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Filling Spaces

‘Empty spaces in life are luxuries which you can fill with wisdom- the unending tunnel.’

Everyone in this world is gifted with exuberance to generate its own universe. Just like the space between stars, there are empty spaces in your life as well. Just like they shine, you are also made to sparkle. It’s upon you, how you fill those spaces. Everything has two aspects- the positive aspect and a negative one. Who created these aspects? Who told you that one thing is positive and the other one is negative? Take it just the way it is. Change your thoughts and change your thinking. Now the point comes, how will you fill these vacant parts of your life? Let me take you through it.

LOVE the secret to everything. The greatest contribution you can make in anybody’s life is love. Remove hatred from your heart and add love. The essence of love has so much potency that it will soak away every pain, every tear from your life. It has the highest frequency to fill gaps just as the gaps between your hands are filled by your spouse. Just as you are made for someone and someone is made for you, you are made human and humanity is made for you. Fill your gaps in humanity with love. Maybe you’re broken, maybe the world has given to you so much, maybe now you’re smiling but under that, you hide the pain, but there is always a place for love that will take away all your griefs. Now, this place is your empty space which you have filled with immense love.

Fortune favours the BRAVE. Remove the fear from your heart and add bravery. Learn to fight with your own struggles. You have to fight for yourself, nobody is going to fight for you. Take the first step of courage and the rest will be made for you. Many of us are afraid to take the first initial step. Remember you are the light and spread that glow for the path on which you have to go. Don’t be afraid, never doubt your capabilities. What if Mahatma Gandhi doesn’t take his first step for freedom? If Kalam didn’t make his first missile? If Graham Bell doesn’t make phones? Today, without their guts can India be able to achieve success? So go ahead, be brave enough to fight your battles, for your dreams. After all, there’s always light at the end of the tunnel. Congratulations! you’re on a way to achieve success, to fill those gaps. 

Spread KINDNESS. You know you’re here in this world for a purpose. We are born in this world to spread smiles, to be kind. Every hand that offers love has a spirit to spread goodness. Ask yourself, are we kind enough to help? Do we have enough to give something to that poor child asking for food? Yes, of course! Live your life in abundance, after all, life is meant to be abundant. Until and unless you do not learn to help others you cannot go ahead in your life. Help others to get help. Understand the pain in others eyes, give a hand for help, you’ll feel heaven. Be generous to donate for those who are born in this world for this purpose. Have a noble attitude of giving. 

A GRATEFUL heart is a magnet for miracles. Have you ever wondered why 96% of all the wealth is only in the lives of 1% people? It’s because they have an attitude of gratitude. They run business, not for the sake of money, but to create opportunities for others. This is the most powerful way to fill those empty spaces of your life with goodness. Have an attitude of developing gratitude. Take a piece of paper and write all the things you’re grateful for. The pen, laptop, your eyes, your beautiful face, your house and all those things which you see around you. Unless and until you are not grateful for the things you already have, how will you be grateful for the things you’ll get in future? The whole struggle of your life will end if you begin to be grateful for the things you have now. The greatest battles of your life are fought in these secrets above you. The empty spaces of your life can be filled with the peace of mind having open and clear space. As a wise human make your empty space your most beautiful opulence.

Love

I watched as my sister knelt down beside me
Tears running down her face calm face
I watched as she gently raised me up to her chest and the loud scream coming out from her mouth
People ran past us to hide for their dear lives
Then she detached me from chest and place my head on her lap
Gently rub my face with her hand and tears continue to flows down like a waterfall
My lifeless body on her lap and keep saying words but she seems not to care
And suddenly she start singing calling out my name softly
I could remember the song, our parents sings the song a lot to us
“Oh Dil-ara!! You are bold, you are beautiful,oh my Dil-ara! If the stars were your dream,I will give you my whole sky,oh my little princess”
Just then,her breath caught in her throat and the tears continue to stream down
People keep running to hide
But my sister is here with my lifeless body
A body that knows no wounds nor pain
Seeing with me, I believe that her love is so boundless towards me.

5 SECRETS TO FINDING TRUE LOVE

Everybody desires to find their one true love with whom we can live our fairy tale of falling in love and living happily forever and ever. Welcome to reality my friends because these fairy tales exist only in movies and fiction stories.

