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MENTAL HEALTH: DON’T TAKE IT EASY

Many people believe that being physically healthy is a sign of good health, but do they even consider their mental health? Today I am going to discuss this particular topic called “Mental health of a human being”.

Today youngsters and even old people are very particular about their physical health. They join gyms, participate in various cardio activities to make themselves physically fit but what about their mental health? How people would understand whether they are mentally fit or not? And if they know, then how will they overcome it? Today in this era of competition in everything, being in studies or fashion or anything else, everyone is running a race and is trying to outshine each other. Because of this, they have forgotten that their mind should also be taken care of like anything else. 

Anxiety and depression have now became a common issue for every individual. Some people try to hide their anxiety by talking too much or by remaining extremely quiet.

Have you ever wondered, everybody, talks about an illness like cancer, heart attack, migraine, etc very freely but when it comes to mental health, they often hide from everyone and consider it a shameful thing? No one openly talks about their mental illness because somewhere they think that it is shameful to share it with anyone. Even, if he/she talks about it openly then they get very little support and is stabbed by their friends in tougher times, which makes them weaker and lonely even when surrounded by a crowd. Nowadays there are some who understand this problem and openly help such victims. Else, earlier they used to tag that person insane and didn’t look after them. 

But I want to convey to such people to come out, express yourself whatever you are feeling, either share it on your social media or talk with your loved ones, there are definitely people who will help you to overcome it. This is not something to be ashamed of, it is also a part of your health. Never feel low because of love failure, study stress or family problems, etc.

You are not alone in this. Your loved ones are standing behind you to support you.

And in the end, I would like to convey my message to those who take mental health for granted that please don’t judge people in any way. You have no idea about what a person is going through. So, LIVE AND LET LIVE.

How to stop worrying and start living- Book Review

“How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” is a self-help book by Dale Carnegie. Although the book was first published in 1948 this book still holds much importance in human life and all the principles are as accurately applicable now as then in those days, simply – a timeless classic. I read this book in the darkest days of my life, in a phase where I didn’t even have the slightest motivation of getting out of bed in the morning and it helped me to overcome all those fears and implanted a sense of peace within my heart and lightened the emotions with those words. 

The book is divided into 8 sections-

PART I: Fundamental facts you should know about worry.

PART II: Basic Techniques in Analyzing Worry.

PART III: How to Break the Worry Habit Before it Breaks You.

PART IV: Ways to Cultivate a Mental Attitude That Will Bring You Peace and Happiness.

PART V: The Perfect Way to Conquer Worry.

PART VI: How to Keep From Worrying About Criticism.

PART VII: 6 Ways to Prevent Fatigue and Worry and Keep Your Energy and Spirits High.

PART VIII: “How I Conquered Worry”.

By seeing all the section names you must have guessed how power-packed the book is. 

This book helps you to analyze and identify your worries and tells you if they are worth worrying about or not. It gives many techniques to conquer your worries and stay relaxed. It helps to see the little things to be grateful for. The wisdom of this book is far beyond any reviewer’s words. This is a must-read for anyone who has taken worrying to the next level or those who want to be more aware of themselves and the people around them. The language, the writing style, the explanation everything is simple and lucid. 

This book is not for those light readers or those who just read for fun. This is a book to read and highlight and take down notes and to read and re-read them and constantly improving yourself.

This book has many lines or I can say paragraphs which I want every person in the world to read but some of them are lengthy and I cant out everything here so I suggest you read the book and find out yourself but here are some of them-

“Every day is a new life to a wise man.”

Acceptance of what has happened is the first step in overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.

When we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose. And that automatically means, we have everything to gain!

I would rather be a carefree person with no responsibility than wreck my health at forty-five by trying to run a railroad or a cigarette company.

The most relaxing recreating forces are a healthy religion, sleep, music, and laughter. Have faith in God—learn to sleep well— Love good music—see the funny side of life— And health and happiness will be yours.

‘I am not going to worry! I am not going to cry! And if there is anything to mind over matter, I am going to win! I am going to LIVE!’

Let’s not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember “Life is too short to be little.

