Category: Personality and Self Help

On the eve of each new year, people commit to making lifestyle changes they believe will usher in personal satisfaction and happiness. But while an entire industry exists to help people meet these pressing goals.

Fear

I have never been more frightened than when I came back home and met everywhere messed up,my eyes suddenly caught an envelope on the table beside me, I picked it up with my hands shaking and heart beating fast as if trying to escape my rip cage. My eyes almost fell out of it’s socket as saw what was written on and no time I was out running on the dark lonely road.
My phone ranged and I picked it up, a strong masculine voice came in,“don’t inform the police and hanged up the call.

My heart pounded again
The sideway of the of my mind
Darkened as I ran fast
as I could to the meeting place
And the sun had gone down

Only me running the street
With each footsteps taken
Something departs in me
New thought arrives
And new thought depart
My clouded mind with despair

What have I gotten myself into?
Should I call police on myself?
An hour had passed
Two hours speaking to
Each others on the phone

And now I stood at the meeting place,
peered at the window of my heart
find no light inside myself
Only some voices.

Went in and out of me
Only some bags of trash
So so terrifying
Each contained different body part of me
The limbs crawling
They eyes shading tears
The ear listening
The legs kicking

There is decapitated woman’s head
her eyes still open
Staring pieces me
Her mangled hair was all but gone
And lips parted
As if trying to tell me something

I couldn’t help myself
I screamed no words
I run but go nowhere
the arms took me away from my escape and hauled me a room With
A gasp I took in the gruesome and horrifying scene in front of me
Was A lifeless body, multiple wounds in her stomach and neck
Her arms and legs lay bent sideways and backwards
Blood soaked her hair and surrounded the girl’s face
It Pained me to admit
The Lifeless body is my sister
My Breath caught in my throat and couldn’t help the tears stream from my eyes.

Vata, Pitta, Kapha in Ayurveda

Have you ever wondered what actually accounts for difference in people ? Why are some people hyperactive and why are some people very lazy and slow ? Why can some people eat six course meal in a day with ease, while others barely finish their one course meal ? Modern genetics provide some insight, But what about the other characteristics that make every person unique ?

Ayurveda answers all these answers with the three doshas : Vata, Pitta and Kapha.
Just as everyone has a unique fingerprint, each person has a particular pattern of energy.

Vata is characterized by the mobile Nature of wind (air) energy.

Pitta emobies the transformative nature of fire energy.

Kapha represent the binding nature of water energy.

Vata, Pitta, and Kapha are each essential to our physiology in some way, so no one dosha is better than, or superior to, any other. Each of them has a very specific set of functional roles to play in the body. That said, when the doshas are out of balance, they can wreak havoc on our health. But before we get into the specifics of each of the three doshas, it is helpful to understand their elemental composition, and their broader role in the natural world.

Vata

Vata is characterized by the mobile Nature of wind (air) energy. It is the energy of movement and the force governing all biological activities. vata is often called ” the king of doshas”. It gives motion to vata and pitta. 

Vata characteristics :

1. Lean body frame,

2. Very active,

3. Lack of sleep,

4. Very agitated,

5. Digestive issues,

6. Intolerant to cold.

Pitta

Pitta derives from the elements of fire and water and translate as “that which cooks”. It is the energy of digestion and metabolism In the body such as organic acids , enzymes and bile.

Pitta characteristics :

1. Short tempered,

2. Very cheerful,

3. Very social,

4. Intolerant to hunger,

5. Quick digestion.

Kalpha

Kapha derives from the elements of earth and Water and translates as “that which sticks”. It is the energy of building and lubrication that provide the body with physical and structure form.


Kapha characteristics :

1. Calm and composed,

 2. Firm judgment,

3. Large body frame,

4. Slow digestion,

5. Sleeps Deeply.

Conclusion : 

Vata, Pitta or kapha ? The combination of Doshas is essential for your health. When You know what constitution you have .You better understand who you are the wayYou are. You discover what nutrition is Suitable for you and how you can stay healthy.Because any imbalance of doshas leads to Diseases. Everyone has these three doshas But one of them usually primary the other Is secondary and the third one is least Prominent.

The birth of ROMO

Till the time when everything was ‘normal’, there existed a phenomenon that was quite common and that which caused stress. Termed as ‘FOMO’, and acronym for ‘Fear of Missing Out’ which describes a perception that others are having a better life, experiencing better things and are having much more fun and you are leading just a regular life. This phenomenon has existed for many years, but with the advent and excessive use of social media, this phenomenon has gained too much importance. FOMO usually occurs when a bunch of your ‘social media’ friends post some photos of some event without you (usually displaying the positive aspect while hiding the negative aspect), you tend to measure your life on their scale and you consider your life to be very ‘normal’. You feel like you are missing out on all the fun. Over the years, FOMO has manifested itself due to ‘posts’ on Facebook and Instagram.

But wait, times have changed. COVID-19 has practically faded the phenomenon ‘FOMO’ which concurrently gave birth to ‘ROMO’, an acronym of ‘Reality of Missing Out.’ Not only this pandemic has paralysed the world, it has also erased the feelings of missing out on fun considering the fact that everyone is locked indoors. With ROMO, you know that it is not cool to go outdoors and have fun with friends while breaking the rules of isolation.