Love is no fairy tale, so you can stop looking for a perfect “10” who fulfills all the qualifications on your wish list. It is possible, however, to find someone to stand by your side, brave the messiness of the world, and help you experience life to its fullest potential.

How do you work towards finding this ” someone ” ? Here are the 5 tried and tested secrets to finding your companian:

  1. BE REAL

To find real love, you must first emphasize your true self. If you want someone to love you through your moments of imperfection, you must first be willing to do that for someone else. Be real with yourself, so you are ready for someone else’s true self.

If you shift your personality, passions, or purpose to impress another person, you are not being your true self. People are attracted to genuine souls. Get to know yourself, love yourself, and learn to act and speak authentically.

2. BE CONFIDENT

Be confident in yourself, your decisions, and your ability to attract love into your life. If you are being your authentic, best self, this CONFIDENCE will radiate from you in a glow of SELF-WORTH. You will attract someone who recognizes, appreciates, and loves who you are.

Foster this confidence by knowing that you are whole and complete just by being you. Understand that a soul mate is nice to have, but not a must-have. You, alone, are enough.

3. BE OPEN

If your desire is to meet someone new, then you must be willing to connect and open up with the people around you. If someone next to you in the coffee line strikes up a conversation, be willing to engage. Even if that person is not to be the love of your life, practice BEING HONEST anyway. Developing this energy of openness will help you facilitate iterations that may lead to lasting relationships.

4. BE HAPPY

Perhaps the most important secret of this list is to be happy. Everyone wants to be around happy people; HAPPINESSS is magnetic. So focus your energy on thinking about and doing the things that make you happy. This energy of yours will also attract a similar kind of person which wiill only further amplify your life.

Will Smith said, “her happiness is not my responsibility. She should be happy and I should be happy individually. Then we come together and share our happiness. Giving someone a responsibility to make you happy when you can’t do it for yourself is selfish” let that sink in.

5. BE IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF

Loving yourself allows you to make healthier choices.When you put yourself first, you make choices that will only improve your quality of life. You eat better and sleep and exercise more because you realize that taking care of your mental and physical well-being are essential to your success.

By not loving yourself, you‘ll create extra work for your partner because they‘ll have to pick up that slack and carry your weight. When you struggle with self-doubt and low self-esteem, your partner will have to work extra hard to make you happy.

The next time you enter a relationship, see to it that it will be with your true love already. This would save you from heartaches due to being with the wrong person.

Let love find you.
These tips can only help you increase the chance of finding the right person for you. However, there is no formula that can create true love. It just happens beyond conscious effort, and if handled well, it will surely last.

Do not try too hard on finding your true love. Let love find you, instead. And while waiting for it to arrive, focus on loving yourself.

Ukulele

It is a musical instrument, which can also be called as a miniature version of guitar but it is a bit different from it. It is a Hawaiian instrument  played from the nineteenth century. There are four types of Ukulele they are soprano , concert, tenor, and baritone out of which Soprano is the  standard Ukulele. This instrument has a carefree Jaunty music which pleases everyone. Though it is a small guitar but a guitar has 6 strings but Ukulele  has 4 strings and Ukulele is very much easier to learn than guitar as it has soft nylon strings which does not hurt the fingers and its frets are quite small which would actually make it easier to compose. A person can learn Ukulele, so as to learn guitar which would make guitar learning guitar faster.

let us learn firstly, how to play  ukulele so as to experience the pleasure of playing it..

  1. Handling Ukulele

    It is very necessary for beginners to learn how to handle Ukulele in proper position. A Ukulele has two parts one is the long thinner portion which is called the neck and other is the body. It is very important to orient it properly that means to hold it properly. The standard way is to hold the neck in the the left hand and you hod the body in the right hand. Hold the instrument a little below your chest and hold the neck of it in fifteen degrees angle. You can play the instrument by sitting , standing and also lying, But it is much easier if you play it while sitting. About your finger arrangement, you should always rest the thumb of your left hand on the first fret and then curl your remaining from the underneath of the instrument so as to hold other strings. Your hand should make a shape of C around the instrument.