Here I was, wanting to change the whole world and everyone in it—when the only thing that needed changing was the focus of the lens of the camera which was my mind. When moments of uneasiness try to creep in (as they will in everyone’s life) I tell myself to get that camera back in focus, and everything is OK.

I hope this review convinces you enough to read the book.

BE THE BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF

No one is perfect in the world but always try to be the better version of yourself. Every person is unique in herself or himself. person’s  behaviour, attitude, character, perception, temper, personality traits make him distinctive.

Be the better version of yourself means making an effort to attain your quintessential self. This is something that applies to every human being, because no one is born perfect. all human beings are distinct  from each other internally and externally. Extrinsic differences are visible for all of us. Evaluation or measurement of any person can’t be done only on the basis of his or her external quality. internal qualities make them exclusive and special.

I think our efforts and hard work assists us to be a better version of ourselves. There are many people who want to become exactly like renowned or eminent personality . there is nothing  wrong with it . Everyone have their own dream  which  they want to fulfil. We all have different capabilities  , potential , abilities and skill those things decide how far you can go and achieve. Always show the world what you really are. Only you know yourself better than anyone. No need to become anyone’s  type.  You are your own type .

 If you’re feeling anxious about self-improvement. confidence , belief in yourself , hard work and perseverance plays very important role in the journey of self improvement. you just need to stick to your goal. Someone else’s life path cannot be your benchmark of success, since they have different  desire, dreams, passions and skills. someone else’s journey would be completely dissimilar than yours.

DISCOVER : you have to discover each and everything about you, before  starting the journey of self improvement, you need to identify some of the point and evaluate them. Identify the person you want to be ,identify  your passion ,area of interest, dream and desire. What is your positive and negative points. what is your expectation , where you want to see yourself in future, identify your area of weaknesses where you need improvement. what  kind of activities do enjoy daily, what is your happiest memory ,what impact do you want to make on the world. Answer all questions sincerely  and honestly.

You also need to evaluate yourself. Evaluate your capabilities, potential and  abilities. Analyze whether your goal is beyond your ability .Compare your potential with your goal. Your target should match with your capabilities. follow smart approach. Make sure that your goal should be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time bounded. This approach  increase the chances of achieving your goal. Overall you have to explore yourself thoroughly and deeply.

There are a few ways to be a better version of yourself , you  have to take some concrete steps to get there.

  • Let go of limiting beliefs you know and understand yourself better, but do you know who you could be. we hold back by limiting beliefs. Learn to recognize and let go of all limiting beliefs that are holding you back from being the best version of yourself.
  • Amplify your strengths you should focus more on our strength ,you’ll get even stronger in those areas, becoming more fully yourself along the way.  When you amplify your strengths, you’ll crush the obstacles in your path. It’s also important to focus on your strengths when you hit obstacles – which you will inevitably do.
  • Develop a growth mindset Having a developed growth mindset is essential for converting a person into better version. we all have some areas which require more attention. Successful people deal with it by having a growth mindset. They believe that there are no weaknesses. They focus on areas of improvement , how they can improve and take action to avail any opportunity .
  • Throw out expectations our beliefs create our world, but unfortunately, sometimes our beliefs are not our own. Sometime we set up  target as per the expectations of others. Your vision for who you want to be should be yours , not someone else’s
  • Be willing to shed your old identity when you  determine to find the best of you. You have to voluntarily give up your old identity .people who know your old self might resist due to the feeling of insecurity, But don’t let it become roadblocks of way. willingly accept  the changes and embrace a can do attitude.
  • Tame your fears  whenever you anxious or if you are afraid to try anything , prepare your mind for this kind of situation think about the less scary alternatives  and  possible results .once your mind is  accustomed to this process, you will feel less anxious .and you will be able to take right decision in this kind of circumstances .
  • Set reasonable goals  always set reasonable goal that should be achievable. To boost confidence you can divide your goals into some smaller part that would be achievable in short time. Confidence brings you closer to the better version of you.
  • Create empowering rituals we all know eminent and renowned personalities because they have successfully become the best version of themselves. Any  person’s habit assist him or her to grow. Make good habits like eating healthy food, exercise  daily, be punctual, meditation etc.
  •  Have compassion for yourself  it’s totally fine if you are not where you wanted to be , have compassion for yourself. Instead of worrying deeply about setback, do things that make you happy. And then also analyze negative points and replace it with positive once.
  • Manage yourself effectively  Self management includes time management that should be managed effectively and efficiently. To evaluate yourself you can check your progress on quarterly , monthly and yearly basis Effective time management sets you free from stress, leads you to your ideal self and also gives you self gratification. your management would reflect in your work.
  • Stay positive whatever situation you face in life you have to be positive. its certain to combat  many arduous circumstances in life Make your personality resilient to any kind of adversity, also change your perception towards any problem , take it as an opportunity. Positivity works in a tremendous way.