ROMO gives a feeling of despair while losing out to go on to even the simplest of things. Like going out for dinner to a nearby restaurant, missing out for an ice-cream treat at park, going out for grocery shopping or even simply just going out for a stroll. The usual feeling of ‘getting bored’ is now substituted by different conflicting feelings such as – ‘Will I die?’, ‘Will my parents be alive?’, ‘Will I ever be able to go out for a nice dinner?’, ‘Will I be able to enjoy life as before?’. Apparently, such questions keep on running across my or anyone’s mind.

Isolation and quarantine has practically crippled the entire world. Everything around us seems to be on hold – like we are waiting for some kind of a miracle to lift the veil of such darkness. Events like religious festivals, sports tournaments, summer parades at my school, convocation at my B-School, to name among a few, got cancelled. It is very heart wrenching to see that life is just pacing forward and we are actually missing our present and that is a very harsh reality. Family members waiting to receive their ‘chemotherapy’ sessions, pre-final year students waiting to get back to their college and grand-parents waiting to visit their children, and we all are waiting, running desperately to reach the end of the tunnel. Our present is fleeting like sand sifting through our fingers, waiting for everything to end.

It is rather funny to think that just a few months back, we all had the opportunity to make choices, deciding where to go and which options need to be thrown out of the window. But think about now. Do we actually have any opportunities to even think over?

Source: https://www.bloomberg.com/opinion/articles/2020-04-26/covid-19-has-taken-us-from-fomo-to-romo

Death

What an unbelievable world it is,
How shortly they modify there ‘say’
By witnessing their multisided face,
Even My dead body was in shock ‘I must say’

They came to pay my body a ‘last visit’
But they ended up to converse about my peculiarities
Too soon, that too faded away
Even my dead was in shock ‘I must say’

“My wife is not moaning enough,”
“My Kid is into the phone,”
“How much balance I have left in the account,”
Their sobs disappeared and murmur took place
Even my dead body was in shock ‘I must say’

“Who will give me the shoulder,”
“Who will perform my rites,”
They were more eager to know about it,
It seemed it meant to them a lot.
My companion was crying, my little baby was almost unaware of
By seeing them paying adieu, I broke being a rock.

Steps to finding the Right Career for You

While it will likely change over time, focusing on a certain career path can help inform your decisions about your professional growth as you gain skills and experience. It’s important to reflect on your interests, skills and career goals as you make certain life choices such as which school to apply for, which entry-level job is right for you, whether to get a post-graduate degree or specialized certification and more.

In this article, I will focus on how to identify your key skills and interests, match those qualities to a potential job field and start a career.

1- WRITE DOWN CAREER GOALS

Before selecting a career, start with self-reflection by asking and answering certain questions. Active reflection helps narrows your choices into something more specific.

Consider asking yourself:

  • What do I want from my career?
  • What are my core values?
  • What activities do I most enjoy, professionally or in my free time?
  • What are my interests?
  • What are my strengths and aptitudes? Soft skills? Hard skills?
  • Do I want to specialize in certain technical skills or take on management roles?

Once you answer questions like these (and any others that are important to you), you can better research potential careers paths. It’s also important to revisit your career goals as you grow personally and professionally to ensure your goals remain achievable and aligned with your interests.

2- Set one short term & one long term goal

Once you have narrowed down your options, consider establishing milestones for your career. Research where other people in your field are at five or ten years into their career, and make note of the job titles they have. Decide what title or advancements you want to have at these future points. Then research what you can do to reach those goals. You may need to undergo training programs, take on specific responsibilities or hold prerequisite positions.

By establishing career goals five or ten years in the future, you can plan based on what progress you should expect every year. Schedule time regularly to reflect on your career and goals.

3- Identify your Personality Type

A personality type is a set of personality traits that can be grouped together. There are multiple methods for discovering your personality type, many of which focus on your responses to different situations. Different personality types may naturally gravitate toward different interests and develop different strengths, including careers.

Different tests list common career choices for each personality type. If you take a variety of tests and one or two careers appear across multiple tests, that specific career is likely worth researching.

4- Did you enjoy your previous job/internship?

Your job satisfaction in previous roles can also help guide your career choices. Identify trends in your previous positions, such as focusing on a specific technical skill. Also, review your job history to identify positions that you felt fulfilled in.

5- Educate yourself with the Job requirements – skills, knowledge, interests,etc

Many jobs have specific education requirements for applicants and new hires, such as obtaining a high school diploma, completing a bachelor’s degree program or having a master’s degree. Some positions also require applicants to have their degrees in a specific field related to the position.

Review the education requirements for jobs you are interested in, and apply for jobs that accept your current level of education or research additionally degrees or certifications you may need.

6- Work on gaining expertise in the skills you already possess

Make a list of your current skills, certifications and areas of expertise. Also ask for feedback about your technical, interpersonal and people management skills from coworkers and colleagues. This evaluation can help you find careers that match what you are best at.