  2. Strumming
    Curl your fingers over the strings in the side hole, then make a shape of a doughnut with your index finger and the thumb, you have to play from the side of your index finger. You always have to strum all the four strings together so as to play the music. You can Ukulele by a prick or by your fingers, But the tones become a bit harsh when you use a prick on the soft strings of the instrument so its better to use the fingers.
  3. Chords
    It is very important to learn the natural notes of every string in the instrument. You should always memorize the arrangement of the strings.In order,  A (1), E (2), C (3), and G (4) are the order of the strings in the bottom to top arrangement. Practice different chords make yourself familiar with all the chords and all major and minor chords. Use the chord diagram so as to master the instrument.
  4.  Songs
    Though the ultimate goal of learning an instrument is to compose your own music, to achieve that you have to  learn playing your favorite songs with the instrument. This helps in learning new chords and shifting between them. As you learn about different tunes and get familiarize with the instrument, you are now ready to compose your own song.

    Happy learning….

 

Self care

Self care is a need which every one should practice, it is the need of the hour. In this fast pacing life where people are busy with work and responsibilities self care can be refreshment. It does not matter if you have many responsibilities and do not have time for yourself, you should always make some time from your busy schedule to care yourself not only that it will help you to lead a healthy life but it will also help in improving your mood so that you are active the whole day. Start the practice of self care now don’t keep it for tomorrow.
The steps you can follow in order to care yourself in a better ways are

  1. Manage stress- It is very important that you relive yourself from stress, tension stress is just a part of your life your should never treat it or give so much importance to it that it hampers your health. Refresh your mind by doing Yoga and doing breathing exercises. Take a walk to the nearest garden or a park. Taking a shower especially a hot water bath will help you a lot. This refreshment will motivate you and yes it will also increase your productivity and concentration to do your work.
  2.  Have fun – Do things which would make you happy, like being surrounded by your friends , going to watch a movie with them. Revisit your happy childhood memories which will make you feel good. Spend a quality time with your family  talk to them, laugh with them and feel grateful of having people who care about you.
  3.  Develop a hobby- hobbies are something which help you to engross in it and make you feel happy in the process of doing it. Like reading  book always transports you to the era or place where novel has its story plot. For sometime you just forget about your present and feel the book. You can pursue such hobbies so as to  rejuvenate yourself and make yourself happy.
  4.  Get out of your self doubts- Some times we are in a place where we doubt our capabilities, like “Can I Do it?”, these things are normal as you are in a process of achieving something big. At such points give affirmations to yourself that you can do it, it will boost your confidence. Definitely it will give you more strength to go forward for it  and you would strive to succeed in it.
  5.  Physical fitness-  It is very important that to maintain the physical fitness because it is very important to feel good from the inside so as to feel energetised. It does not mean to have a perfect body with six packs  ABSand muscles. It is to be active and fit and fitness is a habit which one has to develop. It is not necessary that one hits the gym but what is required is to do a routine exercise everyday. Like you can dance at home or have do yoga.
    It is really important to eat right, that is to maintain a healthy food eating habit that includes to eat food in time, not to skip meal and also to eat more healthy food.

    These steps will improve your lifestyle and will give you happiness as well as pleasure. Because  we can make others happy only when we are happy.

Bawarchi

This is a movie directed by Hrishikesh Mukherjee, and was released in the 1972. A movie staring Rajesh khanna, Jaya Bahaduri, Usha Kiran, Asrani and many more. This movie was narrated by Amitabh Bachan in his very strong voice. Hrishikesh Mukherjee movies are always simple and conveys very beautiful messages which helps us to make our lives simpler. Bawarchi means a cook, this is a story of how Raghu the character played by Rajesh Khanna actually teaches a life lesson to a family who lives in a house named shanti nivas.

In this story the main focus is about a large joint family which lives in a house named shanti nivas named after the wife of the owner. The name is an irony as the word shanti means peace but no one can ever see this happening in the house, there is always some big fight that the family indulges in.  Shivnath sharma who is a retired post man is the eldest in the family. He has 4 sons firstly Ramnath sharma being the eldest son who works as a head clerk in a company his wife Seeta sharma and daughter is Meeta sharma is a trained Kathak dancer and who is preparing for an upcoming dance competion all live in the house. Second brother Kashi Sharma is a school teacher he has his own rules and principles about life which he strictly follows his wife shobha sharma and son Pintoo live in the same house. The third son and his wife died in a car accident their daughter Krishna played by Jaya Bachan also stays with them. She studies in college and has a tution teacher Arun who is her college senior who comes home to teach her for free. The forth son Vishwanath Sharma played be Asrani is a music director in film industry, he is not married and he thinks it is better not because it will just add up to the fight already existing in the house. So many people live in one house, constantly fighting  though they want to be apart but fear that if they go Shivnath sharma also called as Daduji will not give any part of the property to them.

