of Nature
As result of man’s arrogance
To win over the Planet
Has to be stopped immediate
So that we have our Mother Earth
Shining and saving us for
An assured future to find
For the benefit of mankind

Mysterious Radio Signals

Since 2007, researchers have been receiving ultrastrong, ultrabright radio signals lasting only a few milliseconds. These enigmatic flashes have been called fast radio bursts (FRBs), and they appear to be coming from billions of light-years away (they’re not aliens, it’s never aliens). Recently, scientists managed to capture a repeating FRB, which flashed six times in a row, the second such signal ever seen and one that could help them unravel this mystery.

Nuclear Pasta

The strongest substance in the universe forms from the leftovers of a dead star. According to simulations, protons and neutrons in a star’s shriveled husk can be subject to insane gravitational pressure, which squeezes them into linguini-like tangles of material that would snap — but only if you applied to them 10 billion times the force needed to shatter steel.

Haumea Has Rings

The dwarf planet Haumea, which orbits in the Kuiper Belt out beyond Neptune, is already unusual. It has a strange elongated shape, two moons and a day that lasts only 4 hours, making it the fastest-spinning large object in the solar system. But in 2017, Haumea got even weirder when astronomers watched it pass in front of a star and noticed extremely thin rings orbiting around it, likely the result of a collision sometime in the distant past.

A moon with a moon

What’s better than a moon? A moon orbiting a moon, which the internet has dubbed a moonmoon. Also known as submoons, moonitos, grandmoons, moonettes and moooons, moonmoons are still only theoretical, but recent calculations suggest that there’s nothing impossible about their formation. Perhaps astronomers may one day discover one.

Dark-Matter-Less Galaxy?

Dark matter — the unknown substance comprising 85 percent of all matter in the universe — is strange. But researchers are at least sure about one thing: Dark matter is everywhere. So team members were scratching their heads over a peculiar galaxy they spotted in March 2018 that seemed to contain hardly any dark matter. Subsequent work suggested that the celestial oddity did in fact contain dark matter, though the finding paradoxically lent credence to an alternative theory positing that dark matter doesn’t exist at all. Get it together, astronomers!

The Most Bizarre Star

When astronomer Tabetha Boyajian of Louisiana State University and her colleagues first saw the star known as KIC 846285, they were flummoxed. Nicknamed Tabby’s star, the object would dip in brightness at irregular intervals and for odd lengths of time, sometimes by as much as 22 percent. Different theories were invoked, including the possibility of an alien megastructure, but nowadays, most researchers believe the star to be surrounded by an abnormal ring of dust that’s causing the darkening.

Highly Electric Hyperion

The title of weirdest moon in the solar system could go to many celestial objects — Jupiter’s overly volcanic Io, Neptune’s geyser-spewing Triton. But one of the strangest looking is Saturn’s Hyperion, a pumice-stone-like irregular rock pockmarked with numerous craters. NASA’s Cassini spacecraft, which visited the Saturn system between 2004 and 2017, also found that Hyperion was charged with a “particle beam” of static electricity flowing out into space.

A Guiding Neutrino

The single, high-energy neutrino that struck Earth on Sept. 22, 2017, wasn’t, on its own, all that extraordinary. Physicists at the IceCube Neutrino Observatory in Antarctica see neutrinos of similar energy levels at least once a month. But this one was special because it was the first to arrive with enough information about its origin for astronomers to point telescopes in the direction it came from. They figured out that it had been flung at Earth 4 billion years ago by a flaring blazar, a supermassive black hole at the center of a galaxy that had been consuming surrounding material.

The Living Fossil Galaxy

DGSAT I is an ultradiffuse galaxy (UDG), meaning it is as big as a galaxy like the Milky Way but its stars are spread out so thinly that it is nearly invisible. But when scientists saw the ghostly DGSAT 1 in 2016, they noticed that it was sitting all alone, quite unlike other UDGs, which are typically found in clusters. Its characteristics suggest that the faint object formed during a very different era in the universe, back just 1 billion or so years after the Big Bang, making DGSAT 1 a living fossil.