7- If you can choose your interest as your career,what will it be?

Depending on your personality, you may have interests that lend themselves to different careers. Examine your hobbies, past volunteer experiences and interests to identify activities or fields you enjoy. While this information is outside of a professional context, creating a list of activities you like can help you focus a career search. For example, you may enjoy a career in cybersecurity if you enjoy logic puzzles, or you may enjoy a traveling sales role if you like meeting new people.

Use this knowledge to apply for short-term positions or volunteer opportunities to explore new career options. This first-hand experience allows you to test your suitability for a career. If you are currently in school or have a job, consider taking a course or certification program that is required for a field that interests you. This experience can help you determine if the career’s skills and content are something you enjoy.

8- Consider your salary needs

Depending on your lifestyle, you may require a certain salary. Find average salaries by job title, company and location on salaries. This can be a good starting point for determining how much money you may have when first starting out, as well as your earning potential after you’ve gained a certain amount of time and experience. While salary certainly does not equal an engaging, satisfying job, it is an important factor to consider when mapping out your career path.

Most frightening moments

MOMENT 1:

The doctor said I had three more hours.
I think I was stabbed, I don’t remember much. Nevertheless, I was at my home. I was going to take a bath. Something didn’t add up. I then woke up
I still felt the pain. Fear gripped me.
I was frightened that this might come to pass

MOMENT 2:

Dogs were crying, Cricket was on peak
Ticking of clock, Subtle BREATHING
Silence EVERYWHERE, Not in my heart, it was beating, STILL postures, Pointed look of eyes, Somewhere in the air
LIFE was LOST.

MOMENT 3:

I had never been more frightened than when I noticed I was walking alone and felt someone followed me. I hurriedly climbed the stairs with bags full of weekly groceries and went straight into the kitchen. No one are at home back home and I was expecting my father and mother in some time from their evening walk and as usual would expect the soup and salad immediately, followed with regular dinner. I suddenly felt silence all over and heard noise from my lift but ignored it. The fear wasn’t subsiding, I entered my room to safe guard myself . To my horror, It was my parents who are in the lift.

MOMENT 4:

I have never been more frightened than when, I remember was a kid playing at home, my mumma was taking afternoon nap and suddenly when I opened window I saw a big cat which was about to attack me.
That dreadful and cruel look of cat is still in my mind and always reminds me of that incidence whenever I see a cat.
“Ailurophobia is now part of my life”

MOMENT 5:

I had never been so frightened than the day I was standing alone among the gushing crowd of people! I felt as if I’m alone as I missed my 3 years old younger brother in the exhibition!

I still remember my promise to my aunt, “Don’t worry aunt, I will take care of him to the fullest! The exhibition might be crowded but my eyes will be fixed on him… Please send him with me!”

But now I feel like I can’t move to search for him. The feel of ‘he is gone forever’ never leaves my anxious heart! Nobody is here for me among the hundreds around me! My God! Am I still alive?

How to Become Rich Faster than Others (Practical Steps)

Everybody wants to become RICH one day.

Still, how is it that some people have all the answers? How do the rich keeping getting richer while the poor keep getting poorer? Is the game actually rigged against us? Are we, in fact, doomed to live ordinary lives, merely controlled by our hedonistic desires and pleasures, forced to succumb to our animalistic urges, never able to actually get ahead in life, let alone get rich? Or, is there some solution? A way out, if you will? 

How to Become a Millionaire and Get Rich the Right Way

Clearly, these are questions posed by the masses. But not everyone can pull it off. What separates those who seem to have all the answers from those that are constantly jumping from one ship to the next, never able to truly find their gravy train? Well, the answers are far simpler than most would imagine. 

Don’t spend more money than you make.

 Not many people follow this advice. Many are focused on spending as much as possible. Whether it’s to revel in the perception of being more well-off than they actually are, or some other purpose, this is the truth across much of the developed world. 

Keep a Diary of your Expenses.

Benjamin Franklin once said, “Beware of little expenses. A small leak will sink a great ship.”

As easy as it might seem to ignore the little stuff, so to speak, the more you sweat the details, the better off you’ll be. Cancel that gym membership you haven’t used in six months. Eliminate that costly cable television plan. Stop buying expensive lattes and eating out when you know you can’t afford to do it. Download an app or purchase a small notebook and track every expense no matter how small or how big. 

Quit all the Bad Habits- drinking, smoking, gambling, etc.

Bad habits hold us back from achieving many kinds of goals. They stop us from losing weight, making more money, saving, investing and everything in between. The only way you can actually get ahead in life is to decimate those bad habits. You need to quit the bad habits before they lead you down a deathly spiral. 

It’s hard to achieve something that takes so much of your energy, such as getting rich, without eliminating your bad habits first. I’m not just talking about poor financial habits; I’m also talking about any other habit that eats away at you, physically, emotionally or mentally. 

Save 20 % of your Income every Month.

In order to get rich, you need to save at least 20 percent of your income off the top. Everyone has heard this before, but how many people actually follow this advice? 