Raghu who comes to their home, pretending that he is in desperate need of work but actually is someone who wants to peace out things in the house. Not directly but by showing how much they love each other and making other members  realize how amazing is it live together with happiness. There are many major lessons to be learnt from this movie which actually tends us to re-evaluate our own life. Such simple movies makes us realize how important is it to be happy in the present moment. In this pandemic times when we are confined at home rather than constantly thinking and stressing out ourselves by the thought  when will everything comeback to normal we can spend a quality time with our family, be happy of the fact that everyone is together. Hug your mom and dad and tell them how much you love and care about them. In a wait for big happiness we often tend to ignore these small small happiness, the number big moments of happiness are  only just fifteen to twenty in in the whole lifetime what makes our lives beautiful is the millions and billions of small happiness that we should never overlook.

INTERNATIONAL KISSING DAY

Do you need a reason to kiss someone? Or is it just a spur of the moment to let some know that I care about you? Whatever be it, today is the perfect day to let go of all the boundaries and kiss the person who matters to you. It does not mean that you can kiss only your partner, it is a perfect excuse and a great opportunity to show your love to your parents, your children and to everyone whom you love. This day is marked as an awareness to remind people about the pleasure and the subtle intimacy that can emanate from a simple kiss, be it among the friends, family, loved ones to the extent of pets.

The history of kissing dates back to the Romans who practically invented three widespread forms of kissing. The first is savium which denotes the most passionate form of kiss and it is usually exchanged among the partners and couples. Second is the basium which is of lesser degree as compared to savium, it is basically a loving kiss on the lips and it can be exchanged among the friends and it is the preferable kiss in the public. The last one is the osculum, which is just a friendly peck on the cheek and it is usually exchanged among everyone, depending on the occasion.

Gently stroking babies can reduce pain

Now there is an interesting trivia about the forms of kissing. We all are aware of the term “French Kiss“. So if somebody asks you about the origin of this term, you might, well absentmindedly, say “it’s from France“. But surprisingly, it is not. The term “French Kiss” originated among the British and the American servicemen in France at the time of WWI, where the Galic women were more interested in a passionate kind of kiss as compared its American and British counterparts. So even though the French were not directly involved in such a type of kiss, but the event of passionate kiss being more prevalent in France gave birth to the name “French Kiss”. And the yet more surprising part is that, French were not even aware of the “mouth-on-mouth” kissing. In fact, the famous term “Galocher” which means “kissing with tongue” was added to the French dictionary, Le Petit Robert, recently in 2014. So what we initially thought that French kiss was started among the French, it in fact started among the Galic women in France.

Now enough about the history of the origin of the International Kiss Day, let’s turn our attention towards some interesting facts and traditions followed worldwide.

  1. In Vietnam, kissing is prevalent only among the spouses in private. The same is being followed in China and Japan.
  2. In Netherlands, the norm is to exchange 3 kisses as a form of greeting.
  3. In France, the customary way of greeting is one air kiss.
  4. In Italy and France, the prevalent way of greeting is to exchange kiss on the lips among both men and women.
  5. Modern anthropologists strongly believe that kissing was developed among the Eskimos, who used rub their noses against each other to take each other’s breath and to prevent getting cold. Such a cute form of kissing was known as “Eskimo Kissing“. This method of kissing is also quite prevalent among the Pacific Islanders and it is very surprising, yet a fact, that taking each other’s breath is a measure of compatibility.

International Kissing Day is a way of reminding how times are fleeting and why we should take a moment to appreciate what we have. It is not necessary to be grandeur about it, but how about a sudden subtle kiss on the cheek? Trust me, it will make someone feel valued. Tomorrow is 6th July, 2020. My personal advice would be to wake up in the morning, plant a kiss on your husband, parents and your children. Take some time out of your busy Monday mornings to greet your friends with virtual kisses either via Zoom/Whatsapp/Skype/Google Meet and so on and so forth. There are millions of way how can you show your love and you do not need to a romantic to do so.