Double Quasar Image

Massive objects curve light, enough so that they can distort the image of things behind them. When researchers used the Hubble Space Telescope to spot a quasar from the early universe, they used it to estimate the universe’s expansion rate and found that it is expanding faster today than it was back then — a finding that disagrees with other measurements. Now physicists need to figure out if their theories are wrong or if something else strange is going on.

Infrared Stream from Space

Neutron stars are extremely dense objects formed after the death of a regular star. Normally, they emit radio waves or higher-energy radiation such as X-rays, but in September 2018, astronomers found a long stream of infrared light coming from a neutron star 800 light-years away from Earth — something never before observed. The researchers proposed that a disk of dust surrounding the neutron star could be generating the signal, but the ultimate explanation has yet to be found.

Rogue Planet with Auroras

Drifting through the galaxy are rogue planets, which have been flung away from their parent star by gravitational forces. One particular peculiarity in this class is known as SIMP J01365663+0933473, a planet-size object 200 light-years away whose magnetic field is more than 200 times stronger than Jupiter’s. This is strong enough to generate flashing auroras in its atmosphere, which can be seen with radio telescopes.

The beauty of the sea!
The beauty of nature,
The beauty of the ocean,
The beauty of life,
The beauty of love,
The beauty of the sky! !
The beauty of the rainbow;
The colours of life,
The beauty of the colours on earth;
The beauty of mankind,
With the beauty of the minds when,
The right thing is done.
The beauty of the universe!
The beauty of every positive thing;
Praying always for the peace of the earth. My mind! !
I am who i am with my identity;
Born on earth to carry on peace to the world.
Trust!
The beauty of true love;
With servitude and attitude,
With the joy of the hearts,
Having positive morals! !
The beauty of righteous laws,
The beauty of righteous works,
Going along with my mind;
For peace and love,
To bring joy to all.

What makes someone to write something in a blog rather than writing somewhere¿?

Is Introduction compulsory in every introduction,Is it so¿?If so why did I undo it ¿?Is it to make my Blog writing to look unique¿? If not then why am I mentioning it as unique.Do people who are unique will try to prove them as unique in such an ordinary way¿?To answer such questions would it be necessary to give a glance to this post¿?

What makes someone to write something? Does this happen sometime? To answer this I am questioning myself. Before giving a glance to my writing, you too should pose this question to yourself if at all you have something to write up somewhere sometime or  the other time. People who have a thought of giving a thought about my thought should give a thought. People who wanna write a blog are categorized as follows:(I don’t know whether the blog could be also written in this way…I think the blogger have the rights to write the way he likes)

Type 1: people write about something they think they know(but actually not).They are in a urge to share the information (not the actual information but the information that they knew about something)that they had got it somewhere so that the other peers could know that this guy got something or this guy is something..The fact is that the guy is “SOMEONE who knew SOMETHING”, something only not the whole thing.

Type 2:People wanna write because people write. He writes because she does. This is true because people can’t take it the fact If he or she does why can’t I,Is it good. It is really good if someone tries to write something because of someone then it’s something.But we can’t neglect the fact that he only writes because he only wanted to write not because he wanted to write.They only write to write. Think about your category. If you not belong anywhere then you should  go somewhere because this isn’t your place.

Type 3:Why can’t people be calm about something they knew?If they knew then they better keep themselves rather than telling the whole world? Does this make something to them if someone gonna know that he or she knew something that no one around us never knew it’s existence. Being calm resists your knowledge to yourself so that no one will ever knew what I knew. Knowing the things and keeping it unknown will be known someday or the other. So they will try to take the knowing by revealing the things only in order to reveal and make sure that he had revealed. Telling the things that doesn’t really matter a much rather than telling the actual thing only in order to make us believe that they too had told. Isn’t it good to be jealous of knowledge?It’s good but not faking the knowledge and writing fake blogs to spread the non existence.

Type 4: They knew nothing and act like that the world is running because of them. It is easy to identify such people because their population is more (or) less more. They try to copy or modify the blog and they make us believe that the blog they copied from will become the copier.They think they are smart because they are only thinking to be smart rather than being smart.

        Leave a comment about my category. Do I belong to any of these.If so I may belong to any one of the category,then how could I know about the other categories. Do I belong NOWHERE or only for NOW-HERE?