The term “pay yourself first” holds major weight here. While some don’t find the importance in this, others realize that this not only provides a rainy-day fund in case of emergencies, but also moment-of-the-opportunity cash. When the right opportunity comes by, you need cash to seize it. If you don’t have the cash, you just missed the proverbial boat. 

Pay-Off your Debts.

When you’re debt-free from the bad debt (not the good debt like mortgages for investment properties and loans to grow you business, for example), take that money and put it towards your savings. The trick is not to go spending cash and splurging on a vacation or a new car once you’re debt-free. Stay focused. 

Don’t Rent but Own your House.

No matter what it takes, even if you have to downgrade your living situation, you should do what it takes to purchase a home. Sit down with a mortgage broker and assess your situation. Set some goals and create a plan of action.

Even if you don’t have enough money saved for a down payment right now, figure out what it’s going to take to buy your home. We’re not talking about your dream home here. However, over time, the money spent on your mortgage is far better invested than money spent paying rent. 

Invest, but only after Researching the hell out of it.

Many people invest for the sake of it. If you don’t have proper knowledge about the plans your investment offers then you might never really grow your money in it. The better you know an industry or niche, the more likely you’ll be able to spot ideas that could possibly create massive amounts of income for you in the future. No one else is going to do this for you. And when you do invest in something that you know, be sure to track it vehemently.

Multiple source of income but not mainstream.

Anyone who’s serious about getting rich needs to build multiple streams of passive income. Passive income is incredibly important when it comes to amassing wealth. Simply put, you to need to generate your income on autopilot if you want to create a considerable net worth. 

There are a number of passive income generating ideas that you could implement. Some of the most popular involve real estate and dividend income for those that can afford the often high-cost barrier of entry into those fields. Others opt for generating passive income by starting a blog, creating digital products such as e-books or courses, and even creating online tutorials, just to name a few examples.

Time Value of Money.

We all have the same amount of time in this world. You don’t have more than the next person and that person doesn’t have more time than another. No matter if they’re a powerful politician, a business magnate or a famous athlete, they don’t have more time than you do. Time is life’s greatest equalizer. 

It all depends on how you utilize your time. Every second is precious. Become lazy or procrastinate and lose your dream of being rich.

Rome was not built in a day.

Daily goal setting provides milestones on your way to your bigger goals. Break the big goal down to achievable daily goals that won’t seem so overwhelming. For example, if you want a $10 million dollar net worth in the next five or 10 years, figure out what it’s going to take on a daily basis to move closer to that goal. 

Starting new life

If I were given a chance to start my life, it would be something which I am dreaming right now. Might be, waking up early and wearing track suit, going for a walk then coming back and drinking a glass of healthy juice.I wish to put on some music and dancing on it’s beat. Enjoying a healthy breakfast with family on dinning table is the best to start the day.

I would do everything to make myself feel alive whether it’s like grabbing a cup of coffee along with a book in my own personalised garden or meditating in a peaceful environment that too designed by me. I want to just get myself lost in those things which adds spark to my life and don’t wish to have any regret later on.

A good relationship means that you are having a good life. Being surrounded with loving wife, supportive in-laws, bright kids and trustworthy friends what else I could have asked the God. not but least, I would love this lifestyle every day and thanksing god for showering all his blessings upon me whether may be if it is healthy food, relations, friends and materialistic things.

WhatsApp Bullying

A few days back, I was casually chatting with my cousin sister discussing about how the pandemic is altering our life. While discussing she cited a very interesting incident which happened to her daughter, Tanaya a couple of weeks back. Tanaya is currently promoted to fifth standard and she has been attending her classes in online mode since June end. My cousin said that they have created WhatsApp group among themselves where they discuss about their ‘school-affairs’. A few days passed by, she noticed that Tanaya was feeling very low and she almost stopped communication with her fellow mates. Distressed, she questioned her if something is bothering her, since it is a very new thing for Tanaya. After a lot of pestering, she opened her unofficial WhatsApp group of their class and she says that she was shocked reading the conversation. She noticed that there were a lot of slangs for fifth standard students. The most oppressive thing that she understood was that Tanaya was completely ignored when she asks or say something, or laughed at or completely victimised her. She was so outrageous that she took the matter up to the Principal and finally after a heated discussion that volunteer parents will be a part of those group and banned the creation of any other unofficial WhatsApp groups. Upon listening, I just saluted her for what she did and how she stood up to it.

WhatsApp is the only source of communication among us right now. That is the platform where everyone, from students to professionals, converse among themselves, trying to keep up with the changing world. That said, now when we all are chatting in a public forum, we usually tend to oversee the boundaries and limitations. Students who have been programmed to attend classes in offline mode were under a lot of restrictions and discipline and so such random conversations were easily avoided. But they have started attending their classes online, where there is no restriction, no rules and especially there is no such ingrained discipline. Well, I have particularly experienced that seeing my cousin’s daughter. Considering her age, it is very well perceived that freedom of such kind in unexpected and very often, such freedom bears its own consequences. They tend to say everything, thinking that it is cool and very often they tend to exhibit groupism. At times, they say something to a particular person, out of ‘longing for acceptance’, without giving it a second thought. This is what constitutes bullying. Repeated avoidance, being laughed at or made mockery of, posting ridiculous and insulting messages as WhatsApp status, sending offensive memes or caricatures in the public groups are some forms of mental harassment in online mode, otherwise known as WhatsApp Bullying.