All said, let’s take out a moment to send our kisses to our health-workers, doctors and the families who have lost their near ones during the COVID-19 pandemic. It might sound a bit illogical, but then again it’s International Kissing Day and there is a great opportunity to show our love and respect for them too.

Just a peck or may be Hershey’s Kisses will do!

Source:

https://www.awarenessdays.com/awareness-days-calendar/international-kissing-day-2020/

https://nationaltoday.com/international-kissing-day/

Never underestimate the healing power of a quiet moment in the Garden

There are no gardening mistakes, only experiments. – Janet Kilburn Phillips

There is a Chinese proverb which says, Life begins the day you start a garden. A garden is a grand teacher. It teaches patience and careful watchfulness; it teaches industry and thrift; above all it teaches entire trust. — Gertrude Jekyll (2011) ‘Wood and Garden’.

In the busy world where people don’t even have the time to greet their own family members. Due to a sudden pandamic attack of a virus the fast forward world has finally stopped. We humans who once had no time with full packed schedules like classes, clubs, jobs, parties, Traveling and a lot of stuffs. Now we are left with an empty schedule and caged in our houses. Which only less than 7.9 percentage people who has their works that they can do from home  (IT and BPM industry contributes to India’s GDP and employs around 41lakh professionals). They are millions of people who needs to leave there homes for their livelihood.

God Almighty first planted a garden. And indeed, it is the purest of human pleasures. – Francis Bacon (1625) Essays ‘Of Gardens‘

A society grows great when old men plant trees whose shade they know they shall never sit in – Greek proverb.The love of gardening is a seed once sown that never dies, but never grows to the enduring happiness that the love of gardening gives – Gertrude Jekyll (2016) ‘Wood and Garden.

Gardening simply does not allow one to be mentally old, because too many hopes and dreams are yet to be realized. When the world wearies and society fails to satisfy, there is always the garden.

A weed is a plant that has mastered every survival skill except for learning how to grow in rows. – Doug Larson

My garden is my most beautiful masterpiece says Monet. Gardening is how I relax. It’s another form of creating and playing with colors says Oscar de la Rentawn. Gardening is a beautiful art which brings our heart and mind together and bind it with our imaginations and creativity.

One of the hobby that I prefer and suggest others who wish to heal theirs souls. Finally never underestimate the healing power of nature and gardening which makes you feel unique and will make you special.

You Deserve a Love Just Like This

You! Yes, you! Right there in the corner of the room, probably feeling like a wallflower. Your eyes are low, trying hard not to catch anybody’s attention. And you, the life of the party, a true social butterfly! You too! Liked by almost everyone you’ve ever met in your life. Do you know what is common between you both? You both deserve to be loved, equally as hard and passionately. You both deserve the love you always keep trying to give to everyone else you meet. And for this to happen, you both need to open up your hearts and let that love settle in.

loveMore than anything in our lives, we all long to be seen. We want someone to accept us with all our flaws; accept us as we are. And this thing that we yearn for so longingly is the same thing that we fear the most too. Why? Because it takes strength to show our real faces to anyone. It is exceptionally hard breathing under a mask but all of us do that in bleak hopes of finding acceptance in this warped society. You deserve someone who stays by your side even when you rip that mask off your face, the mask that was suffocating you and hindering your fresh breath of life anyway. You deserve someone who stays even when they know the real you: confused, broken, hurt, and fragile. You deserve someone who is not afraid of the way you love them with such fervor and someone who is not afraid to shower you back with the same kind of love.

It does not matter if you are cynical about love, have never been in love, or were in a toxic relationship this whole time. It does not matter because there are absolutely no prerequisites to love. It could be with an absolute stranger who caught your eye by chance on the street last week. It could be with your best friend in the whole wide world, whom you have known since forever. That is the beauty of love. It appears out of the blue and leaves an imprint on your life which stays with you long after your lover.

love2Every one of you deserves your beautiful fantasy to be a reality. All the clichés you watched in the movies to become a reality of your lives. All of you deserve someone who is looking at the bigger picture in their life, and more importantly, that picture has you in it.

And if a relationship leaves you feeling empty from inside, it is your job to find the courage to walk away from it. Remember always, you do not need someone’s half-hearted love. Sometimes, walking away is not a sign of weakness but of strength. You walk away not because you want others to realize your importance in their lives but because you realize your importance in your own life. You want and need your own heaven. It may be flawed but it will be enough for you. Anything less than that would be settling, and settling, my friend, is the worst kind of self-robbery.