AnterPrerna

“Anterprerna” or the internal feelings of an individual is a precious asset for growth and development of an individual. An individual will only be able to follow his/her AnterPrerna if he/she possess a faith and belief on his/her decisions.

He/she can find his/her true Anterprerna by taking to internal self that is by self introspecting and finding out the weakness and strength to create a rational opportunity for growth. Anterprerna helps in boosting the confidence on the decision and acts fruitful in improving performance and output of an individual.

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One should have a crystal clear vision in mind and should never let the flame low recalling,

“If others can do this, why can’t I and If others can’t do it, I have to definitely do it” and everything will become possible.

Self motivation

Remember

Everything has a solution, the only need is a different approach

Is it the end or the begining of new era.

“Everything that has a beginning has an ending. Make your peace with that and all will be well.” ~

Jack Kornfield

Life is not always meant to fill with bliss and happiness . It also has its demon and darkness . And we are unable to understand the consequences that can be happen in future .

This is what we are facing now and it’s popularity is all over the world . Well well .. we all met the celebrity i.e., known as “ CORONA VIRUSE ”

Yes yes I know how much amazed we all were when we get to know about it . The excitement leads to the death of 1/4 of a population . Let’s move on from the gossip girls .

“But you are involved in the world, and your actions have consequences for other people, and if you don’t recognize that, then that’s the supreme kind of cruelty. Everyone shares someone else’s fate to some extent.” ~

Malcolm Bradbury

Like a gentle men he is . Malcolm has distracted us from the main theory that is “ Every action has equal and opposite reaction ”

From the past decades , census has been directly pointing out the deterioration in Nature . It leads to the extinction of wild life . More than one million of species had been reportedly facing problem and extinct .

So what do you think . Is it a revenge that nature is taking in the form of corona virus ?

Or

Is it a lesson to the human kind for playing with the nature ?

Well in both questions we get one thing clearly that is human kind has to pay .

Based on the report by WHO more than 3.3 million people died due to COVID19 in January . Their are “excess death” of people which caused mass havoc in the mind of the people all over the world .

So where were we virus , death , human kind , extinction . Ohh yeah now I remember we were talking about the hate of nature for human beings . Ops , sorry . Don’t mind sometimes I just flow with sentiments .

Well , yeah we were talking about the devastation in the human world by nature .

I am not a socialist or a misanthrope . I loved nature as much as you do . But what we didn’t understand is that how much we hurt our environment . And when we come to the realisation .

It’s being like OJO run his lovely Siren on MOJO . What , who is Siren . Siren is OJO’s favourite truck . Yeah I know I am very funny .

Reality hits us with the truck in the form of COVID .

I really do talk about COVID in this editorial rather than I used in my daily life .

We need to recreate our life in the form that It will not harm the nature . I know it’s a tough time to speak about this but until we will not stop ourselves for our wrong doing . It will come back to us and hit it with the force that no human kind can protect themselves from the destruction.

Embrace a new perspective.

Let move together to the new world where we can live with nature

This given editorial is written under one’s perspective. I am not judging anyone’s decision . You have youern own perspective and i am standing with that .

Being in the imagination or live in the realistic world .

Being born in money or torn away by poverty is the world where we live

The Hallucination

Are the money makers living their life without fear ?

Can a poorer get to live more life than its fated ?

Will you ignore the one who hurt you immensely ?

Or like a coward , can you run from the truth ?

If yes , than pray to god for providing you such an imaginary world . Don’t take it seriously but you really need to wake up .