What I believe is that people, especially such young ones, are going through a massive change. Schools and other such institutions need to understand that just initiating classes in the online mode can make someone ‘educated’ but it will completely erode the ‘mental’ and ‘civilized’ part of our character. Parents and teacher should make them understand that everyone is feeling excluded at this hour and we should take the responsibility of making someone feel inclusive.

While leaving my cousin’s house, Tanaya came to bid me good-bye. I looked at her eyes and remembered about my past too. I smiled, and then left.

Source: Self

The EXACT 10 Steps You Need- to become a BETTER Writer

I receive more than 50 E-mails a day from people all over the world asking me for “TIPS” on becoming a WRITER. Didn’t you just write me a mail ? That makes us all writers. But people think of writing as an ART which only few possess, WHY? Because they write everyday. However there are some who simply want to get better at writing just like you and me.

Here are some tried and tested steps on how to become a writer specifically a better one:

5 Steps To Becoming a Professional Writer | BKA Content

STEP 1:

Pick up a pen and a paper without thinking too much. Nowadays, I write on my mobile phone by typing whatever comes to my mind. So pick up the writing tools of your choice and sit in a comfortable place.

STEP 2:

There is no style of writing or rules to what not to write. You are your own rule-maker so instead be the rule-breaker. Write your own style.

STEP 3:

DO NOT start writing for the trend of it. Write what you feel connected to. Become the trend setter by pouring your heart into those words.

STEP 4:

If the purpose of your writing is to publish the work then write what you will read as an audience.

STEP 5:

It is okay to take inspiration from other Writer’s work. BUT don’t copy the entire content. Ideas can be shared but thoughts should be your own.

STEP 6:

There is no Language of Writing. My thoughts occur in my mother tongue-Tamil– and my regional language- Hindi/Marathi-; however, my education was in- English; hence I find comfort in it. Never feel embarrased about the language of your writing, it is your greatest super power.

STEP 7:

Write Everyday or at least every alternate day. Writing was an art in the past but today it is a skill which can be developed by practice and habitual scribbling of thoughts and opinions.

STEP 8:

Be relatable in your writing. Readers like to read articles which relate to them and hence they feel hostile and comfort in your words. I often portray myself as the character in my stories, the one who got to gain the experiences that life threw at me. Chances are all humans face similar challenges in life. Relatable AF!

STEP 9:

Let your writing be creative and free-flowing. You can always edit it later with but your initial draft should be fresh. To put it more easily- WRITE DRUNK BUT EDIT SOBER.

STEP 10:

Send your works to people who always motivate you – friends, family or even professional writers like me and many others. This will motivate you to write more regularly and also to feel validated and improve yourself in the process. Learn and grow fellow WRITERS!

Hope these tested steps qualify as practical tips to anybody in need. Do COMMENT your steps, to becoming a better writer in the comments below or leave a comment if you need more TIPS.

Till then – EAT- SLEEP- WRITE- REPEAT.

10 most important life lessons of life:

Life often gives us a number of valuable lessons that we often fail to recognize. We couldn’t realize or implement them at the correct moment offered to us. But let’s explore the most significant lessons that can strike ‘s hard through experience.

1. Money can never solve your real problems:

We people have become too engrossed to just get wealthy and gain more and more money to live life comfortably to satisfy our needs. Nevertheless, it’s not bad, but just to run out of money failing to experience life is inaccurate. We should learn to manage our lives in such a way that we love our lives through making some good and also enjoying this pleasant life.There are a lot of people living on so little, but they have beautifully satisfying and prosperous lives … and unfortunately there are a number of people living on quite a ton, but they also have extremely unhappy lives. That’s why we should realize that money is not the only remedy that can cure our real life problems.

2. Patience:

Often when we’re young, we ‘re just beginning our adulthood path and feel like we have to do it all at once. We have to determine something, organize our lives, encounter something, get to the peak, find true love, work out the meaning of our life and accomplish it at the same time. Slow down – don’t jump into things. Let the journey progress. Wait a little to see if you need it, and take the time to assess your options.

3.You cant please everyone

You don’t need to agree with anyone, or just with yourself. Seeking to participate, be loved, admired and appreciated is human nature, but not at the cost of your honesty and happiness. Some individuals can’t give you the affirmation that you’re searching for. It has needed to come from inside.Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values. This is What You Need to Do to Stop Being a People Pleaser.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

4. Your wellbeing is the most valuable commodity 

Health is an important treasure — they are still cherished, nurtured and secured. Good health on young people is often discarded until they get a opportunity to understand it for what it’s worth. 

They prefer to take for granted our healthy wellbeing, because it is there alone. We don’t have to think about it, but before we have to, we don’t even pay attention to it …until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how well you prepare and how diligently you are trying, plans still just don’t turn out the way you expect them to… and that’s all right.