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Say ‘NO’ to Toxic Relationship

“Someone can love you and still do things to disrespect you. But when Someone truly respects you, they won’t do things that they know will hurt you.”

Relationships are not always beautiful; many people face several issues in their everyday lives with their partners. But, there is a considerable difference between arguments and toxicity. To understand whether you are in a toxic relationship, here are a few points you want to look through. It never is easy to accept the fact that your partner might be toxic to you. So, read through the signs given below, and if they match with your situation, you need to say “NO” and get out of the toxic relationship.

Signs to know if you are in a toxic relationship:

  • Increase of mental stress: If you experience an increase in your mental stress, whenever your partner is around, you definitely need to get out of this relationship.
  • Presence of violence: If you go through regular physical abuse, in your relationship, you are definitely in a toxic relationship. 
  • Frequent judgment: If you are always judged by your partner, for each and every action, be assured your relationship is definitely poisonous.
  • Narcissistic partner: If your partner is full of narcissism, and is more in love with themself, and has no time to spend in the relationship, you are definitely in a toxic relationship.
  • No interaction: If you and your partner lack communication and spend most of the time in awkward silences, or worse, on your mobile phones while being in the same room, you definitely need to rethink your relationship.
  • Avoiding each other: If you both tend to avoid each other’s presence and feel much happier when the other person isn’t around, you both have to move out of the relationship as soon as possible.
  • Immensely controlling habit: If your partner is hugely insecure and needs to control you to feel secure, you have to realize that this is not a healthy habit, and hence, leave the toxic relationship behind.
  • Cheating on you: If your partner cheats on you, and betrays you often, you need to come out of the relationship, and never look back. Don’t doubt your worth, because the other person didn’t realize your value.
  • Makes you feel unworthy: If your partner makes you feel less, or undeserving, you need to end the relationship with them, right then and there, because that would be the beginning of you doubting your self-worth, which leads to the poor mental condition later.

Staying single is much better than living in a toxic relationship. Most of the time, toxicity leads to depression. It becomes immensely hard to get the bad feeling out of the system once you are filled with self-doubt and lack of confidence. You need to put an end to toxicity, for your own benefit, to keep your self free from stress and physical hurt. Keep in mind that you need to report about your partner, if you go through physical harm, and take legal action against them. Don’t be afraid that you won’t experience love anymore. Trust me, one day, you would meet the person who would love you, and never even dream of hurting you in any way. All you need to do is work on yourself and wait for the right person!

Why can’t I control my anger?

I know that I don’t become angry most of the time. But when I become I become mad. Today me and my father went for his hospital checkup and I am so frustrated to finish it quickly. I blame myself for being so irresponsible for acting insane. Why can’t I control anger at that particular moment and try to regret it later. One thing I understood today is never ever regret yourself regarding parents.

My father asked me to turn the bike right side to fill up the petrol. I got so angry and turned it left and went for a kilometre. My father repeatedly asked me to stop the bike. After a while either some one inside me or real me stopped it and handed over the bike to my father and waited there for my father to return back after filling petrol. I don’t know why I did it, but it’s me who did it and it’s me who is trying to blame myself. I later realised that, that was wrong. The only question I have is why can’t I realise before it’s happening. I don’t have work and got frustrated for such a small thing. The only thing he expected from me is a little time. I can provide it in a right way but I didn’t.

Everything happens for a reason. May be this happened to me inorder to make me realise. I hope atleast I try to be cool and never become frustrated. Anyhow Some love deep inside me towards him make me do what he wills me to do. But I become angry before doing it. I gain nothing by becoming such. I should be calm before speaking to my parents and never make them feel sad for becoming mad at that moment.

Can we control our feelings before expressing it? I want it, not only me everyone want to control their feelings. Doing wrong things and regretting it later is common these days. Try not to repeat what is repeated again and again. Thinking before acting is just a thinking. Have conscious over your speech. Words once spoken can’t be taken back. Words are powerful than swords. So don’t use them on your parents. Parents are parents whether you like it that way or not. Be patient towards your parents. Respect them, spend time with them because the time you are spending now is also given by them.