The Truth

The life that we are living is not a game to play . We need be realistic while taking decisions in our life . I don’t want to sound like an arrogant person . But we need to think before taking any decision because it may or may not harm our future . In our life we only focus on materialistic things and grow accustom to them . Which leads to the situation where we become selfish and fiercely jealous to one’s personality .

We judge them regarding to their status , money , power , clothes and their physique . Ding ding …. It’s time for the truth we become impetuous .

So what we learn from OJO -MOJO . 1. Like OJO that donot study and fail in your class. OR 2. MOJO that learn workhard and get award from the school . I choose options 1 (hehe don’t get any ideas I am a hardworker so I will choose my handsome MOJO not an overconfident OJO )

The REALITY

Not against the world of imagination just a believer of reality .

Life is not easy I agree with you but can we make it easy , Is the question only you can answer .

For me , we can only when we are focusing on our work rather than its result . I am not repulsive about getting a promotion on my first day on the work . But I am excited about learning new things and improve my capabilities . That how we need to react . I didn’t get the idea of getting a luxurious jet when I didn’t even have a penny to spend on my health . Well if you can just don’t forget to take me as well ( Huh.. greedy me ) .

I do imagine my life being in the island with some hot people around me ( its a wild imagination) . Well I can’t change that . But what I can change is the accept the reality ( like sitting in my PJ’s , eating popcorn and drooling over Michele Morrone yeah I am fan of 365 days ) .

Conclusion

Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.

Lao Tzu 
things that are written in the blog is my perspective of life . i am not taunting anyone . 
its your life you can live according to your rules . 

and yes pictures that i used in the blogs are from pintrest . 

enjoy your reading .

World that lives inside : In consideration to Mental Health .

“There is hope, even when your brain tells you there isn’t.”

John Green

A great quote by a great person , yeah I also believe it but do you ? .

Who am I ? Am I gaining weight , what if people doesn’t like me ?

What will happen when I tell her I am depressed ?

How do I know I’m unwell ?

How do I react if my relatives finds out ? .


These are some questions that we asked ourselves in our daily life . 5Ws and 1H (Why , who , how , what , when, where ) . Aristotle used them as an element in order to distinguish vocabulary. And what we are doing. is we are using them to explain one’s personality ,distinguish them and then despise them .


That’s how it starts , THE MIND GAMEPLAY . We differentiate , we compare , we make fun of others , we got jealous , we take harsh decisions, we judge others and we ask ourselves that where I was wrong .

Then , we start to get depressed , cry , nervous – breakdown , anxiety and so on……. This cycle is more complicated than Ojo – mojo friendship . Just kidding …

MIND PLAY

Let’s get in the topic .

Yes , we are talking about mental health . Which most of us ignore more than advertisements on TV’s . Like I said doesn’t matter . But what matters the most is the ignorance of your own health .

In present scenario , mental health takes a major role world wide and our mother land India is not far behind .


As , the pandemic takes a harsh troll on people of all over the world . Others died due to the confined places , loneliness , family members death and anxiety attacks caused by lack of oxygen and also one of the important aspect of mental illness.

How we can check our metal health ? Are we mentally fit or not . Now , if you ask me I do have solution . And u want to know about one secret . It will only take 5 min. so now you don’t have to waste more time on search .

5 min. Mental Health Check :-

1. Have my muscles been streched ? 2. Have I been nice to myself and others?
3. Have I eaten regularly and healthy ?
4. Have I had good enough sleep ?
5. Am I hydrated enough ?
6. How am I feeling ?
And yes last but not the least be truthful to yourself .
And like this you get to know that you are mentally healthy or not .

Conclusion

Like physical health , mental health is equally important .
Small things can cause a lot of problems . So before things get out of your hands , grip it with a tight leash .

“You don’t have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you.”

– Dan Millman

TFM: the family man (Indian series)

The family man

The Family Man is an Indian ‘espionage action thriller streaming television series’ on Amazon Prime Video created, directed, and produced by Raj Nidimoru and Krishna D.K. who also co-wrote the story and screenplay with Suman Kumar, with dialogue penned by Sumit Arora and Suman Kumar. The series features Manoj Bajpayee as Srikant Tiwari, a middle-class man secretly working as an intelligence officer for the Threat Analysis and Surveillance Cell (TASC), a fictitious branch of the National Investigation Agency. It also stars Priyamani, Sharad Kelkar, Neeraj Madhav, Sharib Hashmi, Dalip Tahil, Sunny Hinduja and Shreya Dhanwanthary. Samantha Akkineni was hired for the second season of the series making her foray into the digital medium.