We have all these expectations; fixed dreams of what our “ideal” future would be like, but all too frequently that isn’t the truth of the life that we wind up living. Our plans struggle occasionally and we just adjust our mid-course minds occasionally. We have to flop occasionally to follow the correct path and sometimes even attempt a several items before we choose the best route.

6. It’s Not All About You:

You are not universe epicenter. It is really difficult to view the world from beyond your own viewpoint, because we are all too focused on what is going on with our own lives. What am I obliged to do today? What does it say to me, to my job and to my life? What is it then that I want?

It’s natural to be deeply conscious of all that’s going on in your own life, but you’ve got to pay as close attention to what’s going on around you, and how things impact other people around the community as you do your own. It allows problems remain in balance

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing:

No-one figured it all out. No one will have all the solutions. There’s no guilt in thinking “I don’t remember.” Don’t pretend to be flawless makes you happy. Only maintaining the false illusion of artificial excellence up is making you obsessive.We have an feeling that in acknowledging our shortcomings, or uncertainly, there is a form of shame or embarrassment, but we may not know exactly. Still, we just commit errors and screw it up. That’s it, we grow as we move. 

So besides — no one wants to know-it-all. A small amount of weakness keeps you alive and just so much more important.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice:

The explosion of immediate anticipation, pulse-fuelled love and passion doesn’t last long. Yet this doesn’t say you can’t have long-lasting passion. 

Love is not just an emotion; it is a choice you make every day.We will chose to let inconveniences pass, to forgive, to be compassionate, to be polite, to be loyal, to love. 

Relationships involve ensuring work completed. This is pleasant at times and extremely challenging at times. In a relationship, it is up to us to chose how we want to behave, think and communicate.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing:

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.The battle we ‘re struggling with, the work we didn’t get, the real or potential rejection, the sudden desire to change direction, the thing we needed but didn’t get. All of this is not going to apply in 20, 30, 40 years. If all you think is short term, it’s impossible to consider long term, so when it’s life-threatening, let it go, and carry on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted:

We often don’t appreciate what we’ve got until it’s gone: that includes your health, family and friends, your job, the money you’ve got or think you’ll get tomorrow. 

It feels as though your parents should just be around while you’re young but they won’t.You believe you have plenty of time to get back into touch with your old friends, or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You’ve got the money to invest, so you think you’re going to get that this month, but maybe not. 

Everything about your life, even everyone you love, is not expected to be around forever. 

And here’s a hard-to-learn life lesson, but maybe the most important of all:

Life can change in an instant.

Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

Yesterday will not repeat

Believe in your future if you had a bad past. If you are going through worst present then remember your sweet memories from past. You can’t decide your future with one incident because it ruins your whole future. Give more time to your future because we can’t know when is the time that changes our fate. Believe in yourself if you want a better future. It’s you who should have a hope on you. The confidence on you is the confidence on your future.

The yesterday is bad, then think of better present, if today is worse, then think of better future. Time changes the way it does. Believe in it. Everyone will have a good time but the time for everyone is not same. Be good and do good to have good. It’s not in our hands to decide our future but it’s we who have to make it from whatever it happens. Making form worse is the best thing. Have hope to create yourself from scrap. Nothing goes in vain, if you want something from nothing it take time. Believe yourself and keep on working. One day will definitely become the someday that you dreamt off.

Remembering bad incident is easy because it’s never not forgotten that easy. Cherishing happy moment is not done so often because it’s momentary. Celebrate the life by cherishing happy moments and by forgetting sad. Beleive in long life because it’s way more to live. Never settle as though believing in short life. Life keeps on going if you keep on exploring. It’s never too late to get out of your sadness. Thinking of it makes us to think more and leaves us in a cycle where we can’t escape because our mind never makes us to think out of it. So believe in having a great destiny and live accordingly.

Death anniversary of Dr Muthulakshmi Reddy

Here's The Inspiring Story of India's First Woman Legislator ...

Today 22nd july, the death anniversary of Dr Muthulakshmi reddy. A surgeon, an educator, a social reformer and much more, Dr Muthulakshmi Reddy was a multitalented human and a campaigner of women’s rights. Google Doodle honoured Dr Muthulakshmi, India’s first woman legislator and one of the first women doctors in India on her 133rd birth anniversary.

EARLY LIFE

Dr Muthulakshmi was born on July 30, 1886. She was the daughter of a Devadasi Chandrammal who was married to Narayanaswamy, the principal of Maharaja’s College in Pudukkottai. She was born in an age where the phrase ‘women must be seen and not heard’, was often bandied about and used as an excuse to subvert the true potential of women. Muthulakshmi was intimate with Devadasi culture and norms. Right from a young age, her keen mind and quick ability to grasp things made her a roaring success at school. Upon reaching maturity, she continued her education through home-schooling.