Happiness is not being happy but seeing your parents happy and making them feel happy. Atleast don’t make them feel sad if you can’t make them happy. If you can’t become the reason for their smile atleast try not to become the reason for their sorrow. Being good children to your parents is as tough as being a good father to your children. Try to be good child if you wanna become good parent. Everyone will realise the importance of being good children when children become parents. Being in that position makes everyone realise. But try to realise before it’s too late. Be a good child to your parents and be a good parent to your parents when they are in their old age.

How to improve your relationship with your partner?

A simple way to stay happy in a relationship is to continually improve the bond between you and your partner. The more efforts both of you make, the better your relationship would become. Now, you might think, why is it so essential to improving your relationship with your partner? The most important reason is to keep the passion and love between both of you intact. With time, many couples confess the attraction they felt for each other, to fade away. Hence, couples need to put in the effort to improve their relationships.

List of Ways to improve your relationship

  • Try to communicate with your partner:

The best way to strengthen your bond with your partner is to have a heart-to-heart interaction. With proper communication, you both would know about one other more, and there wouldn’t be any misunderstanding. Try to ask questions related to daily activities, and what new happened in your partner’s life. In this way, you both would end up having an interesting conversation.

  • Try to listen to what your partner has to say:

The most important key to a healthy relationship is the power of listening to the other person. Nowadays, we prefer to talk more, and win a conversation, rather than listening to what the other person has to say. You can try to listen to your partner and then make your point after they finish.

  • Try to understand your partner:

The relationship improves more when you put effort into understanding the situation of your partner. One way to understand the other person is to put oneself in their shoes and realize their condition. All you need to do is empathize with them, and support them through their tough times. 

  • Try to appreciate your partner more:

We are so busy with ourselves that sometimes, we tend to forget all our partners’ efforts to make us happy. Though we are quick to pick out the flaws, we fail to appreciate their efforts. Now, this is extremely important to make your bond stronger. You should try to understand their actions and the efforts they make for us.

  • Try to be kind to your partner:

Don’t start an argument with your partner whenever you are unsatisfied with something related to them. Try to be polite and let your partner know where they went wrong. 

  • Try to not argue often:

Anger is one of the many reasons behind the constant arguments you have with your partner. It is better to calm yourself, and then, proceed with a conversation, rather than arguing. If you feel angry, try to take a short walk alone or a long shower, and once you feel calm again, have a conversation with your partner.

It is essential to improve your relationship with your partner. Try to make more time for your partner, and surprise them with random visits, or bake them a cake sometimes. If you try, you both will become each other’s best friends, lovers, and partners in crime within no time. Love is a beautiful feeling, and it takes a lot of time and understanding to make a relationship successful. Don’t let ego, or anger, or misunderstandings ruin the relationship you have with your partner. You would see, even with time, your love for each other doesn’t fade away. Work together to live together for the rest of your life.

The increasing trend of old age homes….

It is considered that taking care of the parents is the moral duty of the children. But in modern day the number and trend of old age homes are increasing day by day, which is not a good development.

Parents, who bring us to this world, who educated us, always tried their best to fulfill our dreams and demands, who always tried to keep us happy, made us what we are today, how can we simply leave them.

There are different reasons which lead to this rise in number of old age homes. The main reason is that people migrate from village to cities in order to get good education and jobs. It is easy for them to adjust in the new environment of cities but their parents don’t come with them because of the sentiments attached with that place. And when they don’t able to take care of them by themselves they have to take the shelter in the old age homes. The other reasons could be, some people don’t want to take care of their old parents who are suffering from chronic diseases and old parents who loose their motor functions due to old age, as they need intense care and their children started treating them as a burden and send them in old age homes.

Some send their parents to old age homes after marriage as their daughter-in-law want just to live with her husband and don’t want their in-laws to interfere in their life.

I know there are many other different reasons for this rising trend of old age homes, but we forgot one thing. As our parents grew old the same care and love they want as we wanted in our childhood from our parents. If then, they had simply leaved us like we are leaving them, because at that time surely they also had their social and personal life to live, then what do you think we were at the same place as we are now. Definitely not. It is because for them we are not a choice, we are their priority so why they are not our priority. It is true that we are busy in our life and if your parents are not well and if you don’t have the full time to spend time with them, hire them a nurse, spend time with them when you are free. They will feel better.