And to be honest it’s one of the best series I’ve had ever watched. Manoj Bajpayee is one of the finest actor of all the time. His acting gives a example to our new generation actors and he’s the god of acting for those who wants to become a actor.

From his struggle to his success, he implied all those thing he was willing to. And he has many awards and was nominated for best acting award (national award) for Gangs of Wasseypur. Rather than this all the actors/actresses in TFM1 and TFM2 contributes a huge part to make a series a super hit series of all the time. As in,
Manoj Bajpayee
Priyamani
Samantha Akkineni
Sharib Hashmi
Neeraj Madhav
Pawan Chopra
Kishore Kumar G.
Sharad Kelkar
Devadarshini
Gul Panag
Shreya Dhanwanthary
Sundeep Kishan
Sanyukta Timsina
Sunny Hinduja
Abhay Verma
Shahab Ali
Ashlesha Thakur
Vedant Sinha
Aritro Rudraneil Banerjee.

All these actors/actresses had different roles and they had persued that particular Roel very well with pure perfection. And if you ask who is My favourite among these so I’ll obviously say Manoj Bajpayee. But rather than him I love the role and character of Sharib Hashmi. He had done his job very well and the way he acted was truly unconditional.

And one main point It is only and only streaming of Amazon prime. And if you ask me that ‘it’s a boring day’ what should we do then I’ll recommend you this series to watch both season one and two.

ALL ABOUT HINDU MARRIAGE IN BRIEF

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Introduction

According to Hindu Law, Marriage is a sacrament or a religious ceremony that creates a relation between two families. It is a sacred tie between husband and wife which can not be broken. It is believed that Marriage is the purest form of bond which is for seven lives that is birth to birth. According to Vedas, a man is considered incomplete until he gets married. It is the last tenth sacrament.

Who are Hindus?

A person who :

  • Is a Hindu by religion in any of its forms.
  • Is born from Hindu parents.
  • Is a Buddhist, Jain, Sikh by religion.
  • Is not Muslim, Christian, Parsi or Jews and are not governed under Hindu Law.
  • Hindus by Conversion or Reconversion.

Conditions for a Hindu Marriage :

Section 5 of the Hindu Marriage Act,1955 lays down the following conditions for a valid Hindu Marriage :

i) neither party has the spouse living at the time of the marriage;

ii) at the time of the marriage, neither party-

  • is incapable of giving a valid consent to it in consequence of unsoundness of mind; or
  • though capable of giving valid consent, has been suffering from mental disorder of such a kind or to such an extent as to be unfit for marriage and the procreation of children; or
  • has been subject to recurrent attacks of insanity

iii) the bridegroom has completed the age of twenty-one years and the bride the age of eighteen years at the time of marriage;

iv) the parties are not within the degrees of prohibited relationship unless the custom or usage governing each of them permits of a marriage between the two;

v) the parties are not sapindas of each other unless the custom or usage governing each of them permits marriage between the two.

Ceremonies for a Hindu Marriage :

  • Marriage must be performed by the customary rites and ceremonies of either party thereto and where such ceremonies include the taking of seven steps by the bridegroom and the bride jointly before the sacred fire, the marriage becomes complete and binding when the seventh step is taken.

 

Registration of Marriage : As per section 8 of the act, provisions have been made to register the marriage under the act.

 

 

Types of Marriage :

i) Valid Marriage: if the marriage has been performed in followance of the essentials or conditions provided then it will be a perfectly valid marriage and is binding on the parties to it.

ii) Void Marriage: marriage shall be null and void and have no legal effect in the following cases if-

  •  either party has a spouse living at the time of the Marriage; or
  •  the marriage has been performed within the degrees of prohibited relationship unless the custom or usage governing each of them permits a marriage; or
  • the parties to a marriage are sapindas off each other unless the custom or usage permits it.