STRUGGLE TOWARDS HER DETERMINATION

Later, she defied her parent’s decision to get her married, choosing education instead. But being a woman, her dream to pursue education invited the silent outrage of the conservative society. Because of the strong social pressures, the Maharaja college refused to admit her despite the excellent academic record. It was only when Martanda Bhairava Thondaman, the forward-thinking Raja of Pudukkottai stepped in and ordered them to take-in Muthulakshmi, that the college grudgingly accepted her application. Thus, breaking all the stereotypes of that time, Muthulakshmi became the first woman ever to get admission to Maharajah College which was a men’s college in Pudukottai. But it was just a beginning. After completing her under-graduation, she sought admission to the Madras Medical College. She was also the first and only woman candidate in the Medical College in 1907. It was during her college years that Muthulakshmi formed a deep friendship with Sarojini Naidu and Annie Besant, two individuals whose personal philosophies would go on to influence many of her future endeavours. She became the first woman House Surgeon in the Government Maternity and Ophthalmic Hospital, Madras.

Later, she went to London to pursue Higher Education. Muthulakshmi came back to India upon a request from the Women’s Indian Association – an organisation she helped establish in 1918, to enter the Madras Legislative Council in 1927. She was elected to the post of Vice-President, making her the first Indian woman member of a Legislative Council. This event also marked her entry into politics and legislation after which, she made efforts to improve the lives of all women everywhere. In her capacity as a legislator, Muthulakshmi helped raise the minimum age for marriage for girls. Concerned about human trafficking, she pushed the Council to pass the crucial Immoral Traffic Control Act.

She was aware that even after the devadasi system was abolished, the deeply-ingrained prejudices against women still existed. In 1930, three devadasi girls knocked at her door seeking shelter and that’s when she realized that she needed to create a haven for countless young girls like them so she built Avvai Home. Today, Avvai Home has grown to include an educational complex that houses a primary school, a secondary school, a higher secondary school as well as a teacher’s training Institution. The home was primarily started for devadasis but now, its doors are open to all women who need assistance.
Having witnessed her sister’s untimely death due to cancer, she decided to open up a specialized cancer hospital. She dreamed of a place where anyone suffering from cancer would receive treatment, irrespective of social and economic status. In 1954, after overcoming several hurdles, Muthulakshmi’s dream came to life with the Cancer Institute. It was the second specialised cancer centre in India and the first in South India at the time. Today, Adyar Cancer Institute has 450 hospital beds, a full-fledged research division, a preventive Oncology department, and the Dr Muthulakshmi College of Oncologic Sciences. A countless number of cancer patients have been treated here and the numbers continue to grow.

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For her countless contributions to society, she was awarded the Padma Bhushan in 1956. Muthulakshmi passed away in 1968 at the age of 81.

“Constantly breaking barriers throughout her life, Reddy was a trailblazer, who devoted herself to public health and the battle against gender inequality, transforming the lives of countless people, especially young girls”, Google said in its description on the occasion of her birth anniversary.

The Tamil Nadu government announced ‘Hospital Day’ celebrations to be held every year on July 30, the birth anniversary of one of the country’s prominent successful woman doctors in the early 20th century and the State’s first woman.


Though she is no longer with us, her legacy still lives on in every strong woman who fights for education and equality. Let us salute the woman whose vision and values have inspired and changed many lives for good!

17 Essential Tips for Young Entrepreneurs

Youth is the biggest resource of the Nation. Today’s generation is not only smarter but also ahead in innovation and dare to build their own empire at the prime of their youth. Though it takes a lot of efforts, a right amount of motivation and guidance can help the young budding entrepreneurs go a long way. Well who learn from than the experienced businessmen who started out at your age and now are known as the Young minds who made it to Big Shots.

Here are 17 essential tips for young entrepreneurs inspired by 17 people who made it under 17 years of age:

  • Dare to Dream:

Dr.A.P. J Abdul Kalam once rightfully said, ‘Dream is not what you see while sleeping, it is something that doesn’t let you sleep.’ Your dreams don’t have to look like anyone else’s. You get to define what success looks like in your life. Dare to dream your own unique dream of what living well looks like.

  •  Have a Vision:

The founder and CEO of Tumblr, David Karp, notes that an entrepreneur is someone who has a vision for something and a desire to create it. Keep your vision clear at all times. Having a vision means we have a clear sense of purpose.

It means we have a much larger picture of our business, than simply setting and reaching short term goals and tackling problems as they come along. In business, having a clear vision is absolutely critical. It is an extremely powerful tool to achieve the results you want.

  •  Do what you are Passionate about:

Where you care about DOING that thing, rather than what you get at the END of doing that thing. The dictionary definition of passion is “a strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something” The spark of passion when gets action it fires up and lights the way ahead.

  •  Take Action:

The world is full of great ideas, but success only comes through action. Walt Disney once said that the easiest way to get started is to quit talking and start doing. That’s true for your success as well. Work in silence, let your success make the sound.

  •  Face your Fears:

Overcoming fear isn’t easy, but it must be done. Arianna Huffington once said that she found fearlessness was like a muscle — the more she exercised it, the stronger it became.

  •  Take the Risk:

We never know the outcome of our efforts unless we actually do it. Jeff Bezos said it helped to know that he wouldn’t regret failure, but he would regret not trying.