So love your parents as they have loved you or loving you. They need proper love, care and support as same you needed in your childhood which is possible in the home only. Always remember that they are your parents and it is your duty to takr care of them. So try to make them your priority,and not to make old age homes, a trend.

Marriage vs live-in relationships

Whether we see marriage or live-in relationships, it’s the love that bring two person together. Some people wants to explore that love and their partner, compatibility with them, without marriage so their live-in relationships come into place.

Marriage is more legal and socially accepted form of relations between couples in India. There is a social validation present in marriages whereas in live-in relationships are on-going trend among the youth which gives them freedom to love with their partner, to understand them without the pressure of marriage.

In India, live-in relationships are highly cristicised as it is considered taboo if a male and female is living in a home without marriage and it also associated with the idea of virginity, which is considered violated if she engages in a physical relationship with a man before marriage. And those women are considered impure and they are not accepted as an idea bride in our society.

In contrast, a section of youth may not agree with the belief of the conservative society. According to them live-in relationship give them a sense of freedom. They don’t have to just be in a relation if they like it or not and don’t have to bear any pressure like marriage i.e., they meant to be together for lifetime. In live-in they stay and leave whenever they feel that their relationship is not working and they don’t have to seek for divorce, which is also considered as a taboo in many societies and is very time consuming and difficult process

But if the couple is in a marital relation then they try to make their relations last long and they work hard to understand each other, accept each other and try to adjust with each other which is somewhere needed in a relation to be successful whereas in live-in can be liberating at times. Apart from this marriages is very stable form of relationship, but in live-in, along with no restrictions there is more possibilities of instability and insecurity.

So, both have their own pros and cons but it is necessary for the society to accept both and they should respect the couples decision. Any of them shouldn’t work under any societal pressure. So, accept both live-in and marital relationships and let the couples explore love in their own ways.

Sparsh

Sparsh is a movie starring Naseeruddin shah and Shabana Azmi in lead roles and directed by Sai Paranjpye . A beautiful movie which depicts the life of a visually impaired person who is self made and do not like taking favors from normal people. Anyone who had seen the names of these two brilliant actors will realize then itself that surely its going to be a meaningful movie with a lesson to learn. This movie was released in 1980, though it was not a commercial hit but yes this movie got a national film award for best feature film in hindi.

Anirudh played by Naseeruddin Shah is the principal of a school for blind children, in the movie his character is portrayed as a man who is lonely and does not need help for most of his work. He meets Kavita played by Shabana Azmi in a part  and Anirudh comes to know that she is a classical singer.  He met her and told her that his school is looking for a music teacher and a volunteer who can read and teach handicrafts. Kavita who was widowed recently after three years of marriage ,she wanted to do something  so as to keep her mind away from her sorrows so she accepts the offer. Though she was asked to come to the school for just 2 days in a week but she liked the environment and started coming everyday .  She developed friendship with Anirudh, he also liked her presence. Their love blossomed and they decide to get engaged, both of them were happy but they s had some differences in their thoughts. Anirudh sometimes felt what Kavita was doing for him was just a compromise and once she enters his life, he would start becoming dependent on her for everything. As the days were advancing this thought of him became more and more firm, he did not want Kavita to regret her decisions so he decides to call off the engagement. When Anirudh told Kavita about his decision Kavita was confused because he refused to tell the reason behind taking this step, because for her this marriage was not a compromise rather it was a new beginning, it was  time to move on from the past sorrows and nevertheless she loved Anirudh but she accepts his decision.

Kavita continues to come to school and teach the students, she now had only one aim in her life that was to teach new skills to the students. She bought many new things and also discussed issues with Anirudh. Once when the entrance door of the school was shut as some cleaning process was going on inside, the students were asked to sit in the garden. As Kavita came she noticed that none of the students were reading books all were  wasting their time, so she asked a student that why isn’t he reading a book, so he told her that all books in the library has been read by him and his friends at least two or three times there are no new books that he could read. Kavita addressed this problem to Anirudh for that he reflected light to the very serious issue, though the number of books being published for normal people is enormous only 10-20% of those books are being converted to braille. He also said that only text books are converted to  braille script and not the fictional books, When Kavita listened to this she decided to convert fictional books to braille script . By this gesture of Kavita , Anirudh was really impressed. Then he gradually realizes his mistake and makes an attempt to sort things out with Kavita.

A simple movie which justifies with the name sparsh means touch and feel the inner soul.