Marriage can be declared as void on the petition of either of the party to a marriage.

iii) Voidable Marriage: marriage is perfectly valid until or unless it is annulled by a decree of nullity and it can be avoided at the option of one of the parties to the marriage. Following are the grounds on which a marriage can be annulled-

a) marriage has not consummated owing to the impotence of the respondent; or

b) marriage violates clause (ii) of section 5; or

c) where the consent of the petitioner, or where the consent is given by the guardian, the consent is obtained by force or by fraud as to the nature of ceremony or as to any material fact or circumstances concerning the respondent. But this will not be a ground for annulment if-

  • the petition has been presented after one month of the cessation of force or fraud discovered; or
  • the petitioner has lived with the other party to a marriage with his or her full consent after the force has ceased or fraud has discovered.

d) the respondent was pregnant by another person at the time of marriage. But this ground shall not be entertained unless the court is satisfied that-

  • the petitioner was ignorant of this fact at the time of marriage;
  • proceedings have been instituted in the case of a marriage solemnized before the commencement of this act within one year of such commitment and in the case of marriages solemnised after commencement within one year from the date of such marriage; and
  • the marital intercourse with the consent of the petitioner has not taken place since the discovery by the petitioner of the existence of the said ground.

Punishments for contravention of conditions for Hindu marriage :

  •  any marriage between two Hindus solemnized after the commencement of the Hindu Marriage Act 1955 is void if at the date of such marriage either party had a  husband or wife living, and the provisions of section 494 and 495 of the IPC shall apply accordingly. This is a punishment for bigamy.
  • if there is a contravention of the condition of the age of marriage then will be punished with rigorous imprisonment which may extend to two years or with a fine which may extend to one lakh rupees or with both
  •  in the case of a contravention of the condition of sapinda relationship or prohibited degree then the punishment will be simple imprisonment which may extend to one month or with fine which may extend to one thousand rupees or with both. 

 

Conclusion 

After the commencement of the Hindu Marriage Act,1955 every marriage between the two adult Hindus should be performed in accordance with the rules and regulations made under the act for this purpose.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Procrastination -A failure

Procrastination can stop your growth
Procrastinate now and panic later

 

 

 

 

 

It’s Saturday evening and you are working furiously on a task which you have to complete before seven (deadline )and started cursing yourself for not starting it sooner.

Does it sound familiar? So ,why did this happened?

May be you wasted your time in the tea break watching TV and other stuff delayed your tasks and postpone it for later.

You are not alone many people are facing this problem nowdays. We give time to another things instead of doing the things which is important and avoid it and postponed it for later and at last we are not able to succeed in the task which was given to us.
Do you know, why this happened? Is it only a coincidence? No you procrastinate from the task which you had given and ignore it.
Being procrastinate is also a failure it usually happens because of lack of motivation and fear of failure .
Procrastination makes us lazy and we never achieve our goal .We get afraid before trying anything and ended up with no results. It is a wastage of time and time is the most important in a person life like how effectively they utilize the time they have .

If we keep procrastinating so we will never achieve our goal ‘it has nothing to do with time management’, without even a start we give up .Procrastination is self defeating behavior we avoid the tasks and put them off we do not believe and enjoy them and avoid to make ourself unhappy and have a fear of failure but doing this will never help us in self development if we keep delaying or postponing our tasks at last we only received disappointments by ourself. Only avoiding things will never help us out so just starts enjoy your work from now on things take time if we get afraid without trying so it will never help us out and we  can’t run from that  just let go of our fear .So,  just start from now either its’ Now or never ‘don’t procrastinate and run from the things which is important to you. Psychology  says to overcome from procrastination is

▶get rid of catastrophizing

▶focus on your ”why”.

▶self believe

▶dont make excuses

 

Try to start the task as soon as possible for better results.
Start believing in yourself and make to overcome from procrastination successfully, you need to figure out why you procrastinate & how your procrastination is preventing from achieving your goal ,so you can formulate a concrete plan of action and execute it better to check out that you are following your plan time to time, and keep focused for what you are doing now never forward your work for later in unnecessary situation.
#doitnowornever

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