  •  Believe in Yourself:

As Henry Ford famously said, “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.” Believe that you can succeed, and you’ll find ways through different obstacles. If you don’t, you’ll just find excuses.

  •  Rome was not built in a day:

No one succeeds immediately, and everyone was once a beginner. As Steve Jobs wisely noted, “if you look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” Don’t be afraid to invest time in your company.

  •  Plan for raising funds & capital:

Richard Harroch, a venture capitalist, has this advice for upcoming entrepreneurs: “It’s almost always harder to raise capital than you thought it would be, and it always takes longer. So plan for that.”

  • Set goals and targets:

Ryan Allis, co-founder of iContact, pointed out that having the end in mind every day ensures you’re working toward it. Set goals and remind yourself of them each day.

  • Learn from your mistakes:

Many entrepreneurs point to mistakes as being their best teacher. When you learn from your mistakes, you move closer to success, since learning from failure is the first step towards succeeding.

  • Adapt to the market:

Bill Gates once said that your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning. Let unhappy customers teach you where the holes in your service are.

  • Put customer needs at the top:

“Customer is the king,” is the first rule of any market and business organizations.

  • Manage Energy, not Time:

Your energy limits what you can do with your time, so manage it wisely. Plan a proper schedule keeping your physical and mental potential as priority.

  • Invest your money wisely:

Investing your money can allow you to grow it. Most investment vehicles, such as stocks, certificates of deposit, or bonds, offer returns on your money over the long term. This return allows your money to build, creating wealth over time.

  • Be Consistent and determined:

       Consistency in your business is far more important that you can imagine. Being consistent allows you to establish awareness, build trust and deliver your services efficiently and profitably.

Whether you are establishing your brand or determining the course of your sales and marketing strategy, you have to recognise the power of consistency. Give yourself an advantage over fickle competitors by becoming consistent in how you operate your business, and what you present and offer to your customers.

  • Deliver more than expected:

Google’s Larry Page encourages entrepreneurs to deliver more than customers expect. It’s a great way to get noticed in your industry and build a loyal following of advocates.

Being a successful entrepreneur takes a lot of work, a lot of vision and a lot of perseverance. These 17 tips, from entrepreneurs who have already found success, will help you navigate the path much more easily.

5 SECRETS TO FINDING TRUE LOVE

Everybody desires to find their one true love with whom we can live our fairy tale of falling in love and living happily forever and ever. Welcome to reality my friends because these fairy tales exist only in movies and fiction stories.

Love is no fairy tale, so you can stop looking for a perfect “10” who fulfills all the qualifications on your wish list. It is possible, however, to find someone to stand by your side, brave the messiness of the world, and help you experience life to its fullest potential.

How do you work towards finding this ” someone ” ? Here are the 5 tried and tested secrets to finding your companian:

  1. BE REAL

To find real love, you must first emphasize your true self. If you want someone to love you through your moments of imperfection, you must first be willing to do that for someone else. Be real with yourself, so you are ready for someone else’s true self.

If you shift your personality, passions, or purpose to impress another person, you are not being your true self. People are attracted to genuine souls. Get to know yourself, love yourself, and learn to act and speak authentically.

2. BE CONFIDENT

Be confident in yourself, your decisions, and your ability to attract love into your life. If you are being your authentic, best self, this CONFIDENCE will radiate from you in a glow of SELF-WORTH. You will attract someone who recognizes, appreciates, and loves who you are.

Foster this confidence by knowing that you are whole and complete just by being you. Understand that a soul mate is nice to have, but not a must-have. You, alone, are enough.

3. BE OPEN

If your desire is to meet someone new, then you must be willing to connect and open up with the people around you. If someone next to you in the coffee line strikes up a conversation, be willing to engage. Even if that person is not to be the love of your life, practice BEING HONEST anyway. Developing this energy of openness will help you facilitate iterations that may lead to lasting relationships.

4. BE HAPPY

Perhaps the most important secret of this list is to be happy. Everyone wants to be around happy people; HAPPINESSS is magnetic. So focus your energy on thinking about and doing the things that make you happy. This energy of yours will also attract a similar kind of person which wiill only further amplify your life.

Will Smith said, “her happiness is not my responsibility. She should be happy and I should be happy individually. Then we come together and share our happiness. Giving someone a responsibility to make you happy when you can’t do it for yourself is selfish” let that sink in.

5. BE IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF

Loving yourself allows you to make healthier choices.When you put yourself first, you make choices that will only improve your quality of life. You eat better and sleep and exercise more because you realize that taking care of your mental and physical well-being are essential to your success.

By not loving yourself, you‘ll create extra work for your partner because they‘ll have to pick up that slack and carry your weight. When you struggle with self-doubt and low self-esteem, your partner will have to work extra hard to make you happy.

The next time you enter a relationship, see to it that it will be with your true love already. This would save you from heartaches due to being with the wrong person.

Let love find you.
These tips can only help you increase the chance of finding the right person for you. However, there is no formula that can create true love. It just happens beyond conscious effort, and if handled well, it will surely last.

Do not try too hard on finding your true love. Let love find you, instead. And while waiting for it to arrive, focus on loving yourself.